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Title: how NOT to court a Chinese lady
Post by: mpo on April 09, 2013, 06:18:38 pm
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Title: Re: how NOT to court a Chinese lady
Post by: IrishGuy65 on April 09, 2013, 06:41:25 pm
Wow!  That last guy especially she should have accepted a date with him just so she could meet him in person and knee him in the groin a bunch of times. 

What sucks is that this is not a joke, but reality.  The few Asian ladies I've talked to all had similar stories.  I'm glad I have found a good one.
Title: Re: how NOT to court a Chinese lady
Post by: Neil on April 09, 2013, 07:53:13 pm
I'm so glad I never met my wife on a dating site, so she never had to go through junk like that.  How could she ever respect a foreigner after being bombarded with garbage like that.  That's exactly why Chnlove screens the messages via translators.  Wow.
Title: Re: how NOT to court a Chinese lady
Post by: Vince G on April 09, 2013, 11:23:53 pm
They're Dumbasses
Where's the link for these women to post "Why I went Asian". Good reason for these women to run away from western men.

#7 is a line from Family Guy... sh! sh! don't be scared, I big American man.

Title: Re: how NOT to court a Chinese lady
Post by: Willy The Londoner on April 10, 2013, 01:48:37 am
I know exactly what Chinese women have to go through from on line creatures.  Remember I did run a dating site here for a while and I checked every message in or out to ensure no scamming.

Willy
Title: Re: how NOT to court a Chinese lady
Post by: Jason B on April 10, 2013, 05:09:16 am
scroll down and read the posted comments.........says it all really.  What idiots but there is something there about porn and stereotyping people.  but they do it for the money not because they are into it.........or so I am led to believe.  Sick really........Xia would go to town on one of these guys if they said anything like that to her.
Title: Re: how NOT to court a Chinese lady
Post by: shaun on April 11, 2013, 04:00:04 pm
If most of us were honest our thought were much like number 2 but as we grew and learned more about Chinese women our opinions changed.  Thank God we found good women to help us change.
Title: Re: how NOT to court a Chinese lady
Post by: Felix on May 21, 2013, 06:30:47 am
 :D Well, I think these are a bit narrow on the sexual side. Well, I'm more interested in the soul of a modern vs. traditional Chinese lady (not necessarily the one-child Narcissus ladies from large cities).

I briefly introduce myself: (happily) long time divorced single parent of 3 grown up kids, living in Switzerland, having a company in Asia. After my divorce with an Mideastern, I subsequently had some private encounters with Japan, Taiwan and China. Must say that Japanese ladies are the most gentle ones (but could behave like 5 years old toddler in quarrels). The Taiwanese was by far the most harmonious and balanced relationship I had: we shared equally duties and pleasures, money outflow and inflow. But after some years she preferred to have sex with multiple guys. That wasn't necessary compatible with my ideas of harmonious relationship. We're still friends though... As for the Chinese lady I am currently dating: hell of a challenge. Wish I knew more about the soul of China before i go into more details. I had quite some fun reading about the horror stories of some members here. Hope there is also the other side of the coin?

Kind regards,
Felix-
Title: Re: how NOT to court a Chinese lady
Post by: brett on May 21, 2013, 11:53:44 am
I've met an awful lot of Chinese ladies now. Really the only thing that stands out is how different they all are. But after a while you can fit them into different groups.

It's really little to do with which province they're from. I met an incredibly fierce Sichuan girl (conforming to stereotypes), but the next Sichuan girl I met was the mildest lady ever.

As for the single child thing, I've actually dated very few single child women, virtually all have had brothers and sisters. I guess it's less likely for parents of a single child to want them to marry a foreigner. But also I've been mostly dating fairly well off women, and their families would have had enough cash to pay the fine.

I've met some amazing ladies in the last couple of months. But my current lady is winning over my heart by being both very attractive and also great fun to be with. Oh, and thank goodness she's not a Wu this time - she's a Huang!!!
Title: Re: how NOT to court a Chinese lady
Post by: Willy The Londoner on May 21, 2013, 09:34:25 pm
Really the only thing that stands out is how different they all are.

Keep working on it Brett.  Something will stand out soon!    8)

Willy
Title: Re: how NOT to court a Chinese lady
Post by: brett on June 02, 2013, 08:27:10 am
Keep working on it Brett.  Something will stand out soon!    8)

Willy

Ha ha ha, that brings to mind my first date with Miss Xiang. She was by far the sexiest woman I have ever met  :-* :-* :-* . Sadly it's proving exceedingly hard to get her out on a second date.

Well, in the meantime I met yet another lady today. It's not hard to find dates here. This lady was tall and elegant, and she turned up with a driver.

Well it was a bit of a random afternoon but we ended up meeting a friend of hers who has a baby and lives in the posh part of town. How posh? Well we went to Starbucks and the bill came to 102 RMB for 3 extremely average drinks - that's enough money to buy 29 beers in my neighbourhood, or to pay for my entire week's food. This really is a country of extremes.

Interestingly she and her friend came from Xinxiang, but they were Han not the local ethnic population. Their Mandarin was excellent - I could make out a lot of the words they were saying, and they could also understand me. Which is much different when I try and speak to or listen to Cantonese or Hunan people.

I guess it could also be their social class - maybe posher Mandarin is easier to understand.