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fivetrout:
Hi All! I know there must be plenty on this subject here somewhere, so sorry if I take the easy route.

OK, so we have a 46 year old woman, divorced, with a teenager...and she asks me today (what is your dowry figure for my parents?) I state: I understand the red envelope tradition and so I was planning a modest symbolic amount. And so I ask her...how much do you think, as I need guidance? She responds 100000 RMB. Chinese etiquette dowry. This is marry girl in China. I respond, yes maybe for the 18 year old virgin princess of the village (a bit irritated). Well, then she states: go ask your international friends!
(forum members). She understands money is definitely not free flowing and that it has been an issue in other areas between us.

So, what does the brotherhood suggest? I was actually thinking perhaps $500USD

Thanks in advance, Chris

Neil:
Is my calculation right?  $16000 Canadian?  I gave my wife's parents red envelopes.  I forget right now just how much it was.  I thought it was around $1000.  I'll ask my wife tonight. Just FYI, I also gave red envelopes to each of my wife's older brothers and older sister.  I hope your princess fiance doesn't have too many siblings, or you're gonna go broke.

Rhonald:
If she was off by one zero then even though $1,600.00 is reasonable, it would still be on the high side. I believe I gave about $500 Cdn to each parent and did not give to another . If she meant $16,000 I would start worrying about if she precieves the reality of the situation.

David E:
My wife told me very early on in our relationship that because she was prevoiusly maried she did NOT want me to give any dowry to her parents...she didnt want it and they werent expecting it.

Nevertheless, haveing met her folks many times on my numerous trips to China and got to really like them as people...I, and I alone decided to give them AUD $1000 as a "special " red-envelope gift at our wedding. Ming pretended to be cross with me...but I know deep down inside she was really pleased that I made this gesture.

But $15,000 for a once-married child....no way !!!!

maxx:
David E has the right answear.Your lady has ben married before.The bride price has already ben payed.Your woman has western man syndrome.What that means is that since her man is from the west.He is loaded.So he can afford it.Give the in laws 500.00 apiece and be done with it.You still have to pay for the wedding party.

Remind your women that the more money you spend now.The longer it will take to dig yourself out of this hole.

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