China Romance
General Discussion and Useful Links => The Campfire => Topic started by: Martin on May 03, 2009, 12:10:52 pm
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This was a suggestion of Arnold's when he commented on my blog, and I thought it was a good idea. Since there are getting to be more and more married members...with more happening in the near future, I thought it was a good idea to put this thread in here.
As hard as it is dating these women from far away, as we are all doing, it is even harder after you have been there, and met them in person. This thread should not just be for the married guys either. There are a lot of guys who are planning on getting married, or are still dating, but have met each other in person. You guys are all in the same boat as us married guys.
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Thanks Martin , you sure are fast ! Hope you not that way , when it comes to Zhifang . Hehe
We sure are in the same Boat ( why not call it " The China Love Boat " ) , maybe all arriving in different Gang kou's (wan , shanghainese) , but we all are going to go through this period of waiting and missing and some of us even leaving tear's everywhere . So we are here to comfort each other as good , as posssible . After all , this is a Manly thing we're doing here , none of that Girly stuff allowed here .
So in other word's , this is the place for us Men to cry .
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Zhifang told me today on MSN that I was the first man she had ever seen cry. It is a good thing we can laugh about it now. Of course, i was also the first person to ever send her flowers as well. i just hope there will not be too many more tears shed...I don't like parting.
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And doing it more than ones , makes it only harder each time . But it does help , knowing she's your Wife now and this will not change unless you / her will make it change . I feel sooo much more at ease , since having the Blog to vent my feeling's for her , so not to go totally crazy . I had it harder , because I had to deal with the lose of a Wife pretty much at the same time , so my Emotion's are running wild sometimes because of it . But leaving her behind three times is the Cake , that I do not want to eat , but have to taste .
Martin , the same goes for Qing , with the flower's . Isn't it amazing , Women in their 30's never ones receiving flower from a Man . We are going to spoil them in some way or another , but have to be careful not to over do it .
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Arnold...I have only left once. It was brutal. I can not imagine how it is after three times! But it does help knowing she is my wife. It really changes everything. But it also makes is harder to not be with the one we love.
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May I join the Club...
Martin knows what I am missing very much... I guess it will be harder to leave Changsha next time when we are married..
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Of course Peter...you fit in just as well...you have been there, and had to leave as well. Although I don't know if you should be allowed in here...you liked your pyjama's way too much!
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Michael , that just reminds me , that Qing's Mom with is 67 and she did never received Flower's , till I told Qing to give her one of the Dozen I send her , after finding out 11 if a better number than 12 . Looking at all the Parks , I know there is not shortage on Flower's in China , so it can't be all blamed on the Men there , it has to do with their Culture , that will change with more westerner's coming in and their Youth become more equal .. between Men and Wowen . That is one good thing that the west has to offer . But I know , these People are very smart and only upsorb what is best for them and their way of Life .
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Hi guys, I am in a different boat now but I know how you are feeling now, even though my Lao Po was here in the states for 5 years before I met her, I still had to go and meet her and then leave her a few times before we were married and she moved here with me and yes it was still very hard but, gentle man all I can say is hang in there the day will come when you will be able to say to your Lao Po " Welcome home " and guys there is no better feeling in the world when you relize that there will NOT be any more goodbys, but there WILL be more tears of joy from you as time goes on like I have when I found out that she is pregnant.
So to all you guys here be you married or not good luck and be happy, and Arnold, my Lao Po is 43 and has never received flowers until I gave her some, hard to imagine .
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Martin, all I can say is that the waiting has okay days and low days. You will soon find that your moods can change. Usually I have 1 or 2 sad days each week where I really miss my wife. But the busy days of taken care of work and my son can distract me. The financial frustration of a long distance marriage can also weight me down. The webcam helps but also seeing her without being able to touch her can be tough. I sometimes imagine how tough it must be for people in dangerous situation such as our soldiers. They are seperated from loved ones for long time spans and also the unkowing of if they will ever return. Right now my wife is a little concerned because of the news of the swine flu, so she keeps cautioning me to be careful. Has any one else had their girls worried about the flu?
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Rhonald , you bet ! Qing was also worried about me catching this Swine Flu , since it is in Calif . as well . These Women really care about your Health , if not more than their own .
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I was hoping the swine flu would have been a bigger deal...stopping flights from leaving China...while I was still there...but no such luck!
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Martin ... all you had to do was sneeze on board and wear a facemask underneath your Mexican Sombero. :evil:
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yes My future Lao Po, she *warned* me to be careful......lol
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I got a text message from my future lao Po warning me in Capital letters! to take care. I see Hong Kong is not taking any chances after that "sars" outbreak a few years back. A Chinese restaurant owner in London at the time said that "sars" stood for seriously "affects" retail sales :D
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Since I drink Tea with my Wine , I have never felt better . So ... what is it ? The Tea or the Wine , that keep's me from getting sick . I think she worries more that I'm eating right ? Well I don't eat wrong , food to plate to fork to mouth .
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Oh. I wouldn't use the term "Lao Po" :lol: ... as you know. it's means my "Old Lady" or "Informal Wife". Concubines / Mistresses are called "Xiao Lao Po". 8-) In Chinese bakeries, the white wintermelon flat pastries are called "Lao Po Bing" ... or "Old Wives Cake".
I would stick with "tai tai" .... you bunch of "Lao Gongs", hehehe :cry:
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Chong that is very funny.But they are right old lady in Chinese is lao po po.The rest of what you wrote is right.
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Chong , that's Qing's fault . I alway's addressed her with Tai Tai , but she changed it to Lao Po . So I stuck with it . Now you got me thinking , of going back to Tai Tai . It also goes better with BBB . Hehe
She is no old Lady , that's for sure . I like the Lao Gong part though , i'll keep that .
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I ask Qing , and Maxx is right . Lao Po po is old Lady ... not Lao Po . She had quite a laugh , when I ask her about it .
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WOW...this thread has been quiet lately. Am I the only one missing his wife? What are you guys doing that I have not already tried???
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I've not even meet my future Lao Po yet and I'm missing her:s:s:s
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I've not even meet my future Lao Po yet and I'm missing her
Then you belong here too!
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I miss my Sweetheart , her touching me with her Eyes , her smile that draws me near her , her Body that wants to be held by my arms , her Lips that are longing for mine , the Flower want's and needs her Bee . There will come the day , that the Bee will take home the Flower not just the Nectar . Buzz Buzz ... sound of a happy Bee .
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I guess I will place my new Poem of today right here . That is Hajo's fault now , him starting to write Poem's . Had to get my Mind in gear and do my 13th Poem and send it off to my Sweetheart first , before all the Guy's get to read it .:icon_cheesygrin:
" Waiting ... Missing ... Waiting !
A lover who is alone
even Married to a Spouse
but far away and at Home
to only be without Her smiles
missing the one He chose
apart by many .. many miles .
Speaking of my sweet Lao Po
how the Heart is so able
feeling and loving Her certain glow
missing all since came the depart
looking for something to Ring
making it easier to cope
with time and the sorrow
waiting to hear my Lady sing .
Sharing Her beautiful Voice
it is so special , but even though
seeing Her grace and love flow
to think of that awesome choice
made by Me a long time ago
to find this Woman on opposite World's
falling in Love and having to wait
to make the Love grow
and finally be with your Mate .
I think I still have it ! This will of course light up Qing's heart and I will soon feel her :heart: coming my way .