General Discussion and Useful Links > Ask An Experienced Member
Split Thread/Future of the Forum
Arnold:
Very good points David!
Speaking for myself, I already make my Blog available for any that is interested and to give an insight what all that pertinents. You have among a few other's (married) have also given in great detail your adventure and home-coming of your Wife. If this would just continue over and over, but it is not likely to happen.. as some have not returned (like said) and found us no more useful. Sad, but this will not change.. especially what you have mentioned.. the Economic's of each individual.
Perochial attitude ? Never looked at it that way, sorry if this is a problem with some. The bickering I can see, but that is going to hard to eliminate all together.. being Guy's from many parts of the World.. with different views. Married couples bicker, so how do we stop hundreds here doing it? ???
David E:
One other point I forgot to mention....
We decided to can the "points" system, and I wont go down the why or wherefore track, but it was a bad decision.
Visitors browsing had a marker to point to very experienced Bros and it was a visible indicator of the value of individual contributions.
People in general tend to seek advice from experts, and whilst the points system was not a perfect indicator of expertise, it did offer some clues to who had been round the tracks and was likely to be a Mentor or in some way an "expert".
As of now we are just a bunch (small) of guys sounding off about Chinese wives. There is very little to indicate that most of the Bros have been around for a long time, have had masses of collective experience and whos knowlege and assistance will be valuable to a newbie.
We perhaps should have a "sticky" Thread introducing some of the long term Forum members and something about their history and what they can contribute...in particular, any individual expertise they may have.
Maybe this could be a more detailed intro to the Mods...but I dont think thata this is the real function of a Mod.
For instance, Willy is in China along with one or two other Bros...it would be in our interest to publicise that.
Rhon and Mike and Shaun have been on the rack vis-a-vis the Immigration process and would be acknowleged experts in this area (although I imagine they would rather have NOT asembled this expertise) !!!.
Of course, Robert S is the absolute guru for all things USA Visa and that is also a great strength we have.
Maxx has probably the longest experience of marriage to a Chinese Lady and I believe has the most rational approach to how to survive culture shocks which are going to happen (Maxx 24 hr rule etc.)
There are other Bros who have individual strengths to contribute...in fact the existing core group all have something unique to claim.
Possibly we can sell our product better if we advertise it !!!
David E:
--- Quote from: Arnold on May 20, 2012, 07:25:47 pm --- Just look what happened to the Chnlove Forum, I definitely don't want us to go that route. Anyway, as for me.. I will continue as I have done and hope I can help where I can help.
--- End quote ---
Arnold...that is EXACTLY the problem we have.........we all continue to do what we have done in the past....and we are here discussing WHY this method is not working !!!!
One thing is very clear...we cannot continue to do what we always have done or (as you say) this becomes a Forum where a few friends gently discuss our lives......if that is what we want...OK, but I think not.
Willy The Londoner:
--- Quote from: David E on May 21, 2012, 03:09:49 am ---
--- Quote from: Arnold on May 20, 2012, 07:25:47 pm --- Just look what happened to the Chnlove Forum, I definitely don't want us to go that route. Anyway, as for me.. I will continue as I have done and hope I can help where I can help.
--- End quote ---
Arnold...that is EXACTLY the problem we have.........we all continue to do what we have done in the past....and we are here discussing WHY this method is not working !!!!
One thing is very clear...we cannot continue to do what we always have done or (as you say) this becomes a Forum where a few friends gently discuss our lives......if that is what we want...OK, but I think not.
--- End quote ---
I received an invite to come back today so back I came!!! ;D
The Forum has an appeal with the banter. It always did and I was much amused and possibly flattered that I had been noticed when I received my first one a few years ago.
Maybe some of you who think I am attacking their country or their situations can now see the reason for it. Some of my postings are an attack, but not on individuals or groups as such but an attack on apathy as a whole. I just like to see this Forum active.
This Forum is the the first place I call after checking emails several times a day. The 'official' forum I go to occasional and try to find threads to advertise this one on but that one can go for days before any new postings are shown.
There are other Chinese Dating sites that do not have their own forum. Maybe we can get contacts at these to advertise this one.
Willy
RobertBfrom aust:
Hey Willy , I received an invite 2 , seems we always have a reasonable number of visitors anywhere between 10 and 20 at times , but as this is a " Open Forum " these visitors do not need to join to glean information off this site , several times when my computer has had a major clean , I have not posted for a few days until I remembered my login details ::) , but I was easily able to keep up with the chatter , regards Sujuan and Robert .
Navigation
[0] Message Index
[#] Next page
[*] Previous page
Go to full version