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Seven Things to Know before Dating or Marrying a Chinese Woman
Robertt S:
Here Are Seven Things Every Man Should Know Before Dating or Marrying a Chinese Woman.......
These Facts Are Crucial if You Want the Relationship to Be a Happy and Successful One...
1. When dating Chinese women they rarely show their true character until after a great deal of time, sometimes not even until after marriage! This is due to a culture where the peer pressure is very high. Working out her true character before-hand is therefore a must.
2. When Chinese women are attracted to a man they will do things indirectly (much more so than a western female) to show their attraction, but without knowing the cues and signs it may pass you by. One example is if she advises you to take care of your health, or when the weather is changing to wear more clothes. This is not simply a throw-away statement on her part, as it is in western culture: she is trying to show her feelings are deeper than just simply friendship.
3. A Chinese brides expectation of marriage is based on her own culture and not necessarily yours. Don't assume that she knows what marriage is like in your country or what will be expected of her just because you've heard that Chinese girls are 'traditional'. In actual fact, the more traditional they are considered in Chinese culture, the less likely they will be able to adapt to you or your country. (note: Just because they say they are traditional, it doesn't necessarily mean they are by the way)
4. Chinese women are seldom submissive after you really get to know them. The submissive nature you may see in the beginning months (or sometimes even years) is simply a cultural affectation that may gradually disappear and be replaced by her true character, which can be anything from generous, loving and kind, to selfish, bossy and materialistic. Find out what it truly is beforehand.
5. When dating Chinese girls the etiquette is frequently over-emphasized by them where non-Chinese males are concerned, and many suddenly become 'ultra-traditional', whereas with a Chinese male before, they may not have been. Breaking down this facade is therefore 'a must', as it can cause untold complications otherwise. Until that time you should follow the accepted Chinese dating etiquette.
6. To attract or marry a Chinese woman you must demonstrate 'stability', among other things. If you have a history of short term relationships it's almost certainly best not to mention it. Even if they were when you were eighteen years old; she will simply assume you are not a good bet, and dependent on age, will be very unlikely to consider a relationship with you, no matter short-term or long-term. The majority of Chinese males I know keep their relationship history secret, and with good reason too!
7. Not all Chinese brides consider love to be an important factor in their marriage choice. Culturally in China, love and marriage have only recently become linked, and it is still far from being the norm in China. If you ask a Chinese woman you are dating or considering marriage to, if she loves you, she will almost always say "yes". This does not however necessarily mean she is thinking of the same kind of love you are thinking of. Chinese people frequently think of the word 'love' as almost a verb, as in if they act loving towards you and do loving things, it is sometimes equal in their minds to love. Make sure you are both on the same wavelength first if that is important to you, and learn how to find the right one....
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Vince G:
Good advise
maxx:
Robert it looks good.The only thing I would add is.To # 1 if she is hitting you in a playful manner.That is a good sign.If she calls you cho.In a playful manner. It means she is into you
Pineau:
This is a little weird but it shows that the lady is totally comfortable with you. After a few days spent together some ladies would like to sit close to my side and tug and play with the hair on my arm. I guess it was fascinating to them and after they felt comfortable with you they were not afraid to explore it.
Another thing that I first though was just a one time thing but it happened a least three times with different women. They bite! Not in an intimate way. But during dinner or while watching TV they spontaneously and playfully bite your arm or shoulder. I was surprised but its kind of cool. One girl in Beijing left a bruise on my shoulder.
This sort of behavior says that they trust you, feel comfortable with you, and not afraid to enter into a longer relationship.
Robertt S:
I have been subjected to both the playful hitting,biting and my wife calls me an old monkey because of the body hair and beard. ;D 8)
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