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Ed W:
You're absolutly right Maxx. My brother married a japanese woman probably 20+ yrs ago in college. She stopped her education at masters in physics but my brother continued onto gradutate school with the PHD in optical physics. After graduation his only job offer was in Bozeman, MT. After 3 yrs living there he was ready to kill them all since they were, in his words, "the most racist SOB's he'd ever encountered". I'm sure it has much to do with the region you live in but there's no doubt it does exist.

maxx:
Ed yes your right.It has alot to do with the area where you live.In New Mexico.It is all fine.But as you said in Montana it could be a problem.

Rhonald:
Here in Calgary we have about 7 to 10% Asian population. Many mixed marriages so not too much problems. However last year a couple of skin heads jumped an asian woman. We also have a big Sik population. It seems that a white guy with a Sik or Pakastan woman draws the biggest racial problem. The girl will be harrased by her own culture's male members.

As for wondering off while in China, on my first visit in December my wife had a Sunday music class to teach. She left me in a book store for an hour while she went to teach. I was left with a Cappuccino to nurse while I waited. I never found an English section and soon finished my coffe. Feeling bold I went back to the coffe store with the cup in hand and using my best Chinese and pointing to the cup, I tried to order another coffe. Good thing there was an English speaking customer near by to solve the clerks puzzled look. I still felt frustrated since I can speak some Spanish and the sound of coffe in Chinese is near the same as in Spanish. I believe I said " Ching gay Wa Kaffe"

Oh well, when my Yan returned, she was impressed that I ordered another cup by myself, but I had to confide in her that I had help.

maxx:
Homesick

My wife was in the states for probably 3 months.The first time she got homesick.I had done all that I could to make this feel like home to her.I got her a job.bought her a computer told her she could do what she wanted to do with it.She changed the launguge to Chinese.Down loaded QQ, Skype,It has a Chinese home page.We also go to eat Chinese at least once a week and go to the Asian market about once a month.There is Chinese wall hangings,Chinese calanders,Chinese newspapers,Rice cookers.Pretty much everything a Chinese women would need to feel at home in the states.

It wasn't enough she was still homesick.She was pregnant at the time and the doctor told her she couldn't fly.(Oh I almost forgot my wifes doctor is Chinese) So since the doctor was Chinese.And Chinese doctors Know more then American doctors.It was ok.When the baby was 3 months old off to China we went.It took me that long to get a passport and visa for are son.We ended up staying in China for 17 days.

My wife tells me today.That she is homesick.And that here body is becomming weak.She has got alergies of some kind.And when the baby was born.He didn't want to come out.So they really put her threw the mill.Now she has a nerve spasm in one leg and it bothers her,Doctor told her there is nothing they can do.That it will fix its self in time.

My wife has decided that she wants to go back to China for a visit in April or may.And stay for a couple of months.I don't have a problem with her and are son going to China and staying for a couple of months.I even think it is a good idea.

My problem is I won't see them for 2 months.I can't get that much time off of work.If I could get that much time off from work.We wouldn't be able to afford no money comming in for 2 months.

Yes I can see them on the web cam.But we all know that isn't the same.And I know how important this is to her.So I told my wife that it would be ok.

This is something that can happen when you are married to a person from another country.And At some point and time you are going to have to deal with it.I try to see it from her point of view and understand her feelings.

Talking to her family on the web cam isn't the same thing As being there.Buying and cooking her own food isn't the same as being there.I'm sure she misses the sites and sounds of China.

I'm sure after a few years in a foriegn country.That I would be homesick to.I would miss the sites and the quite of the northern deserts of New Mexico.I can cook my own food buy my own kind of beer in China.But I know it wouldn't be the same.And I don't think 17 days stay in the states would make it alright for me.

Maxx

MLM:
My wife and kids have been in China now for almost 2 months, I was with them for the first 2 weeks but had to come home to work, so its been talking to them on the phone and webcam and as Maxx has said, its not the same, Zhou wanted to see China before she could not fly again for a while.
They will be coming home in just 12 more days, I have stayed in China for extended periods of time before and have become homesick and wanted to come back to the States just to hear the sounds or lack of sound in the mountains, to smell clean air and to talk to my family, so I know what she wanted to do and we found a way for her to do it, after the baby is born we will be going back for a short trip to show off the new daughter to her family.
So Maxx how much of a hassle is it to get a passport and a Visa for a new born?

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