China Romance
General Discussion and Useful Links => Ask An Experienced Member => Topic started by: ChinaTraveler on July 19, 2011, 02:50:16 am
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I will be going to China in September ....I was wondering ..is it possible to just go to a Chnluv agency and ask then to arrange a meeting with a few of the girls on their agency list ? I was thinking of visiting the dreaded Changsha Love Bridge agency to see if I could see and perhaps take to dinner a few of their listings in their agency before I start a long (and expensive and questionable) email attempt to get to know them better ...anyone of the brothers out there that have visited agencies can you let us newbies know what to expect ? I. E ..Would you recommend that I send a few letters first ...do I need to email the management of the agency and set up an appointment to look at the active lists of there members(ladies)....! Will there be a per date charge ? Thank your information !
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Hi CT , ha , Changsha's Love Bridge Agency , you like walking into a lions den obviously , also I think there are holidays around Sept when some people maybe travelling and businesses closed and without someone to take you to the door of the agency you could be wandering in Changsha for a while as the central area of Changsha has over 10 million residents , send the agency an email and get a contact name and phone numbers and they will want to know your visiting times etc , they may even offer to pick U up from your hotel , but do not forget most of the ladies work long hours sometimes 8 till 6 and also 6 days a week and usually without knowledge cannot take days off , regards Sujuan and Robert .
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CT, Some have tried the method you suggest. I don't remember any of them having success at it with the exception of one and he isn't on this site anymore, I think. He changed is name often and I couldn't keep up with the name changes.
I think what you suggest has been a plan b for many. I went a different route using a site other than chnlove. I found a woman who has never been with an agency and we have done quite well with each other.
Then you have the Scots Rob method. Stand on any street corner in a big city and get that helpless look and the single women will volunteer to help you. Hehe. Sorry Rob.
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here would be my concern, you ask about a "per date" charge, there would be such a charge if you need a translator. The stand on the corner method will, if nothing else, get you a date, maybe just for the evening, but then you wouldn't be wasting an entire trip. It's best if you know at least a little Chinese, maybe enough to avoid a little 'neng pian, jiu pian' in Beijing.
It depends on what you hope to accomplish, if you're looking to sample from the buffet, the agency will attempt to help you, but I would not expect many willing dates, unless they are taking you to specific locations to ring the money out of you.
Anyway you slice it the way you're talking, you're talking getting taken to the cleaners. I recommend either going on qq and registering with their personals page, you'll make friends quick, unless you're rather ugly and hairy with no money of course. If you register a trip, you will get a people, from those areas offering to help you.
There are options, but bear in mind some of those options are not considered as desirable by the locals.
Lloyd
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IMHO....
I believe that most Agencies will have a few women (legit or not ???) on their books who would be available for short - notice "blind dates" such as you mention China Traveller. Whether these Women would be seriously looking for a partner is moot......
But you are heading flat out to be ripped off, and especially considering it is the dreaded Changsha Love Bridge, they will rip you off quicker and harder than most others !!!
By any definitions, Changsha Love Bridge has got to be close to the top of the pile for unethical conduct....beware.
I reckon you MUST have one (or some) women already arranged to meet you, before you go. The Street corner method may work...may not.
But if you just want to go to China for the food...and experience (not a bad idea , by the way)...then go and have a good look.......and let whatever happens in the woman Department happen !!
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What happened to the girl going to school in Guangzhou? If things didn't pan out I am wondering why you would consider this approach instead, especially with the agency involved. If you are going to an expo in Changsha and planning on setting up some blind dates, I would hazard a guess that any serious woman would think you had a different agenda. I think you are better off relying on QQ or maybe, if I remember right, trying to contact a girl from the other Changsha agency now. Anyone remember if there is another agency? If there is, contacting some girls from there might be a better option.
But I still think if any girl finds out that your convention is the main reason for your trip to China, they would suspect your intentions.
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Here's another in Changsha
ChangSha MeiYin International Marriage Introduction Company ( Agency ID: P218 )
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Hey Chinatraveller, What if you get on Chineselovelinks and talk with a few ladies and see if you gel with any. That way you could meet up with them if you have established a connection. It is much cheaper and you can use their chat line if you subscribe. I personally do not have a problem with going to an agency, so long as you could get the name of a manager before hand. I think it is certainly a shorter and more direct approach. You could also look through the profiles on Chnlove and make contact with one and see if there is any connection. Seems like everybody has had to make mistakes, so in the end, make up your mind and do something.
Good luck
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Vince I've had experience with P218. You really can't trust them either though there are guys here that say they are good. I caught them taking advantage of me and nothing was done about it.
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CT . I have never done what you are suggesting. I got burned a couple of times by agencies while still in my chair in America. It would have been much worse if I had got to China before I figured out they are crooks.
Here is what I would do but you had better hurry cause september is not far away. This is the same advice I would give a close friend or relative.
Stay away away from Agencies.... Thats a long way to go for a blind date. They may show you a good time in Changsha but I doubt that any of the girls would take you serious.
Dont put all your eggs in one basket. Try several methods to meet girls.
Get on some other websites Chineselove links, China love match, etc. Go to chat rooms or Chinese social networks. Make and meet some Chinese friends.
Install QQ international on your computer. Your laptop too if you have one.
Ask a Chinese person to help you set up a QQ personal page. Its called Qzone.
Qzone menus are all in Chinese but with some help you can create a sort of blog, Facebook look-a-like page there.
You can also set up a city page for yourself in Changsha. It is a group page for a specific locality. I have a qzone page and a guangzhou page.
With Qzone you can tell the Chinese community who you are and advertise that you are looking for Chinese friends. There are many people that just look at citi pages looking for new friends. They will find you. And they will talk your leg off.
Beware! like any of the online IM and chat tools there are abusers. I met some gay guys looking for boyfriends. I have met young ladies looking for a foreign "encounter" and a variety of weird proposals. They are easy to delete and hide from once you firure them our. But I have ended up with many interesting down to earth penpals.
Again you will need a Chinese person with experience setting up QQ.
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Well CT.
Your a character in anyones words. If your looking for a quickie then I know a good woman who is available! Trouble is she is not in Changsha but if you want to travel a bit further I am sure that she can accomodate you in the Capital. No doubt she would welcome the coming of a nice man from the USA. If your well loaded of course.
I'll give you a reputation point just for your cheek.
Willy
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Changsha Love Agency is all about pretty photoshop pictures. I doubt if any of the young girls resemble their agency pictures.
If you're going for a convention, there'll be many people you can network with ... at the convention. Just spread the word that you're looking for a Chinese woman for a relationship. The time spent on this approach will reap more benefits than approaching the agency cold-calling. Plus, there'll be no agency fees to deal with.
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Shaun, They haven't tried taking advantage yet? (that I know of), I suspect the do a little editing. First thing I did when I saw it was Changsha was make sure it wasn't Changsha Love Agency. I wouldn't have bothered if it was. It's almost guaranteed Love Bridge will do a Bate & Switch. ChangSha MeiYin kind of knows I'm not hooked.
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I found my fiancee at ChangSha MeiYin International Marriage Introduction Company ( Agency ID: P218 ) and had no problems. I also visited other cities and ladies and the agencies will gladly meet you and talk to you and set you up with other ladies that they have. Sometimes I went to their agencies from an invite and other times the supervisor would come to meet me at my hotel and then set up dates with different ladies that were available. These ladies that were setup for me aftere meeting the lady I went there for, were good too, I remember. I remember seeing these "new" ladies on their websites but did not attempt to get to know them before . I agreed to meet them because I was there already and i had a few days to spare and i thought what have I got to loose. But i still think that it is better to first find them on the website , talk to them and get to know them before going there to meet them face to face. You save a lot of time and money if you do it that way. Meeting other ladies through the setup way after you get there is a more of a hit and miss way, i think. I went through Chnlove and ChineseLovelinks and went to meet ladies from both websites.
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What really helped me in meeting and finding ladies i wanted to meet was having my own translator who translated ALL my letters to these ladies from the very first introductory letter to them. They liked receiving letters written in Chinese because they can write freely and I can really understand what kind of person i am getting to know. They feel that I am a serious person and not playing games with them because I have hired a Chinese translator to help us get to know each other. I wanted to really know what my lady friend wanted to tell me and I wanted tell her everything about me and what my thoughts are. I felt that this was the BIGGEST AND MOST IMPORTANT INVESTMENT in my life and also I knew that I will invest more time and money in visiting her in China, so I wanted to make sure that I find the best possible match that I could find from the beginning. I didn't want to waste any time , I was 62 years old, and I was willing to spend whatever it cost in finding my future wife. So hiring my translator was, to me, super important for me and my future wife to have and I didn't want an agency translator (who wasn't the best at translating sometimes and certainly not better than my translator ) in between us and I wanted to make sure from the start that I was talking to the lady that I chose , and not a transltor .
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Vince I know you are wise and know about a lot of the schemes, just be careful. I didn't do well there but there have been other men on this site that have done very well with that agency. Peter comes to mind. From Austria or something like that.
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That's funny, was thinking of doing the exact same thing. I've meet a gal on Chnlove from Changsha Deeply Loving Matchmaking Co. (anyone have any experience with them?) and have been exchanging EMF's for about 3 months now. I'm planning on going to Hong Kong/Guangzhou in Sept/Oct with a good buddy who is originally from HK and taking a side trip to visit my girl. I'm a 35 yr old American born Chinese and can speak broken Mandarin- enough to get me into trouble ;D, and can understand a bit more than I can speak, so language may not be as big an issue for me (and no, my friend cannot translate as he speaks Cantonese only), but in case things go pear shape, I was thinking of visiting some of the agencies directly as a back up plan. I've read some fairly positive reviews for Changsha MeiYin International Marriage Introduction Co. but I can't seem find their physical address listed anywhere on the posts. Anyone here able to help? Also do they have a website?
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Welcome to the forum Jeff.
All the agencies are hard to get info on (address, ph no) unless given to you. There has to be a way to search them out? At the bottom of the woman's profile is a link to a agency "profile". Maybe ask the translator in the mail for the info? Worth a try.
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That's funny, was thinking of doing the exact same thing. I've meet a gal on Chnlove from Changsha Deeply Loving Matchmaking Co. (anyone have any experience with them?) and have been exchanging EMF's for about 3 months now. I'm planning on going to Hong Kong/Guangzhou in Sept/Oct with a good buddy who is originally from HK and taking a side trip to visit my girl. I'm a 35 yr old American born Chinese and can speak broken Mandarin- enough to get me into trouble ;D, and can understand a bit more than I can speak, so language may not be as big an issue for me (and no, my friend cannot translate as he speaks Cantonese only), but in case things go pear shape, I was thinking of visiting some of the agencies directly as a back up plan. I've read some fairly positive reviews for Changsha MeiYin International Marriage Introduction Co. but I can't seem find their physical address listed anywhere on the posts. Anyone here able to help? Also do they have a website?
You have to go to chnlove website . I haven't been there for over a year but if I remember right, you can search the agency you want to look up or I think you can look for girls in changsha and as you go through each of them , look to see which one comes from the agency you want to go to. At the bottom of their profile says , I think, where they are from and from there you can rate that agency and get info about that agency. try that and if you need help, let me know and I'll find the address for you.
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That was a great idea, Wilfred. I don't think I had heard anyone else try your specific method before. Very good!
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Hi Scott. Thanks for all your advice and great ideas that you've been giving me. I really appreciate it. Many happy blessings to you and your wife.
Take care.
wilfred