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Vince G:
Hell get a mexican divorce. She doesn't even have to know until it's done. I think you don't even have to go to Mexico all done online.
http://www.divorcefast.com/mexican-divorce-forms.htm


I won't dwell on what should have been or the faults. Burn the bitch so she stays there never to return.

Chad:
I want to thank everyone for their responses. Its not like I didn't expect these remarks, but I had to put this out there just make sure that I wasn't missing something and you guys have a better view of Chinese woman.

I have decided to end the relationship and work on the divorce any way I need to, to get it done. The thought of going to China to get a divorce has crossed my mind but I worry about what she may do if I return. So I will see my lawyer and take it from there.

The bottom line for me was how could she disappear and not let me even know she was alive for those four months when she returned to China. That isn't love and I am sure that she had some other motive to return to America and even if she didn't I could never trust her again.

Since we only talk on QQ I left her a message telling her that I was through. I am afraid that if I see her I may cave in to her, so I told her I would no longer be on QQ. After almost three years of the relationship its hard to see it go away. Especially under these circumstances.

Once again thanks for the comments and the support.

JC:
Chad,

I see some of your heart in these posts, one of great patience and trust.

Once you let her go,and completely, then know that thee are many many more ladies that would give all to have the kind of devotion it seems you have given Toni.

But really she must be out of the picture and your heart before something real can come in.  Please let her go ASAP and find the real thing.

So many here in this site have found that and I pray you do also,

Though I am still looking and have not been in your situation, I hope you will find great happiness in the real thing.

JC

Arnold:
Chad, you knew you had to let her go.. before you even ask us here. We all seen your "happier" time from your Posts, of course seeing you (anyone) fail or loosing someone so close to your heart... is not even easy on us to read. Letting it out though, was your first step for recovery. We appreciate the trust you had in us, to even mention this with the Brotherhood. As you have said, you could never trust Toni again... what she did is even more hurtful then being un-faithful by a bad decision. Heck, "Trust" is as powerful as "Love" itself and guess she hasn't fully shown any of that throughout the relationship, unless of course something was "Needed". We here have enough of those Women as you know. Lesson learned, now you have/need the patience and find yourself the wonderful Partner everyone seeks. Ohh.. and keep your Money tightly tugged away this time.

Martin:
Chad, I think you made the right decision. You are not the only person on this forum to have a failed marriage after visiting china, and working on bringing her to your homeland. There are many here that sympathize with you, and are always here to lend you an ear, or a piece of advice.

There are other wonderful women out there, and not all of them are in China. But JC makes a really good point...make sure she is out of your life, and your heart, before you go looking elsewhere.

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