China Romance
General Discussion and Useful Links => Newbies Corner => Topic started by: Arnold on May 02, 2009, 11:10:38 am
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Chong and Martin , I think you two are eating too many Dumpling's . Hahahaha
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Now that I am back as it were on the market I am wondering if there is a way to determine how many other chaps our chosen woman is writing to at the same time.
It just seems to me that the ladies would diversify their risk by writing to a few chaps just as we would with a few ladies.
Does anyone have any suggestions?
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Yeah, You should be reading more of the posts here. Look in "Ask An Experienced Member" and then "BROTHERHOOD LIST OF LADY PROFILE #" Put your (ex) ladies profile number in and see if there are any others with the same.
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Now that I am back as it were on the market I am wondering if there is a way to determine how many other chaps our chosen woman is writing to at the same time.
It just seems to me that the ladies would diversify their risk by writing to a few chaps just as we would with a few ladies.
Does anyone have any suggestions?
All you can really do is ask?Unless her profile shows up in the list of ones someone here is talking to?
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I only talk to one lady at a time figuring the love of my life will come along eventually. I have talked with 6 different women over the last few months and what has worked for me is just ask them. It is good to remember the differences in cultures but at the same time don't let things get one sided in your relationships, try and use common sense, be nice and polite like a gentleman should but don't forget most of these women want to learn about our culture as much as we do theirs.
I have talked with some very nice ladies so far just haven't found that one that makes me say she's the one yet. but I think I may be on to something with the one I with now sure hope so,
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I came right out and asked Zhifang when we first started writing to each other. She told me that there had been someone else writing to her a month before, but that it went nowhere. I am pretty certain I am the only guy writing to her now...and by pretty certain, I mean I am not quite sure I know who Chong is writing to. :D
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:lol: great reply Martin
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:lol: Martin, your right he could be envious and jealous
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Guys ... looking forward to my trip starting May 29th for two months ... you can read about it in my blog entitled ... Chong & Zhifang in China ... glad that Martin guy's back in Jianada. Three's a crowd, even in Guangzhou !!! :twisted:
I also have to have a serious talk with Rita and tell her the truth about those Vegas Hustlers / Elvis impersonators :evil:
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I waited to ask xule, but when I did she told me she was the first man she had contacted, and the only on she is in contact with. She had told me that many men had contacted her but she did not talk to many of them.
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I waited to ask xule, but when I did she told me she was the first man she had contacted, and the only on she is in contact with. She had told me that many men had contacted her but she did not talk to many of them.
Josh , let me see here ?
I think it should read ... but when I did she told me ( I ) was the first man she had contacted .
She had told me that many men had contacted her but she did not talk to ( any ) of them .
I'm sure that is what you mend to say ?
I also ask my Wife about this , I do was the first contact she had and the last . Hehe . Never gave her a second chance . How mean of me ?
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I was not the first...but I am the last! She had been a member for 4 years, so it goes without saying that others had written. I am not quite sure how I got to be the lucky one...but I am not complaining!
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You guys are so lucky - you find beautiful ladies who only correspond with you. I think chaps it is time to share your snake oil with the losers like me who only find the gold diggers and butterflies.
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Gautam, I can only speak for myself. I got freakin lucky. :D
I was going through the ladies photos and seen hers. I sent a cupid note, saying to myself, OK lets see what happens? o'hum. As the letters went on it became more obvious to both of us what we had.
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Cheer up Gautam , hey not all is lost yet . Just to remind you , my wife was the fourth Lady , before finding the right one . You have to stay positive through this process at all times . Those Lady's can sence ( the good ones ) your feeling in your letter's . I myself was ready to give up after the first one , mind you . But she did not let me quit ... yes , She did not let me quit and that is what she told me , to stay positive and continue writing the same lovely letter's , I have written to her . She had already a Boyfriend at the time and she told me in a nice way , that she can only give her Heart to one , but it was the wrong one . It did not work out between the two . Now that is my chinese Sister Min in Baoding . I have two Sister's that are just the most wonderful Person's you ever want to meet . Gautam , how old are you and what are your looking for age wise ? One is 41 and the other is 49 . Let me know . With these two you will not get anything but the best , trust me on that .
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Gautam I wasn't the first man my wife talked to.I was just the one who did what he said he was going to do.It doesn't work out the first time for everyone.You just have to stay at it untill you find the lady for you.She is out there waiting for you.Now go find her before somebody else does
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I probably sound like a broken record but I truly believe with all my heart that you just have to have faith and trust and believe. Be honest with yourself and know what you want in life and it will come to you.
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You guys are so lucky - you find beautiful ladies who only correspond with you. I think chaps it is time to share your snake oil with the losers like me who only find the gold diggers and butterflies.
Gautam...When i was looking at the ladies, i saw many beautiful women. But I kept looking at pictures and profiles, until I ended up at this one profile. As soon as I saw the lady, my heart jumped. I knew I had to write to her. Even after i sent her a cupid note, I could not get her image from my head. So I went with my heart, when it came to finding a lady...I did not just randomly send notes to every beautiful girl I saw.
Oh...and that girl...we got married last month. She is now my wife, and I could only be happier if I was with her.
The point to my story...no snake oil required...follow your heart.
I probably sound like a broken record but I truly believe with all my heart that you just have to have faith and trust and believe. Be honest with yourself and know what you want in life and it will come to you.
The chocolate guy is also right!
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Hi Gautam
I too am curious about the kind of lady you are looking for. I know a few beautiful, real, and available ladies that are looking for a good man. I am still on good terms with them and write every now and again, they range in age from 25-36, and at least two of them are currently taking english classes. If you these ladies sound like what you are looking for I will message you with the profile information and write them to give them a heads up to look for a message from you.
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See Gautam , you are well taken care of here . We even bring the nice Lady's to you . So at least you know these are no scam only charming .
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Martin and Chong, you guys crack me up. :lol: ROFLMAO
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Guys I am genuinely touched by this show of camaraderie and compassion and I am lost for words. It is a good thing I am writing this because I can compose myself and try to answer the questions and issues raised.
I will be 46 this weekend actually on Vesak Day ? Buddha?s birthday; something about all great people!! So I guess my ideal partner would be over 30 and maybe even well over that age. But it is not the age that matters but the compatibility and here I have a slight issue.
As I live in Asia and have a profile here ? low but still a profile; my partner will also be my companion and she will have to be presentable and be sophisticated enough to make social chit chat, be presentable at parties, reception etc. Language is not an issue but English helps. Adaptability is a must.
There is an acceptance at large in Asia of people from different countries and now everyone has an opinion on each other ? my partner would be open to scrutiny and I guess some gossip given a mixed marriage and people from China who would have an opinion.
I think one can summarize the background to be normal or some innocuous profession like teacher etc.
I don?t think I have many requirements for physical beauty but as I am tall some elevation on her part would be good. But obviously there has to be some attraction but in truth personality is likely to be more important.
I travel to Beijing, Shanghai and Shenyang in that order of frequency and also Hong Kong very often.
There you are chaps ? a simple man will few requirements,
I would also like to say that your acts of generosity is appreciated and if there is something I can help with you only have to ask
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Gautam , we appreciate your Kind word's , just as well . But no need to mention it . What Vince has to offer , sound's great and it could lead to something .
Good luck to you , and may you make the right choice with one of our Lady's , that we keep up our sleeve's .
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Here;s a short bio and will put the photo up after Sat
Age 46
Size: 92kg and in training to lose 10kg - 6 months
Heighr 6' 1"
Color : Indian (not red) dark
kids- 2 in uni in the UK and 1 in last year at school
Residence: current Singapore
nationality: brit/Aussie
profression - Banker
eduction - Masters
Interets- the usual + adventure+ learning chinese
unfulfilled ambition- travel the silk route
Is this enough to be getting on with Vince??
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There are plenty of us tall Indians and I am average size from where I come from which is from the North East. Its the milk which makes us taller.....
I think you are used to seeing Indian more from the west so a slight diffrence, Actually no, I was born and went to school in India and then more education in the UK hence the documentations and also lived for sometime in Oz and it is a good place to have a passport from,
Oh hair - yea plenty and greying.
when I look in the mirror I see Shahruk Khan but when others look at me they see an old fart!!!! pic comming
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Haha ... Gautam ,
the chinese Lady's might call you " FAT " but never an Old Fart . At 46 , grey Hair ... is very distinguished in their Eyes . So nothing to worry here . It was alway's my Dream , to visit Singapore some day and hop over to Kuala Lumpur and try all the great Foods from that area . Well maybe someday , my Wife and I can go over Singapore to Shanghai . Vince will take good care of you , from our Florida Office . Would you like a Sightseeing Tour with your Visit ? Sorry , no Car rental's .
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If any of you guys are comming through Singapore please let me know. Yes the food is great
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I myself would love to look you up , but this might be some time . But it could be done on our first Trip back to see her Family again . I will keep that in mind . Thanks Gautam .
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Guys I think you are asking for trouble by wanting to know this in the early stages. It is like asking your physical girlfriend how many guys she's been with, no matter what the answer you'll not like it yet you put yourself through heartache for stupid pride. There are a lot of gamers here, hell met a few on Chnlove. Bottom line is that you should wait some time prior to openinng up this can of worms. If the feeling is right she will stop contact with other guys I'm sure. Even with all the precautions there is know way of knowing for sure with the exception of the lady profile list. If you don't trust her feelings or the agency maybe she isn't the one for you. Just keep eyes opened for red flags and tread carefully because there are snakes in the grass so to speak. This thing of ours is a relatively new thing so there aren't a lot of precedents yet. As long as we keep each other informed I think our chances are greatly increased that we won't get hoodwinked. Don't let paranoia rule your life and dissaude you from finding your dream lady.
China Shark Mike
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Hey Michael , love your choice of word's " Hoodwinked " where did you pick that up ? Never heared of that , but love it .
Michael , how is it going with your young Lady , are you still seeing each other ? Or are you still giving Mei a chance in back of your Mind ?
Still like to meet you when I am in Guangzhou with Qing , July or August .
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Hey Michael , love your choice of word's " Hoodwinked " where did you pick that up ? Never heared of that , but love it .
Michael , how is it going with your young Lady , are you still seeing each other ? Or are you still giving Mei a chance in back of your Mind ?
Still like to meet you when I am in Guangzhou with Qing , July or August .
Hey,
Arnold
I'm the English teacher so I need all kinds of American idioms I can find. It fits though. When you travel to Guangzhou I will make it a point to meeting Qing and you. Things are going real well now. Batting the idea of staying back and forth in my mind yet know what the eventual outcome will be. I feel like she wants me just to have a sense of security and nothing more. Three more days and I'll be in my own place once and for all. Starting to pick up new teaching jobs very easy as of late. Whatever the outcome I know I'll end up on top because I am living my dream following my heart. I have so little here yet feel so contented in my simple ordinary life. Sometimes less is truly more. Damm I should use these for class. So many of us in life take for granted the important things, I was just as guilty 6 months ago yet my eyes have been opened. Guys try to be cautious yet don't let negative things rule your decisions or you'll end up thinking like that guy Geordie that was tossed off here. If it doesn't feel right walk away with your pride and dignity. They are real and are seeking western guys yet if there is money to be made a certain level of dishonesty will always be present. Arnold as soon as you get an exact time on when you are coming back let me know so I can arrange to have someone take some of my classes so I can hang out with you and your Shanghai Flower. It's all good guys life is short so just do it like Nike says.
China Shark Mike
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Michael , how right you are about , how we take little things for granted , including our Health . How did we all fail , here in the western world ? When the simple Life , is well ... so much simpler and happier . I know , the Chinese are not all perfect in their Life-style , but it is as close as possible ... that I want to be part of it . Qing will be a great Teacher , not only with the her language , but also with , how to live ... with just being happy from Love of a loving Wife and a Family of equal value .
You bet , I let you know when the big day comes . I don't know , who's more nervous about the interview , me or her ? I'm just looking forward to be with her again , ASAP .
It's going to feel so good , to have your own place finally , so you can reflect of all that happened so far , to make a decision what to do next , without any pressure from the outside and start living the Life , you came to find . I know it's there and you know it's there , so go find it for yourself , with my best wishes as alway's . Remember , only Teach them the English language , not our western way's .
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Guys I think you are asking for trouble by wanting to know this in the early stages. It is like asking your physical girlfriend how many guys she's been with, no matter what the answer you'll not like it yet you put yourself through heartache for stupid pride.
Yes I agree with the shark. The point is not to be the first, it's to be the last.
If your woman wants to tell you about it, she will. But that's unlikely.
I think it's best just to think about it as water under the bridge.
If you're the one, the others just fall away without any trouble at all.
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My lady came out and told me that there were a couple of guys she was speaking to that she was unsure of and it was why she was still looking. Like in arnolds case some of these girls spend years according to Apple (my translator) just like in real life only I like to think of it as Nintendo dating haha. But I hopefully leave soon on the 28th to China, stupid pig flu. I just hope they get the infared temperature scanners installed at the the airports, imagine using a thermometer, mmm this dont taste right oh sorry that was a rectal type! AHHHHHHHH hahahaha ^_-