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General Discussion and Useful Links => Newbies Corner => Topic started by: Angel on May 13, 2011, 09:09:42 am

Title: need some help
Post by: Angel on May 13, 2011, 09:09:42 am
Hi everyone, My name is Angel.  I am 27, from Guangzhou, China. I can speak and write Chinese and English.  I love reading, travelling. I love different kind of food, meet different people. I enjoy talking with people from  different places, to understand their culture, living style, faith and etc.

I am seeking for the right one in my life for long, but i didn't meet my one yet. I hope I can get some help to understand more about western men and their view to life and marriage.
Title: Re: need some help
Post by: Vince G on May 13, 2011, 09:57:27 am
Welcome to the forum Angel. You may ask what questions you want to know. You will get many answers here.
Title: Re: need some help
Post by: Scottish_Robbie on May 13, 2011, 11:21:45 am
Welcome to this place angel. I know everyone will help you with any questions.. :)
Title: Re: need some help
Post by: RobertBfrom aust on May 13, 2011, 11:47:16 am
Angel , welcome to the China Love forum , you are certainly welcome to post any questions on here that you would like answered , and you may also find some of the guys may have questions that you can answer , if you have any problems just post to the moderators , regards Sujuan and Robert .
Title: Re: need some help
Post by: mustfocus on May 13, 2011, 01:45:42 pm
Hi Angel,

Welcome to the forum.  As others have said, please feel free to ask any questions you may have.
Title: Re: need some help
Post by: Hajo on May 13, 2011, 02:11:18 pm
Angel, 你好! 欢迎!

As the others say, feel free to ask questions. And remember, there are no stupid question, only stupid answers.

I wish you, that you find whatever you are seeking for.

/hajo
Title: Re: need some help
Post by: Arnold on May 13, 2011, 04:14:30 pm
And remember, there are no stupid question, only stupid answers.

Now wait a minute  :o , us Mods don't allow any Stupid answers .. or so I thought ?  ???
Title: Re: need some help
Post by: Axiom on May 13, 2011, 07:12:10 pm
Hey Angel,

What these guys say is true! This site is a wealth of information! Enjoy your stay :)
Title: Re: need some help
Post by: Neil on May 13, 2011, 07:51:15 pm
I introduced my good friend to my nephew yesterday.  He is a young, successful, friendly Chinese man.  If it doesn't work out between them, I could consider introducing you to him, Angel.  He is from Fujian province, but I think he is in Yunnan to start a new business. 
Title: Re: need some help
Post by: Angel on May 14, 2011, 06:31:19 am
i want to know how do western men think about marriage? What's the most important thing in marriage?
Title: Re: need some help
Post by: RobertBfrom aust on May 14, 2011, 08:52:41 am
Hi Angel , what a question , there is no just 1 thing , but a combination of the 2 hearts and minds , when one can say that you know what your other half is thinking and you can answer before the question is asked then you are as one , regards Sujuan and Robert .
Title: Re: need some help
Post by: Arnold on May 14, 2011, 10:34:55 am
LOVE and you do anything for the other HALF to make HER/HIM happy/satisfied/content ... to make the LOVE grow even stronger and complete the Circle of a wonderful Marriage .
Title: Re: need some help
Post by: Rachel on May 14, 2011, 10:39:29 am
Hi. Welcome. I am Rachel.Angel. Your problem is I want to ask you. I can also get the answer here.^_*
Title: Re: need some help
Post by: Neil on May 14, 2011, 11:23:06 am
Love and trust.  You should feel comfortable enough to put your life in their hands.  When there are no more doubts, you are truly in love.
Title: Re: need some help
Post by: Arnold on May 14, 2011, 12:47:17 pm
i want to know how do western men think about marriage? What's the most important thing in marriage?

Angel hope this answers your question also .. coming from one western Man who is madly in Love with his LaoPo .

My Sunshine !

Qing is the name of my Sunshine
brightening and warming my Heart
each and every day of my Life

Qing not only shines during day's
but also the lenght of the night
how wonderful it is
to be calling that Sunshine mine

Never to be without light
having her near and always bright

As one can see
I'm mostly satisfied and in delight
to have Qing's Sunshine by my side .
Title: Re: need some help
Post by: Vince G on May 14, 2011, 06:23:50 pm
My ex-wife said I never listen to her. At least I think that's what she said.

There are three rings of a marriage, the engagement ring, the wedding ring, and the suffering.

Title: Re: need some help
Post by: shaun on May 14, 2011, 07:23:23 pm
Hi Angel and Rachael,  This is a difficult question to answer.  There will be as many different answers are there are men because there are many aspects to the answer.

I thing for you it might be better to ask specific questions for example; Do Western men believe in marriage?  Do western men believe in family?  Do western men believe...

Another possibility is for you to decide what kind of requirements you might want in a western man and ask if that requirement is reasonable or unreasonable.

I think some of the things you might be trying to find out is if most western men believe in family, faithfulness to his wife,  supportive to the woman's needs and desires.   Questions like that.   Tell me if I am right or wrong.

Shaun
Title: Re: need some help
Post by: sara on May 14, 2011, 11:14:58 pm
Hi, Angel
   Saying in china: 婚姻就像你脚上的鞋子,好不好看别人知道,舒不舒服只有你自己知道。
   i believe the happy marriage is the same over the world, but the unhappy marriages are very different for the different family: how to spend money, having a baby, communicating well, lying something ........
   Have a good luck to meet a nice guy
Sara
Title: Re: need some help
Post by: Hajo on May 15, 2011, 01:25:49 am
Hi, Angel
   Saying in china: 婚姻就像你脚上的鞋子,好不好看别人知道,舒不舒服只有你自己知道。
   i believe the happy marriage is the same over the world, but the unhappy marriages are very different for the different family: how to spend money, having a baby, communicating well, lying something ........
   Have a good luck to meet a nice guy
Sara

Hi Angel,

I think Sara, has a good point. It will always depend on the couple who has found together.

Also like Shaun says, there as many different opinions on this question as there are people. Many people have probably the same wishes for a good marriage. But that is not enough I think.

When you first live together, many things will influence your life. Will you be able to reach an agreement on the matters of live? I do not say, that people need to have the same opinion on things, but they need to be able to reach a point where they both can accept the solution to the problem.

It is difficult to say what kind of man you should look for. But if you communicate with someone and you think there is something you do not understand, ask us and we will give you our opinion on this matter.

Listen to your inside and you will feel it when you meet the right one. May your search for the right partner be filled with luck and happiness!
Title: Re: need some help
Post by: halfpint on May 16, 2011, 12:05:36 am
Love must be there 1st, its the root of everything else.  Respect for each other, trust in each other, caring for each other.  Add those three things, I think you will have a successful marriage.
Title: Re: need some help
Post by: Mag00 on June 27, 2011, 01:09:29 am
Angel, I agree, there is no one thing that leads to or is the most impoortant in a marriage.. but i feel that trust, honesty, comon goals, and desires are Important. To wish success in whatever endevors the partner may have .. To give support in the same. After all it should be a PARTNER ship.. two pulling in the same direction.. But If there is one thing that can hurt or even ruin a relationship,be it bussiness or personal is the lack of one thing. COMMUNCATION. without the abilty and openess of communication most any couple will have a bad time ... even failure.
Title: Re: need some help
Post by: Mag00 on July 02, 2011, 07:27:37 pm
Angel, I agree, there is no one thing that leads to or is the most impoortant in a marriage.. but i feel that trust, honesty, comon goals, and desires are Important. To wish success in whatever endevors the partner may have .. To give support in the same. After all it should be a PARTNER ship.. two pulling in the same direction.. But If there is one thing that can hurt or even ruin a relationship,be it bussiness or personal is the lack of one thing. COMMUNCATION. without the abilty and openess of communication most any couple will have a bad time ... even failure.
Oh, and spelling..yeaqh,proper spekling...Oh, Mag00 you've done it again.