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Chad:
Well to start off I have been in Chengdu for a little over a week. I was met at the airport by my friend Ying and we got along great. So I asked her to marry me last monday and she said yes. It took until thursday to get paperwork from the American Embassy in order to get married. So we got married. This is the hard part to write here but I guess I will, what have I to lose. Four years ago I had prostate surgery to have it removed since it was full of cancer. Needless to say a side effect sometimes is ED. And of course it chose me to side effect. I had written Ying about the surgery and she was fine with it. Well I did not bring any kind of medicene because I felt if she seen the medicine she would assume I was here for sex. And I thought it was worth taking the chance that things just might work. Neeless to say things didnt work. So we were married on thursday and divorced today, Monday.

I suppose I am writing this just to let everyone know that she is a real person and even though some stuff I wrote seems to be overlooked if she was serios enough to marry me she was indeed serious to me. You should have seen how happy she was when we married. It's just another sign that the realtionship was real just as she was.

My flight out isn't until next monday so I don't really know what I am going to do. Maybe try to leave earlier I think.

China Shark:
Chad,

It took a lot of guts to tell the rest of us guys your situation. I feeel bad it had to end so abruptly for you. I am still unclear to why it couldn't work though, no pun intended. Was it because of ED and she needed the physical part of the relationship also. If it was me I would have tried a few more avenues before I got divorced. Hell, I fought tooth and nail to hold onto my first Chinese wife but to no avail she just wanted out. So I can sympathize and relate on that issue. Keep the faith brother there are plenty for all of us here. I officially broke it off with Mei last night after I moved out of her place two nights ago. Not worried because there are so many incredible women here. If you want you could travel down to Shenzhen and we could hang and find you a new girl. Thanks for the story for the newbies on the fence on this thing.
China Shark Mike

Chad:
I just got off the phone with the transolator girl asking her if we all could meet tommorrow to talk again. She says she will call Ying and see what she says. The transolator feels that Ying feels I lied to her about the ED thing. And yes Ying said that sex is very important in a marriage and she does not want me taking medicine to fix it. I told the transolator that men take it all the time. Maybe not here but in US they do. Look at all the adds on TV. I can not be the only unlucky in love guy.

Ed W:
I thought the default answer was to blame Chong, NOT blame ED! Sheeesh. hehe.

Serously Chad. I'm sorry to read this. I wonder if back when you told her about your condition that maybe she either misunderstood what it actually was or glanced over it without really paying attention to it. I know my wife has questioned me about things I had told her in the past and her reaction is like I never mentioned it before. I 'm not sure why this is but it sounds like if she had been more aware of it during the letters, maybe she'd have discussed it in more detail or offered some opinions about it.

I sure hope things work out. I hate to think of the time spent building a relationship can so easily be derailed by something that's fairly standard these days to overcome with special meds. I can only hope she reconsiders and puts more value in the relationship and work through the diffeculties.

Best wishes for you Chad. Our thoughts are with ya.

ED

Vince G:
Chad, I am saddened by hearing this and a little disappointed in you too. Much like Mike and Ed said, Why didn't you clarify this with her before getting married? or at least while you were? Why I'm disappointed in you? Because you seem to think less of yourself then you are. Just agreeing to get un-married without even putting up a fight? If it was such a problem for her why didn't she come up with a non-drug solution? They must have some kind of herbs related fix as most of Asia does. I don't understand what happen? You married and you both didn't give it a chance.

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