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Vince G:
I don't agree Maxx, calling 911 and when the police arrive they would cart her off to jail for Domestic Violence (if he has marks or blood drawn and or a witness she being the aggressor) and she'd be back the next day unless she seems completely unraveled then they may bring her to the jails mental ward or hospital (depends where, city/state).

If he has her sent into a faculty, she will learn she's not getting out till she cooperates. The longer she resists the longer she stays.

Scottish_Robbie:
Well said Max, however  The lady needs to think that it is her idea to talk to the head shrinker.

shaun:
I do have a little experience with this.  If 911 is called and they send a properly trained office on a domestic dispute he should be able to evaluate the woman and take her to a facility.

Dumbo you should call 911 the next time this happens.  Don't wait for your son to do it.  In later years he could possibly dislike you for not doing it.  That aside you can explain to the officer all that has happened in the past.  Don't suggest to him that you think she should be taken to and institution because then you are revealing your motivation to him and it could discredit the information you have given him.  You have no way of knowing how much the officer knows or how good he is a recognizing these behaviors as being mental issues but you should never suggest to him how to do his job.  They don't like that very much.

However if you are successful in getting her admitted to a mental hospital they can more accurately determine what her issues are and the way to overcome them.

But I tell you this, you shouldn't allow her to abuse you in this manner.  He family not stepping in and helping should tell you something.  This has been going on for a very long time.  It isn't something that just happened with you and it isn't your fault.  Next time make the call.

Willy The Londoner:
If she has a problem and it has been long term then I doubt if we are in a position to offer little more than advice. I know that if i was carted off to a mental facility here then i would have serious doubts about staying with the person responsible. Whether I needed it of not I would not appreciate it.

That being said then this is a problem that can occur with long distance courtships.   Dumbo had five visits here in a couple of years but just how long were these visits for?  Obviously not long enough to notice a problem. 

I met my wife and was courting her here for 5 months solid before going into the marriage stakes.  Unfortunately not many of you are able to do it the way I did but as they say you do not really know a persion before you live with them.

Willy
 

Vince G:
Willy you are right but I was just saying forceable action may be all that's left.

I met a girl that moved here a few years ago. As I was sitting at her place I realized she was not only not for me but something was off about her. Then she told me that her "boyfriend" had her committed for 3 months. When she got out she left him and the state. Lucky me?

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