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Spruik:
Metooap,
In most cases it is intended that the girl comes to live in our English speaking country.
It is in her interest to know English. And know it well. Especially if contact with other Chinese people will be limited once with us. In my case, there is not a chinese female soul within 50km, that I know of (peaceful mountains here).
Sure, us learning Chinese is fun, but hardly necessary.
True, this one was not "meant to be". I was not committed in any way to her, or vice versa. Talk about marriage was based on "ifs" and "buts".
What I learned in the process? It's ok to fart in bed... in China (without apology)... LOL. No, I didn't sleep with her!
Seriously, be careful what you say in the cause of humor - she may take it seriously (and she often did). Keep your chats extremely simple. And DO NOT tell her your entire history on how many times you were married (and got taken to the cleaners)... it reflects on us, the victims. But you can't not tell her either...
Initially I told her that I was married before. As the communication progressed she assumed I was married twice before and told her family that. When asking questions, being honest, I told her they totalled 4 and gave details as to why they failed (including 3 crooked thieving Filipinas... just wait 5 years and off they go). Of course it does reflect on my poor sense of judgement (at least in part).
Despite my explanations about the Filipinas, I was judged harshly. Even though Filipinos are not very much respected in China. Better put it in your profile and you probably won't get any admirer letters... LOL.
In that respect Chinese seem no different to many other Asians in respect of making assumptions and than claiming them as truth, without seriously listening.
What needs to be fixed? Those translators... and my head :D
It's no loss, but it was another experience.
Toon
metooap:
Toon, I am smiling.
The bottom-line is it seems to me you learned a whole lot from the process.
Just a suggestion, once you have identified a woman and sparks are flying all over the place, get around the translator fast, by using personal emails, chatting directly on Skype or using your own personal translator – not a machine but a person.
If you were not committed to her – and you have been around the bin 4 times!, I do not have to tell you – you know – batter-up!
I would think about saying, "yes, I have been married 4 times, and if it takes me 100 times to find you, then that is what I will do. here I am baby, I have been waiting for you!
:)
Now batter-up!
She is out there!
Spruik:
--- Quote from: 'metooap' pid='4510' dateline='1243837288' ---
Toon, I am smiling.
The bottom-line is it seems to me you learned a whole lot from the process.
Just a suggestion, once you have identified a woman and sparks are flying all over the place, get around the translator fast, by using personal emails, chatting directly on Skype or using your own personal translator – not a machine but a person.
If you were not committed to her – and you have been around the bin 4 times!, I do not have to tell you – you know – batter-up!
I would think about saying, "yes, I have been married 4 times, and if it takes me 100 times to find you, then that is what I will do. here I am baby, I have been waiting for you!
:)
Now batter-up!
She is out there!
--- End quote ---
Thank you for the suggestion - I'll remember that! :)
With her it was messages at first, then YM and some webcam for the most part.
She translated her messages to English when sending, and I translated them in Chinese before sending. Virtually a live chat, almost real time. Got pretty experienced at it.
Now, getting a real person to translate in real-time will be a bit of a challenge... if a female, she will be extremely suspicious with her sitting next to me until and beyond midnight... LOL
I have no trouble finding ladies - I am a good looking healthy horny male (LOL)... even at 65 (now many chicks also consider that over the hill...).
With a nice place to offer, and no need for her to go to work.
Toon
metooap:
Toon,
With 4 it is obvious you have absolutely no problem in getting woman, but keeping them is another matter!
So even at your so-called advanced age - which by the way - I believe you have a tremendous advantage in most areas, you have learned some valuable information.
I was talking about getting someone other than Chnlove to translate your emails.
When we are talking about sparks, love, and all that stuff, the only thing that really matters is your heart and hers. The others stuff (good looking hunk, no need to work, nice place) adds to the equation. Seems to me, the way to make sure that number five is the last one..if that is what you want....is to look at the woman's heart and yours too.
It is in the heart man!
metooap:
Toon,
I think you may have something here.
We focus a lot here on how to find and get the love of our lives.
But once we get her then what?
I agree maybe we should ask the powers that be here to create a thread on what we need to do to keep the beautiful creature - once we have her!
After all, why spend all of that time and resources - if in the long run...she is gone-hun!
Who do we talk to about starting this type of thread around here?
It seems to me with our collective efforts (of this brotherhood) we could come up with some pretty powerful stuff!
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