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maxx:
Chad

I really don't have anything to add.I think the brothers have it figured out.Don't let this woman play you anymore.Leave her in China.

fivetrout:
Wow Chad, it's unbelievable you were so gullible. At first mention of going to Denver was a huge red flag! Right there it tells you there is no marriage! Unless you are in a hurry to marry again, let her stew. Before long she will beg you for a divorce, as she lines up another sap.(sorry). I would also report her to the Chinese authorities and American Embassy to make sure she doesn't get another interview. If me, I would burn or donate all her stuff and declare good riddens! I suspect that there was a relationship all along with the clown in Denver. She is a pro and played all your weakness's! Next time man up to your own self respect. I know this is harsh, but you seem to be actually wavering!

Pineau:
I just re-read your first post.  NO NO NO. you don't need her signature to get a divorce. I am a case in point. My wife refused to show up in court over and over again. The judged got tired and issued a divorce order.  She never signed a single paper and never stepped inside a courtroom. I won because she was playing the hard ass bitch and the Judge would not have it.

Really. sever all ties with her. dont talk to her and do not answer her calls.

 I think you are wavering because you are hurt and confused. Stand tall and get angry, get even or your going to get hurt again.

 I agree with five trout. I would black list her at the US embassy and I would do it tomorrow morning just in case she gets her "boyfriend" to spring for her ticket.

Martin:
There has to be a way to get a divorce without her. If it was me, I would be very thankful that she is in china and away from the USA. Let her stay there. It's way too obvious that she is playing you, for that magical green card (I think that's what you guys have there). Steer clear of her. If you cave, the promises she makes you right now will echo in your ears, while she is back in Denver. She is only being loving now because she needs you. If she didn't need you, you wouldn't hear a word.

fivetrout:
Chad, this is very sad story. This is one of those stories we read about, and fear! But it also serves as a reminder for those here to proceed with eyes wide open! Love is blind and fantasies seem real enough to drop guards and to give trust. Even with the most sincere women and men...things can change quickly without any warning, from her or you. I have taken a leap of faith of sorts with my wife, but my senses are keen and my self proclaimed positions of matters are clearly drawn. No one can see the future, but my self respect and principles I have... will remain intact. Never give away who you are!

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