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Chinese Women and Money?
Clayton:
Thanks to David E and Willy for reassuring me, I hate to think of my wife as a money grabber but a little bit of doubt came over me when this subject came up, I guess all this waiting for a visa causes my thinking to stray sometimes.
I'm sure she'll like it here with the moonlight walks along the beach ( we can't go out during the day ,she hates the sun )our own house, and I'm waiting for her to get here to help Finnish painting and reflooring etc,
She will also have daily access to family and friends back home via QQ and phone
We have a large group of friends and family who can't wait to welcome her, and she says she is ready for the quiet life ,hell anywhere would be quieter than Shenzhen.
I told her the other day she will never be clod,never suffer from heat and humidity, never go hungry, always be clothed,well most of the time anyway, and as long as she is a good wife she will be loved and cared for for the rest of her life.
That was my promise to her, I can't do any more than that.
Cheers
Leeroy
Jason B:
I must agree with Willy, (geez will get deported for agreeing with a pom) anyway honesty is the best policy. I told Xia when I first went to China that I was living with my brother after my divorce and walking away with nothing (by choice), and saving to start life again. I also explained how my plans for the future and evern went so far as to show her facts and figures. Made it easier to understand and explain.
But since Xia has been here with have been fortuante enought to have purchased our house now. Move in second week of the new year after I paint it all, expecting a baby in late March/early April. I do not think that I would have worried about buying a house if it had not been for her being here. She has made life so much better in so many little and big ways.
I guess there are two sides to this. 1. I was very clear and honest with her when I first went to China and explained everything about my situation. Of course everyone's will be different but somehow from all the stories I have read they are the same in so many ways.
2. Your wife will change the way you do, look and appreciate things for the better.
Vince G:
I definitely agree. If there is going to be any problems about it? best it's at the start of the relationship rather then later, married and you get to hear her nagging at you day & nite.
Willy The Londoner:
--- Quote from: Vince G on December 04, 2011, 07:23:24 am ---I definitely agree. If there is going to be any problems about it? best it's at the start of the relationship rather then later, married and you get to hear her nagging at you day & nite.
--- End quote ---
Leave it too late and you may get Chinese acupuncture with 6 inch blades. ;D
Especiallyif you tell her 'wo bu dong" everytime.
Willy
shaun:
Willy thank your for starting this thread. It is a good one.
One thing the we all need to be aware of is that as you explain your financial status to your prospective wife that she is deciphering this through close friends to better understand what you are saying. Quite often they get the wrong idea and they will come to the conclusion that you are much more wealthy than you are. We as men don't help that either. Most of us are divorced and have been told that we are less than adequate financially. Now we are told we are rich and we like that feeling. Our job is to gently bring them back to reality. Even doing this gently you may catch a little crap because now she is going to lose a little face. Problem is quite often the man runs for the hills yelling gold digger. Yet if he will stick it out a little while longer he may find out that she will adjust and everything will be fine.
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