Is Online Dating The Problem in US/Canada/Europe?

[David E]

Regnis

Good luck in your "journey" into the mysteries of CHNLove. I am sure you have read many posts here and are aware of the traps and pitfalls !

But it's not all bad, many Bros have found the love of their lives ...so it does work.

Just be aware and cautious..and persistent in your request for natural photos and face-to-face time on QQ or such...after you think there is genuine interest.

regarding the "lying" on free Sites...it is the unfortunate fact of human nature that most people have a distorted view of what the World owes them...this is particularly so in the World of Internet dating.

The average viewpoint is that "If I slightly modify the truth about myself, I will get a better "catch"...and its not lying really, because inside, I know I am really this person who I describe...dont worry about the reality, I KNOW I am this person. I therefore deserve a better partner " !!

Sadly, especially for Men, the modern woman from the western world is conditioned by the feminist movement to believe that they deserve the best...no matter what !!

(I realise this is a sweeping generalisation that does not apply to ALL western women...but its very prevalent and insidious)

DavidE

[Vince G]

No matter what site you use the scammers are there. A friend does the other sites and bookmarks all these beautiful women? When he shows me them I tell him who they are. Most are all porn star woman that had their photos used for a profile.

I use to do the rounds on the sites too. Older women going for younger guys. The ones I did meet were a little off in the head. I would hear things like "I like blond hair" and the way they check to see how much money I make? I couldn't understand there way of thinking since they were pigs. So coming to Chnlove was a different experience worth it more then the others.

[mustfocus]

I understand padding, but why say you're in Ottawa when you're in Manitoba. And do you guys find ChnLove to have a lower miss rate then PoF? (and holy crap, 100 messages for 1.. I don't think I have the time for that -- it takes me 10-15 to write a good message).

Chnlove will have a lower miss rate because you have to pay to post your profile there (for the women).  I could very easily be goofing off on PoF or any other free site.  Why?  Just for the fun of it.

[chen yan]

NZ dating sites are full of demanding woman who think they are spectacular but in fact are ordinary; in China its the other way round - there are spectacular girls who think they are plain



 David K in Auckland

David, I totally agree what you said.And you have very sharp eyes,I give my wishes to you and your lady in Shenzhen .

So am I being to think, is it the online dating that's the problem in the west world? That people have much choice and never settle but think they can always do better?

We said if you go to the seashore ,and find a shell which you like, bring it to home, and never go back to the seashore. Because there is not best shell in seashore.

Here is my experience, A man ever ask me to consider about marriage , I ask him why you pick me,  He said because I think you are the the best I have met until now.But he has a girl friend already. Then I ask him how about your gf, he said she is not as beautiful as you. Then I donn't want to talk to him anymore ,Becasue I know he will find other girl who is more beautiful than me. He just like shopping and compare the products. If you love someone, Even if  he cann't compare with others in some place, I still think he is the best and cherish him, because you love him.

[Vince G]

Chen yan, I know most men (women too) fall in love with the looks more then the person themselves. I know at first my attraction to my lady was her looks. But it is the person she is that I fell in love with. Her personality, the way she laughs, thinks and cares is what did it for me. I have not met her face to face yet but I don't care of her beauty, which she seems to have also. So I say when I meet her I will be meeting her not someone that looks like her.

The man with the girlfriend you wrote about, was not at the shore for the seashell. He was there to fish. Glad you were smart enough to see the difference.

[RegnisTheGreat]

I win the jackpot. I talked to her (the one supposed is in Ottawa but I am 99% confident is in Manitba) about this weekend and asked again about meeting for brunch. She's in Sudbury now looking after her mom who is very sick. She wants to come meet me for coffee this Saturday but her car just broke, she doesn't have enough to get it fixed as she been helping her mom last few years. She was wondering if I could lend her a few six hundred dollars to have it fixed and wanted me to send it via Western Union.

[mustfocus]

I win the jackpot. I talked to her this weekend and asked again about meeting for brunch. She's in Sudbury now looking after her mom who is very sick. She wants to come meet me for coffee this Saturday but her car just broke, she doesn't have enough to get it fixed as she been helping her mom last few years. She was wondering if I could lend her a few six hundred dollars to have it fixed and wanted me to send it via Western Union.

Where do you find these people?  I'm just wondering who you will find when you start talking on any of the other sites. :icon_biggrin:

[RegnisTheGreat]

PoF! I'm starting to feel its Plenty of Fraud.

[Vince G]

You mean Plenty of Crap! I was going to post to watch out for the I'm stuck, I was robbed, my account is frozen BS? My car is broken has been used before, in western sites.

[RegnisTheGreat]

Well, yeah. Plenty of Crap. I went with Plenty of Fraud since it at last matched the initials. Seriously pissed.

[mustfocus]

Well, yeah. Plenty of Crap. I went with Plenty of Fraud since it at last matched the initials. Seriously pissed.

Well, now you know why for something like this, you rarely go for the free stuff.  One thing I find is that when you have to pay for something, you tend to weed out the chaff as it were.  I mean yes, there will always be the opportunity for fraud (as witnessed by some of the actions of the other sites), but compared to what you see on completely free sites...

[David5o]

Vince,


Sounds a bit like Ronan's '' I Was Robbed'' ....hahaha!!   But that line seems to have worked for him...lol!!! They do say the old lines are the best!!!!  hahaha!!

David.....

[RegnisTheGreat]

NZ dating sites are full of demanding woman who think they are spectacular but in fact are ordinary; in China its the other way round - there are spectacular girls who think they are plain



 David K in Auckland

David, I totally agree what you said.And you have very sharp eyes,I give my wishes to you and your lady in Shenzhen .

So am I being to think, is it the online dating that's the problem in the west world? That people have much choice and never settle but think they can always do better?

We said if you go to the seashore ,and find a shell which you like, bring it to home, and never go back to the seashore. Because there is not best shell in seashore.

Here is my experience, A man ever ask me to consider about marriage , I ask him why you pick me,  He said because I think you are the the best I have met until now.But he has a girl friend already. Then I ask him how about your gf, he said she is not as beautiful as you. Then I donn't want to talk to him anymore ,Becasue I know he will find other girl who is more beautiful than me. He just like shopping and compare the products. If you love someone, Even if  he cann't compare with others in some place, I still think he is the best and cherish him, because you love him.

Looks isn't really a big deal in a long term relationship. I really hate to see how things work in 20-30 years if looks are all that important. In 30 years i'll be 60 and probably be greying, and much older and wrinklier. Same could be said of my partner. Its not her beauty that makes me love her, its her inside that does. I want to find someone that I connect with emotionally and value wise, which is what last.

[RegnisTheGreat]

Lol, just got back from another "date" from PoF. This was the last straw and I'm giving up on that site. Deleted my profile and everything. Part of my mistake was mentioning that I have a home and a good job.

Meet this one 27 year old with kids. I knew she had kids but she said they were with her parents this weekend. She seemed nice and normal so I invited her to a nice restaurant for the two of us. I get there and wait for her and she shows up with both of her kids and sit down. People are looking at us. The place is a nice adult (as in quiet, upscale, etc not pornographic) restaurant and there was no kids menu obviously. She ordered like a meal for each of the kids and 3 apptizers. With the young kids (5 and 9) there goes all the adult conversatoin at the table and I held back on commenting. She fed the two kids the apptizers and had the two meals doggie bagged. I paid the bill (she didn't even offer to help or pay the tip) and said she should've called me if she was bring her kids along. I wasn't considering not paying as I love this place and the staff here knows me and they do amazing food. She it was nice having dinner but my kids didn't really like you and I can't imagine a relationship withs omeone my kids doesn't like.

Grrr. I am now a meal ticket for single woman.

[Vince G]

Ah the old "Get a free dinner trick" been there had that done. I got to a point where if I met them it was coffee only. Insisted on it.