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if a men told you his past at the begin
Neil:
--- Quote from: Martin on May 07, 2012, 01:22:58 am ---I might be wrong but it sounds like we're talking about a certain guppy.
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Ha. I was thinking the same thing Martin.
Yan, I really hope you can meet a good man. Someone you can trust completely. Everything you've said about this man makes me believe he's not a good man. He told you about his previous relationships? I told my wife that she took my virginity (I have two daughters from a previous marriage). haha. Seriously though, I'm glad you didn't fall into his trap.
Rhonald:
First - Hello Chen - It is always nice to hear from a friend again.
--- Quote from: chen yan on May 06, 2012, 11:24:07 am ---And I feel so disappointed to hear about this... what's happen to my coutry's girl...
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The country girl has moved to the BIG CITY and everything moves faster in a BIG city.
--- Quote from: chen yan on May 06, 2012, 11:24:07 am ---If a men around 35 years old told you about his past (3 long term relationship and one night stand with around 10 girls in China since he work here due to he feel so lonely) but actually he have already tired of it , why he should tell me this ??
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How long has this guy even lived in China? Three long term relationships at 35 only living in 1 country is already quit significant (commitment problems maybe?). If he has had this many just in China then I sure hope he has lived there for at least ten years. If only a couple of years then you have concerns to be careful with.
Since you asked us here on the forum I see you wished to get a honest Western male perspective and this shows that you are careful with your Heart. I think you have a deep desire to marry and be able to travel to new lands but not at the expense at being vulnerable. It is good to see you are being careful with your quest. I hope you do find that one special fellow because I think your carefulness also shows that you would be a true companion.
Take care Yan.
Rhonald:
--- Quote from: Neil on May 07, 2012, 10:33:30 am ---
--- Quote from: Martin on May 07, 2012, 01:22:58 am ---I might be wrong but it sounds like we're talking about a certain guppy.
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Ha. I was thinking the same thing Martin.
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Well that individual is older than 35
Willy The Londoner:
--- Quote from: chen yan on May 07, 2012, 09:37:27 am ---
I know there must have a good men be there for me.
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Well to be blunt Chen Yan my wife says you will only get second best as she has already got the best man there is. 8)
Willy
yvictor:
--- Quote from: chen yan on May 06, 2012, 11:58:19 pm ---yvictor,
how long you have dating with her before you feel it is time to tell her your past relationship?
For me, I donn't know him long time although he told me a lot about his friend and family,most are very personal stuff.
I do hope he just like you said just want to brag his past but one one knows the truth...he also told me that his friend suggest him it is better not to tell the women too much your past ,but he didn't listen his friend.
We both though it is better to not begin,cause he knows I am afraid of it, and he also feel afraid whether he will disappoint someone again,I saw his tear when he said this.
I am not sure if he is using his honest to get someone's mercy ,cause I hate to be cheated by taking advantage of your mercy since I have experienced it once and feel I become more ruthless and numb which I donn't like it at all ,so I try to use my not very strong faith to think positive.
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Chen Yan,
My case was a little different: we were in different countries and we only interacted by emails for several months before we first met in real life. It was during that early period when we tried to get to know each other when I brought up this topic with her. I think I was secretly hoping she would also tell me about her history :-)
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