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Little Emperors - Mk 11

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Pineau:
Maxx , David.
I thought of everything. When I said military school she immediately sided with him and would not budge. If she thinks she is in control (and she was) she can pretty much dictate how thing are going to be done concerning her son. I was powerless and miserable.

The reason she was in control was because she had her permanent green card and her friends were coaching her about what I could and couldn't do.  Once she got permanent status there was very little I could do but accept it. I wish I had divorced her (and him) much earlier before she gained her power to take control.

I am not happy for you and it is a sad state that lead you to mention divorce.  But thinking back, your life with her has never been bliss even before he started trouble.

David E:
Thanks Guys...

It is always a big help to have somewhere to rant about stuff to a sympathetic audience.... ;D ;D ;D

Yes, I have got a lot of emotion, time (and money) invested in my marriage...and I went through the whole rigmarole in good faith. But I am quite clear in my mind that if it takes a termination of this marriage to fix the problem, then thats what I will do.

I dont like idle or empty threats, so I have not played this card so far...because when and if I do, it WILL be the end...you dont mess around at that level. Once I "cross the Rubicon"...it is crossed !!!!!!

As for the Little Emperor, it would be great to ship him off to the Army and let a few Gnarly old Drill Sergeants work him over, but at this time he is only a Permanent Resident, not a Citizen, so he dont qualify. But he could of course join the Chinese Forces...but Mum would NEVER let that happen to her poor little child..(who must be protected from all levels of inconvenience and indulged 120%)

My next move will be to have a serious Council of War with the pair of them and spell out exactly what will happen from here...very quickly...if there are not some fundamental changes made in a big hurry.

I think maybe she is being reinforced by some of her scaly Chinese mates, who may have fed her crap about how her financial future would be if we divorced....she thinks she gets half of my assets.....but she dont....'nuff said... 8) 8)

The awful realisation is beginning to dawn on me (maybe my paranoia showing, or maybe a glimmer of truth) that she has deliberately snared a Western husband with the sole purpose of getting her Son out of China and into a new life..........I did not think I was ever that gullible to fall for such a fraud....but I am not so sure any more.

Interesting times....we will see.

fivetrout:
Having a soon to be 19 year old boy come here with his mother should send me to the doctor for meds or the hardware store for a rope...after reading the above posts. However, Tiger has displayed nothing but the utmost gratitude and sincerity for me thus far. He has a shy and reserved personality and admires me for accepting his mother and himself. A few weeks ago his mother offered him a bit of money and he declined as she is always short of money. And I believe he is looking forward to being a man and supporting the family when that time has come. He has no notion things will be different here, and that I want to his future wife and children to visit and not stay. LOL He has been living and attending a trade school in auto mechanics for his future and is excited Chinese cars will start to be sold in the U.S. next year. This summer he enrolled and was accepted to a internship at the car plant company his mother used to work for. But for one...he needs to apply himself to learning english.

Philip:
Added to the Little Emperor syndrome is the damage done to generations of children by the Chinese education system. The focus on rote-learning, lack of critical thinking or character building or creativity plus a lack of time in the day to build relationships breeds a value-free generation of children.
My 17 year-old stepson is lucky enough to have my wife to keep him in line, even though he lives 500 miles away from us, with his grandfather. He knows there are choices in his life and there are consequences to those choices. If he doesn't want to study and work hard to go to university, that's fine. He can get a job, make some money, leave home, handing the keys to his grandfather, and find somewhere to live. His choice. But of course, he makes the right choice. Not only that, but he is a very good student. He is also a pretty good cook, and makes food for him and his grandfather. But this is despite his numbing school experience, starting school at 6.00am and never coming back home in the evening before 9.30. Is it any wonder he still doesn't know what he wants to study at university?
His worst vice is that he sometimes spends an hour in an internet cafe playing games before he gets home. Terrible, eh?
But if my wife hadn't made him aware of his responsibilities (particularly to himself) from a very early age, then he wouldn't have become the mature and considerate young gentleman I see today. I don't have to say anything to discipline him. I just watch him play with my 18 month-old son, and know that he is in good hands.

Willy The Londoner:
Your certainly correct about the non building of relationships.

I now have an interest in a school here that is specialising in the character and relationship building.  It has gone so well in less than two years that discussions are now in hand to open at another this year in this city.

Willy

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