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David5o:
Jim,
I know what your saying, that was something else Lucy said to me, but was a bit difficult to explain here. But your right in what you say, she said, best not to bring things up that involves money. As then she maybe, will misunderstand you, and think that your offering money to her parents. Then the dollars sign's just start spinning in front of there eyes.... She laughed, but was still quite serious about it. The language problem can be a bigger problem than many realise. It can get you in all sorts of s**t
It's a fact unfortunately, but no matter how much you explain to some of these ladies that your not rich, or well off, ...To them "You Are," ...so they start off with figures that they think you can afford, it then comes down to negotiating, the way all Chinese are very adept at .... I'm sure you've seen that for yourself if you've been on a trip to China. hahaha!! The gifts should only be token gifts Jim, the sort of price you would spend on a gift when visiting a family member you haven't seen for sometime.
Trust is something that only comes with time, but initial trust, is all down to life experience and gut feeling ....and that may even involve a leap of faith.
Anyway I'm sure you know what your doing by now, ... Best of luck and wishes to you....
David ......
Scottish_Rob:
I am not sure if I have posted anything on this subject, so here is my two pennies worth
I intend talking and asking Keren about it, think about it for a while, then DO WHAT SHE TELLS ME.....lol:angel::icon_biggrin:
Neil:
4 steps to becoming irresistible: 1) have a shower 2) spray Axe Dark Temptation 3) Never disagree with your girl 4) Reap the benefits.
Danny:
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I am not sure if I have posted anything on this subject, so here is my two pennies worth
I intend talking and asking Keren about it, think about it for a while, then DO WHAT SHE TELLS ME.....lol:angel::icon_biggrin:
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There's a possibility that I will be getting married later in the year. If that was to happen, I think what Rob plans to do is the right way of doing it.
I think you need to make clear to your wife that everything you have belongs to her. I am completely open with my woman about how much I earn and how much I have. If she wants to just give away a large sum to her family then I would just go along with it. It's her money as much as mine. If she hands it away to her family, then it's out of her pocket as much as mine.
When I go into my marriage I go into it with the belief that I am going to be married to her for perhaps the next forty years. I am going to really go for it. I am going to do absolutely everything I can do to make it a success. Whatever it takes. If giving money to her family makes her happy, then that's money well spent in my mind.
I've never cared about money. So long as I have roof over my head, clothes to cover my fugliness, and I have food to eat, that's enough. Anything more is just superfluous.
David5o:
Danny,
Rather you than me, that's a philosophy fraught with dangers.....
David.....
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