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How is having a baby when you're older?
Wilfred Motosue:
I wanted to ask all the guys who have had a baby when they were in their late fifties or in their sixties.
What is your full experience with having a baby at that age? I want to know the good, the bad and the ugly.
Is it that rough like people say it is? Is it worth having a child even at this age? Would you do it again or never again? I am 63 years old and my fiancee wants to have a baby. She already has a 7 year old duaghter that will be living with us in the Hawaii. I have not been married before and I never had a child before. No experience whatsoever on this. Can you give me your experience on this please? I want to make sure we know all that we can before doing this so we can make a informative decision so that we can't say that we didn't know about this or that. Luckily she already has a child so she knows what it will posssibly be like having another one. Thanks.
Wilfred
Willy The Londoner:
Same age as you. Never married before and as far as I know no kids either.
At 63 do you really what to start on this path?
She may but if you go ahead then good luck to you. It is not a yes choice that I would make.
(I am not sure if the World was ever be ready for 'Little Willys" to be let loose.)
My wife was looking after the neices child - two year old, whilst her grandmother was recovering from an operation - that three momths was MORE than enough for me.
But of course it is not your decision - as you are married to a Chinese woman then..........!
I have no idea what age your wife is but if she is over 40 and you are the age you are then you know you have to keep check on things throughout the pregnancy if you go ahead.
Willy
David E:
Wilfred
Whatever emotional journey you and your wife travel when you make the decision or not to have a child together, that is your business and only yours.
But I should point out to you what was told me by my Doctor when I posed the same question to him about me and Ming having a child together.
For a Man over 60 years old, the probability of genetic damage to the child gets alarmingly big, such things as Downes Syndrome and Spina Bifida loom large.
Whatever you decide together, you must get as many tests as you can to evaluate more carefully these risks.
I love my little grandkids. they are wonderful to be with....but at the end of the day, I can hand them back to their Parents !!!!!!!!!!! not sure I could cope with babies 24/7 any more.
Neil:
My wife has told me that she wants another child. Of course she does. But, bless her heart, she has also told me that she will listen to my decision and will not pressure me. It's a decision we can't make yet. We have to wait until we are together. I want to retire some day. I can see light at the end of the tunnel, even though I'm only 41. I can't imagine HAVING to work past 65.
I have read about the medical issues David mentioned. My brother has a daughter with Down Syndrome. She's an angel and we all love her, but she is a LOT of work.
Arnold:
Thanks for bringing this Subject up Wilfred .
This is something Qing and I have been chewing on ever since we made contact . We even pick out a name for a Girl already . Something QIng wants really bad . A Girl with Golden Hair and blue Eyes . I agreed to the Point , that I even went to a Doctor in Shanghai to have a Sperm count done on me ( which checked out good ) . I also agreed to "like" to have a child , if it happens . This was almost four years ago though . Now I'm going on 59 ( Qing's 43 soon ) , I am now trying to convince her .. it really is not in our best interest anymore . Our Age .. the Economy .. all that is involved . We do have a 10 year old Son already to join us next year , so I think strongly as days go by .. No .. not good . Ps: It is a hard decision for me , specially never have had a Child of my own . Have to keep a clear Head though , it was just not meant to be or it would have happened already .
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