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My new home in China - Xiaolan

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Lain:
Thanks everyone for the words of encouragement ....... I must make it a point to drop in more often and share my stories.

Yes I am happy now that I have figured out how to survive from my "crash landing" in China. I knew it was a 50/50 deal when I chose to come here for my girl...it was either going to work out with her....or not. Sadly , not was the outcome. However I am still the winner as it was always my intentions to live in China. I admit that if I had a god woman by my side to guide me as I adapt to my new country it would be much easier. But in the end, maybe ts better this way because I am learning on my own and making choices based on what I learn....not what I am told because I have found that Chinese woman can be very manipulative with their men. (personal observation)

With every passing week I find myself developing a better sense of how things work here, social interactions are very important to maintain with your friends and is nothing like what I knew back in America. I think maybe the best way to describe it is to say its sort of like "office politics" for those who have ever worked in such an environment. If you want to keep your "status" you must learn to play the game...or you will find yourself without many friends. Thankfully most of my friends understand that I am new to this situation, and cut me some slack.

I will leave you all post with a picture of me at a place I like to go to relax. No matter what , China is now my home.

Arnold:
Lain , I really like your outlook on your new Life in China . So , as one can see .. being down one day .. doesn't have to be the end at all . Your still young , so time to find your "right" Lady should not be rushed anyway . As an old saying : Get the FEEL .. but without TOUCHING ! Remember , love will come knocking on your Door .. if you like it or not .. some day .
Live and Enjoy !

Lain:

--- Quote from: Arnold on January 28, 2011, 11:57:13 pm ---Lain , I really like your outlook on your new Life in China . So , as one can see .. being down one day .. doesn't have to be the end at all . Your still young , so time to find your "right" Lady should not be rushed anyway . As an old saying : Get the FEEL .. but without TOUCHING ! Remember , love will come knocking on your Door .. if you like it or not .. some day .
Live and Enjoy !

--- End quote ---

Arnold, you are correct that living here has its ups and downs....As time passes more ups, thank goodness.

An update on the lady above pictured riding my bike. I have been friends with her more or less since I arrived in Xiaolan. Our friendship has been great and she has known for some time that I really like her...more than just friends. I asked her to become my girlfriend about the same time I started this thread and at the time she gently rejected my offer saying that she needed more time. I told her that I completely understand and we continued to be really good friends.

Well what I did not know was that the extra time she wanted was not so she could learn more about me, it was to wait until she went home to see her family for the New Year.... I just found out today the time she wanted was so she could ask her family for permission to date me. She comes from a very traditional family and given the fact that I am a westerner, and out age differences are considerable she thought it best to ask first.

Much to my surprise during an online chat (poorly translated via Google) they granted us permission to date until next April when they want me to come visit them in Shanghai. WOW....I am a little nervous. I was under the impression that "meeting the family" was more or less implying marriage? Well I guess I have 2 months to see how things go, but if I like her I doubt that will be enough time to know if we should get married?

I guess I should not look a gift horse in the mouth...She is a wonderful young lady, not a gold-digger and we have virtually everything in common...except language. Lets hope this time everything works out....Gotta cram on my Mandarin, she has told me that she will make me study for 2 hours every day until we meet her parents....of course she will help.

kenny:
Lain

I enjoy reading about your new life there in China. Keep the story going and of course the pictures.

Good luck in your life and with the cute girl.

Kenny

Martin:
Lain...this is a really fascinating story.  I am enjoying it quite a bit.  Like Kenny said, keep the story...and the pictures coming.  It is a great read!

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