Well I think I should not comment on this other than to say that you expect this women to be treating use as your sole boyfriend WHILST you are still living with your wife and child.
No wonder some parents here do not want their daughters tied up with foreigners.
This sure sounds like you have your Hands way to full at the moment, to even think about Immigration. Do you really think, for them to visit you will be that easy?
I really try hard to put myself in your place at this time and all I see is... why did I even get myself in a Relationship before the Divorce is not even near final?I don't look at it as a conscious choice. It was love. Remember, I didn't actively search for a Chinese wife, like many seem to have done. We happened upon each other and fell in love. When we first started, we both felt like it was wrong. She didn't want to be a home-wrecker, and I didn't want to end my marriage without giving it a fair shake. But you know, we could not go two days without thinking of and missing the other. I don't expect everyone to understand.
The other thing you mentioned is getting an Apartment? Do you really think your Lady/Gf wants to leave China with her Son to move into an Apartment (Rental) for security for both of them. I definiately think NOT, and if you think so... you'd better ask yourself this again.She knows the plan. We talked about it. She agrees. Apartment does not necessarily mean unstable. It means we can move when we want to, without having to try to sell an owned residence.
Sorry to put it this way, but I see it as such. I will tip my Hat for you Smaug, if you'll work his out successfully in your favor. Good Luck and please take it only as my Opinion and nothing else, we are here to help and not to banish Newbie's.Thanks, and I may seek your advice in the future. I (started to) read your Love Story thread before posting mine. It is great. I don't know if I'll get through all the pages of it, but maybe I'll start reading from the end>back?
You have everything worked out! That is arrogance to think that the way you are thinking will be the way everyone else will follow. The lady the US authorities etc etc. You think that if you talk long enough then people will take your opinion as theirs.Geez, so now you know what I'm thinking too? I think my lady will follow because she said she will. The US authorities, I'm not so sure, but my current wife (soon to be ex) is Polish, and I brought her here, got her a green card, and then citizenship. So maybe this time will be harder due to my past? But one can hardly say that she used me to get a passport, since we were married for 8 years and had a baby together...
Does the US issue lifetime visas. I thought they were for specific times and occasions. Plus you want her to pay for the air fares? Are you not going to re-emburse her when she arrives?The US issues tourist visas for one year max. No, I don't want her to pay for the airfare, but my lawyer told me she has to, since my money is technically "family money" until the divorce is final. Also, even before I heard that, she would not hear of it.
Plus you are thinking this women loves me so she will put up with me having no spare money, renting a home etc etc.Geez, you guys talk like renting instead of owning makes me trailer trash or something... Millions of normal honest people do it here, and also in China, as far as I can tell.
That is arrogance and if she agrees to all that then I take my hat off to you. But I have seen the consequences on here and in life too often of the result where the mans financial position has changed and the woman has walked away. Money is more important to a Chinese woman that love.If she would walk away because I don't have a lot of money, then she is not the woman for me, and I wil have no regrets.
Love cannot provide into the old age in China only money can do that.In the US too! ;)
You are due to have enough problems with the US Immigrants. Lets hope that they do not have you marked down as a serial importers of foreign wives!I had never heard that term, (serial importers) but was worried about it. I will surely get an immigration lawyer this time, to help me through that potential pitfall. (didn't have a lawyer last time; it cost a lot of time and money, but was no problem) But as you or someone else suggested, it is a little early for me to be thinking of immigration. It is likely to be more of a 2014 thing.
I have not run the dating service since 2010. Too many foreign men letting women down.Well, different expectations, I guess, right? Maybe I'm a prime example... I will talk to my lady more about her material expectations, to double-check that we're on the same page. She offered to sell one of her two condos in China and give me the money to buy a place here, but I declined politely, saying I am flattered in her trust, but I would rather wait until we're married until we think of that. I also said we should get a pre-nup, so neither of us gets screwed in case things don't go as planned, she said fine.
When you get her into US to live with you, not as a married women, but as a single woman then I will concede that you must have some great influence in high places and I will say that I was wrong. But until then I will say no more on this.She will come to the US in the summer as a tourist. Probably renew her visa and visit next time as a tourist too. After that, we will have confirmed we want to be married and continue as planned. From the green card application paperwork last time, I know it would be near impossible to get her and her son permanent resident status without first being married. Even then, I expect some difficulties.
Smaug, you've received a lot of good advice here. Here is one more kink you should consider. By virtue of the fact that you were not divorced when you went to China and are still married and you are still living in the same house with your current wife your future wife will have a tremendous battle during the interview. If I were you I'd find another part-time job and move out. Deliver pizza if you must. You've already stepped in it as far as the interviewer is concerned. You need to do something about it.
Not to worry Shaun.
He has decided it is going to be a walk in the park for get her and her son a visa to go and live with him and then return to China and then return to the USA and maybe marry sometime or not in the future.
I think if he had to experience the trials and tribulations of the USA Immigrations that you have been going through for a couple of years and still undergoing then he may change his mind.
Marriage Based Visa Comparison Table |
Visa Type | Marital Status | Approximate Time to get Visa | Requires Adjustment of Status (http://www.visajourney.com/wiki/index.php/Adjustment_of_Status)? | Requires EAD (http://www.visajourney.com/wiki/index.php/Employment_Authorization_Document) to Work (with valid Visa and before AOS approved)? | Requires AP (http://www.visajourney.com/wiki/index.php/Advance_Parole) to Travel Outside the US (with valid Visa and before AOS approved)? | Approximate Total Time to become Legal Permanent Resident (http://www.visajourney.com/wiki/index.php/Permanent_Resident) | Approximate Total Cost (USCIS Petition, Visa, AOS if required) | Extra Notes |
K-1 (http://www.visajourney.com/content/compare#k1) | Engaged | 9 Months (http://www.visajourney.com/content/k1historical) | Yes | Yes | Yes | 12.5 Months (http://www.visajourney.com/timeline/aosstats.php) | USD $1650 | Must be married within 90 days of entry. AOS must be filed in order to gain Legal Permanent Resident status. Failure to file AOS before I-94 expires accrues out-of-status days. |
K-3 (http://www.visajourney.com/content/compare#k3) | Married | 9.5 Months (http://www.visajourney.com/content/k3historical) | Yes | Yes | No | 13 Months (http://www.visajourney.com/timeline/aosstats.php) | USD $1705 | After entering the US, may file for AOS within two years or instead wait for I-130 to be approved and pursue IR-1 / CR-1 Visa. |
IR-1 / CR-1 (http://www.visajourney.com/content/compare#ircr1) | Married | 11 Months (http://www.visajourney.com/content/ir1cr1historical) | No | No (see note) | No (see note) | 11 Months | USD $903 | Visa holder automatically becomes a Legal Permanent Resident after entering the US. Can work and travel freely. |
DCF (http://www.visajourney.com/content/compare#dcf) (IR-1 / CR-1) | Married | 3 Months | o | No (see note) | No (see note) | 3 Months | USD $945 | US consulates typically only do this for US citizens who live overseas. DCF results in a IR-1 / CR-1 Visa. |
I have a question. Doesn't the immigration papers ask when your prior divorce was?
Now don't get me wrong here as I am not trying to put a damper on things. But in
this case 2 weeks after the divorce and off to China.
I would have so much documentation proof because this will be a red flag I think when
it comes time to approve the visa.
Her coming here for work really has no bearing on immigration as they are looking for
sincerity in the relationship. Not if she has been here.
Sorry just a concern I have for this situation and not trying to be a downer.
Smaug,
Your third option of marrying here, she returns to China while you two wait for the visa to be approved is not really an option because it is covered by the first option ie;( fiancee visa). The only visa that can be used to obtain that result is the tourist visa. That being said, there is many risks to using the tourist visa for that reason. If she receives a tourist visa to come her and then you two marry, you will now have the pleasure of attempting to convince USCIS that you did not plan this in advance in an attempt to avoid normal processing protocol. If you can not convince them that you did not plan this in advance your wife can be banned from entering the USA for life. I would think real, real hard before attempting this ruse.
Hmm, I was thinking about going back for Spring Festival. No matter how many people there are, it seems there's always room for one more.
My dear,
I'm now on the metro, way to home from the US consulate office.
The whole interview lasted less than ten minutes, the official asked me how we met, if I know your divorce reason, if I joined Community Party etc. I prepared lots of stuff to prove our relationship, like our letters, photos, phone call list, chat list, email list.....but, nobody asked me to show them!
When she knows we communicate in English, she began to speak English! But, because the voice was not quite good from the other side of the window glass, sometimes I couldn't understand! That's bad.
Can you guess the result?
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Be approved of course! :)
New life is waiting for us ahead.
Love,
QF
XXXOOO
PS: I asked about the visa valid time, she said June next year. That's good.
PPS:I'm wondering if you go to bed already or still up? Hope it is not difficult for you to fall asleep with the news.
And Maxx I thing that you meant this and not as it came out with the wrongly placed full stop.
'Some of the things that can put the visa application on hold.Or a complete denial. Is bothering the Consulate. Calling your congressmen. Missing paperwork, Somebody doing the application without the help of a immigration attorney, or using Robert S services '
Willy
.... thanks David for the English translation of Maxx' post. I had no glue what he said?I am with you Arnold but Maxx's words STUCK in my mind!!!!! Ha ha
Well I must add my congratulations.Thanks. :)
From this case it seems that it may be better in the USA authorities eyes to not marry before you apply!!! Can that be right?I'm about 90% certain of that.
A sleeper train! You are in for a very different journey. More commonly called a soft seat here as there is very little chance of sleeping!
In two weeks, I will be on a plane to China. She got us sleeper seats on a train to her hometown. She recruited the help of four other people to do so. Apparently, it can be a really dicey business to get train tickets. Air tickets are very expensive, so she didn't even consider that. Her son will go there next week, with her cousin, ahead of us.