China Romance
All About China => Share your love story => Topic started by: Chad on March 04, 2011, 08:10:57 pm
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I am leaving tommorrow for my third trip to China to meet a new lady. We have been writing since last April and over the last few weeks have finally got away from chnlove. She was the one that wanted to stop using them. I still am not 100% sure that this is the "one". But I still feel good about her and feel it is worth making the trip to see her. I will be in Liuzhou until April 2, so if we do hit it off we will at least have time to get to know each other. I will of course share my trip with the group here. Although the last two times I shared and they both went south. Not because I shared its just the way it turned out. I am hoping for better results this time. One thing I have told myself no matter how the relationship part turns out I need to go with a positive attitude and go to have a great time. Time will tell.
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Have a safe trip Chad , and the best of luck , nothing ventured = nothing gained , and do not forget if it is not working out if she is honest she will have many friends to introduce to you , regards Sujuan and Robert .
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Chad good luck.Have a nice trip.
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Hey Chad , your Title says it all . Wishing you the best of Luck ( if it's needed ) this time around and looking forward to hear your updates with hopefully a Photo or two .
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Good Luck Chad, We are all hoping this is the one for you. Did your remember to take your box of Lucky Charms?
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Goodluck, have a great trip
Alan
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Well just to let you know the third time isn’t a charm. I was hesitant to post since I did not want to jinx myself but it seems like it doesn’t matter know.
I got to China a day late due to a lot of airline errors so I got to Liuzhou on Tuesday instead of Monday and true to her word Kerry was at the very tiny airport to pick me up. She had a friend with her since she feels her English isn’t very good. But really she speaks great English and the friend was with her for moral support as well. Her friend is quite a bit younger than she is.
So it was mid afternoon when I got in so they dropped me off at the hotel that she had reserved for me and said they would be back at 6 for supper. Kerry called and asked if she could bring another friend along as well and I said yes.
It looked like she was already trying to get rid of me with her other friend who she introduced as her single friend. But I wasn’t interested in the friend then or now. So we had supper and talked for a long time and went for a walk around the hotel.
On Wednesday we met for lunch as she had to work in the morning. She called from the lobby to say she was there and waiting for me. Well she wasn’t but her young friend was and I asked her friend how everything was going and she said not well. It seems Kerry needs more time to think this over. But she shows up and we have lunch and we talk more and I asked if there was anything that she needed to know about me and she said no that all my letters told her everything that I was a nice guy and all that stuff, So the lunch went well I thought.
Kerry said she had to go back to work and that we would meet for supper. Well at supper time her friend calls and says Kerry has decided that is through and doesn’t want to see me anymore.
But you know what; I was kind of expecting that. At least is happened soon and I may ne able to meet someone else. Its just odd we wrote for ten months, you would think in that amount of time she would have know if she wanted this or not. I had brought a few other woman’s profiles with me just in case, although I had not contacted. I really wanted Kerry and I to work out.
I just think that after meeting me and seeing that it was a reality that she didn’t want to do. She lives with her parents and pays no money to them and she says she buys whatever she wants and I think she feels if she moved to the US her life style would go down. But who really knows.
So am I broken hearted, NO not really to tell you the truth. Life goes on.
I made my profile active last night and said that I was in Liuzhou and we will see what happens and believe it or not Kerry’s young friend is setting me up for lunch with an older friend of hers, she’s 40 and attractive so we will see how that goes. So the adventure goes on. I put a few of the women in this city on my favorite’s list last night so I will see if I get any response. If not I will write to them and see what happens.
Liuzhou is a beautiful city although is has been drizzling almost the whole time but hopefully it will stop soon.
No scary experiences yet, the closes was supper last night on my own. I don’t want to eat in McDonalds’ or KFC as I am in China. So I had some meat on a stick, I don’t have a clue what it was. But it was good enough that I went back for one stick.
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Chad , sad for you but not sorry . You did not put all your hopes on just one and came prepared for just this . Wish you Luck while you still there and by the way .. the only Meat that comes on a Stick is Mouse .. is it really that GOOD ? :P
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Sorry to hear about that Chad. At least you went prepared. No-one wants to hear stories like that. The good thing is that you have some time and you might get lucky and find someone "off the grid". Let us know how you fare.
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Its too bad the story got deleted a couple years ago, but this almost has the sounds of Irishman's first trip to China. Chad, you went in with a plan, and that was a good idea. I hope you find her. And don't be afraid to explore the city. We would love to keep hear updates from you.
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Sorry to hear it Chad but I hope things turn out well for you.
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Sorry to read about the lady in question, Hope everything goes well with the older lady , 40 and attractive, Arent they all.
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Chad your approach and attitude is great. Enjoy your time, see some sights, if your lucky you may meet someone. If not, come home with lots of good memories.
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As we always say Chad (and for any one new here) it does not matter how long you talk by EMF's. telephone or even webcam IT IS NOT until you meet face to face that you will really know if you are both right with the situation.
Willy
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Chad , sorry with your number 1 , but send emf's don't just put them into your favourites as you will only get plastic replies if at all , just be careful if they are from the same agency , it might get a little complicated ha ha or if they are put a note at the bottom of the emf's with your contact point info for the local translator and wait for the phone calls , regards Sujuan and Robert .
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Well I took that lady friend of a friend out Thursday for lunch and then we went to a beautiful park for the afternoon. She barely spoke English but we still had an ok time. But for me there just wasn’t an attraction there so when the young lady called to see how it went I told just what I said here.
So Kerry the lady I came to see told the young lady friend of a friend of hers who is on chnlove and asked if I wanted to meet the newest lady and of course I said yes. So we went out for tea and ended with supper and a short walk. She speaks some English I suppose enough to get by at least with that and using the translator device. We had a good time and are going to see each other again today and we will see what happens. A funny thing this lady was one of the ones profile I had brought with me to use if Kerry didn’t work out.
I actually ran into Kerry in my hotel at lunch time and she was all smiles and said she had a business lunch there. I thought it was funny but there’s really no hard feelings. What the point of being mad what happened, happened and it cant be changed. Although I will say I am disappointed with her but o well.
Arnold if that was rat on a stick I ate it was the best rat I ever ate. I had it again the next night and it was just as tasty.
It rained all day yesterday so I really didn’t get out of the hotel to much. I did go to the ATM machine to get some cash. Then like three hours later I was back in my room and took out my wallet and there was no ATM card. Of course I panicked and got back to the bank as soon as my feet would carry me. I went inside and found someone who could speak English and eventually that had the card and they gave it back to me. Of course not before the made a copy of my passport and checked my drivers license. Man was I ever relieved. It’s amazing how much we depend on a little piece of plastic like that.
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This is a great update...but if I can give you some advice...don't leave you bank card behind again. Hahaha
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I've left bank cards and credit cards behind many times. Fortunately it's never been a problem for me. Touch wood! Sounds like you are having an interesting time.
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Chad , love the update . Hope it'll click with the Lady some more tomorrow . Take her out for some Meat on a Stick . hahahaha
I'm glad your having a good time .. besides all , good for you .
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Hello
Well I am back. I actually came back a week and a half early; it rained almost every day I was in Liuzhou. But all in all I had a great time.
I was thinking about why the first lady did not work out, even though I kind of knew she might not before I left to visit her. But I felt the only way to find out was to visit her and that I did. As I said before we had supper together and then the next day we met for lunch.
Well thinking back she was sitting beside me telling me about her life and saying that she lived with her parents and did not have to pay for anything and that if she wanted something she would just buy it. So she wondered if a foreign man could afford to keep her in the same way. And without even thinking I said well if you are cheap enough I could afford you. She gave me a funny look and asked me what I had said. Too late to back up so I said I was making a joke and had said if you are cheap enough I could afford you. I think that maybe that was what turned her away. Although now it seems she was just looking for someone to take care of her and she wasn’t really looking for a relationship. As it turned out that was the best thing she could have done for me was to say she wasn’t interested.
Her friend introduced me to a fantastic lady. I won’t go into detail but all I can say is that this woman is like the best thing that has ever happened to me. Some guys here have said that if you meet the right lady you will know it. Well I know it and I could not be happier. Well I could be happier if she came home with me but we all know now comes the hard part. It is hard to believe that we could have gotten along so good in such a short period of time but we did. She is so kind and considerate to me and I just love it. I met her mother and family and she has her own place and all is just great. We spent two hours last Saturday and two hours last Sunday on skype talking. Her English isn’t the greatest but we still get along real good with each other. I can’t wait to get back to see her.
I had not taken a single certificate paper with me since I felt it would not work out anyway. So I came home early to get the paperwork in order and to go back in a couple of months to marry her. The vacation time I didn’t use will be used on the next trip to see her and hopefully it won’t still be raining, but even if it is I don’t think it will matter. This lady is great.
I sent off for the single certification and asked them how my four day marriage and divorce in China a couple of years ago needs to be addressed from the single certification angle. If I show I have been single here for the last four years I was still briefly married in China so I want to make sure all the bases are covered.
Even then I am going to get all the paperwork and send it to China so my lady can take them to the marriage agency and make sure they are what they need to let us marry.
Even though this lady was in chnlove I did not get introduced to her through chnlove so we will see what happens there. As far as I am concerned they are not in the picture.
Now comes the hard part. Even though it takes longer to get her here if we are married this is the way she prefers so that is what we will do.
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Happy and excided for you Chad !! ;)
I'm going to be patient too and wait for your next Chapter of this Story . Any Photo's ? ???
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That is great news Chad , now to get all of your ducks in a row , good luck , regards Sujuan and Robert.