China Romance
All About China => Share your love story => Topic started by: Andreas on July 10, 2009, 12:34:40 am
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I made it to Zhuhai and its now my second full day over here. The journey from europe was a bit of long and I also did a mistake immegrating in Shanghai which I wasnt supposed to. So I took an alternate flight to Hongkong, immegrated there, got my belongings of the belt and went into the city to catch the ferry to Zhuhai, so finally I arrived in Zhuhai at late afternoon, immegrated there once again, and finally made it there, well now my passport has few immegration stamps of the same day, LOL.
Sophie, the translater picked me up at the port and accompanied me to the hotel where she and my gf had a room reserved for me also with a special deal. Price is very cheap for a 4 star hotel, got everything here , internet on my room, good service and all is gravy!
At the evening of arrival I met my girl and I am stunned, yes, its her and its just what I wished it to be, so with all my fear I had before starting of to Zhuhai, its all great. She is sweet like honey, lovely eyes and face, well I am real in love, so is she. Ofcourse she is a little shy but I see that she is getting closer and closer and more open the more we are together. Yesterday we spend a full day together, starting with a chinese breakfast, afterwads we went mountain climbing, a park on a mountin within the city and had a little lunch, then we went to my hotel, relaxed a little and talked, I showed her some pics of my home, my dogs and all that and in the evening we had a nice dinner at a restaurant nearby my hotel, great food and also cheap like I never expirienced before anywhere.
Well, what can I say, I haven't been that happy like I am now since long time, lots of woman make compliments to me, like handsome, beautiful eyes, the translator Sophie told me, I could get any woman here according what she is told by them, lol, oh my god, it's like I am always turning red somehow. But anyways I also do not care to much since I am in love with my XiuFang. I am so happy I decided to come here, with all them stories (jimmy, etc) I was reading on this forum before takeoff. Its all sweet and I will see how everything is developing the next days. I will meet my princess tonite again, she has to work today, and also I suspect she is working overhours just get some more days off to stay with me together. I just went out, its almost noon, had a tea outside at a corner restaurant and now I decided to let yall know that its all good here and I will write my expirience here the next days in this very thread.
So for all you in this forum, if bad or good stories, I have to say everything is possible and not all turns out bad. Not that I want to say that everything with me is decided by now, a relationship needs time for sure and has to undergo a development, but with the right treats and charme, being calm and sweet I believe everything is possible. So I will go my way now and see where it leads, like I can tell by now, I think I might have found my princess, all signs look like it.
I'll be back with more and also pics the next days.
So, all the best from Zhuhai, the german kraut takes it over , LOL
Ni Hao from Zhuhai!
Andreas!
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Sounds great, Andreas! I am looking forward to read more about your ongoing relationship! All the best!
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Good stories are outweighing the bad. this is good. Enjoy Andreas and we'll be waiting for the pictures.
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Good to hear Andreas! I am glad to hear of a good story coming out of Zhuhai. I am looking forward to further updates, and pictures. Enjoy your time there.
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Must be something in the air lately, fantastic to read another good story, keep the updates coming Andreas!
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Good to hear and my best wishes for you.
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Well, it seems things are turning around for the better in Zhulia {sorry if spelling is off}. It's stories like this that give hope for the brotherhood. Very happy for you and your girl and am looking forward to the next chapter on One Life To Live via China style.
China Shark Mike
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Great news Andreas! Just be yourself and you'll do fine.
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Kraut to a Kraut .... Wonderbar ... Wonderschön .
I have a smile already , but lately it's getting bigger . Can't wait for more and the Bonus of Pictures .
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Great reading mate, :icon_biggrin::angel:keep it up...hehe and the writing....lol
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Andreas, that sounds great. I was there in January, and I had such a wonderful time. I am looking forward to hearing how it turns out.
Some requests for your next post, could you please say the names of the restaurants and places you visit. A fair few of the brothers here know Zhuhai well and so it adds a lot to the colour to the story to know exactly where you've been.
What hotel are you staying at? I haven't booked a room yet for my trip there in September and so it would good to get your opinion of the place you're staying at.
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Danny try the greenery hotel 4 stars.Nice place to stay it's cheap,Its about 2 blocks from lovers rd one block from the bus stop and one block from the big shopping center it is in the Jidi district.
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Good morning, just having my Nescafe in my room and watching Zhuhai from the 16th floor out of my bright window ...
Thanx for all the good wishes from you guys, it gives one a good feeling to know that there are so many fellas out there
that care. I appreciate that very much:-))
My sweetheart came up yesterday evening pretty late since she had to work so long (10 hours) so we didn't stay together too long,
just had a dinner for 2 and afterwards I set her in a cap to get her home so she could get a rest. I'll meet her today arround noon, since
she has to work just half day. I still hope she is not getting problems for all that off-time she takes, actually I am a little worried, but
I think she knows what she is doing.
Well, to give you some places, my hotel is the "2000 year's hotel" (also check www.2000yh.com, they have an english version too) located
at Renmin Rd. I suppose that is pretty much the center of Zhuhai, still try to figure out the map and the different locations. I can recommend
this hotel, its very clean, great service, for all that got a notebook you have internet in your room, and the hotel does also have various
restaurants and bars and a topdeck bar on the roof, haven't checked that out since I am one of those people that do not stay in the hotel, I
like to stick with the people outside the hotel. American power plugs (mainly my plugs of my devices are american, work there with most walljacks)
The very restaurant we went to twice now is also becoming my favorite though. Its right beside the hotel I stay, just 2 houses up the road. I'll
find out the name since I just have the receipt here with chinese letters, so more info on that to come up for yall.
I also was taken by the girls to the place that Maxx recommended (first without knowing), the "China blue angel" cafe. Very romantic and
such a suitable place to take your lady to take to, piano player, dimmed light environment. I had a green tea with milk, and it was
great. At that place I also gave my gf my gift, a silver bracelet that made her somehow speechless, lol. Well, such place is the
right place for those occasions, I suppose. One thing about the hotel, my credit card, master and visa (barclays card of england) didn't work
with the hotel, for some reason it didn't go thru, don't ask me why, my card is ok and my limit is high enough. I had no problems to draw
money with the barclays master card from "Bank of china" ATM. So just a forwarn that you might have to pay cash if this happens to you.
I also have a card from "Bank of America", but didn't try that.
More to come up folks, also I verify some names of the places I went to, I will give you all an insight of what to do here in Zhuhai as best as
I can. I guess lots of places are known by some of the guys already.
Ni Hao!
Andreas
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Andreas good job.Keep going your doing fine.I'm gkad to hear you liked the blue angel cafe.It is a nice place.If you go south from the Blue angel cafe about 1 block is lovers rd.
Have fun
Maxx
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Maxx ... lover's road ? What ... are you trying to get them in trouble with her Parent's ? Keep them alway's in a place with BRIGHT light's and many People .:@
Remember Romance takes time . What about the 24 Hour Rule , shouldn't they wait ... till the 24 hour's are up ?
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Arnold it is the name of the rd.That goes along the coast In Zhuhai.It is well it and a public place.Just about every night in the summer you can go down there and walk along the beach.ANd stop and watch the ocean and listen to the people performeing music and Chinese traditional dance.
Get your damm mind out of the gutter.I know the rule I invented the rule.
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Oh now ? I was just pulling on your Taco's . You didn't take that seriously ? Making sure your awake during your night shift .
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Maxx ... lover's road ? What ... are you trying to get them in trouble with her Parent's ? Keep them alway's in a place with BRIGHT light's and many People .:@
Remember Romance takes time . What about the 24 Hour Rule , shouldn't they wait ... till the 24 hour's are up ?
Arnold, I've walked up and down it with my woman at twilight without a thing happening. I kept walking along the path, miles and miles from where I parked, in the hope that something, anything would happen . . . but I didn't even get to hold her hand. Whatever effect it has on the woman of Zhuhai must be pretty mild, because it sure as heck doesn't change the situation for me, not even a little *laughs*
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Danny try the greenery hotel 4 stars.Nice place to stay it's cheap,Its about 2 blocks from lovers rd one block from the bus stop and one block from the big shopping center it is in the Jidi district.
Then that's the one I'll take, so thanks Maxx.
I am not quite ready to book it yet. I haven't quite yet given up hope that I am going to get an invite to stay at her place *laughs*
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Andreas,
Call your bank that handles the card. Their fraud dept might stop you from using it. I had the same trouble the first time until i called them. That is a good thing to note for anyone going over there. Tell your bank. All banks are different,but it wouldnt hurt to let them know.
Great story, keep it up.
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Good luck with that Danny.I see the greenery hotel in your future visits to Zhuhai:icon_cheesygrin:
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Hi Andreas
Welcome to Zhuhai. I have been here for two weeks now. If you are at a loss one day when your ladies at work then give me a call my number is 13727851206. I have found myself a nice apartment in Lanpu Road, Zhuhai 519000.
And today I had both my debits card rejected even though I told my banks I was coming here. I had drawn out money on both previously but today both were stopped. Lucky I had opened a Bank of China account here and had put the money I had withdrawn previously into that account. I will see what happens tomorrow as my new telephone and my cell phone are not authorise to call outside of china!
My girlis ammazed at just how much I have been able to buy for the new apartment with hardly any Chinese other than the basics. I had purchased a Visual bilingual dictionary in UK and it has pictures and worsd, Chinese and English, of just about everything you will ever need.
Willy
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Hello everybody,
first of all, sorry for not coming in earlier to the forum, to many things happened while I stayed in Zhuhai, bad things and good things with a sweet
end of my stay, this just as a intro.
My meetings with the first girl XiuFang really didn't work to well. There been to many problems in communication, to put that long story short, she decied after 2 days to break the contact due to these problems. I really didn't understand the world at that very day when that happened, so the translater (meanwhile we became good friends) came to the hotel and explained me what happened and also recommeded me to leave her, since she is not active, not the right one for me and does not put much effort into the relationship (I almost just met her for 1,5 days, since she works so much). I was just so confused after all the love heat I exchnaged with her in our numerous letters. I learned my lesson, that writing letters is nothing compared to a real meetinf in person.
Anyways, I was down on ground, feeling miserable and asked her to let me talk to her once again, even though it wouldn't be fair to me to not come up to me personally and tell me the problems. Since I traveled just for her half earth I would at least expect that from her. The following day we met again and I again explained my feelings to her and that" rome is not built in one day". I also would have to learn to handle all that. So after a little thinking she decided to continue the relationship and everything seemed nice again. The next day, the translator gave me a call that XiuFang could not make it
for dinner, cause she had some "company gathering". Well, that made me really mad and I decided to leave her cause I did not make sense to me
at all. That very "company gathering" at evening I suspected is her monthly meeting with her collegues at a restaurant and I said myself, if that is more important to her than meeting me I call it the quits! So I told the translator to tell her good bye and that I wish her all the best for the future.
Down with my feelings and thinking to get a clue of what had happened I decided to walk thru the streets of Zhuhai City, just to clear off my mind.
At arround 2 pm I met the translator with a lady in the city, they were on the way to the english school and .. guess what .. I was stunnded at that
beautiful lady and her appearance. So we decided to have a little lunch together and talked a little. I felt a very sweet feeling inside, since me and that lady kept looking at each other without a break, always smiling at each other, Well, just that feeling that somebody has when one meets a person you get along right away in the first time, if you know what I mean. She has such the same little crazyness I have, wearing glasses without lenses (LOL), elegant and nice style of dressing and still young and also can laugh about things that other might consider childish. Beautiful eyes and a sweet body, tender and soft, mild-tempered as I am and such a romantic person I been longing for. Butterflies in my belly went crazy. So the translator explaned the lady my background and I also asked a few questions. At the end of the lunch we decided to meet after her school visit, so Ting (ladys name) came up to my hotel where we had we went out for dinner. Meanwhile
I bought myself a handheld translator and communication was very good between me and her. This was such a great start of a new relationship and I she also told me that she has vacation and all the time to spend me for the rest of my stay. So from that day on we met each other from early in the morning up to very late at night, had lots of fun, talked a lot, laughed a lot, also I forgot the hendheld translator a few times but we was able to communicate very good. Day after day we became closer and closer, so the very last 3 days of my Zhuhai stay was such an intimate and loving togetherness with her.
She took me to the lovers road after we had had a nice dinner at a fish restaurant and from there on our real realtionship started. We walked quiet a long way down lovers road, holding hands tight and there happened our first long ( I mean long) kissing and hugging. I felt like in my early twenties, not to say like a little boy that met his first real love. So was she, she said, she never expirienced such loving feeling towards a man, well to be short,
I am the happiest man I think:-))
The second last night I spent in her appartment and stayed there. The chemistry is so tight and nice between her and me and there I decided to ask
her if she would like to get enganged to me. I thought about that question almost the whole night before, just had 2 hours sleep, but I was so sure
that she is the right one and I am the right one for her, the very lady I want to care for and love for the rest of my life. So, the very next morning at breakfast I asked her that question and she said, YES, that she would like to spend the rest of her life with me and I was so happy that I decided with her to get to the mall to buy the engagement rings. So my last night in Zhuhai was the special night for me and her (I never been engaged, married or such) so I wanted it to be very special and romantic. We had a nice dinner at a 5-star hotel (Got to ask Ting for the name, I appologize, I forgot the name). Afterwards we went to Gombai to a cafe (UCB) at the seaside and took a nice table in the back of the restaurant with candle light. I ordered a bottle of red wine (The great wall, year 1998) and after a little time of talking and tenderness we started the engagement procedure exchanging the rings. I was so excited I can't tell. After staying there for 2 hours we decided to get back to my hotel, well, and the rest of that night yall might imagine what happened ... :-)).
What can I say, I am very happy, spend my most happiest time in Zhuhai, almost 7 days with a lady, I fall so deep in love with. I am so thankful for what has happened, also for the break off with XiuFang. The translator said, that she is the right one for me and that she is so happy with me.
Now I am back in europe, its my first full day over here, yesterday, when I arrived, I met Ting on QQ late afternoon ver here (around 11:30pm in Zhuhai) and we exchanged some words and looked at each ther quiet a while with continuous smiles. I plan to get back to Zhuhai in September for 4-6 weeks to spend time with her. I found out that I am also able to work from Zhuhai, so I will take one of my spare servers to Zhuhai and work on my software projects from there. That is the nice point being a software developer for Internet Applications, there is no barrier where I work, as long as I have a internet line. That would be also the future with Ting, spending sometime here in europe and also spending time in Zhuhai, so she gets to see her friends and part of family (her sister lives in Zhuhai too). I also appreciate that since I fell in love with China, the nice people there and the whole environment. Its such a beautiful country I want to learn more, it just cannot be compared the the life we all have in the west. She also wants to visit her parents with me in Hubei province to introduce me to them. I decided to find me a mandarin school over here in germany to get at least a little prepared to be able to talk the language a littlebit or maybe a online lesson, I don't know yet. So Ting will continue teaching me Mandarin as I will teach her english and german. So, guys, the bad start in Zhuhai turned into a deep love story for 2 people looking for their soulmates. I am happy that I did that trip, after all the thoughts, concerns and stories I read in this forum. I surely continue this thread to let yall know how my lovelife and story goes on.
@Willy the Londoner: Dude, I appologize for not giving you a call while I was in Zhuhai, I just wanted to spend every second with Ting. But I will hook up with you in September when I have more time, so maybe we be able to have a dinner together with our ladies, ok?
So for you all, I attached a photo of me and Ting. @Vince: hope that picture is not to big.
Andreas!
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Andreas Congrats mate hope you two find happiness together:icon_biggrin:
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Wow. Awesome story and I'm so glad everything worked out so well for you two. I'm not a religious person but it sure seems like there was a bit of divine intervention going on for you. This has been quite the summer so far.
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Just had my little morning talk on QQ with my sweet Ting, it felt so good! I miss her so much, so does she ... hope I can stand that the next weeks until I travel back to Zhuhai and can have her on my side again ... can't wait to see her back tonite with video chat, hehe :-))
@Rob: Thanks dude!
@Neil: Yes, I thought about the same .. The Translator told me right after the break-up with the first girl, they might happen something unexpected for you ... so it came true .. Actually I been thinking about that a lot, so I do have to agree!
@maxx: I now understand the 24-hour rule, hehe!
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Hi Andreas
I am glad everything worked out for you in the end. For info what was the name of the translator from the agency? I wonder if it is was the same one who found me a terrific new girl friend.
It will be great to meet up with you when you get back here. After my initial disappointment over choice of ladies I am here to stay.
Anyone who want to know what Lover Road is right then just look at the picture up with my name.
Willy
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Andreas, Congrats guy, it sounds like you have found your mate, good luck and best wishes.
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Hi Andreas
I am glad everything worked out for you in the end. For info what was the name of the translator from the agency? I wonder if it is was the same one who found me a terrific new girl friend.
It will be great to meet up with you when you get back here. After my initial disappointment over choice of ladies I am here to stay.
Anyone who want to know what Lover Road is right then just look at the picture up with my name.
Willy
No doubt, Willy! The Translators name is xxxxxx, she is such a great person.
Also have to visit the agency when I come back, had no time to do so.
@Michael: Thanx man!
Andreas!
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Andreas, you lucky B****** she is gorgeous. glad to see it worked out even better.
Yes I resized the photo. :icon_cool:
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As we have seen many times , it's not alway's the FIRST Lady we meet , that will sweep us off our feet .
Wonderful part two of your Visit .
But ... what did happened , that night ? I can not imagine .... at this time ? You played Chinese Checker's .. right ?
Andreas , my best wishes to you and Ting ( as long it's not Sly's Ting ) :icon_cheesygrin:
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Kudos to you Andrea, and if I could play this darn two string instrument, I would.... I heard you played a good song, I heard you played with style. So I came to listen, to listen for a while. Great story.
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@vince: thanx for the wishes and photo help, next time I do it myself !-)
@arnold: thanx arnold, no, it is not sly's ting, and yes, your are right, we played chinese checkers .. LOL
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Andreas Congradulations glad to hear it worked out for the best.The 24 hour rule will help you and your lady alot.You just have to remember it before things get out of hand.And everybody is madd.
Isn't Zhuhai a great city? I miss it all the time.I'm really happy to hear that you found the lady of your dreams.
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Congratulations Andreas! Great that it worked for you even it started bad! I wish you and Ting all the best for the future.
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'....as long it's not Sly's Ting ...'
arnold that was the exact thought that came into my head...lol:icon_cheesygrin:
*shouts for Sly*.........:angel:
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It is funny how things work out how they are supposed to. My mother has always told me everything happens for a reason. It was destined for you to meet her and you had a bad feeling at first so you could really appreciate your Ting when you met her. Hope everything goes smooth from now on.
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It is funny how things work out how they are supposed to. My mother has always told me everything happens for a reason. It was destined for you to meet her and you had a bad feeling at first so you could really appreciate your Ting when you met her. Hope everything goes smooth from now on.
yeah jim, it must be like you say .. It's my biggest wish that all will work well from now on .. I am really happy and already miss her so much .. just met ting again on qq for 1,5 hours with video chat .. wish i would be with her now .. how y'all handle that being seperated from your love for a few monthes, weeks .. or whatever time .. also its really hard to concentrate on my work I got to say!!!
Andreas!
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The internet is a wonderful thing. Angel and I QQ twice a day. I am the last person she talks to before going to bed and the first one she talks to in the morning. Every day 7 days a week. Plus a few TXT msgs. each day. In 20 days she will be in my arms again. I will be there for at least 2 months. Correction 19 days 6 hours and 10 minutes.
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The internet is a wonderful thing. Angel and I QQ twice a day. I am the last person she talks to before going to bed and the first one she talks to in the morning. Every day 7 days a week. Plus a few TXT msgs. each day. In 20 days she will be in my arms again. I will be there for at least 2 months. Correction 19 days 6 hours and 10 minutes.
It's true .. it gives one so much happiness with todays technology .. I remember the first days of internet (actually arpa-net of the universities back in the days) .. and now we can communicate just like that .. real time with voice and picture streams via satellite lines .. maybe I should try to invent a algorithm to slip thru the video stream .. LOL .. would be sweet ..
Wish you all the best and sweetest time with your love!
Andreas!
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you forgot the sec,s jim lol
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Andreas, Thinking of your lady the first thing in the morning, the last thought at night, that is what happens i assume to most of the guys here, it certainly does with me, I have another 17 weeks before I see he:huh:
Oh how I wish I was Superman and I would be over there in a shot....:angel:
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The internet is a wonderful thing. Angel and I QQ twice a day. I am the last person she talks to before going to bed and the first one she talks to in the morning. Every day 7 days a week. Plus a few TXT msgs. each day. In 20 days she will be in my arms again. I will be there for at least 2 months. Correction 19 days 6 hours and 10 minutes.
Jim, I want someone like you have found.
The woman I have been writing and speaking to for nearly the past year, who I was going to visit in mid September, who tells me she wishes to marry me, told me today that she only wants me to ring her on the weekends. It should be noted that our daily phone calls are never more than five minutes in length. So she begrudges even five minutes out of her day to speak to me. This is the same woman who complains if my letters are more than 400 words in length, who doesn't write to me more than 200 words, and that not more than once or twice or week. She works a seven hour day, with a two hour lunch break, and this is the best she can do???????
This just isn't working for me any more. I've had enough.
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Really sorry to hear that danny is this the same lady you was haveing probs with befor mate ?
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Danny Each is different. Some will talk and write everyday others once a week. In mine we write avg. 2 EMF's a week, and a phone call on Saturday eve, her Sunday morn which always turns to an english lesson. Her letters are shorter then they use to be. About one page or less but so have mine. We both are doing the same thing of knowing there is just so much you can write about your boring day.
But if you feel it's just fading away? Then do what you need to. Go and see for yourself.
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The internet is a wonderful thing. Angel and I QQ twice a day. I am the last person she talks to before going to bed and the first one she talks to in the morning. Every day 7 days a week. Plus a few TXT msgs. each day. In 20 days she will be in my arms again. I will be there for at least 2 months. Correction 19 days 6 hours and 10 minutes.
It's true .. it gives one so much happiness with todays technology .. I remember the first days of internet (actually arpa-net of the universities back in the days) .. and now we can communicate just like that .. real time with voice and picture streams via satellite lines .. maybe I should try to invent a algorithm to slip thru the video stream .. LOL .. would be sweet ..
Wish you all the best and sweetest time with your love!
Andreas!
You guys are right! Internet is a great thing. But only when it works :s Xinjiang provins has been without Internet for 2 weeks now and it is going to stay without for a couple of month they say. :@ So, it will not be much I will have to report while I am there from August 1st until August 15th. I hope it will not happen for you guys, it's rather frustrating! :huh:
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The internet is a wonderful thing. Angel and I QQ twice a day. I am the last person she talks to before going to bed and the first one she talks to in the morning. Every day 7 days a week. Plus a few TXT msgs. each day. In 20 days she will be in my arms again. I will be there for at least 2 months. Correction 19 days 6 hours and 10 minutes.
It's true .. it gives one so much happiness with todays technology .. I remember the first days of internet (actually arpa-net of the universities back in the days) .. and now we can communicate just like that .. real time with voice and picture streams via satellite lines .. maybe I should try to invent a algorithm to slip thru the video stream .. LOL .. would be sweet ..
Wish you all the best and sweetest time with your love!
Andreas!
You guys are right! Internet is a great thing. But only when it works :s Xinjiang provins has been without Internet for 2 weeks now and it is going to stay without for a couple of month they say. :@ So, it will not be much I will have to report while I am there from August 1st until August 15th. I hope it will not happen for you guys, it's rather frustrating! :huh:
That sucks! Internet is the lifeline of my job. When I go back in September to Zhuhai I will have to take 1 or 2 software projects with me to work on, no other choice. No internet would be really a problem for me ... but I am positive it will all be gravy:-)
Hajo, hope for you internet will back online soon at your ladies place!
Andreas!
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Thanks Andreas,
I had hoped so too! But she was in Beijing last weekend and we could chat. She told me that they expect to be online again in October or November. :@ I am just glad that we already have made plans for her to go home with me. I just hope all bricks will fall into place!
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Thanks Andreas,
I had hoped so too! But she was in Beijing last weekend and we could chat. She told me that they expect to be online again in October or November. :@ I am just glad that we already have made plans for her to go home with me. I just hope all bricks will fall into place!
Up to 3 month to get internet back up? Anyways, sounds like a str8 plan you working on with your lady, wish you good all the best, Hajo!
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Danny Each is different. Some will talk and write everyday others once a week. In mine we write avg. 2 EMF's a week, and a phone call on Saturday eve, her Sunday morn which always turns to an english lesson. Her letters are shorter then they use to be. About one page or less but so have mine. We both are doing the same thing of knowing there is just so much you can write about your boring day.
Thanks Vince. I sent your words to her in my letter to tell her some good advice I received. No it's not fading away. She's really serious about the future, and her words are warm and loving. We just have really, really different ideas about what it means to be in a relationship. For me, the days apart from her, they just drag by. I have never felt so alone since I started my relationship with this person. Some days I regret the day I met her.
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Hi Danny
Step back a bit.
If I remember correctly your lady is Doctor at the very busy women and childrens hospital. When I first came to Zhuhai I was dating a Doctor as well, not the same one and at a different hospital. Her letters to me were also very shorty and when I telephoned her sometimes she was falling asleep during them. You say they only work 7 hours a day. Sure they do and the doctors get 2 hour lunch break - they go to sleep in these breaks. My doc was up at 6 am every morning to prepare for work. Then had about a one hour bus ride to get to work then go home every evening at nearly 7pm then she had to cook her dinner. That is all fresh - nothingb out of packets. And in those 7 hours she was actually working she would deal with between 100 to 120 patients a day - can you imagine the stress of dealing wqith that many patients a day. No wonder they just want to sleep away their free trime. A doctor is miossing from duty and they callin your doctor with no notice and with no extra pay. My doc, who has 18 years service once worked for three weeks without a day off. May be her working conditions was a cause of our split.
I will say this - wait until you meet her but have a fall back plan in casae it does not work out.
Willy
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Step back a bit.
Willy that's good advice. I've apologised to her, and I'll just let it roll along and see what happens when I visit her in September. I visited her previously in January.
I think we have really, really different ideas about how a relationship should work. It's just really hard for me, not being able to hear from her each day. A five minute phone call makes all the difference to my life. It really upset me that she just unilaterally decided to take this away, as though it meant nothing at all.
I keep thinking that it would be such a relief if it all just ended. And then other times, I can hardly stop the tears streaming down my face.
If she doesn't forgive me, then that's how it goes. There's nothing I can do about it. And maybe it's a merciful thing to happen to both of us.
Sorry Andreas, I've stolen your post. This is the end of my interruption for now. That's the problem, we have Zhuhai in common. Everytime I read your story, I think of my angel.
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Step back a bit.
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Sorry Andreas, I've stolen your post. This is the end of my interruption for now. That's the problem, we have Zhuhai in common. Everytime I read your story, I think of my angel.
Danny, don't worry, its ok for me, nothing stolen at all:-) Even though I can understand your feelings very good. I talk to my sweetheart every single or second day on qq, sometimes twice a day and it gives me lots of happiness, but in fact the distance right now between me and her and not having her on my side is also not easy for me. She is on my mind instantly, if I am working or doing whatever, even had her in my dreams twice the recent nights.
So I suppose it is not easy to all of us, at least for those that have not their sweetness with them. I really counting the days until I go back to Zhuhai start of september ...
Andreas!
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I am up early on a Saturday morning waiting for my wife to come home from work so we can have a brief webcam chat. I can relate to how you guys feel. I wish I knew when I would be going back...it's easier when you can count the days. But yes, the distance and only fleeting chats tugs at the heart strings.
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16 days and 2 hours for me. I cannot wait.
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For me, the days apart from her, they just drag by. I have never felt so alone since I started my relationship with this person. Some days I regret the day I met her.
Danny , now as We are going through this waiting and being apart , we write each other ones maybe twice a week and talk on the Phone ones a week . Not because we don't know what to say or write , it makes the time go by faster and you can look forward more to the next letter or call this way . It has nothing to do with our relationship being less because we write less . It's all how you look at it . It's not to hurt the other , which I'm sure that is not your Lady's intention's . Now if you set yourself up , with doing all those thing on a daily bases and it does not go well with Her plans ( no matter what their are ) it's your own doing to get you thinking this way now . If you spoil your Lady for month's and she say's now , NO more ... no need for that anymore ... would you be hurt or happy that it is saving you money and come to realize ... all that is just little thing's and not to sweat over them . This is just one of those little thing's , with many more to follow as your relationship grows . We both have had a hard Time , loosing our Loved one , but it really thaught me to have patience and boy do I need it ever .
Remember Maxx's Rule # one .
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Remember Maxx's Rule # one .
Arnold
I am so lucky to have friends like you and Willy and Maxx and the other brothers. This is the good, sensible, down to earth advice I need at this time. I was just at a low point when I wrote that. I don't know what I was thinking. I just forgot everything about the 24 hour rule.
Even though I screwed up at this time and I made myself look like an idiot, if I hadn't told the truth about what happened, and really thought hard about what had taken place, I would have continued to make the same mistake over and over. I think I learned a real good lesson.
I kept thinking there was something wrong with our relationship. Since, for me, being in love means that you write and talk constantly to each other, for hours and hours each day. That's well and good, if you enjoy that sort of thing. But that's not how a lot of really strong relationships work. That's not how it is for my woman. It doesn't seem to be how it is for your relationship either.
On reflection it is probably easier for me to deal with the waiting if I don't write and talk to her so often. I just need to take a deep breath and get on with the other parts of my life.
Here's the reply I received today:
Hi my dearest Danny
Danny , you misunderstand me . I never have a complaining in your previous letter for your long letter , I am just afraid that I will offend you when you call me each time since we talk so short every time , after all , sometimes , I really care about your feeling , if I talk with you so short each time when you call me , I am afraid that you will understand me , so I could only suggest you to call me on weekend night . you will never offend me for you calling at any time .
don't listen to the sad song always , I think you should listen some rock music and made you so excited for our soon meeting . don't you think so ?? I know communication is very important for us now , but I am really offend you due to my job reason sometimes , I am sorry . danny , don't misunderstand me , ok ??
I sit on the bus every morning on my way to work, flipping through your profile ‘s picture in my mind and listening to soft music on my cell phone . You have become more than part of my morning pastime—you have become a habit that I cannot live without.
Big hug for you ,
Missing you ,
Isn't that sweet? I sure don't deserve anyone like that.
Danny
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Cool mate well pleased....:icon_biggrin:
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Well Danny - its the morning long bus ride - you make that long journey seem shorter. What more could you ask. I look forward to meeting up with you two when you get to Zhuahi.
Willy
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Well Danny - its the morning long bus ride - you make that long journey seem shorter. What more could you ask. I look forward to meeting up with you two when you get to Zhuahi.
Willy
That would be very kind. I arrive on the afternoon of 17 September. I am bringing my daughter with me too. I'll send you my contact details in a personal message. It would probably be best to arrange something for later in the trip. You never know for sure how these things are going to turn out.
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Danny , never say you don't deserve a Woman like this . We all do , we just need to give back what we receive . That's where all the problems start . Selfish People will get what they deserve , good People like in our Brotherhood will get the equal of their Character , when the time is right .
What a lovely letter Danny , I would frame this one and whenever in doubt ... look at it . It that does not fix it , nothing will .
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Andrea , CONGRATULATION , I wish you and your wife all the best. It is really nice to hear that everything worked out for the best in the end, you found your soul mate. Please keep us updated.
Danny, I have felt some of the same things as you have, and I am sure many others here ( the BROTHERS) have also. There where times when I would also not feel appreciated or felt that she just didn't give a damn. I am a easy going guy and do not easily get upset, but sometimes my lady would do things that I felt where not normal for someone who is supposedly "in love" or does in a relationship. I will admit it, I have gone through my share of difficult emotional times, sometimes I just felt like giving up ! But I didn't, because I couldn't, this women has captured my heart like no other women has ever done, I was seriously and deeply in love with her. Sure we had our ups and downs but everything is working out, because of our commitment and love for each other. I am now happily married to my lady, this September we will be celebrating our one year of marriage. Danny I hope everything works out for you and your lady. If not, then there are other many good,wonderful,beautiful ladies in China.
To all my fellow brothers. This may be a little of topic but,..... Lets face it, everyone of us guys here are doing something that others just do not fully understand, our family members, our friends and co-workers just don't understand why we have chosen this path. In the beginning the questions they all have asked us,,"why do you seek a Chinese women"?,,,"what!, you are going to China!!are you nuts!!" " don't do it, she just wants a green card!" we all have heard this type of stupid responses from them all and more. But I know this, we have the courage that they do not have, we will go that extra mile to seek that special women. We have all had our share of ups and downs but we know the long journey is well worth it.
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Andrea , CONGRATULATION , I wish you and your wife all the best. It is really nice to hear that everything worked out for the best in the end, you found your soul mate. Please keep us updated.
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To all my fellow brothers. This may be a little of topic but,..... Lets face it, everyone of us guys here are doing something that others just do not fully understand, our family members, our friends and co-workers just don't understand why we have chosen this path. In the beginning the questions they all have asked us,,"why do you seek a Chinese women"?,,,"what!, you are going to China!!are you nuts!!" " don't do it, she just wants a green card!" we all have heard this type of stupid responses from them all and more. But I know this, we have the courage that they do not have, we will go that extra mile to seek that special women. We have all had our share of ups and downs but we know the long journey is well worth it.
Hi Bob, thanx dude. Ting is not my wife (yet), we are engaged since Juli 19th. But I think marriage will be soon, first I will meet her family in Hubei, guess that will be very exciting for me ... oh my ..
My plans are that I will travel to Zhuhai to be there at Aug 26. My B-day will be Aug 27, Ting wanted to celebrate that b-day with me, so I will travel early enough to Zhuhai to make that wish true.
So don't worry, I will continue that thread and keep yall posted how I perform :-))
Bob, my 2 cents to your last passage: I had no funny questions about the how and why a chinese girlfriend / future wife here in europe. All my friends congratulated and are happy for me, my family is happy and Ting is very welcome to her second future home. Even though it is my personal business with what girl I fall in love with. I was raised open minded. My mom took me back in the days all over the world (she is a designer and traveled a lot) and therefore I met all kinds of people and many different cultures up to today.
I never was in such deep love as it is with Ting. Maybe I am more mature nowadays and feel it a bit different. I feel so comfortable with her and feel her so intensive in my heart that I sometimes think it is my first real love. So whoever asks me why a chinese wife or whatever, my respond is: cause I looked out for the very special one, seeked her 20 years and finally found
her. I think it is a big win to have also that culture difference, it makes life colorful and this is what I want, always trying to advance myself. And for Ting it is the same. She meets the european culture and I will show her everything.
Funny is, chinse love stories seem to cross my life over here every day. I found out that a customer of mines has a girlfriend from china. She lives in Cologne and it is also a fresh love for them. He will travel with her to see her family in china. So there must be something about the chinese angels, right?
Andreas!
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Andreas
I will be expecting to see you around your birthday maybe just after. I will be travelling to UK next week but will be there only one week then back to Zhuhai.
I will catch up with you then - only in daytime as I will not keep yopu from Ting in the evenings. Do you have a cell phone number in China?
I send my best wishes to Ting and wish her well if she is to learn two new languages German ands English!!
Willy
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Andreas
I will be expecting to see you around your birthday maybe just after. I will be travelling to UK next week but will be there only one week then back to Zhuhai.
I will catch up with you then - only in daytime as I will not keep yopu from Ting in the evenings. Do you have a cell phone number in China?
I send my best wishes to Ting and wish her well if she is to learn two new languages German ands English!!
Willy
Willy,
no doubt we will meet when I come back to Zhuhai. I still have your cell digits in my book.
I do not have a chinese phone yet but will have to get one asap when I am there, also need to be reachable by my company partners / business, like I said, I also need to work while in Zhuhai. I'll let you know then. Maybe there's some kind of prepaid mobile phones like we got in the West.
Yes, Ting is going to english classes, I think 3 or 4 times a week. I will decide with her and see when it is best to learn for her german. I started to study mandarin, just received my first 3 month mandarin class package from the Hamburg academy for languages ... Want to be at least a little prepared to meet her parents and say some nices phrases:-) . The whole course will be 9 month, but I am positive with the help from Ting I will get it managed.
Thanks for the wishes to Ting, I'll tell her tonite when I meet her on qq.
Andreas!
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My experience with a phone bought in China is that I have no idea how it works and what it is telling me.
I bought a cell phone in UK and had it unlocked and just put in a Chinese sim card here - that way there is no mystery to it as everything is in English.
Willy
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My experience with a phone bought in China is that I have no idea how it works and what it is telling me.
I bought a cell phone in UK and had it unlocked and just put in a Chinese sim card here - that way there is no mystery to it as everything is in English.
Willy
This is what I do, I have my old motorola krazr phone that I do not use anymore. I will use that one for china and get me a SIM card.
Andreas!