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IrishGuy65:
There may be a thread, or threads,  for this topic.  I haven't found them yet.  So I'm posting here.  Please direct me to where I need to go if I missed something.

Anyway, I have been talking to a nice lady in China, and we were talking about the difficulties that could arise in a marriage between our two cultures.  I am interested to hear what those of you who are married have gone through.  Maybe it can help those of us who may end up with a special Chinese lady of our own.  Would be nice to know some possible issues ahead of time :)  Also, your stories could be most useful to me, and hopefully, others like me that are currently searching.

Pineau:
What? and spoil your surprise ! GO FISH.... Its no fun if you have all the answers.

OK, Just joking. but don't get scared.
FOOD.
Driving, navigation and geography .
Religion
Politics
Arrogance (yours)
Language ( not your problem, she speaks better English than you haha)
Shopping,
Money
Partnership. assets, control of money (who is the boss)
frank talks (Chinese women will not back down and will tell you exactly what is on their mind)
Chinese friends. You must find her someone to talk to in her own language. It is so very important for them to be able to express their feeling in their own language.
Find her a place to shop for Chinese food. NOW !
Health care. Health insurance.
Cell phones...internet. Long distance calls. (get Skype  for her)
Old friends/boyfriends/ex-husbands. Get used to it. There will be phone calls and messages.  Mostly to just check up and to wish well on holidays. Don't freak out.

laugh a lot. it breaks the tension.

IrishGuy65:
OK, I've discussed all those subjects with her (except for my arrogance.  I don't have arrogance, haha!).  Anything else?

Arnold:

--- Quote from: ZootMurph on March 19, 2013, 09:34:28 am ---  Anything else?
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Maybe you haven't looked at my Blog yet? It gives you "MY" Story so far, hope that helps. By the way, I did not have any Communication problem.. Qing spoke English very well already.

IrishGuy65:
Yes, I read your story in this forum and read your blog as well, Arnold.  It has been very helpful for me in learning some things about Chinese culture, ladies, and interactions.  As Gerry pointed out, the lady I'm talking with does not have any problems with English... she is an English teacher at a university.

Everyone is different, and learning many stories will give everyone more idea of the difficulties in front of us.  I know, when I started on this journey, I saw a fairy tale.  Advice like Gerry's, and stories like yours, can help people see that it is a lot of work to reach that fairy tale.  And also, your story helps us understand how the fairy tale can be worth the work  :)

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