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Paul Todd:
Sounds like your off to a flying start my friend. Fantastic news that her family are all on your side. Yes I had those "interviews" from my now wife's brother. They can be unbelievably helpful and generous these people so best of luck with your first meeting. Marrying a Chinese girl is  everything the brothers here say it is and more:icon_biggrin:!

Ming Zhi,Paul

Philip:
Well, six days to go before I fly to Guangzhou. I have my double-entry visa. I have my certificate of no impediment verified by the Foreign and Commonwealth Office and the Chinese Embassy (ready for December if everything works out). I have most of the presents (for my lady's two children and for her brother's family).
I feel quite calm and confident as well as excited. But as the time approaches, my lady is becoming a little nervous. I think her main worry is that I will be disappointed with her, no matter how much I try and reassure her. She sent me a couple of messages on QQ yesterday.
"I was a very beautiful little girl when I was young. My appearance has been engulfed slowly with age as I grew up. I have had many trials and hardships of experience and they have forced me to change."
"I hope to meet you and have a contented happy ending. I cannot guarantee I'm your only choice, if you see me I'm not what you want beautiful, you make other plans I will not blame you."
Well, this is really the first time she has spoken like this. My heart went out to her when I read this. She is not prone to saying things to get sympathy. Hearing her words only makes me love her more. At the same time I wonder what (or who) happened to her to make her see herself in that way. I told her she was beautiful on the inside and on the outside and that she was my only choice. But I know that now I need to back up these words with actions.

RobertBfrom aust:
Phillip , I would agree with Mr Butt , on his take of your ladies thoughts , it might seem strange , but it would seem that they have a totally different mindset to Western women , they seem to have the idea that what will be will be , there we were at a ktv party and I was talking with the translating machine to 1 of Yings girlfriends , who I must admit was very pretty , and I was asked by Ying whether I preferred Ling to her , it floored me , lesson was pay attention when your lady is singing  haha :dodgy:

Philip:
Hi.
In 24 hours, I will be on my way to Guangzhou (via Beijing). I will finally get there at 6pm. I will try and post from the hotels and post photos when I get back a week later.
I have been confident, single-minded and romantic throughout my correspondence with my lady, though perhaps not to a Brian degree. My lady has been more pragmatic, more insecure and more modest, all of which makes for a refreshing contrast. I think we are quite similar in temperament actually, and we share the same fear, i.e. that face to face, she/he won't like me.
Butttt, and it's abigbutttt, the nervousness will hopefully go away when we have the benefit of physical contact. At the moment I am ridiculously and uncharacteristically serene. Calmer than if I was going to sing on stage in front of thousands of people or if I was going to an important interview. Paul Simon said " I can't get used to Something So Right". Well, I think I can get used to it just fine.

Here I go.

Philip

daghoi:
Good luck and have a nice trip.

Make sure you do the Pearl River cruise in the evening. If it fits with where you stay, have a walk around Shamian Island.

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