RE: My trip to Guangzhou - reloaded Arnold wrote.....Thanks David , for the detailing . But , I still would not put myself in that situation to .. have HER choose .. me over her Parent's wishes . That's why I myself payed very close attention to the Parent's of my Wife . I did not want any problem's in that department .
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Arnold,
No-one puts there self in that position intentionally or otherwise, but these things happen. You are still confusing this matter by thinking that if you don't get a parents blessing, then that's the end of the relationship. It's not like that at all, the lady is not choosing the man over her parents, she is just not agreeing with there thoughts on her prospective husband....
Of course their are lot's of variables and each situation is going to be unique, but there is sometimes a situation where the parents will be totally unreasonable in there initial assumptions towards a prospective husband, no-matter how much you try to woo them over. Are you suggesting, that you just give up your lady if that situation arose??
Remember parents, Chinese or otherwise, are not always going to be right, likewise the daughters are not always going to be right!! That's life i'm afraid, but when you really want something in your life, you fight for it with all you have. So to just give up your future with a woman you love, because you haven't there blessing is a complete cop-out. If that lady loves and wants you enough to be your wife, what is the problem
Let's face it, you wouldn't give a seconds thought if the same thing happened in the States with your ladies parents, So why in China is it different, if that lady wants YOU!!??
David....
