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Arnold:
It is easy to fall in Love with these wonderful Women John , but we all must also expect/win over her Family as well . This is of course not always easy by no means . I think you have done and your Lady rightfully handled her part winning her Family's approval . You on your way to happiness , now cherish it and don't goof it up . ;)
David E:
Way to go John !!!
I think you will find, as most of us have, that winning Mother's heart is 90% of the battle for acceptance. Of course, Father has the upfront presence, but Mum will be the iron fist in the velvet glove...if she approves, Dad will most likely come along...eventually !!!
Many Chinese people have only heard the worst about Western Men who go to China for a cheap thrill, those of us who are sincere and serious have this handicap to overcome. Over time, they will get to know that you are a decent man who only wants the best for their daughter, and they will ultimately be happy about this.
There are a couple of fundamental points that you should never lose sight of, as you develop your relationship with your Treasure.
Our Global Moderator Maxx has given us what is probably the most important advice, and it has worked for all of us.......the 24 hour rule. I wont go into it in detail, its all here in the forum.
Next..."different culture, different ways."........it is always important to know that we may on some issues have a cultural barrier to overcome, be patient and understanding and these differences dont become show stoppers, only learning experiences.
Finally..."this is not the easiest of roads you have chosen to travel"...but I dont have to tell you that the rewards are infinite !!!
If you need to begin planning your Visa application, I have just been through this and have lots of info. if you need it.
But Chong is correct, start collecting and recording ALL of the interactions with your Lady. One of the most significant issues you will face in your Visa application is the requirement to PROVE your relationship is genuine and ongoing. You do this by having a very detailed set of communication history, photos, air tickets, reciepts etc etc.
In the meantime, just enjoy the experience together, be happy that you found each other and understand that you have something very special...great isn't it ;D ;D
All the best
David
Arnold:
Ahhhh .. I knew David would come with all the important Info. , so I don't have to . 8) I'm too lazy at the moment .
Thank you very much David and John .. you found a place to make things a lot easier for you ( as you might know already ) then .. the " Official Forum " .
JOHN1964:
Hi everyone, Still here thinking of Minying,Why is it so hard to stop thinking of her?, I have had some "beautiful" girlfriends over the last ten or so years but i can not get Minying out of my head, Her smile is the most welcome smile that i have ever seen, The grin on her face shows the love for me, As you all have seen, I am not the most handsome guy in the world, She still writes me every day and sends text msgs all the time, She has the family wanting to meet the man who has made their daughter so happy over the last seven months now,
It was not always like this, Her father was a little angry to discover that his daughter was in Beijing to meet with a western man, She tried to explain to him that we wanted to be together but he did not want to know, Minyings mother has told the father of our desire to be together and now he has agreed to meet with me,,I will not return from China without his approval, Give me some advice please if you have some, Thanks "brothers" , Help me out here.
David E:
I had the same problem...was quite concerned what to do to charm the old Coot !!!
Half a bottle of Johnny Walker after we met seemed to do solve all the problems...we both got plastered together (much to the disgust of all the ladies)...hey ho !! whatever works...works ;D ;D ;D
I am sure he was just as concerned as me, but in the end he just knew that I only wanted to make his daughter happy and that I was a genuine Man, not a Western sleaze.
I am sure you will find the same....dont worry
David
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