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Chinese Women and Money?
Vince G:
It's not he Web to be alarmed about, the Black Widow Spider female will mate and then Kill the mate (I guess eats it too). Hence the women that marry a few men that seem to die off before their time is given the spider title.
http://crimezzz.net/serialkiller_index/by_type/blackwidows.php
Clayton:
Willy, you've hit a nerve, this is a subject that has had me worried for a while, godam money,
My wife's best friend usually joins in on our QQ conversations and the subject of money always comes up, now this friend is ,i understand well off, and she's always saying i should give my wife more money, now my wife has a well payed job and does not need extra from me although i send her money every month so her friends can see i am supporting her and she can keep face.
I have explained to her right from the start and keep reiterating my financial situation, one of our chats she said she was a little worried that i might not be able to support her and that she would have to wash dishes at the local pub so I told her everything about my finances, I'm a self funded retire, i own my house, i even told her how much money i have in my super fund, she then felt comfortable that i am able to support her but i don't like the way she and her friend,who i like, go on about money,it makes me worried because I've already had two wives that thought more about money than me.
I might be a little gun shy perhaps but when i saw those videos and the comments that followed I just thought 'shit' what am i in for now
Cheers
Leeroy
john1964:
These videos had me a bit worried too until I did a bit more thinking about my wife and previous conversations we have had about my current financial situation.
After we met face to face and knew we wanted to be together for life, I wanted to start sending MinYing money but she refused to give me her bank account details saying she did not need for me to send any money as she had a job, It was only after I explained to her that it would help the visa process that she decided to give me the relevant information,
Over the last 20 months we have known each-other she has never asked for any money or when the next instalment would be coming, She has never asked me how much I earn or how much I have in the bank.
MinYing tells me that her friends are a little envious of the fact that I do give her money every month but are at the same time very happy that she has found a "good" man and not a deadbeat like her ex.
From the beginning I told my wife that I was going through a rather messy property settlement with my ex-Thai partner (now in its third year) and after the smoke has cleared I might have nothing as we all know the lawyers are the only ones to win, Many times MinYing has asked me just to give it all away and we can start again and work our way to a comfortable life together. John.
Arnold:
--- Quote from: john1964 on December 02, 2011, 05:37:11 pm --- This got me thinking, Maybe she just wants to leave C
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Now .. now , are we starting to sound like our old Friends/Family ? They just want a Green Card out !
My LaoPo never ask me for anything either to this Day , she makes now her own Money here ( as little as it is ) . I pay for everything but her Clothes when she goes Shopping , the rest she saves . She has been willing to sell one of her Apartments in Shanghai to pay off our Home here , thus .. I don't feel not the slightest reason for her ever thinking more about Money than of Me . After four years Married , I think I know my Wife pretty well and not worry that she's after my Money .
So how can we be certain this (behind our back thinking) will not happen to one of us ? I feel that being together some time will always show some kind of signs/warnings if Money becomes more important to them . Watch .. observe closely .. make notes and add up til you have positive proof of not being for Love .
Anyway , I'm not worried .. if Lightning strikes .. I can't stop it !
David E:
I think maybe we need to get this "money" thing into some sort of perspective.....
There are a bunch of Women out there...and not only Chinese women, but women from every race or culture that are prepared to do anything to secure a Man who is relatively wealthy, it matters not about his age or looks...his wallet is the key driver. These women only care about their own financial future and will go to any lengths to get it. Possibly we could call these women "commercial prostitutes" !!!
There is another bunch of women who genuinely dont want to enter a long term relationship which will mean a life-time of hardship, constantly worrying for money and faced with a long term imperative to work, work, work, with little hope of ever reaching some level of financial stability.
There is another bunch of women who dont care either way, they have little or no hope of finding a Man due to many different impediments...their only quest is for marriage...at any cost !!!
Naturally, we should avoid the gold-diggers because once they have soaked up your money....off they will go to find another sucker...aided by our Draconian Western Divorce/property Laws.
And for those women in this category who are totally stunning Super-model types...they will have a fair chance of success !!...but for all the "average" women out there who seek wealth for its own sake....in your dreams Lady !!!...you aint got nothing to trade ;D ;D Looking at the photos of the women on the Post who had made all these comments, I dont think any of them had what it takes to attract a Millionaire....at least not in my culture !!!...so dream on girls.
Somewhere in between all this stuff is a large majority of women who will weigh up the pros and cons of their prospective partner, make a judjement call, for better or for worse and simply marry a man that they can love and respect....but make no mistake, it takes a very rare woman to enter such a relationship KNOWING that her partner is basically destitute with no money, assets or prospects....would you if you were in her position also be a bit spooked by such a potential future ????? Add to the fact, if this woman is from China (or any foreign Country) she is giving up all her existing security, culture, language, friends and family.....to live in dire poverty in a new Country....I think NOT
Somewhere we men have a level of responsibility to provide a reasonable life for our beloved partner....or we should have anyway. To what level this "reasonable" life applies, is up to the individuals to decide for themselves...we all got different needs and wants. If we are not clever enough to realise when a woman is only looking for money...then we deserve her.
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