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Willy The Londoner:
I have expressed my sorry previously, so now I have had a good nights sleep on your sad news I can see things more clearly and I hope that you can do. Giving up, throwing in your hand, or a more English saying, 'bottling it'. That is what you are proposing.
I just recall a phrase that people use in both situations and songs. 'I will go to the end of the Earth to be with my love'.
As JohnB says you mentioned the possibility of moving to another country yourself. Is that no longer an option? Or is it a fact that you do not want to leave the good life you have built for yourself in Canada.
Many do not have the opportunity or the where with all that I had that enabled me to uproot from what was a fairly comfortable life in Britain to live in China but by doing that I was with the women I love. I have met others here who have arrived here with only their wits and have set up businesses and are doing very well. My wife and our daughter have set up an online business and are selling ladies clothes in the UK. That is doing well now from starting with just about nothing. I myself have three on line businesses.
Think long and hard before you make any final decision, not only for you're sake you but more important your your wife. She is relying on it being the right one.
Just what does she say about this? Is she all for you saying a permanent good bye. Does she get a say in this?
One big question is does she only want to be with you if it is in Canada?
Willy
LP:
--- Quote from: Willy The Londoner on January 11, 2014, 09:09:36 pm ---
Think long and hard before you make any final decision, not only for you're sake but more important your wife. She is relying on it being the right one.
Just what does she say about this? Is she all for you saying a permanent good bye. Does she get a say in this?
One big question is does she only want to be with you if it is in Canada?
Willy
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....My thinking is if she's not the problem, you don't let her go.She has been by your side three years and counting.. I agree with what Willy said ''Just what does she say about this? Is she all for you saying a permanent good bye. Does she get a say in this? "
Rhonald:
A couple gets married to show to the community their commitment to each other. Usually they live together sharing their lives together. If Neil wanted to join in marriage with a woman from a distant government, he like other Canadians, do not have a choice to see if she first qualifies to move to Canada. In order to start the imigration process, he needs to marry her first, apply second. The Government denied him the first time, he apealed and a second time got denied.
I am sorry to disagree, in my eyes, a real marriage is one where both parties will be giving an opprotunity to be with each other. Even with one party in jail, serving prison time, a end date is realised. For Neil, he does not know if ever he can bring her to his homeland. He does have a life established in Canada, and he has a child living here as well.
I am sure that Neil, and Martin, as well as myself, whishes we could have had at least a 6 month( I think 1 year better) fiance visa for our wifes first before needing a commitment. The Canadian Government would have better information on the seriousness of the realtionship. But instead, we need to roll the dice.
Words like flushing down the toliet, giving up, not sticking in does not have the realisation what 3 years of doubt, hope, and frustration entails.
I support you Neil and say I am sorry for your misfortunes.
David E:
I would imagine that like all Government Immigration Departments, the Canadian version refuses a visa on some reason or other that the applicants have failed to prove that their relationship is genuine , or in fact one or both of the applicants have something "murky" that would preclude the granting of a visa.
After 3 years of persistence, you would have thought that the genuiness of the relationship was not in question ??
My point is...Neil , can you think of ANY logical reason that the Govt could call into question your committment to each other ?? I know that no Immigration Dept need to or will give you any reasons for rejection, but in your case you have persisted through the appeal process for a long, long time. Is there an avenue for you to give it one more go, can you appeal the appeal.
Nobody here can question your decision to stay or to run from your relationship, I am sure you will make a decision based on the facts and on your own future and I wish you all the best.
Martin:
Tho ale, I could not agree with you more.
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