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TO LIE OR NOT TO LIE?

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stuart barlow:
Thanks guys, i sort of knew when i wrote it, it didn't feel right,but i suppose its because when i tell her then its 95%certain its going to be the end.
Afterall no job means no future for her,which i fully understand, but still when you put everything into it,its a little difficult.
On a different note,can anybody tell me why a lady can dump you without any explanation?
but if you want to block them your advised to give a reason,why cant it work both ways

Oiler1:
White lies or not saying something to hurt another even it is true is allowed in my books. Even loving people do it.

Arnold:
Oiler , loving People do it , yes that's right . But those are Couple's that most likely been married already for year's and do not want their Spouse hurt in any way . So white lies and not mentioning certain things , is okay . Because you have a strong relationship already build . But starting out on that bases is not Kosher with those Lady's . It's like a foundation , the better the Cement you use the stronger and better it will carry the weight of an relationship .

Oiler1:

--- Quote from: "Arnold" ---Oiler , loving People do it , yes that's right . But those are Couple's that most likely been married already for year's and do not want their Spouse hurt in any way . So white lies and not mentioning certain things , is okay . Because you have a strong relationship already build . But starting out on that bases is not Kosher with those Lady's . It's like a foundation , the better the Cement you use the stronger and better it will carry the weight of an relationship .
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Arnold, do you consider a person not telling you things is lying? There may be a lot of things in a person's background they don't want you to know about. For me that's quite ok as I am the same way. Nothing is black and white and I don;t expect anyone to be absolutely prefect or without faults.

Arnold:
Oiler , I don't think it's lying , not telling you certain things . Like about her / his ex's , for some it's a must know , while other's rather not . So for not telling of your complete past , is not wrong in my Eyes . Why would anyone drag this old luggage into a new relationship or marriage anyway . You and myself and other's know quite well what real Lies are and there not okay to say the least . One just needs to put themself's in the other shoe and go from there . I can truely say . I have not lied to anyone in many year's and I am proud of that fact . It feels good .

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