China Romance
All About China => Share your love story => Topic started by: Nad on April 11, 2009, 11:03:22 pm
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Hi everyone,
I would like to introduce myself and share with you part of my love story with you on this forum. So here goes, my name is not Nad but I would rather leave it undisclosed for now. I am a 48 year old Aussie guy and live in Melbourne. My story begins in November last year when I stumbled across Chnlove by accident and joined up. I have always admired Chinese woman and the culture. After receiving a lot admiration letters I began talking to three girls two never married and one divorced and living in different parts of china. One of the girls was inconsistent with letters and we feel off, the other I keep on writing and we shared some 10,000 words and many pictures with each other. There was a third girl I began talking to and the Chinese new year arrived and I did not here from for over a month so I figured that she wasn't to interested. But there was some cracks beginning to appear in my relationship with my the girl I had regular correspondence with. So then on the 10th of January 2009 I get a admiration letter from my now GF and this is where the love story begins. :mrgreen: I was immediately attracted to here from her looks and how she introduced herself to me, but I did not reply to her straight away because she was outside of minimum age that I had been looking for. But I placed her in my favourites section, then after about two weeks of looking at her picture and wondering about her I decided to write her. She was obviously well educated by the way in which she wrote and able to express herself in an open and trustworthy manner I have read your profile carefully; your honest heart attract me deeply.
she has her on business in fashion and is always dressed so beautifully in her pictures. After about a month and a half of writing regularly I began to have some strong feelings for her and hided my profile. Since then things have gone from strength to strength, and we declared our feelings for each other, we have had a couple of downs and still sorted out the issues and continued our correspondence and we are planning to meet in September 2009 and we are discussing marriage as well. She is truly a wonderful person and I could not be happier with my life with her now and in the future and just the over day I received my first text message from her saying Thank you, I miss you very much. Take care
I was so happy to have received that from her. I do not want get into everything that we have spoken with each other, but I feel as a love story, it is a love story, to be open with you, I would be pretty devastated if we don?t take this to marriage, but one thing I have learnt over the years is that Love can deal out some blows, but to use her words I felt much happier than before. Love is a great power!!!
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Regards To All of you.
From NAD
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Beautiful story and congratulations! :D
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Hey Nad, sounds like you have found what you have looking for. Nice story and keep us up to date 8-)
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Nad, congrats bro. Have to let us know how things are working out for you. Its something special when you find the one!
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Nad , thanks for sharing that lovely Story with us . I would be sad if this could not end in a Marriage . It has element's of True Love in the early stages , so keep it going for both of you and maybe wedding bells will ring in the near future for both of you . Keep us updated please , how it's going forward . Best to you ... Mate .
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Nad, some statements you provide us here sound much like the translator has left the conversation and leaving it to her own. I'm glad things are going so well. Please use the 24hr rule if something seems to go arreye...
Ed
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Hi everyone,
Thanks for taking the time to read and reply to 'Our Story?. Yeah it's my honour to have met her, she is everything that I had been looking for. I guess it fair to say that she feels the same about me. We are both serious to the relationship and have always been open and honest to each other and admitted our sincerity to each other from our first letters. And just the other day I got my first Chinese history lesson about the Qing Ming festival, her explanation was just unbelievable, she is a very astute and articulated lady. I am a very lucky guy! :D to receive a lesson from such a beautiful woman, but if she didn?t write it she did as real good job of cutting and pasting it.
As is most of us we do find that the language barrier is problem, as I haven't spoken to her as yet, and I feel that we should do this as part of the natural progression. But she is reluctant to speak to me because she feels that it would embarrass her and I would lose face in her. I understand that is how she might feel that way but it wouldn't worry me in the slightest about that. So if any one as a suggestion on how I could better communicate to her I would be open to any suggestions.
I don?t think life can get any better at the moment.
Anyway regards from NAD
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Hahaha , 56 feeling like 18 ! I'm 56 and Qing makes me feel like 25 , but is working on making it 18 ! Hahaha
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Good on you Nad , from one Aussie guy [ Boronia ] to another , one does not have to send thousands of words at a time to exchange thoughts as they and the translators can get confused , I am using webcam plus a hello phone card and it is magic every night , my Qing over the last 6 weeks can now hold a simple conversation in English and she is teaching me Manderin , but I have to say she is doing better than I am haha .
Any queries you have don't hesitate to buzz me , I am also the membership secretary of the knox pwp group , Regards Robert .
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Hi Robert, Wow thanks for the offer to get in touch with you and I will look you up in the near future.(pwp) parents without partners? I live in Maribyrnong (inner west) if you haven't heard of it? and I have heard of Boronia! (lol)
I am happy for you that you have found someone that you can love and trust, and your reltionship sounds very established. I think its wonderful that you are communicating with each other and helping each other to learn the native language.I can see for myself that learning chinese won't be easy and I quess its just as difficult for the ladies too.
I got dearing last night and sent of a gift of flowers for her which should is scheduled to arrive their on Friday, so I am looking forward to see her excitement of recieving them. I did it all online via Chinaroses which I heard of from reading through the posts here and on Chnlove so I hope there is no address issues because it is a surprise for her, and not for any other reason than saying thanks to her and looking forward to the future. She recently told me about a dream she had that invloved me and flowers :) , so I thought it was a good time to lash out and send them to her. I thought that the price was reasonable cost a $50 au which included a return pic sent to my email account.
So I hope it all goes well.
Any way I hope that everyone is fit and well and it's been my pleasure to met you all ,thanks again.
Take Care
Alan.
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Hey Nad, great story. It sounds kind of like mine which I have yet to write. I agree with the others about the phone conversations. My lady was nervous about the idea of a phone conversation as well. I wrote some things to her in Chinese and told her that I only wanted to hear her voice and didn't care about the language. After a couple of requests she gave me her mobile phone number and our first conversation lasted almost an hour. Like Vince said we spend much of our time laughing and we still do. Be patient but gently nudge her and try to learn a little Chinese which should help. I consistently get letters overflowing with emotion regarding my quest to learn Chinese. I'm 56 and when I talk to my lady I too feel like I'm 18 again and so does she. What a beautiful thing that is.
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I am 58 and Angel makes me feel 16. (Not that I am trying to outdo anyone, that is what we really have been saying) We both laugh at that. She says the same thing at 41 she feels like this is her first love. I keep looking for a class ring and the drive in. I did give her my Marine Corps ring along with the engagement ring and there is a drive in movie about 1 hour from here. So we can go make out. Then head to the lake for the "Submarine Races" lol
I think that is one of the ways to know it is real. How she makes you feel when you are with her. When we are together she makes me feel like I am the most important person in the world.
You can read my Blog at http://jimssurrender.blogspot.com/
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Hi Everone,
Thanks guys for taking the time out to read my post here. I really appreciate it.( thanks Jim I have started to read your blog) I quess it is fair to say that this an emotional journey for us. Greater than anything I have ever experienced before. And I feel fair to say I had a few women in my life. But for some reason it feels differant. I dont know if it is the unkown ( not having meet her) and I am just stary eyed(because she is beautiful) or that this is a unique experince that not many of us get to have in our life. I am enjoying it (writing to her) and then getting her reply. But at this point in this journey(this is what we call it) the demons are starting to appear. I am thinking is she real? but I get the most loveliest letters from her. Does the translator realy write back to me and not my girl?.(I even get little notes from the translator wishing us well). I send her flowers which she received and thanked me for, but there was some sort of refusal to the picture I had asked(and paid for) to be taken.I know that I am at a crossroad and have to make a solid comittment to go and meet her and arrange a flight, but I cant go there to August. And in her last letter she says" We will be together sooner or later" So I can sense she is feeling the weight of this as well, and It is not just me. So I will write to her my feelings in my next letter so she can get to share her feelings with me. I know that if this journey is to go the full distance to marriage there is going to be more issues playing into this and I have too get real! Anyway I just wanted to vent and share this with you. Thanks for listening Alan.
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Alan give me a buzz sometime on 9800 5385 sometime after about 9.30 pm is fine as I am usually China talking 10.30 till 12.30 regards Robert .
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Hello everyone,
I thought I would write another part of ‘our story” as I haven’t written here for a while. During the past weeks my soon to be wife and I have been going from strength to strength. Gen (GF) had been away to her favourite holiday spot and sent me some lovely pictures while she was away. We shared some text messaging and this seemed work well with the help of Chn translator. But about two weeks ago I get a message in the middle of the night here saying "I give my email address to you can you please write to me here". So as soon I get it I write to her straight away. Since that day we have written to each other every day without fail, and I feel more in love with her now than when we were while chatting at Chnlove. The first week we just let out all feelings for each other. So this week I went ahead and booked my flight to China. I will be in Changsha in late August. We are both very excited about our first meeting and Gen even asked if we would marry in my first visit. I thought about it seriously and we agreed that we would have engagement if she accepted my proposal. So there is much to do now and I feel that I will be here more often as I go through the processes of getting Gen over here. I wish you all the same happiness that I have found with her she truly is a wonderful woman.
Bye from Nad
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Welcome to Changsha Nad.. It's a great city..
Peter
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Welcome to Changsha Nad.. It's a great city..
Peter
Thanks Peter. Do you live in Changsha now?
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Hi Nad,
which agency are you with? I am talking to a lady from the Mei Yin agency. I am going to Changsha in October. Congratulations on your relationship. Sounds good.
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Hi Nad,
which agency are you with? I am talking to a lady from the Mei Yin agency. I am going to Changsha in October. Congratulations on your relationship. Sounds good.
Hi Alex, we are with the Changsha Deeply Loving Matchmaking agency and we have been very happy with them, I hope that everyone can get the same level of service. What dates are you going to be in Changsha?
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I am going at the end of October, 24th to 31st. Peter is going in July to get married, at the same agency. I went in May, visited Yuelu mountain and the Hunan Provincial museum and made some lovely friends. You can read about my experiences, good and bad, in my thread, 'Long distance meeting between man and woman' Don't forget to visit your agency and let us know how it was.
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Hi Everyone,
Well I thought that I would share another part off our story. Its been a terrific couple of weeks with my Gen. As you may have noted from my earlier posts here that we were considering getting married. Well I have just asked Genquian to become my wife and she has happily excepted my proposal. So we will marry on my first trip to meet her in September. I am so happy to be siiting here and sharing this wonderful news with you. We are very happy, and tonight Sunday I rang her for the first time to ask her as well. Even though it was a little difficult to understand each other, the first words she says to me is " I love you" wow my heart just melted and I was smiling from ear to ear.
I really did not think that when I first registered at CHN love that I would be getting married nine months later. How life can change if you are willing to look for it. So if anyone has any advice for what I have to do now please let me know. Because I have got no idea as to what is going to happen to get her over here to be with me. I wish you all the happiness and successs that life has to offer each and everyone of us.
Bye for now NAD. (Alan) AU.
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Alan ( NAD ), for the information you are looking for and will need here are two web sites you should check out: http://visajourney.com/forums/index.php?act=home and the other site is: http://www.candleforlove.com/forums/ both have a lot of information and good people on them but, you will need thick skin sometimes with some of them.
Good luck and best wishes.
Ohh and CONGRATS!!!
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Alan , I also congratulate you on your Engagement to Gen .
But as I have read your overall Story and all the reply's from the brotherhood , not ones did you or anybody else for that matter , mention the Parent's of Gen . We here all know how important it is to win over the Parent's , before such move as to Marry will ever have a happy outcome .
I certainly don't want to rain on your happiness or bring your excitment down , just want to make sure you have taken care of that part too .
Wish you the best of course in your future Life with your Sweetheart .
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Best of luck Alan, great to hear another great story. Arnold raises a valid point, its not a done deal until the parents give their blessing, I'm sure it will be fine though.
Let us know how you get on, we will all be waiting every update with anticipation!
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Thanks a lot Guys,
Yeah the parents have been in the back of my head for some time, I regularly asked after her family in our correspondence. Just recently she commented that “they care about you too" (parents) however that does not give the approval required for marriage. I believe that they know about her being on CHN love because I asked her about that early on, I have sent her flowers to her home about 2 months ago, so I would expect that the parents know of my excistance, here is part of a recent letter sent by Qen " my parents urge me , my friends urge me , my relatives urge me , so that i want to get marry , it is my bottom words, i hope you can feel my heart". So what would you guys suggest I do about receiving the approval of the parents without ever meeting them? It is very difficult knowing how do go about that with the language barrier. I sometimes feel that she is not a very traditional Chinese lady, but I may be wrong about that ,however she does tell me that her parents are wanting her to get married. Looking forward to your suggestions on this matter.
Regards Alan
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That is a wonderful way to bring up the most important part ( her Family ) . Simple , direct , caring and there should be no problem to get the answer to this . Unless She keep's the Parent's in the background and that would not be good of course .
So Alan , if Mike don't mind just copy and paste his letter to your's .
Mike is starting to think like a chinese since wearing tang clothes . Haha
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Mike , I don't know ? I think Ireland lost one of his Countryman already to the chinese LING club .:icon_cheesygrin:
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Hi Guys,
Thanks Mike and Arnold for responding. Yeah good advice. I replied to Gen in a email today that is centred around getting approval from her parents, it is along the theme that Mike used here in his reply, so I wasn't lazy and just cut and past it, but I certainly thought about it. hehe.
I quess there is alot to consider if we are to be married in September, We are going to try to arrange it. At this stage I don't know how, but she is worth having ago to get something arranged. We are both trying to make happen. Has anyone been to a chineses wedding before, are they the big style wedding that seem to be the norm in the West? Or the quiet intimate type that I would prefer.
Regards
Alan
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In my last letter to Ke Ren I included a small introductory letter to her parents, and also to Peter 'our' son, she responded by saying they will like that, but I was to write in English and Yuki (Translator) would write it out for them.
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Hey fancy that, there are bloody Aussies everywhere. I'm from Brunswick West. Well that's a great story. Good on you!
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Hi Danny,
Glad to meet you! Thanks for your good wishes. I Live in Maribyrnong, not far form West Brunswick. Have you met a Chineses girl?. Feel free to get back in touch. There is another Aussie who frequents this site his name is Robert. Have you met him yet?.
Regards Alan.
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Hi Nad and Danny , looks like we need to have our own Dumplings meeting somewhere close to B'wick / M'yong , I am back over to Chongqing for engagement in mid August .
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Hi Nad and Danny , looks like we need to have our own Dumplings meeting somewhere close to B'wick / M'yong , I am back over to Chongqing for engagement in mid August .
Hi Robert,
How you going? yeah I would like to meet up with you, lets not talk about it, but do it. I have still got your number can I give you a call?
Regards Alan.
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...Has anyone been to a chineses wedding before, are they the big style wedding that seem to be the norm in the West? Or the quiet intimate type that I would prefer.
Regards
Alan
Alan...that is a question that can't easily be answered. In China, wedding differ from city to city, Province to Province. A lot depends on whether or not either of you have been married before.
At my wedding, we had 240 guests. This was considered a rather large wedding. Many people came that were not even invited, because I was the first foreigner to get married in her hometown, and they wanted to see a big white bald guy getting marred. We had a second smaller ceremony about a week later in the city that she lives in...and had about another 25 people there. This was her first wedding. You can see my blog by clicking here. (http://www.thechinesedumpling.blogspot.com) Look through the month of April to find my wedding details. Our wedding was in Hunan Province. If you want to see a wedding video to get an idea of what happens during a wedding ceremony, you can check out Nik's blog as well. Scroll down to the video. It is about an hour long. (http://feisnik.blogspot.com/) His wedding was also in Hunan Province.
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Very good Martin and now I can also see some of the others blogs to, thank you, really enjoyed it
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Please do Michael , I hate to see this Canadian Guy have more Follower's than myself . :@
Hey enjoy them all , there are all very good reading and a great learning experience . I think :huh:
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Yeah Arnold, we can not let those Canadians win at this too.
Man but I have a lot of reading to do on those blogs.:icon_biggrin:
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Hi Everyone,
Well I thought I would up date as to how things are going between myself and Gen. Well I am happy too announce that on September 26 th we will be getting married in Changsha on my first trip to China. After posting here last time and recieving some good advice from the brothers, mother and father have given their blessing and are happy for their daughter to marry with me. We are now into the planning stages and just today Gen informs me that after speaking to some of her old school mates and informing them that she is getting married in September to a foreigner( her words) he he, the wedding as gone from 50 people to 100, ( women!) haha. So anyway we are dicussing this more at the moment. She still writes to me the most lovely of letters and this just keeps on getting better. This part of one of her letters I would like to share with you. "your letter just like the cool juice in my heart , I love you ,my darling" how could I not marry someone that says things like that. It's going to be a busy two weeks in China!.
All the best From Alan
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Congrats Nad!, that promises to be a pretty amazing first trip!
Please keep us updated here on your progress, just love reading on the ground reports!
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Alan , happy for you as well . As for the September 26th , to pick for your Wedding ... great day , because that's also my wife's Birthday . If I have time on that day , I also will think of you and your Gen 's special Day . Good luck and don't let the Eyes wonder with all those Women at your Wedding .:dodgy: