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Finally in Shenyang

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Peter Arnold:
Okay, so I guess everybody is wondering what happened to me after my sojourn in China. I will try and put my thoughts onto paper.
It has not been easy trying to settle back into my life. I have dearly missed China and my Chinese friend Renjie. The day at the airport was a very emotional and stressful time. I ended up up putting my dear friend through some stress as I was not booked into my return flight from Shenyang to Guangzhou, and had to buy another ticket with Shenzen Airlines to connect with China Southern Airlines at Guangzhou. To make it more exciting, I had inadvertently  left my debit card in a teller machine earlier at the airport, so I resorted to my credit card to withdraw money for the ticket. I needed 1800 yuan, and the machine said I could only withdraw 1000 yuan per day. I told Renjie and a lady from China Southern about my predicament. I thought I was snookered, but decided to take out my 1000, then try again for the 800. Bingo, the machine spat out some more money. So we raced over and bought the ticket as time was running out. Previously we had waited in line at CSA counter to register for my flight which had not been re instated, even though I had phoned CSA and the woman had told me in Chinglish that all I had to do was pay an extra Au$100 to re instate it. But she did not tell me I had to pay it to the Sydney office of CSA, not in Shenyang.
  Anyway, I was booked to fly out and connect with my flight in Guangzhou. I was not ready for the flood of emotion as I said goodbye to Renjie. I was in tears as I walked away, and grieved all the way to Guangzhou on the flight. She kept a brave front and told me to go. She felt she had to be strong for both of us.
  I have been home for three weeks now and there is still a big part of me in China. I have tried to move forward with plans here, but I cannot forget Renjie and our connection. We have kept contact with QQ messenger and discussed our relationship many times. I have gotten to feeling 80 percent sure about committing. At this point, all I can say is that I miss her dearly. Communication is very slow and laborious. We try and talk on her day off so that I am wide awake.
  I am thinking of going back in April/ May when the weather is more friendly to this slender Aussie man. It is snowing in Shenyang at the moment! I am also going to do a TESOL course early next year as I would like to move to China and teach. I feel I have potential to teach and I really need to get out of the building game here as my body is too old to do it any more. I have RSI in both hands now and a damaged back. I was going to buy a block of land with a run down, badly constructed house on it, but I will not have the energy to put into it, nor the capacity to earn enough money.
  I know it doesn't sound like I am in a good financial position, so I am looking at what my options are if I move to China. I am definitely at a crossroads now, but I feel a strong connection with Renjie and China, and I know that she would make a great wife and companion. I am taking it one step at a time and running different scenarios past Renjie to see if it will work for us.
  So, I am back doing some building work, but feeling like this is not where I want to be. I need to get my 'shit' together here and earn some good money and start feeling out a possible future in China.
  I have a very good friend who is an exceptional clairvoyant , and she can see me returning and living in China with Renjie. So I will see. She knew nothing of my trip and my Chinese connection, but accurately told me about Renjie, and even her brother and father who have passed over to Spirit. She told me that her father said that there had better be a ring! So marriage may be on the cards.
  Well, that is where I am at. I have been very unsettled upon my return, as many of you can probably relate to and still have very fond memories of the dirty, dusty, grey city of Shenyang, and the wonderful meals and nights I spent at Renjies apartment.
  Till my next posting.
Peter.

Arnold:
So Peter , I see something good come out of all this . Just take your time , think straight and this Lady of your sounds like a great Woman .. so why let it get by . By May next year , it will for sure be more clear on what is your next step with this Lady . It's your call , if you'll go with a Ring in your Pocket . I hope so !!!

RobertBfrom aust:
Yes Peter , once bitten by the China bug it will not get out of your system , Sujuan and I are also heading back in April as the girls here have said it is tooooo cold in Dec/Jan , so keep on chatting and yes do the TESOL course online it certainly will not be wasted , regards Sujuan and Robert .

Paul Todd:
I have to agree with Robert,once bitten by the China bug it's hard to get it out of your system :) It sounds to me like you have made that connection to your lady and you both know it!
Yes,the building game takes it's toll on the body. I have a close friend who is a stone mason, years of carving stone on the outside of church's in all kinds of weather have left him with some serious problems that are not going to go away.
Two and a half years ago I was just where your standing now,doing web cams and knowing that the only place I wanted to be was by Ming zhi's side. I decide to jump and just like yourself needed to get my "Shit "together...so I was working three jobs 7 days a week, basically when I wasn't talking on the web cam or sleeping I was earning money! I did this for the best part of 8 months. Got enough to pay for the rest of my kids collage and set me up here in China. There were days when I was walking to work in the morning thinking "Just what are you doing Paul ! This is crazy going to live in China"  ::) Then I would think that I would talk to Ming zhi latter on for a few hour in the afternoon and that was all the motervation I needed. :)
You can make a good life for the two of you here. The teaching work is plentiful and if you take it seriously it can be very rewarding. It can also be challenging if you want to be good at it, even in highly structured teaching environments it's pretty much up to you how to teach the subject. It's not the only opportunity here, if you come up with the right idea there is lots of money to be made.
They say that, good thing come to those that wait.....Well sometimes you just have to quite talking about what we are going to do and " Just do it!"
Best of luck to you Robert and the prize at the end of the road is more than worth all the work you have to put in to get it ;)

Chong:
Fortune tellers are very accurate in China as well. It would be curious to see what they say to Renjie about your future together.

All the best.

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