China Romance
General Discussion and Useful Links => The Campfire => Topic started by: feisnik on September 27, 2009, 10:15:36 am
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She found no luck with some agencies, and has asked me to help her find a good man. I will share photos with sincere, interested, age-appropriate men here that are interested and email me for them at my username here at yahoo dot com.She speaks conversational English, so no translator is needed with her.
Here is who she is in her own words:
"I am a sincere girl who eager for love,I would rather be alone than be with the wrong person,
That's why I am single.
Although I am only 25 years old , But I am growing mature.
Personal growth is one of the best things we can do for ourself now because life is keep going on.
To find a right man, I pay attention to his thought and personality.
Maybe our thought changes as time goes by,but our personality(human nature) will never change.
I like the man possess a high level of self control, humble and respect woman.
He treats others like what he wants to be treated. He knows how to enjoy normal life.
I am a very spirit girl.Only when I feel the "true love" and "safty" from the man, And we have the same value and life goal, we are best friends,lover.. ,Then I can consider him as my life partner. Nothing else would be more important than these basis.We are all ordinary people, But love make us feel our combination can make us feel life is more beautiful.
Now let me introduce my life.
I was born and study in Fujian Province. I have a younger brother only 23 years old. He just graduated from Universtiy,now he is working as a international sales for a costume company.
Now I worked in Shenzhen city which face to Hong Kong,I have worked for 4 years,My job is a procurement in a private electronic trade company,My parents are still working,they are 48 years old.
I like travel,photography,nature...My personality is combind traditional and mordern mind and very family oriented, So I want to find a foreigner husband to share different mind and life.
Here I attach some photoes, to make you know my life better.
Best Wishes!
Lisa"
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Feisnik, good idea, can you add what age range she would be looking at and her birthday? For the astrology geeks like me, although she would be a bit young for me ...
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Nik I'm confused.What is Lisa's English ability?
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I will ask the info requested above. She wrote her description herself. Her English is not perfect, but she is at a conversational level, where she can communicate good in English by emails.
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Nik I think maxx means this - "She speaks conversational English, so translator is needed with her." ...it kinda contradicts itself.
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Yeah thats what I mean what the Irishman said.If she wrote that herself.That is pretty good English.So I'm thinking she doesn't need a translater
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My girl is the opposite - her spoken is better than her written English.
If it doesn't work out with my beloved this one sounds lovely, although teh age difference might be slightly too much.
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Oops! I meant NO translator is needed. My bad! Sorry about the confusion!
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28-38 is the age range she is looking for.
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Does she have an email address? It might be nice if some of us could write her as friends and pen pals, not only to inprove her english but also her english reading skills. I think it would be a nice way to learn more about the chinese way of life. I have one pen pal in Germany, and we will probably never see each other agian since our chance meeting, but we share all kinds of story's and email each other all the time. We have done this for years and have become close friend's because of it.
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Does she have an email address? It might be nice if some of us could write her as friends and pen pals, not only to inprove her english but also her english reading skills. I think it would be a nice way to learn more about the chinese way of life. I have one pen pal in Germany, and we will probably never see each other agian since our chance meeting, but we share all kinds of story's and email each other all the time. We have done this for years and have become close friend's because of it.
She does, but I would have to ask if she wants pen pals too. Let me add a real photo of her as a teaser.
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Very beautiful woman Nik, I'll talk with a few of my younger cousins and show her photo to them if they show interest, they say I have started a new family tradition when I married Zhou, and they see how she treats me and the family, now they are saying they would like to have wives like her, lol
By the way there are three of them and they are all between the ages of 30 to 36 years old.
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She has studio photos too, but like most of you, I prefer real, more candid photos. I will be protective of her, only good-hearted, honest men need to apply. :-)
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Man, if I were 20 years younger!!!! She is very pretty.
Shaun
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Same thoughts here shaun....;-))
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Wow. Is she still available?
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NO .... I saw her first .
On the other Hand , go ahead ... I busy with my Wife and two Sister's already .:angel:
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What about Josh?
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She is still available. Tell we why you deserve it, and I will pass you her contact info! :icon_biggrin:
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I asked because I am planning to go to Shenzhen early next year and work in China for several months (or years if it turns out to be good over there). She's cute, seems to be able to write English, and I meet the age requirement (30), so why not?:idea:
Seagull, go for it!!!!!!!!!!!
Shaun
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Great to see someone showing interest, she's a real cutie, why the heck isn't she snapped right up by a Chinese guy..are they all blind??? .
Fair play seagull, you do realise that if you treat her bad you wont just have Nik to contend with haha?, the brotherhood led by Don Willy will be after you!!
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Seagull , there is nothing wrong what your doing . I'm actually very happy that you are . I helped one of my two Sister's ( Lily ) with the Man she is quite happy with right now , and he is from Calif too . That would mean I get to meet Lily someday here . These Lady's
( like Nik's ) are good picking ... the Brotherhood know's or we wouldn't advertise them as good Lady's .
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Seagull,
Man you should have no shame at all writing here it the forum. I tell these guys everything that has happen with me. This group of guys is different than you everyday hot shot. We care about each other and the women we date and marry. So you shouldnt feel humiliated at all. If Nik hooks you up good luck, and stay true to her.
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Seagull,
Don't worry!!!! We'll accept you just fine and this is nothing to be embarrassed about.
Shaun
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See this is were I disagree with everyone here...And I am as MAD as HELL ABOUT THIS...:@
If the truth be told, what RIGHT has NIk to say "Tell we why you deserve it...". All he is, (and I'm sorry NIK), is a friend to this lady...
Does this mean that should SHE meet someone else 'HE' will want to VET HIM???:huh:
Do any of you brothers vet a friends admirer? I don't think so. I don't think you have the right to say or do this mate...Yes you can pass on his details because she may want to get in touch. BUT HOW DARE YOU PRESUME TO VET ANYONE LOOKING FOR LOVE... Whether this lady is your friend or not IT IS HER SOLE DECISION to choose for herself...:@
After what has happened to me with the lady I fell in love with through bloody letters and possible interference from others, WHAT did you expect me to say?....
Seagull all the best with your hunt I hope NOW that you've been VETTED, he has the decency to tell his lady friend all about you.
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Rob mate,
I see where your coming from on this. All I can say to you is my experience in this. My wife has a few friends here in Baoding that are looking for "western" husbands and asked me if I could help them. I thought about it for a while and even pm'd a couple of members. Oh and thanks Scott for the input. In the end I came to the conclusion that it's such a minefield that I would not get involved. To recommend someone to one of my wife's friends and that's what there asking me to do ,that I don't know is something I decided I could not do.I was interested in Nik's approach and thought I will watch this and see where it goes, could be the answer I was looking for
I think you have to cut the man some slack here, he's just doing his best to protect his friend from any potential scumbags that might be out there. What else could he do? There are quite a few members that are in the same boat with wives or girlfriends asking for help to find there friends husbands but so far no one here including myself have come up with a way of doing this. Maybe we should set up a lonely hearts section! Someone suggested joining Wilson's agency and maybe that's the answer. Like I said I do see your side of this Rob,but I see Nik's side too.
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I'll tell you what he could have done mate...He could have omitted 'Tell me why you deserve it...'
He could have said if anyone is interested PM me...
He could have said send me your profile number in an email or PM and I'll pass it on...
Mate at the end of the day I still think he had no right to say this whether he was looking out for a friend or not. You mentioned to me about the couple of ladies from your area that would be interested in me, yes...WILL you VET me? By asking WHY I DESERVE TO SEE THEM OR THEM TO SEE ME?
The decision that will be made is DOWN to the lady...NOT NIK...
Oh and btw, why haven't you PM'd me about Ming's result in her search....lol
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Like I said Rob it's a minefield out there this matchmaking lark!
Me vet you that's a laugh, a lad from Liverpool vetting a Scotsman there has to be a joke there somewhere!:icon_biggrin: At the end of the day even if you put two people together that are genuine and want the same thing there is no way of telling if they will hit it off or not. So yes it's up to them to make it happen and nobody else.
As for why no update from Ming Zhi, until you know where you stand with Keren I think it's best to put that on hold for everyone's sake.:icon_cheesygrin:
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Like I said Rob it's a minefield out there this matchmaking lark!
Me vet you that's a laugh, a lad from Liverpool vetting a Scotsman there has to be a joke there somewhere!:icon_biggrin: At the end of the day even if you put two people together that are genuine and want the same thing there is no way of telling if they will hit it off or not. So yes it's up to them to make it happen and nobody else.
As for why no update from Ming Zhi, until you know where you stand with Keren I think it's best to put that on hold for everyone's sake.:icon_cheesygrin:
Yes it is a minefield...
There must be a joke...
And I never thought of that...No well that's not completely true, I think I know in my heart it's done..so that's Why i mentioned it probably
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Nik I apologise about my outburst maybe I must still hurt...It's not like me to go off on one...lol
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Ok , I guess ... I must say " WHY " I took it on to find a good MAn for my Sister Lily , Which bty the way is working out great .
She has been with Chnlove for a good year and a half and her Profile is somewhere near the two hundredth page . Nobody ... I say Nobody will EVER look that far down the Lady's Profile's . So ? What chance does / did she have left to find somebody ? re-sign and Paying some more Money to the Agency , that could not find her a Man in the first place ? This is why I jumped in and (Since she is my Sister like capital SISTER ) and help her find somebody we both can trust . She now is as happy as can be . Should I feel bad about this , playing Match-Maker ? Hell NO !!! Match-making is as old as history as I can remember , so why would it al of a sudden be not Kosher anymore ?
Well , this is how I feel and I willl find somebody for my other Sister ( MIN ) someone also . if she needs my Help .
Ah , had to get this of my Chest . Sorry Guy's . Also , this is not aimed at nobody . It was brought up and I spoke my two cent's , that's all .
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Funny you said that arnold because I started from the back and went forward on my search.I figured i would give the ladies that have been there the longest a look.I always hated to be the last guy in line.Nothing wrong with finding someone a good man on here .Its just a matter of getting to know the brothers .Some dont say much they just read and try to catch up with everything.I am kinda new at this myself and I am still learning.I hope some of them jump in and get there feet wet.In the end I guess you either believe them or you dont.Its a good quality to help sisters out same as it is helping brothers out.Thats what I like about being here.
Your friend and brother Ron
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That's a great way of thinking Ron . Starting from the back . I sure never thought of that . In a way you are very RIGHT here . The front Pages are just EYE candy and sure that is where most of the not so honest Lady's / Agencies hide out .
Thanks for bringing this up , Ron .
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Ron
You should keep such VITAL secrets for us old guys...let the youngsters play with the eye-candy :icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin:
Just joking
DavidE
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I did all kinds of searches - by province, age, etc. and I like to think I saw most of the profiles on the site that were in my age range.
But I must admit the ones with profile refreshes usually catch the eye.
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Seagull, send me your contact information via a PM please.
Rob, she has asked me to vet and I used the smiley to show that I was having fun with my wording. I pass the vetting info on to her. Of course I am looking out for her.
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Thanks Josh. I read your posts. I am sorry to hear about what happened, but in the long run who knows, it could turn out to be one of the best things to happen to you. You seem like a great guy with a heart of pure gold and you will find a woman who deserves you some day for sure.
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SG, Thank you for reading my post. Well it is not completly over, I am still waiting on her visa interview. Even then I am still a fighter. I will fight for her love until she tells me it is completly over. Oh by the way since I have dated a younger chinese girl I have went through what you are about to jump into. So if you have any questions just ask.
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Woah, after reading through some of the posts I may have inadvertedly contributed to a bit of fiery discussion here. I hope I have not disrupted the harmony of the brotherhood. To be honest, I would probably "screen" a potential candidate myself so I can see Nik's point of view and why he did this and I take no offence to this. That said, I can also understand where Rob is coming from, that it really ultimately is up to the lady (and of course, the male) to decide where things go. Both sides of the coin have their merits here. I hope you can patch up your differences and I am sure we can all feel empathy for Rob's situation and why he put forth his argument.
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Seagull,
Seagull
No mate you have not disrupted anything, it's all good as far as I'm concerned and I'm positive Nik feels the same...:icon_biggrin:
A healthy discussion is good for all concerned, because it show that we are all passionate in 'our' beliefs, and want each and everyone in the brotherhood to succeed. As I said it was just the way I was feeling...
Thanks for your support in 'My' situation ...
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hello guys, I am the girl of this topic, I follow nik and find here. And I am very grateful for his help.
And I really like this forum ,it is different than other forum, because I can feel the deeply companionate brotherhood.And there are so many good western gentleman who eager and share the love here. It is honorable to join this big family which full of love. I will visit here more.
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Welcome chen yan really nice to have you here,hope you injoy your stay with us.
all the best vic.
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Yes welcome to the brotherhood, or should that NOW be Brotherhood/Sisterhood hahaha:icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin:
Yes Chen Yan, we are all a nice set of people on here. And as Mike mentioned it is good to get the ladies opinions on certain situations too.
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hello guys, I am the girl of this topic, I follow nik and find here. And I am very grateful for his help.
And I really like this forum ,it is different than other forum, because I can feel the deeply companionate brotherhood.And there are so many good western gentleman who eager and share the love here. It is honorable to join this big family which full of love. I will visit here more.
Welcome to the forum! I hope that you will find the one you're looking for. The guys here are all very friendly here.
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Yes welcome to the brotherhood, or should that NOW be Brotherhood/Sisterhood hahaha:icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin:
Yes Chen Yan, we are all a nice set of people on here. And as Mike mentioned it is good to get the ladies opinions on certain situations too.
Hi Rob,that's wired, I cann't find ladies here? Hopely I can share my opinion and be helpful here, that's why I registered.
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chen yan,
Apart from you, there are no other ladies here as such, only the wives of some of the married brothers that sometimes come here to read what's going on. I think that Paul Todds wife has registered as a member, and has written some posts on here too. Perhaps you can get intouch together on the PM at some time, and introduce yourself.... haha!!
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Ooooops i forgot about China Doll ...lol!!! Anyway welcolme aboard the roller coaster here..... lol!!
David.....
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Hello chen yan, nice to meet you ..... Welcome to this forum .....
there are times we can really use a lady's opinion...
It is ok for you to tell us what you think
Mike O.
Nice to meet you too mike,the forum is very big, I have to spent many time to know here better. I will share my opinion as much as possible,Hope brothers here donn't laugh at my English.:icon_cheesygrin:
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chen yan , also you can send China Doll a pm , I am sure she would be pleased to talk to you although she has only a little English , regards Ying and Robert .
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Welcome chen yan really nice to have you here,hope you injoy your stay with us.
all the best vic.
Thank you victor !
chen yan , also you can send China Doll a pm , I am sure she would be pleased to talk to you although she has only a little English , regards Ying and Robert .
Is China doll your wife? I am glad tp know her,I think we can talk in mandarin
chen yan,
Apart from you, there are no other ladies here as such, only the wives of some of the married brothers that sometimes come here to read what's going on. I think that Paul Todds wife has registered as a member, and has written some posts on here too. Perhaps you can get intouch together on the PM at some time, and introduce yourself.... haha!!
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Ooooops i forgot about China Doll ...lol!!! Anyway welcolme aboard the roller coaster here..... lol!!
David.....
Thank you David, I would like to knwo them and hear their stories.
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Hello chen yan, nice to meet you ..... Welcome to this forum .....
there are times we can really use a lady's opinion...
It is ok for you to tell us what you think
Mike O.
Nice to meet you too mike,the forum is very big, I have to spent many time to know here better. I will share my opinion as much as possible,Hope brothers here donn't laugh at my English.:icon_cheesygrin:
chen yan ....
I do not think anyone will laugh at your english .... and you are welcome to post in Chinese if you prefer ... we will work to understand you.
as you read stories here you will get to know us as real people...
I hope you enjoy it.
Mike O.
Hello Mike, here I sent you a simple greeting today.Now I have time to come here to walk around and read some intersting comments, Here indeed attract me.
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Greetings and a very warm welcome chen yan!
You have a lovely name and a beautiful face and, from your words, a sincere and gentle heart. And I deeply wish that you find the Love, Joy and Peace you extol in your signature theme. Have no fear that people will laugh at your English - that simply will not happen - and I am quite sure that in a very short time you will be overwhelmed with requests for Mandarin translations! Do not say I have not warned you!!!
Your coming is as refreshing as a springtime breeze.
Enjoy your walk around...........
John
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Chen , to add to the List of chinese Lady friends ... ones my Wife get's here , I will have her join here and I'm sure she will enjoy to make new friends here . She does read our Forum ( when she finds the time ) , but is too shy ... with so many Men . But , she will feel quite comfortable getting to know all the Lady's here .
If I didn't Welcome you here yet ... I apologize , hope this will be of more help to you on finding a GOOD Man ... then the Agencies have given you .
Shanghai MiFeng
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Hello Chen Yan
Yes, welcome to the Brotherhood, maybe that should be Familyhood now (actually, is that a word?) Although, i now believe you are talking to one of our brothers, (i wish you both good luck with the relationship) I have always thought it could be a good idea if friends of our 'brothers' or their wives friends who are looking for love should join this forum, as many of us have not had much success with various agencies. This way we know the people here, are genuinely looking for love and are not here to play games or for any other untrustworthy reasons. Maybe we could start our own Dating Site within this forum, where the single ones amongst us, male or female could put their profiles up? I'm not sure what anyone else thinks of this? Well enjoy your time here, and all the best.
Andy....
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Hello Chen Yan
Yes, welcome to the Brotherhood, maybe that should be Familyhood now (actually, is that a word?) Although, i now believe you are talking to one of our brothers, (i wish you both good luck with the relationship) I have always thought it could be a good idea if friends of our 'brothers' or their wives friends who are looking for love should join this forum, as many of us have not had much success with various agencies. This way we know the people here, are genuinely looking for love and are not here to play games or for any other untrustworthy reasons. Maybe we could start our own Dating Site within this forum, where the single ones amongst us, male or female could put their profiles up? I'm not sure what anyone else thinks of this? Well enjoy your time here, and all the best.
Andy....
Wills... That's the same sort of idea that I had when i asked Chen Yan in another thread, about her friends who were also looking for western Husbands...
Great minds think alike mate;-)):icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin:
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Great, so the new China love dating site now contains myself and Rob, So Rob, do you fancy going out for dinner tonight sweetheart? :icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin:
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Great, so the new China love dating site now contains myself and Rob, So Rob, do you fancy going out for dinner tonight sweetheart? :icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin:
Ok honey, :blush: but your not having your wicked way with me, unless you get me drunk!!!:angel:
By the way I drink VODA AND COKE....hahahaha:icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin:
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What do you mean, unless i get you drunk? Is there is such a thing as a sober Scotsman?? :icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin:
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Andy,
Do we really have to explain this to you?
Instead of calling us Familyhood why don't we just say Da Hood! :icon_cheesygrin:
Shaun
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Ok, so she is single again guys, so speak up if anyone is interested in chatting up this marvelous, beautiful, special lady.
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:heart: I left her alone since she was talking to someone else at the time. Now that she's single, there is no stopping me. :heart:
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Go Reg Go!!!!!!
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you da man...
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Guys,
No disrespect, but Chen Yan is not a piece of meat to be passed around... I know we poke fun at a lot of things, but please show her SOME respect at least? :angel:
I do hope she does find her special someone here...
Chen Yan: Please excuse the children. And good luck on your search!
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Chen Yan, or can I just say Chen, I had an idea that perhaps it might be helpful if you want to invite your single friends to log in here, and perhaps Vince can start a thread for women on here. It would be refreshing to talk to and hear their opinions also. All I ever get to talk to here are guys and even though they are great to talk to, they don't have a womans point of view (well a couple I wonder about -- ha ha). I for one would love to see pictures of china posted on here. So please feel very welcome here, I look forward to hearing from you more often.
Don (rockycoon)
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Well said Mustfocus; Chen Yan is obviously a very special person and I, like you, hopes that she finds her special someone - either here.........or somewhere else.
I wish you well in your quest Chen Yan!
"It is better to travel hopefully than to arrive." (Robert Louis Stevenson)
Johnboy
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No disrespect intended here as I think she is quite a woman.
Chen if you are offended, please accept my apologies. I only wanted to encourage Reg to make contact with Nik.
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shame on you shaun....haha go stand in the corner for an hour....snicker
peggy should spank you....but you'd probably enjoy it.....haha
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Yes to 2nd line... No to the first line... Don't feel it... wont do it...
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Brothers, I was the guy previously writing to Chen Yan. It did not work out not because of personal reasons, but because I cannot go to Shenzhen like I planned to. I wanted to go there and that was my first choice, but could not find work and instead have been offered a job in Qingdao on the other side of the country. Whether or not I accept it, who knows. Chen Yan is a pretty, intelligent, independent girl with a strong character and good values...good luck to both her and the Chnlove brother in finding love.