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JimB:
Firstly, Michael I crack up every time i read or tell that story about Wal-mart, and I tell it a lot. And Ed, I have heard that voice, it is not one that  I want used on me.  Angel used it on a driver that tried to change a deal once we made it.  I have never seen a man bow and scrape and retreat as that man did.  I couldnt help but chuckle, but I got a look from her that said she meant business.  The smile quickly faded.
Tipping for me has always been a standard thing.  I automatically give 20%, but I have learned not to do that.  Before we were engaged all I got was a look, after it was a different story. From then on it was NO, you do not tip.  Everything is in cost. You cannot waste that money!
I am sure now that we will be living together, I will have more stories.  But, i thank Maxx, Arnold, Dinger, Michael, Ed , Peter and the rest for letting me get a heads up.  Knowing what to expect helps to keep an even keel.
The first time I got a heads up was on kissing.  i thank Irish for giving me a heads up on that.  It would have totally thrown me if he had not told us about it.  Now we use a combination of Chinese, western with a Southern twist.  I like that a lot. hehe

maxx:
Well it looks like this is going ok.I want to thank the other members for there imput.The more imput we have the better this is going to be.


Food is important.

When I was a kid I grew up poor so we missed a few meals.But food was not one of my main concerns.My job was cutting the firewood to stay warm in the Colorado winters.

When I left home at seventeen food was still not the most important thing on my mind.Other things are more important to me.

With my wife food is really important.If she thinks there is a lack of edible food in the house.It can and will be a bad day until the situation is fixed.don't get me wrong there is so much food around are house that it is falling out of the cabnits.There is still halfe of a pig in the freezer.

But the food must be the kind of food that she can cook into Chinese food.Chicken breast pork ribs.pork meet.Whole chickens,And there must be fresh vegitables along with fresh fruit.So we need to go to the grocery store at least two times a weak and the asian market about once a month.Depending on her mood.(The asian market is a 6 hour drive round trip) and we must stop and eat Chinese food. And we go to a local Chinese restraunt once a weak.And then there is the food packages from my motherinlaw..They arrive about every 2 months.There is fish all kinds frozen freezedried canned smoked.Along with Chinese candies and ussually some clothes for are son.

Now don't get me wrong I like Chinese food the stuff you get in the states.And the real stuff my wife cooks.But I can't eat it all the time.I like steak brawtwerst mexican food Italion food.My wife doesn't so everyday she eats her food and I eat my food.She cooks whats she wants I cook what I want.We hardly ever eat the same thing at the same time.

This is expensive But it is a must for harmoney in are house.I remember the first time I went to China.After about a weak of eating nothing but Chinese food.I thought I was going to starve to death.I needed to eat some steak.Eat French fries drink the right kind of beer.Be in the right kind of atmosphere to enjoy the food.

So I understand where my wife is comming from.And to keep the peace in the house we go grocery shopping alot.And food has become much more important to me.

We were going to visit my older Kids.They live in Arkanssas wich is a 15 hour drive from where we live.I told my wife that she wouldn't be able to eat Chinese food on the trip.Because there just wasn't any Chinese restraunts.So it makes her a little sad.But she still wants to go.

so we are driving on the trip.And there is New Chinese restraunts all the way to Arkansas.so we ate Chinese about every meal comming and going.How times have changed I never remember seeing thoose restraunts before and I have ben up and down that rd a 100 times before,Just on vacations and when i drove a Semi for a living.

So anyway be prepared to accomidate your new wifes food preferance.Learn where the Asian markets are and a good buffet restraunt.

Arnold:
Maxx , I guess I'm lucky , there is the best chinese Buffet in all of LA area just ten minutes from my House . Yeah , that's one plus point for me . Now I need to find a Asian Market nearby . Chinatown is 70 miles away . I'm like you , I like a good Steak here and there and Potatoe's which Qing think's are Poison for you . Oh my ?

David5o:
There aren't any Chinese grocery stores in Cyprus, ...None!! ...There is a sort of Indian Asian store, where she buys stuff from. Other than that, she can get different bit's from the major supermarkets here like noodles and different sauces/mixers. Her family send her food parcels , something along the lines of what Maxx wife receives.

Actually, Lucy quite likes Western food, so it's never a problem going to restaurants here. ( there every other shop..... it's a holiday Island after all) She's not too keen on the Chinese restaurants over here, reckons it's all fake Chinese food, hahaha!! But it doesn't stop her going to them, maybe, just to be able to rabbit away in Chinese. Even that's a problem, our local Chinese is staffed by HK Chinese, so language problems again, but they seem to be able to communicate pretty well.

When we do go out, it's normally chicken meat that she'll order, where I'll always be going for that thick juicy steak. Occasionally she'll order a pork chop, Now i don't know what sort of size of pork chops your used to in your country, ...in UK they tend to be tiny to small things similar to what you would get in China. Here they fill your plate, and it's always a pleasure to see the look on Lucy's face when her plate is put in front of her. We have a couple of small dogs, they always benefit when Lucy orders pork chops haha!! Thank god for Doggy bags!! ...haha!!

All our friends know what Lucy likes to eat now, so anyone having a BBQ, knows that she only tends to eat the chicken and veg kebabs, although she has been known to have a chicken leg at times. Our friends like to come to our BBQs, because of all the side dishes and sauces available to them that she makes herself. I've often told her to go into production, but she's not too keen on that idea. ..hahaha!! Another thing I've noticed, if we are still at a friends BBQ towards the end, it's Lucy that's going round collecting up plates, glasses and cups, ....and given the chance, starting on the washing-up too. I try and leave before she can start on the washing-up now day's, or we could be there for another hour haha!!

As for general food around the house, She just goes out and buys it fresh in the village here, a 2 minute walk. We have everything she wants as such available locally. We even have a discount fruit an veg shop now, that's just opened.  As most of you know, the Chinese will pick-up and check every item of fruit and veg before they will buy it, you should see the look on the Cypriot  shopkeepers faces, and the other customers come to that.  haha!!  Lucy just smiles at them and nods her head .....they always seem to smile back!! ...lol!! Does she know how to barter?  ...you bet she does, for anything and everything, ..i tend to walk away and let her get on with it, ...and i'm very used to bartering myself, it's a way of life in the middle east, but Lucy can go to the extremes, and she rarely fails. God bless her big heart, hahaha!!

Oh, one more thing before i close, .... Lucy has picked up Greek here, she's by no means fluent, but she knows enough words and strings of words to be able to make herself understood quite well... Me i know the odd word or two, i rely on the Cyp's knowing English!!  hahaha!!

David....

MLM:
JimB, no crap, now when we go to the walmart and the manager sees Zhou coming down an isle he will run out of the store, the last time we went there he almost killed himself trying to run away, he ran smack into a support poll, he hit so hard the poll rang.
Where we live, there is a Chinese buffet, its very good, the woman that owns it ha sknown me for the last 8 years, shortly after she arrived here she opened the Buffet, well it turns out that she and her girlfriend in China lost contact after she married and moved here because her GF also married and moved away her friends name was Weng Zhou, yeah you guessed it same person but at the time I didn't know Zhou, I had just gotten back from Zhuhai.
After I met Zhou and we were staying together in Indiana, I found out that she wanted to come be with me in Pa., now I had also found out Zhous maiden name and I started to put together a plan, Hehe, once we were back in Pa. for a few days I asked Zhou if she would like to try a Chinese Buffet that a friend of mine owned and she said she would like that very much, ssoooo, I took her there and when the two girls seen each other My friend ( her name is Angel also JimB ) dropped the pan of fish, Zhou and Angel both let out this ear splitting Squell ( no other word for it ) ran to each other hugged, cryed, and started talking, laudly, in Chinese, I waited for a few minutes for the dust to settle and walked over to them, Angel asked where did I find her friend and why did I go looking for her?, Zhou was just looking at me and she wasn't smiling, just looking with tears in her eyes, then when I told them the story of meeting Zhou and Angel telling me her story I put two and two together, then when Zhou said she wanted to be with me I put this little get together, together without either one of them knowing, they both started chattering in Chinese again and then they both started slapping the dog Sh*t out of me for a few moments and then they were both hugging me and Zhou was kissing my cheek and saying thank you over and over.
That night after we helped close the store ( like I had a choice) we all went to Angels home for tea and a long night of them talking and them whispering to each other and then lookingh at me :huh:, let me tell you, I was afraid, very afraid, I think I will be in so much trouble when it is close to Zhou giving birth, you see Angel has agreed to come and live with us for a few months before and one month after the baby is born, and then there is Mary saying she will be here to help Angel and Zhou with the baby and the house, I don't know if I can survive three Chinese women AND my 12 year old Chinese daughter all at once, I'll let you all know how that works out.
Ronan you better be taking notes, your going to need them from this thread :icon_cheesygrin: newbie
JimB, I already know you are taking notes, you said so.

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