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How is having a baby when you're older?
shaun:
Wilfred,
I don't regret raising three children. I enjoyed them and still do. They are all adults now and are successful. I am proud of all three. If I were in my 20's again I would do it again but now I am 56 and ca't imagine me doing it. I am not saying I won't do it because circumstances could lead me to do it again but if you mean by choice then the answer would be no.
But Wilfred, you need to make a choice that is comfortable with you. If I had never had children I am not sure what my decision would be. Most people have the desire to raise children. If you think you should do it and are willing to take the risks at an older age with other health issues then I would say go for it. There is nothing like the joy of raising a child. Some of my best memories come from my children.
Neil:
I think kids are the best thing that ever happened to me. I remember the utter terror I felt when my wife first became pregnant. We do what needs to get done though. I think it made me who I am today.
The doctor placed my first daughter in my arms seconds after she was born. I remember the look on her face as she stared back at me. I remember them calling me Daddy. I recently watched them both graduate from high school. They are worth every minute I spent raising them. No regrets.
Pineau:
Wilfred,
I am 59.
Lori, Gerry,Jennifer, Lisa, Erica, and Chandra, are all adults. All successful and raising their own families.
I have 17 grand children and 1 great grand son. I can look back, sigh and say "I did it". But I don't know how. It was a struggle to say the least. I got an early start I was finished raising MY kids by the time I was 47 so I did not have the worry of my widows survival.
Would I do it again? Probably not. But if so I would have a much better plan. And absolutely not at my current age.
I now have Katie. A 10 year old daughter that came with my new wife. I set out thinking no way. I made a hard and fast rule I will not accept another youngster. But when I fell for her mom I sort of set that rule aside. I will probably regret it. At my age and my family history I can say with near certainty that I will not be here to see her finish college. I think that is not fair to her and it is selfish of me. I will clock out just about the time when she will needs me the most. When she is starting her life struggle of school, marriage, family. But that's me, a selfish s-o-b.
Wilfred Motosue:
Thanks again to all of you for your candid posts. There are good points on both sides of the fence.
Everyone is different too. And the children all come out different too. I think ,perhaps, it's whatever genes that they inherit cause I've heard from parents that you can raise 2 childen the same, at least you thought so, but they develop with 2 diffferent character and personalities. wow. So I'm thinking, if we have a child, no matter how good we think we have raised our child, how they turn out might not be because of us. It just might be how they are made up inside, perhaps. So I shouldn't blame myself too much if he/she didn't come out as we wanted. So I need to first , if we decide to have a child, check my sperm out and try to make sure we use a "good one" if that's possible , so we don't have problems from the beginning and hope we have a child that has a good attitude and good outlook toward others and life. Geez , one guy said that his child was very good and he had no problems until the child hit the teen years. Yikes. So many scary turns in the road of parenthood huh? Life becomes unpredictable when you're a parent, it seems.
Thanks for taking so much of your time to clue me in on your experiences in raising your child. It is so interesting and thought provoking on my decision. I want to bless my fiancee with all the love and happiness that she is giving me and this is one of the ways perhaps. Of course I have to be committed in wanting a child myself also cause this is a partnership and we have to do everything together or it won't work.
wilfred
Scottish_Robbie:
--- Quote from: Wilfred Motosue on August 11, 2011, 02:38:53 am ---
'Everyone is different too. And the children all come out different too. I think it's whatever genes that they inherit from you parents cause you can raise 2 childen the same, at least you thought so, but they later have 2 diffferent character and personalities. wow. So possibly how your child develops is determined by how you set an example in your life and they copy and follow your example and the other is what genes that child inherited from you as their parents.'
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Wilfred
Sorry mate I have to disagree with this little piece you have written. :)
My kids are from hell and get into trouble, smoke hash etc..THEY NEVER GOT THAT FROM ME OR MY EX WIFE.... I am not saying I was a saint because I wasn't, but ... :-X :-X :-X
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