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Nez:
Hi Everyone,

I've been a member of this site for a while but haven't posted anything as I haven't really been searching for someone seriously so have had no contact with any women (personal contact I mean).

I signed up for ChineseLoveLinks last week, and have had girls sending "Interest", but a few days ago one of the girls happened to be online when she sent interest, I looked at her profile and liked what I saw and sent interest back. Next thing I know we are chatting (she is a paying member of the site so she is able to chat with free members, which is all I currently am).

Anyway, we chatted for quite a while and at the end I asked if I could give her my email address, which she was happy with and also gave me hers. We've sent a few emails now and chatted for a long time again tonight.

What I'm unsure of is that she is already saying things like I might meet her parents one day, or other things we might do together one day. I must say though I have responded similiarly. It feels very natural chatting with her, but I'm just wondering if it's normal for this kind of conversation to appear so early. I mean she is only 28 (I'm 38) and has never been married (nor have I), so just wondering if anyone has any experience about this?

Should I just go with the flow and see what happens? I really do enjoy chatting with her, but I wonder if I'm being naive.

Thanks,
Nez

maxx:
Nez go with the flow at this point and time in the relationship.You two are just feeling each other out.So it's all good.I think if it was me.I would try to set up a QQ call or a Skype call.So that you can make sure who your talking to.

Arnold:
I agree with Maxx, you on your way to a good start of what could become well .. a lasting Relationship? If her english is limited, she's looking for subjects to talk about and what better then Family and you Visiting one day. My marriage started out that way too through Chnlove and that was almost four years ago already.
Make sure you get to "SEE" ( like Maxx mentioned.. QQ or Skype ) especially before making "Going to Visit" plans, which should be thought of with less than a year from first meeting. Anyway, good luck to you Nez! Be on your Toe's though at all times and any uncertaincies ASK questions like you just have.

Martin:
And, to add a little more to what Maxx and Arnold both mentioned...this QQ thing.  What is QQ you might ask?  Only the most popular instant messenger program in China.  All the women have it...in fact, I think it is a good guess that your lady might have QQ on her phone.  So, here is a link to another page on this forum about QQ.

http://www.chinaromance.net/index.php?topic=265.0

Nez:
Thanks for the advice guys.

Actually her english is quite good, so there are no problems with communication. Sometimes her spelling and grammar is a bit off, but I always know what she means. Last night we chatted on MSN (we are now on each others friends list in MSN), so I feel quite confident that I'm not chatting to an intermediary - which I believe is something that does occur.

Also the photo's I've seen don't look like they are professionally done to lure me into something, they are just normal photo's of her.

Martin, thanks for the link about QQ. I'll ask her about it next time we are chatting. I already have skype so I'll ask about that also.

Anyway I think I'll just relax and enjoy the ride but keep my eye out for anything that doesn't add up, never know what might happen  :)

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