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Prenuptial Agreements
Philip:
Using the handful of men who post on this forum does not make for a statistically reliable sample. It would be like me asking 20 of my Hong Kong friends if they liked pizza. If 15 of them said yes, I would hesitate to extrapolate from the results that 75% of Hongkongers like pizza.
We should be grateful for those here who are honest and brave enough to share their failures and disappointments with the rest of us. None of us are immune to failure. In fact, it is only really failure in my book, if we fail to learn from it. How many men here have failed (or succeeded), and then never posted again? More lost statistics. How many have been economical with the truth? Who knows? How many have failed and then succeeded, or succeeded and then failed? What about the future?
For my wife and I, we bless our good fortune, and do everything we can to ensure the future happiness of our marriage. We have no crystal ball, and we are both experienced enough with failure, and grateful enough with our present success not to rub it in the faces of those who are less fortunate than us. This is not the end of the road - it is only just the beginning.
I wish everyone luck and wisdom, whatever the colour of their flag.
Martin:
Like I said, we have no useful statistics here. Most men leave the site when their lady joins them. It's too bad, because there would be plenty of valuable information that can come from members even after their wife arrives. I made a mistake...I can think of 2 Canadians and 2 Americans. ! Canadian and 1 American, the wife ended the marriage before the immigration process had been completed. Possibly cold feet. In the case of the Canadian, he flew to China to try and save his marriage. He is happily in a relationship now. But beyond that, statistics here are non existent...it would be nice to have that kind of information though.
Jason B:
Just one more idea to through into the mix. I wonder how many women in China are influenced by American movies and the (I presume) fake way of life they make out in the USA? Is this an idea that is sown and upon arrival finding it very different to a preconceived idea?
But my feeling is as has already been mentioned their is a higher percentage of US men here than any other. So therefore basic maths to me means the higher the number the more chance of something going wrong.
I do not wish ill fate to any marriage but some very good issues were raised here. How many members have disappeared after marriage and spousal arrival in their country? How many of these members are still married or seperated before marriage or had their bride in their country and seperated and are too embarassed or whatever to come back here with their tales between their legs?
We can only be honest with ourselves and our partners and do what we feel is right. We all want the same thing here. Our wives with us forever and for us both to have a wonderful happy loving life together. It is not easy and sometimes we have to make some hard choices, if that is walking away, a prenup or what ever you decide is the right way is something between 2 people. All I can ever do is offer my experiences or opinions.
john1964:
Maybe this guy who wants the prenup is very wealthy and of course does not want to loose what he has if the woman is just a gold digger, A fellow member of this forum brought his Chinese wife from China and she came with nothing, Her and her daughter both got jobs here in Australia and sent a very large portion of their earnings back to China, They seldom contributed to daily expenses and within 1 week of her permanent visa being granted she left the family home with her daughter and is now involving blood sucking lawyers to squeeze everything from this man that she can, He has a lot to loose which he built up over his life time and he owned everything lock stock and barrel before he met this gold digger, He thought everything was peachy on the home front but he got stung big time, John.
Rhonald:
Thanks John for your contribution with this statement. Now I guess this guy is not a member of this forum - but needless to say, Willy will need to take in consideration that his observation was based on the limited sample rate of our members. Also per chance, his vision will have been clouded over by being closely involved with one American man living in China. I think he concentrated on the tree and did not look at the whole forest.
--- Quote from: Philip on May 19, 2012, 11:27:34 pm ---Using the handful of men who post on this forum does not make for a statistically reliable sample. It would be like me asking 20 of my Hong Kong friends if they liked pizza. If 15 of them said yes, I would hesitate to extrapolate from the results that 75% of Hongkongers like pizza.
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Yes and Philip brings up a usefull point about generalization on small sample rates. Chances are that friends will share common interests as like is attracted to like. Jumping into a swimming pool's shallow end will not tell you how deep is the deep end of the pool.
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