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How old was/is your Chnlove Scammer!
Arnold:
Michael , see I never answered admirer letter's , never . I pick'd them and send them an EMF . Like Chong has done . That is how you start out by putting them on the spot , by asking questions about their Life and if you don't get the right or no answer to those question's ... it light's out for that one . This way I could tell from the beginning , how much was the translator's input , he can not answer for the Woman on personal questions and send you daily photo's of your Lady , which she should be doing on her own , if she is interested in you at all and is not a scam . Liar's alway's beat around the bush for this and that . Again , light 's out , if this is not happening , let's be fair and say within the first couple of weeks .
Anyway Michael , I didn't mean to call you an dirty old Man , I was talking about the Men after those Teen 's on Chnlove , and then crying foul play .
David:
I honestly don't understand why a 18-22 year old Chinese woman, who has never married, and has no children, would
be looking for a western husband anyway. Surely they have met nice young Chinese men at school or University?
The only reason I can think of is that they already know they wish to leave China...
I have more of an understanding about a 30+ Chinese woman, expecially if she has a child and/or is divorced. She is hoping to find a good husband and have a happy loving life. So I do think those in the Brotherhood would be safer looking for a woman who is looking for love and a happy family as opposed to looking for a meal ticket out of China...
Now don't get me wrong... I am fully aware that I am speaking in generalizations here and that not every woman is going to fit into this statement. Again this is just my impression and what I have been thinking. :shock:
Big Dave
cHi:
In my EMF I asked one girl what brought her to Chnlove and what does she like best about western culture so far. This was her response:
"I think that the most interesting part of western culture to me would be the lifestyle ,you can see that the Chinese would earn money to buy house,and the western people would buy house first,then earn money,how do you think of it?"
It actually made me laugh out loud a little - there is some innocence in that line of thinking, but essentially the asian cultures in general are fascinated with the western cultures, just as we western cultures are fascinated with the eastern ones. Grass is always greener, eh?
As for me - I'm 30, I make great pay and I'm not in a rush. I'm divorced, I've got child support payments to the tune of $1k a month, but they will stop soon as my ex has re-married and they are adopting my kids. I'm taking my time getting to know the ladies and in all honesty, reading about the scams and stuff had me paranoid. However, I am confident that all of my ladies are real with the exception of one - it was great communication for about 8 EMFs but the last 4-5 have been shorter and shorter. I'm pretty sure she's real - I think I'm only disappointed because I like her the best. My understanding from all of the ones I talk to is that they are looking for the western culture, acceptance, etc. The younger ones want the opportunity and lifestyle the western world "represents" even though we all know that it's not easy to make a go of it here in the western world. The older ones are familiar with the stigmas and cultural barriers that they still run into - divorce, children, etc. and the Chinese men judge them for it (even though it's not uncommon for some men to be unfaithful and treat women in an un-gentlemanly fashion).
Actually... I forgot the rest of what I was about to say.. I'm in a food coma >_< anyway, cheers!
Oiler1:
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--- Quote from: "Arnold" ---Who will go with an 18 year old anyway , a 22 - 25 year old Male ? Is he really going to have this kind of money or be willing to spend this kind of money ,to venture into this kind Spouse finding ?
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I'm 22 and I'm trying. The girl I'm talking to is a few months older than me. I'm trying to sort things out still, so I won't say whether or not she is a scam. As for why she is using this service, she is 5'6" so maybe she is too tall for many Chinese men. She may also be a bit interested in moving to the West and enjoying a life here. I know the website of the agency she uses advertises the "high quality international life."
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5 '6" or 168 cm is not too tall for many Chinese men,. A lot are over 5' 10" in the North.
Jadams79:
--- Quote from: "David" ---I honestly don't understand why a 18-22 year old Chinese woman, who has never married, and has no children, would
be looking for a western husband anyway. Surely they have met nice young Chinese men at school or University?
The only reason I can think of is that they already know they wish to leave China...
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Only through conversation with my girl could I possibly have another answer to this. A lot of girls cave to the charms of thier young boyfriends to get the perverbial noodle wet, then afterwards they leave them. Others have experienced unthinkable acts that make us all angery.
As for the age of the girl that scammed me she was 26 from Chengdu. Lost some credits, chalk one up for experience, I really wish Chnlove forum was not as policed, and I probably would not have made the same mistakes as others.
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