General Discussion and Useful Links > Newbies Corner

Talking to a lady who knows very little english.

(1/5) > >>

Jay W:
I want to start out by saying that I wish I found this site sooner, it is jammed packed with good information.  I think Vince could write a book.

About a month ago, I hit it off with a lady on the site, and I have been racking up the EMF's.  I kept writing to her because I detected a sincerity that appeared to be genuine.  What was amazing was that there never seemed to be any translation confusion between us, and every letter had near impeccable grammar and exquisite sentence structure.  A good deal of things we discussed were complex items no "form translating software" could tackle.  However, the last few letters... all has changed.  I spend half my time on the return letter clearing up confusion.  The letters seem sloppily translated, and I have to remind her of things I said in past letters.  I have two fears; one is that I think I might be getting bamboozled, the other is that her lack of english ability  might be too great to overcome if I brought her over.  I have told her I will always be honest with her.  Here are my questions:

Do I confront her about this downturn in quality of letters?  Or should I be the cad and just block her?
Is it foolhardy of me to believe I can bring her over when she speaks little to no english?
Is there someone out there that has had success communicating with a lady of limited english ability and made it work?
I am very confused and need advice.
Thanks.
- Jay

P.S.  On a topic a bit off tangent, I have still looked though my admirer mails while communicating with the lady I am talking to now.  I am bemused to see ladies who claim to be "serious" about marriage, but they are scantily clad in their photos, posing in very flimsy dresses/lingerie.  One "serious" person posed with unbuttoned jeans.  One girl's picture set included a photo that exposed her panties.  Yep, she's "serious" about marriage.  :lol:  One asked me a hypothetical question about toilets.  I assume others have noticed this.  Has someone compiled a blacklist of agencies to avoid?

RobertBfrom aust:
Jay we will see what others think , but if you are using EMf , I would have at a guess that your translating person has changed , therefore they have no prior knowledge or they in fact have less English ability .
probably 95 out of every 100 on the website have little or no English word knowledge and the idea is to ease things along to the point where you have their address - send them a surprise via the website and also ask if they have computer access .
Most profiles have the women as learning English where as in fact they have said to the agencies that they will learn English if it is necessary , as if a lady meets a nice guy from Iran he might only speak Persian .
you can always nicely query the translation either with a note to the translator or via the inquiry system at the front of the official website .
As to what the women wear sometimes it is the photographers suggestions , and not what the ladies would be normally wearing , remember they are only subjects who pay dearly to be listed .

Norb Smith:
LMAO I was wondering when someone was going to ask you if you were going to write a book about all the things going on with Chnlove, facebook, forum and now the brotherhood, when you get it done I want a signed autographed copy :lol:

David K:
JAY: re your PS: If you have the time, try:  http://agencyscams.com/index.html (mostly russian ) or http://www.pfishy.com/site/chnlove.com    I prefer not to take onboard their cynicism, but its helpful to know what goes on 'out there'.  As to the  'skimpy' pics, I suppose the best mouse traps don't chase mice. But I personally feel a touch of modesty is much more attractive :-)

Jay W:
Thanks for the response.  I think I have come away with these thoughts:

A. I should give her the benefit of the doubt and blame the translator.
B. I should work for the weening of the translator.  I believe that I am running into a wall with human translation and I cannot continue the EMF saga indefinitely.
C. I think I should be second in line (behind Norb) for an autographed copy of Vince's book.  :D
D.  Even though the racy photos may be nice to look at, they do not aid the girls in finding marriage material.  Now I should publish that toilet question (if I still have it) for you guys to see.

My new question is this: how long did you do EMF service before you transitioned to another form of communication?  I've seen Vince's response that it was two EMF's and a cloud of dust (he's the yoda of chnlove after all  :P ).  Does anyone else have any thoughts?  Thanks for the advice so far.

Navigation

[0] Message Index

[#] Next page