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Title: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on November 20, 2009, 08:57:53 am
I want to start this Thread , to report my Wife's arrival to America (with some photo's of course ) and keep you all updated somewhat ... if she ever let's go of Me that is . :heart:
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Post by: Scottish_Rob on November 20, 2009, 09:20:06 am
arnold I will be one of the happiest guys on here for you tomorrow...All the very best mate to you both...And don't let her work and slave all day hahaha:icon_cheesygrin::angel:
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Post by: Arnold on November 20, 2009, 09:27:43 am
I appreciate that Rob . You know .. I'm DOUBLE happy .. as I see your doing so well with Anne . You are the one deserving it the most on our Forum .
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Post by: Andy on November 20, 2009, 10:18:34 am
It must be exciting times. I wonder how does it feel to wait for your wife to arrive at the airport. I would be your camera man, but I hate LAX. I wish you all the best.
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Post by: JimB on November 20, 2009, 10:33:23 am
Me too Arnold.  I hope everything goes even better than planned.  I will be anxiously awaiting your updates to see how your beautiful laopo gets adjusted to life here.  It will be very informative.
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Post by: shaun on November 20, 2009, 12:17:14 pm
Same here Arnold, all the best for the both of you...

Rob, sorry, but I will be a little bit more happy than you! :icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin:

Shaun
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Post by: Arnold on November 20, 2009, 12:48:29 pm
Thanks Guy's . As my Uncle and Aunt also will be welcoming Qing , they will take photo's for us .. I'm sure . Somebody also has to watch Qing's carry-on's , as she is loaded down like myself on my Trip return's . haha
No No No , she will NOT have to clean house .. at least not the first Day .:angel:

A little up-date from this morning . I called my Wife ( about 22:00 her time ) to see how she feels ? She told me , after her Dad's birthday Dinner last night , she could hardly sleep .. from being excited but also very nervous at the same time . I realize , moving away from Family and her Son must be the hardest thing she has ever done herself or for anybody for that matter ... including a Husband . I told her to look at it , like she is going to Visit me instead for a looong Vacation .. to see how she likes it her . Of course I'll do my best ... to help her with that big change in her Life . I know .. how I felt going to China the first time , this got to be much much harder on her . I also know , that our Love will conquer this hardship .. as a Team . Anyway , tomorrow will be one of my greatest day's in Life for sure , hope it will be equal for my Sweetheart .
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Post by: markymark on November 20, 2009, 04:46:14 pm
she could hardly sleep .. from being excited but also very nervous at the same time .

Hey Arnold, guess we know someone else who feels the same way :icon_cheesygrin:

So happy for you and Qing being together at last.
Regards and best wishes

Mark
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Post by: David E on November 20, 2009, 05:05:11 pm
Arnold

I think Winston Churchill once said.....(although, in a different situation !!!):

"This is not the beginning of the end...but it is the end of the beginning "!!!

A whole new life waits you two...enjoy :):)

DavidE
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Post by: zook144 on November 20, 2009, 05:24:59 pm
So happy for you Arnold! So how long did all this take to get your lovely wife here? That would be counting tomorrow.
Don
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Post by: Arnold on November 20, 2009, 07:15:01 pm
Thanks again everybody . Qing will sure appreciate all the well wishes for a Happy Life together .

Don , on the 25th of this Month ... it is exactly two year's I fisrt made contact with Qing . Out of those two year's , I spend 53 day's with her in China . Think it was tough ?:-/
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Post by: Vince G on November 20, 2009, 07:51:43 pm
Get the digs in now. As of tomorrow we won't be hearing from Arnold for I bet, a full 7 days? :icon_biggrin::s
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Post by: Arnold on November 21, 2009, 12:23:34 am
Hey Mike is it 10:30 am yet ? :icon_cheesygrin:
Got my House clean , Car washed , 12 Girls Band in the CD player , buy Roses in the morning , go to Airport two hour's early ( not to be late ) ... am I missing something ? Oh , get some darn sleep before . I'll try ... I'll try .
Now where did I put Willy's shipment :blush:
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Post by: Rhonald on November 21, 2009, 12:25:15 am
I am tooting my horn for you and Qing - happy arrivals :icon_biggrin:
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Post by: Willy The Londoner on November 21, 2009, 12:54:53 am
That has been a long long journey.  Two years - I was almost middle aged when you started out.

Have a great time.

Willy
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Post by: Rhonald on November 21, 2009, 02:50:30 am
Quote from: 'Willy The Londoner' pid='23554' dateline='1258782893'

That has been a long long journey.  Two years - I was almost middle aged when you started out.

Have a great time.

Willy


Yes once Middle aged during the Middle ages but now the Viagra poster boy is living in the Middle Kingdom :icon_arrowu:
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Post by: Brian Mc on November 21, 2009, 08:45:40 am
Greetings Brothers,

Arnold ,

Zhen and I would also like to add our congratulations.  I know you will soon be heading to the airport so just remember to have someone else drive you home and stop pinching yourself to make you wake up.  The dream is just starting so let it run its course.

We are so happy that this day has finally arrived for both of you.  Good luck in your new lives as a married family and remember we are all here for you if needed and you are of course obligated to post the pictures at the earliest opportunity.

Best wishes,

Zhen and Brian
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Post by: Arnold on November 21, 2009, 08:34:18 pm
Well Guy's , while Qing is taking a shower ... I have some time to let all of you know ... she made it sound and safe into my Arms this afternoon . Her Flight was due at 10:30 am ( Eastern China Airline ) , so I arrived at LAX about 09:30 and went to check to see if the Flight was on time . Which it was . I then , went on top of the Parking Building to see her Plane come in for a Landing and take some Photo's . Four minutes after 10:00 am I see a Eastern China plane come in , but thought it can't be Qing's .. as it would be too early . So , I went down to check the Arrival Board and it told me .. her flight still had not come in yet . So up tpo the roof top I went  again and by that time my Aunt and Uncle joined me , also to take Photo's . We waited till 10:45 ... nothing ? My Uncle went down by himself to check again the Arrival Board and it still said no Plane with Qing has landed yet . I decided to go down and see for myself and sure enough the Plane at 10:04 was her Plane and it arrived early , but the Board never mentioned it . That is lousy LAX for you . I hate that Airport . But then while waiting for her to show up at the meeting place , again nothing till 12:45 . This got me worried that she might have trouble with the Immagration People ? I went to the Info Counter and ask about this , they said go figure two hours today till she will come into View . Well they were a little off , two hours and 45 minutes to check out and pick up your Luggage ? Crazy .

Will after having Lunch at a Mexican Restaurant , we went to her new Home and she was very much in Love with it . We un-packed two of her three Suitcases and will call it a day ... as the night is still ahead and she is after all pretty tired . this is it for today .
Some Photo's of today .
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Post by: Chong on November 21, 2009, 08:54:00 pm
Congratulations Arnold & Qing,

This was the day you two have been waiting for. It finally happened. :icon_cool:
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Post by: Scottish_Rob on November 21, 2009, 08:58:03 pm
Yes mate thanks for your updates...It has been a pleasure getting to know qing.  Have a happier life now:icon_biggrin:
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Post by: zook144 on November 21, 2009, 10:46:00 pm
Congratulations Arnold and Qing!! Enjoy your new life together:heart:

Don
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Post by: rcsingle1 on November 21, 2009, 11:31:25 pm
All the best to the two of you. Good to see both of you finally together!!
My adventure with meeting Hong starts in 2 weeks, and I pray that it will have the happy ending like yours.
Congratulations!!
:icon_biggrin:
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Post by: shaun on November 21, 2009, 11:57:08 pm
Arnold,

All's well that ends well.     But wait... it does not end... it only gets better.

Congratz and many more wonderful days ahead.

Shaun
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Post by: maxx on November 22, 2009, 12:09:29 am
Congradulations Qing and Arnold.Now the real adventure starts.Best wishes

Maxx
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Post by: Vince G on November 22, 2009, 12:20:52 am
Well I had a smile on my face reading this and I don't know why? I guess I'm happy for you both. So here's something the rest didn't say...

Qing, Welcome to America
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Post by: Neil on November 22, 2009, 01:22:54 am
Congratulations to you both.  I hope you have a wonderful, happy life together.  Don't forget about us now that the adventure is over.  Like Maxx said, now the real adventure begins.
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Post by: markymark on November 22, 2009, 01:58:16 am
Hey Arnold, happy to see that Qing made it into your arms at last, you can pinch yourself and know it is not a dream but now a reality, excellent news! Congratulations Qing and Arnold wishing you every success and happiness.
Mark.
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Post by: shaun on November 22, 2009, 07:20:03 am
Quote from: 'Vince G' pid='23676' dateline='1258867252'

Well I had a smile on my face reading this and I don't know why? I guess I'm happy for you both. So here's something the rest didn't say...

Qing, Welcome to America


Yea, What Vince said!!!  :icon_cheesygrin:

Vince, I'll talk with you later! :@:icon_cheesygrin:
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Post by: Irishman on November 22, 2009, 08:30:37 am
Super news Arnold, so very happy for you and your beautiful wife, may you have many happy years together.
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Post by: Scottish_Rob on November 22, 2009, 08:34:54 am
Qing I am so sorry about that...Welcome to the Uk...oooppppssss:icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin:
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Post by: JimB on November 22, 2009, 10:13:06 am
Arnold, you know she is too good for you.  So, thank your lucky stars everyday.  Just like I do.  I know you will help chronicle this new adventure for us.  So thank you. And Yes, Welcome to the USA Qing.
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Post by: David5o on November 22, 2009, 11:22:04 am
Arnold,


It Aways Starts,
When She Sinks Into You Arms,
And Always Ends,
With Her Arms In Your Sink!!!.....

All the best to you BOTH, .....It is only now, that your marriage Actually Begins!!! ....

David....
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Post by: Arnold on November 22, 2009, 11:44:45 am
Thanks to all , it means a lot to us both .
Well , as you see .. we made it through our first night at our Home in the Valley . We are going to have Breakfast with my closes Neighbor in a moment , want to post a couple more Photo's before .
I thought I was in Heaven before ... now I know I am .:heart::heart:

Her Plane arriving
Never too far from Shanghai
Qing the Flower with some of equal , with Shanghai Volkswagen .
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Post by: Vince G on November 22, 2009, 12:14:15 pm
OK Arnold three things with the last photo. :huh:

First, what is the chinese writing say on the back of your car?
Second, Your a VW mechanic and you drive a Toyota?
Third, I don't see a ring on that finger? Not the ring finger anyway.
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Post by: Rhonald on November 22, 2009, 12:18:58 pm
Arnold the prettiest flower is holding the flowers :icon_cheesygrin:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H67ZB1gaggA
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Post by: Chet Sams on November 22, 2009, 01:24:27 pm
I figure Arnolds car would have been a VW/ Baja modified. With thumper written in the back window. But a toyota. Old man is delusional.
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Post by: Andy on November 22, 2009, 06:18:46 pm
Can't imagine how did you feel when your lovely wife finally got through the immigration. Almost three hours wait, that is LAX for you. At least you do not have to go the airport for a while. I hope you keep us updated even after you have accomplished a great goal. Welcome to California!
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Post by: Peter on November 23, 2009, 12:49:55 pm
Arnold will not update for another week or so....

Great news Arnold and be happy together..
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Post by: shaun on November 23, 2009, 01:58:01 pm
Quote from: 'Peter' pid='23793' dateline='1258998595'

Arnold will not update for another week or so....

Great news Arnold and be happy together..


Peter,

What do you mean?  Do you not know that man cannot live by woman alone? He has got to tell a friend every now an then. :icon_cheesygrin:

Shaun
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Post by: Sylvain D on November 23, 2009, 05:06:23 pm
Hi there, Arnold.
I am very happy that Qing is now with you.
For sure, things may be very different for her, but ... for sure, too, it is a new life, beginning for both of you.
By the way, sorry to not have been here for a long long time... but I'll post about it in another thread.

All my best wishes to you and Qing, and, maybe...see you later IRL? ^^'
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Post by: Arnold's LaoPo on November 23, 2009, 10:03:23 pm
I am very happy to join the Forum.I like to thank the all the members to be so Nice and so kind for all the wishes for me and my Lao Gong.I am very happy  finally to be together with my Bee in America.
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Post by: mustfocus on November 23, 2009, 10:10:39 pm
Quote from: 'Arnold's LaoPo' pid='23836' dateline='1259031803'

I am very happy to join the Forum.I like to thank the all the members to be so Nice and so kind for all the wishes for me and my Lao Gong.I am very happy  finally to be together with my Bee in America.


?? Qing,

Thank you for joining the forum and making Arnold a very happy man!  Through this forum we have seen his love for you and hope that now you are in the US, you will make a very happy couple!
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Post by: Ming Zhi on November 23, 2009, 11:18:44 pm
???????????????????????????????????????????:heart::heart:

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Post by: shaun on November 24, 2009, 12:15:38 am
Qing,

Welcome to America and the happy life you and Arnold will have with each other.

Arnold you lucky man.

Shaun
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Post by: Johnboy on November 24, 2009, 03:09:08 am
Welcome to the Western world Arnold's Laopo Qing! I wish you and your Lao Gong Arnold all the happiness and joy that life has to offer.

Do not be hesitant in joining our Forum - we await your words of feminine Chinese wisdom.

Arnold, may I remind you that you owe me a dinner for setting me up over Andy's age!  I don't do Macdonald's but Qing's delicious Chinese dishes will more than compensate for the embarrassment you caused me. Hahaha:blush:

Enjoy each moment with each other - and take kindly of the gifts of life. Ah, love is such a wonderful thing......:heart:

Johnboy
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Post by: JimB on November 24, 2009, 10:38:57 am
Ni hao Qing, welcome to the USA and the forum.  As has been said Arnold is crazy in love with you.  You are all he can talk about.  I told him to be thankful because he is one very lucky man to have found a woman such as yourself.  I hope to meet you someday.  When my wife gets here, i am going to take her on a motorcycle tour of the US.  Hopefully we can meet then.
Jim & YunXiang aka Mrs. Burk
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Post by: ttwjr32 on November 24, 2009, 11:13:07 am
welcome to the forum and welcome to the usa.
best wishes to you two from Sisi and Ted in
 Guangzhou China
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Post by: Arnold on November 24, 2009, 11:42:53 am
Guy's , whoever Qing and I would have the chance to meet ..whould be such a great thing . We are all brother's with the same goal . After meeting Jo-Ma and Sly in Person .. I'm definitely looking forward of meeting many more if possible .

Anyway , believe it or not .. I did have to use Maxx's 24 Hour rule already :icon_cheesygrin: As I am a very neat Person about pretty much everything and I'm like picking up after many things .. but realize not everybody is the same and she is still very nervous in a very new place for her . I know , I need to be very careful before acting or saying things I might feel sorry/bad for afterward's .

Otherwise , it is total Heaven . We even did do our first Grocery Shopping at a big Asian Market in the S.F. Valley . I could see Qing's face light up and I call it now the Happy Market for her . Tomorrow it's to my Uncles house for Thanksgiving ( a day early ) . She will meet many of my Cousin's there .

Forgive Qing , if she is not yet very comfortable with posting ( she is shy about this ) but it should get better soon , as we are going to install Chinese version into my Computer , so she also can write to Mama and Baba in Character's .

Hope all else is still going great with everybody else , as I don't have the time right now to keep up with it all .
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Post by: Arnold on November 25, 2009, 01:53:55 pm
Hahahaha ... had a good laugh yesterday , as we both decided to go Chinatown here in LA . Of course it's about 65 miles from my House , but as Qing found out already .. the very need for a Car here . Everything is soooo far ! Anyway , we arrived in Chinatown around noon and of course I alway's thought of it ... well pretty nice to take her there . But , after spending a few hours and a nice late Lunch of some Dim Sum and going to buy many more Item's for Cooking ( Sauce's , Rice Cooker , Steamer ect. ect. ) we were ready to head Home again . This is .. when I looked her Qing and ask her how did you like Chinatown ? She said " It's soooo small " only one Street !! I had to laugh out loud , she though it would be most likely be like ... well a little Town by itself . But , being among her own kind and talking to many ( which are mostly from HK or Guangdong area ) so mostly Cantonese which she does not speak . But at the Place we had Lunch , I could practise my Mandarin and both the Waiter and my LaoPo where impressed as both understood me for a change .:icon_cheesygrin:
So today , it's off to my Uncles House to meet many of his Kids and my Cousins for Turkey Dinner . I know .. Thanksgiving a day early ? But that are Germans for you , like Oct.fest in Sept. ... why wait ???
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Post by: David5o on November 25, 2009, 02:37:20 pm
Arnold,

I'd be a little careful about going round picking things up and what have you, especially at such an early stage.... Qing could quite easily think, that she is not good enough for you and a bad wife!!!

This is going to be a difficult time, being together 24/7/52/365 but also FUN too!!.... This is now the real thing, and nothing like the short trips that you have both been used to. A lot of learning on both sides to go through, and of course Qing is in a totally strange environment so cut her a little slack.

 I know what it's like, as i'm a lot like you, i basically like everything neat/tidy and everything in it's place. But i realised quite early on, the house isn't mine anymore, ...It's OUR house!!
So don't worry about it too much, because everything eventually comes round to a feel good situation where your both happy with your surroundings... honestly!!  hahaha!!

As i said before, this is where your marriage really starts, ....the vacation is over!!  hahaha!!

David.....
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Post by: chen yan on November 26, 2009, 01:51:48 am
Arnold and Qing,It is so happy to hear the good news,when you two stay together,it looks so harmonious. Happy thansgiving day to you all!
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Post by: Arnold on November 26, 2009, 01:01:43 pm
Thank you Chen , for your kind words .

David , your obsolutely right and I realize that of course .. this is now .. well , what I came here for Qing came here for . To share a Home together and make it the Home we both are comfortable and cozy in . One just needs to take it one day at a time , but look at the long term ... so for it to work in both our favour . It is truely a Dream come true though , the way she takes care of me in many little details .. even though she is going through this large change herself .
I include some Photo's form Chinatown visit and Thanksgiving Dinner at my Uncles House .

HAPPY THANKSGIVING EVERYBODY !!!
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Post by: Irishman on November 26, 2009, 01:08:23 pm
You had baozi at your uncles house for thanksgiving?
Nice pictures Arnold, one day I hope to live the dream like you are now, I will have to live it vicariously though you for the moment!
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Post by: Chong on November 26, 2009, 01:31:50 pm
So SiFu,

What does Qing think of "America" so far ???
How does the Chinese food compare to back home for her tastebuds ???

Happy Gobble Gobble Day    :icon_cool:
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Post by: Sylvain D on November 26, 2009, 05:13:58 pm
Many thanks for the photos shared, Arnold, and happy thanksgiving to you and Qing :)
Well, I'm laughing a bit too (sorry) because of your story in Chinatown ^^
By the way, I'll be in Beijing in February, I think you'll not be there because busy somewhere else :D
I'll use your contact there, and I hope my photos could be like yours :)

Oh, how is Qing by now, in U.S.A? will she train to drive a car? :)
Anyway, I'm really happy you're together forever, right now :)
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Post by: kenny on November 26, 2009, 05:50:21 pm
Hi Arnold,

Congradulations to you and Qing!

I am curious about Chongs question too, how does she like it so far? She may have never had a thanksgiving dinner like that right? I asked Linda about this and she has never eaten turkey. Anyway i wish you both all the best!

Kenny
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Post by: Arnold on November 26, 2009, 08:19:33 pm
Quote from: 'Chong' pid='24077' dateline='1259260310'

So SiFu,

What does Qing think of "America" so far ???
How does the Chinese food compare to back home for her tastebuds ???

Happy Gobble Gobble Day    :icon_cool:


Chong , in her own words .. she loves America so far . The only Chinese Food so far was at Chinatown for Lunch in the Photo and Qing ( and I ) thought it was excellent Dim Sum as good as in Shanghai .

Sly , she will need to learn how to drive at some point ... but slowly . I will let her go her OWN speed .. so to speak .

Kenny , yes it was her first big Turkey Dinner with all the fixing's . Also , not use to seeing so many Family member's ( all my Uncle's kids and grandkids ) on one Table . Seven kids most with Husband or Wife , 13 grandkids and us two . Quite a sight for Qing , coming from a chinese Family of two children at her time (60's) .

So now over to my Neighbor's house for round two . haha
Mexican Family's are pretty large also , so it should be of no surprise ... except if all the Dancing start's afterward's ?
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Post by: Martin on November 27, 2009, 01:05:17 am
Arnold...sorry for the late entry here, but I was too busy seeing someone else, to read this forum.  Congratulations to you and Qing.  It has been a very long road for both of you, but you have finally made it to the end of this road.  Now you find yourself on an even better road...this one has room for the two of you to walk together.
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Post by: Arnold on November 27, 2009, 03:04:44 am
I also thank you for a wonderful Blog'ing of your second Trip with Allison . Being apart from your Wife is one of the hardest things we must endure ... but it is a small price to pay for such wonderful Wife's / Families . The few weeks we get to spend with them before coming together finally , does mean so much more afterward's .. as we got to share the good and the not so good right from the beginning , only to make us so much stronger as a Couple . This is "something" special that only us here , looking for these long distance relationships can experience . Takes our appreciation level one step higher , than any other relationship . That is a great thing to start any Marriage .

The second part of the Turkey Fest was a total success . As my Neighbor is not only like a brother to me , but now Qing also knows WHY I have alway's claimed that from him . She really has won the heart's of my neighborhood and was welcome with open arms by all . Deep down .. I knew she would .
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Post by: Arnold on November 29, 2009, 01:22:48 am
Today , was Washing and Mopping/Vacuuming day . As Monday comes near ( first day back at work for me ) I had to show Qing all the Tools of those chore's around the House . She now knows pretty much where everything is , that is of any importance . After doing our Cleaning together of the House , we went to Visit my Friend and his Wife that came to our Wedding in August from Washington State . They had moved back down here , because they were tired of all the Rain up there . After that nice meeting again , we decided to Cook our first Shanghai Dinner together . As she cooked and I kept up keeping most the Pans and other dishes clean as it went along , it was amazing how she whipped us Dinner on the Table . I tell you , it was just like eating her Dad's cooking . Delicious !!!
I had a look outside , to double-check if I was not in Shanghai .:icon_cheesygrin:
It is great to get the close-up's of how they do the magic they do . Tomorrow , I will start to get her familiar with the Car she will use to learn how to drive here in the States . But not to the driving itself , as the Neighborhood is not fore-warned yet .:icon_cheesygrin:
So far , it has been a wonderful week together . What I need to do next , is get more chinese style dishes to suit her needs more . Not that I need to , but I want to for her .
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Post by: JimB on November 29, 2009, 10:17:26 am
Of course she won their hearts.  She just needs to be herself.  Did you show her where the washer and dryer were?  No more washing in the sink.  She must have been thrilled.
 I think the speed of the car will probably frighten her at first.  At least in Beijing when on the expressway they do not go that fast and in the city of course the traffic.  I think it is a good thing to let her have her own pace at that.  Plus if she did not drive in China she will not have a lot of bad habits to break.  That is what i told Mrs. Burk.  She was thinking of learning to drive before she came but I told her no. I mean she let me tell her no. lol.  Keep up the thread, it is interesting for us to learn.  Thank you for being open about it all.

Mr. & Mrs. Burk
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Post by: Arnold on November 29, 2009, 12:01:35 pm
Quote from: 'JimB' pid='24217' dateline='1259507846'

  Did you show her where the washer and dryer were?  No more washing in the sink.  She must have been thrilled.


Haha Jim , she still does her " Special " garments in the Sink .. every night before going to Bed and I watch her from the Bed doing it . I feel kind of sorry for her at that moment , as she really get's down to really clean them . It is of course do to the Hygiene , to put these with other (regular) clothes to wash . That makes a lot of sence to me also , she is right there and I'm not going to say Stop that . I did the Bed this morning and was she shocked how fast I did that . :angel:
Well , out for Breakfast now and with the Car she'll be using . She has never driven in Shanghai , yes ... that does help alot ... as to start from scratch . Good point you had there Jim . What my driving concern's , I'm passed my Speeding day's , 75 is top's for me . If she feels any way uncomfrotable with this , I'll slow down some for her . I'm in no mood to frighten her . :heart:
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Post by: Rhonald on November 29, 2009, 01:09:59 pm
Once again Arnold you are preceding me, leading me on in excitment of what to expect with my wife's arrival. You have just earned the scout merit badge in pathfinding :icon_cool:

And pass on my full welcome to Qing to the new world. I see she has had no troubles impressing the neighbours with her old world charm.
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Post by: RegnisTheGreat on November 29, 2009, 02:38:36 pm
75? that's the minium speed right? :)
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Post by: Chet Sams on November 29, 2009, 04:10:45 pm
Just make sure she doesnt get the skill to drive as a californian. Less of those the better we can all sleep at night. hehehe
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Post by: Arnold on December 02, 2009, 09:34:50 am
HI Guy's , a up-date how things are going so far .
As this will be my third day back at work and my LaoPo is pretty much by herself during the day , without a Car to go anywhere . I feel bad about this of course ,leaving her at home ... as I can not get my Mind of her at Work .. of how she is copping with this all ? I did get her the study-book from the DMV to take the written test and then the driving test . So my Qing is spending some of the time reading and listening to Music and learning English with her new Translator . Which by the way , put's my Franklin translator to shame . I don't know what brand it is .. but I have not seen this one here anywhere yet .
Otherwise , it is so great when arriving home after work for both of us .. to have each other each and every day . The great chinese Dinner's that await's me are just out of the world . Taking about feeling like back in Shanghai ?
This Saturday we will be going to my Sister in-law , to meet her and her Family and then going to the Chinese Garden that is just about completed ( Hunnington Garden's ) to spend the rest of the afternoon there . That should be very nice day for all of us . I will have my Sweetheart post on her own , if and when she is ready to do so .
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Post by: Arnold on December 07, 2009, 04:49:16 pm
Ahhhh...what more can I say , but Life is GOOD !

To get my Sweetheart out of the House on Friday , I dropped her off at my Aunt's house .. to spend the day with her and have some Company . My Aunt took Qing to Hollywood and than came to my Workplace as I was just about ready to call it a day . Qing and I than drove to the Asain Market again , for some Food shopping . As passing the Dishware and Tea set's , I could not resist to buy a set of chinese Dishes , Bowl's , Tea set and just about everything that belonged with it . This place turns out to be another Costco , $ 200 - 300 dollar's everytime :-/ .
Saturday , as mentioned before .. we visited my Sister in-law in Pasadena ( she loved that City by the way ) . I took my Sister in-law and her Husband out for Lunch at P.F. Chang's , to see .. what I concider the best Chinese Food here in the LA area and to see how Qing like's that . She was very pleased of the great Food and the Guy she was with :icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin: . Spend the rest of the Day , sightseeing Pasadena and get Dessert .
Grerat day for both of us .
On Sunday , we did our first Yard clean-up together . Picking up all the leaves in front and back . Then , it was time to put up some Christmas light's on the House , which she was eager to help me . She really does not want me to work too hard at anything , which is of course greatly appreciated by me .
After all this , we started to put up the X-mas tree also and then ... we shared the chore of making Dinner . That is something , I all of a sudden enjoy so much more . I guess , it's just being beside Her ... that it doesn't even seem like work . After Dinner , I told Qing ... I now will perform a Tea Ceremony
(chinese way) for you , that I have studied on CCTV 9 some time back . She was very surprised me knowing such a custom , but ... I am after all HALF chinese ... right ? hahaha
Besides all of this , she has started to check what I spend and pay Bill -wise very closely now . That , I see a big plus ... as I tend to over spend on many thing's . I can not Love this Woman more ... even if I try'd .
I've been trying to sign up on Skype for Qing , as her Brother and her best Friend have it , but I can not for dear Life get Connected for some reason ? Had the same problem with MSN a year ago and gave it all up .
Anyway , let's see what this Week bring's ? I wish , it wasn't getting dark so soon ... as I like to show her how her Car work's and give her lesson's . I do hope to get to that this weekend though .
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Post by: Paul Todd on December 07, 2009, 09:41:41 pm
I understand what your saying about sharing the house hold stuff ,what a joy it is. After some intense instruction I'm even allowed to do the washing up without inspection on my own these days!:icon_cheesygrin: There genuine willingness to help you in anyway they can sure is a wonderful thing. The tea ceremony was a nice touch too. I think being married to a Chinese wife makes us better people :icon_cheesygrin:
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Post by: mustfocus on December 07, 2009, 10:21:05 pm
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Saturday , as mentioned before .. we visited my Sister in-law in Pasadena ( she loved that City by the way ) . I took my Sister in-law and her Husband out for Lunch at P.F. Chang's , to see .. what I concider the best Chinese Food here in the LA area and to see how Qing like's that . She was very pleased of the great Food and the Guy she was with :icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin: . Spend the rest of the Day , sightseeing Pasadena and get Dessert .
Grerat day for both of us .


Glad to hear you enjoyed your weekend.  I do have one question.  Being up here north of the 49, I've heard of PF Chang, it's supposed to be a chain correct?  If that's true, I've had lots of friends from Singapore, and some from Taiwan who say it isn't real chinese food. :)  I'm not 100% sure if that's where they went (it was definitely called something similar)  Granted they went to ones in Chicago and I think somewhere in New York, but they told me that it was "american chinese" food.  I'm just curious as to whether that's true or not.  I know the one in Chicago definitely traumatized my cousin as she was craving for simple congee when she got to my place (and she detests congee)...

I just wanted to find out if what they said was true without going down there.
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Post by: JimB on December 08, 2009, 06:21:42 pm
Arnold I may have to stop reading this.  i get so jealous. lol
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Post by: Arnold on December 09, 2009, 02:26:55 am
Yes Paul , you obsolutely right . It does make us better Person's .

In-Jaul , it may be all Americanized Chinese Food , but I think it is the best that is available here in LA . Qing thinks it was very good , even if NOT true chinese Food .

Jim , don't be jealous ... your Time will come and you wont even think about Me anymore . Will I blame you ? Of course not ! We both don't have too many year's left ... so we better make the best of them . :icon_cheesygrin:
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Post by: rockycoon on December 09, 2009, 06:02:35 pm
Hey Vince, I noted those things right away,
1. the writing on the car say's "caution chinese driver"
2. the toyota is more reliable
3. the ring is in the bathtub


By the way Qing.........................WELCOME TO AMERICA.................it is so nice to have you here, may the good lord bless your marrage!


Hey Arnold, do you have a dishwasher installed? and what does she think about our local supermarkets like Safeway, and such?  And I don't think LA is the proper place to teach her to drive, as it is a crash car derby out there...and I noted the swing sets in the back yard, Is that your swing set or someone else's.

also Qing, welcome to the forum, I look forward to your insights on lots of things! you have a lot of exploring to do, there is so much to see and do.
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Post by: mustfocus on December 09, 2009, 09:51:51 pm
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Yes Paul , you obsolutely right . It does make us better Person's .

In-Jaul , it may be all Americanized Chinese Food , but I think it is the best that is available here in LA . Qing thinks it was very good , even if NOT true chinese Food .

Jim , don't be jealous ... your Time will come and you wont even think about Me anymore . Will I blame you ? Of course not ! We both don't have too many year's left ... so we better make the best of them . :icon_cheesygrin:


Don't get me wrong.  I just haven't heard much good about PF Changs.  The thing is that I take most things with a grain of salt (especially food reviews) until I try it myself.  But I like to get multiple reviews so I have a better idea of what I get myself into sometimes.
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Post by: Arnold on December 10, 2009, 12:37:37 am
Rocky , yes I have a Dishwasher ... but there are never enough dishes between us two , to even start loading it . We alway's wash and dry as we go along , so by the time we eat .. the Kitchen is pretty well clean of most Pot's and Pan's and what else you used .
Talking about driving ... today I came home early and gave Qing her first lesson . All about how to get in , buckle up and start the Car and showed her all the Switches and shifting , braking and giving Gas . I also had her back up past my Neighbor's house and than back to where she started . She did good , being the first time behind a wheel of a Car . I will not let her get any driving which includes other Car's for a while yet . She needs to have total control of the Car and do it without being nervous or worry that I might not like something she is doing . I think , in a couple of weeks .. I'll have her going around the Block , making U-turns and hopefully without using the Neighbor's Lawn's .

In-Jaul , it's okay . Not everybody likes Lobster either . So , this is after all ... only my Opinion of the Place . Nothing beat's Qing's Cooking of course . She made some Wonton's the other day , I tell you ... I was in Heaven . So was my Aunt , that received about twenty of them . I thought ... I couldn't Love Qing more , well I was wrong . She has brought China's Food with her and serves it with all her Love . I know , I also speak of other / many chinese Lady's being just the same way . What a wonderful thing we discovered with Chnlove .

I have some new Photo's to share , but not yet on my Computer .. so give me a little time .
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Post by: Vince G on December 10, 2009, 08:25:46 am
Arnold, take her over to a large parking lot like the supermarket (when they're closed) as long as the lot is empty. It's not a public fairway so cops can't do anything like give tickets, it private property.

I did this many times over the years whenever I had a new car/truck and tested how it reacts in snow or rain. I take it up to certain speeds and hit the breaks and practice control under the circumstance.
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Post by: Arnold on December 10, 2009, 11:38:50 am
Haha .. Vince , being the same age ... we alway's seem to think the same stuff also . This was the first thing I thought off . When in Up-State NY did the same thing to practise in the Snow . Here in Calif. don't know how to drive in Rain . Thanks for the advice though , alway's appreciated .

Vince , to answer the question you ask about what does that mean on the back of my Car ... it say's
12 Girl's Band Shanghai  and on the left over the Toyota sign it say's Shanghai Volkswagen in character's .

Rocky , sorry ... but this Swing Set was at my Uncle's house . I only have a Spa , which is more Fun and Qing loves it ... haha ... so do I ! Much more now .
She likes our Supermarket's , but just love the Asian Market we go to in the S.F. Valley .
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Post by: Irishman on December 10, 2009, 01:21:52 pm
Arnold, I just love your updates, America is of course different to Ireland but your great accounts of how you are interacting with your lovely Qing there at home makes me tear right up.
I so want to experience the same as you - showing her the neighbourhood, meeting my friends and family, teaching her how to drive, coming home to a smile and a kiss and just getting used to having a wife at home that loves me.
May you and Qing have many happy years together bro.
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Post by: mustfocus on December 10, 2009, 10:44:56 pm
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Rocky , sorry ... but this Swing Set was at my Uncle's house . I only have a Spa , which is more Fun and Qing loves it ... haha ... so do I ! Much more now .
She likes our Supermarket's , but just love the Asian Market we go to in the S.F. Valley .


Hey Arnold,

When I was visiting San Francisco, there was an asian supermarket near one of the restaurants I visited.  I don't remember what it was called, but it was somewhere in Hayward.  Not sure if that's near where you are, but if you or anyone else can make use of the address...

it was near 24123 Hesperian Boulevard in Hayward (somewhere near Freemont?).  There is a sushi bistro there (Tomodachi) which our hosts liked to use.  It seemed like a reasonable chinese supermarket, but I was only there for a few minutes.  Not sure if it's still there as this was about four years ago.
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Post by: rockycoon on December 11, 2009, 01:33:19 am
You might explain for our readers that the SF is not San Francisco, it's the San Fernando valley, am I correct? I was raised in California
so I know where your at.  Although China Town in Frisco and fishermans warf might also be a lot of fun.
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Post by: mustfocus on December 11, 2009, 01:38:42 am
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You might explain for our readers that the SF is not San Francisco, it's the San Fernando valley, am I correct? I was raised in California
so I know where your at.  Although China Town in Frisco and fishermans warf might also be a lot of fun.


My bad. :)  To be honest, I found Chinatown in San Francisco to be more kitchy (???).  Although I did enjoy the bakery there.  Kinda freaked out driving down some of those roads. :)  I've got to wonder how long people's brakes last driving down those.
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Post by: brett on December 11, 2009, 06:10:57 am
Yokohama's ChinaTown was the worst I've been to. Panda plushies, panda pens, panda keyrings, panda shaped dumplings, it was a shameful exploitation of the Japanese fondness for cute things :icon_cheesygrin:.
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Post by: rockycoon on December 11, 2009, 07:54:07 pm
I ihaven't been to San Francisco for years, so china town there is probably so commeralized it's sad.  But in San Francisco, you will learn why an automatic transmission is a lot better than a stick.  Or you can sit there and watch the blood drain out of your leg with a clutch. Its also a lot of fun to see how tough your rear bumper is or to see how many times you can stall the engine while the light is green.....LOL
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Post by: ttwjr32 on December 13, 2009, 05:30:14 am
brakes in s.f. ??? replace once a year
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Post by: rockycoon on December 13, 2009, 05:48:05 am
Brakes anywhere in California, replace once a year or more....:icon_cheesygrin: And you thought the driving in China was bad.....
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Post by: mustfocus on December 13, 2009, 07:08:39 am
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Brakes anywhere in California, replace once a year or more....:icon_cheesygrin: And you thought the driving in China was bad.....


How do you get or more? :s  I know my travels over there aren't that extensive, but I don't know of anywhere that is as harsh on brakes as San Fran.  Now if you say air filters, I've heard in LA you need to replace those quite often...

Now...trying to bring this back on track... I think we need an update from Arnold about how the driving lessons are going.
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Post by: Arnold on December 13, 2009, 01:49:08 pm
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Now...trying to bring this back on track... I think we need an update from Arnold about how the driving lessons are going.


Funny you say that , that is what I was going to do today . I also have some Photo's to share .

Friday night after I got home and showered , we went to my favorite Chinese Buffet here in Lancaster . Of course I ate like a Pig that I am when it comes to chinese Food ( yes even here ) . I was surprised how much Qing was eating this time , which was of course good to see , that she enjoyed it . What really made me glad to have come here , was that she started in no time to talk to the Waiter's and Waitresses that were all chinese and knew Mandarin at least . Not like the Sushi place where all Chef's were from Korea and not a word Japanese among them , after Qing started just to talk away in Japanese to them . I had a good laugh , when I realized they could not understand one word . Anyway , as I alway's have fun with chinese People .. writing character's down on Napkins and hand it to them and watch them react to it . I must say , we had a wonderful time talking to many there for quite a while . One of the Waiter's even told us about a Free School for English as a second Language . It happens to be about 10 miles away from our House . So this of course creates a problem for my Sweetheart . No Bus , Taxi or Train here . Too far to walk , which I would not let her do anyway .. in this crazy Society . So it looking for a School closer to Home . Which we will check out a couple today and see how far they are away .

About her driving lesson's , she did get her second yesterday . She actually stepped on the Gas pedal a little this time , but was very afraid , as she has not yet the feel of using the Steering Wheel to actually steer the Car with . I am in for ... or she is in for quite a few lesson's I think before becoming comfortable to just drive the darn thing with NO other Car in a mile radius . I'm already starting to think , maybe it would be better to enroll her into a driving school instead . I will be patient as much as possible trying it myself first , but we do need to see some procress happening .

About Qing being homesick , nothing yet .. I can see . But , her little Boy ( Tianchi ) is asking her already .. when she will be back ? That has me worried some , as we both like him to learn to read and write in chinese for a couple of year's at least . By that time Qing can Travel back to Shanghai and he can come with us then , no need for him to fly by himself to LA . This is our Plan as of now . We do think this is the best for his interest , if he ever decides .. wanting to go back to China as a grown-up . We see how this play's out , after all he is in great hand's with Qing's Parent's .

Well here are some Photo's that I promised .

Photo's with my late wife's Sister and her Husband . The Couple that went to Shanghai for our wedding ceremony ( she is from the Phillipines ) . Qing's first real X-mas Tree , that we both put up together . Took a drive up the Mountain to overlook all of Palmdale and Lancaster . Some of the wonton's she made one afternoon . They stood like Soldier's in a Parade . Talking about Delicious ... is an understatement . The last Photo is of a great friend of mine . He also met his wife over the Internet ( from Indonesia ) .
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Post by: Ed W on December 13, 2009, 02:19:36 pm
Are those homemade dumplings? They're quite fancy.

My wife's son at one point took a cooking class and he made this very elaborate dumpling and left it for us at home. It had many intricate folds and pinches that made it look like a flower. I'd bet you could spend years mastering all the kinds of styles of making dumplings.

Arnold, I had a chat with a friend about the driving lessons. Just some thoughts i had. I was thinking how many years it takes for people to simply understand the cutlure of driving in America vs China. Including myself, I'd be quite concerned that my driving style would be very different and possibly dangerous in China. Keep in mind I had my million miles by age 30 as a long haul trucker. I can only imagine how difficult it would be for someone who's never driven before, let alone in a different country. Then I also got to thinking about something Maxx had written about when his wife first came to America and how he was trying to get her out and about but found it was an overload on her adjusting to the changes.

I'm not meaning to be critical in any way. Just trying to offer some thougts to consider since sometimes the best intentions can cause unintended results.

I'm soooo happy for you both. I don't envy the decision she had to make, leaving her son behind. I often think about the day my wife has to leave hers behind and how we'll deal with it. I often think of how to best take advantage of this situation for the childs benefit. Consider the child growing up being fluent in both English and Chines and what kind of future he/she would have with a proper business education. I'd bet the field of occupations would be vast!!

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Post by: maxx on December 13, 2009, 03:21:13 pm
it can be a huge overload.As men we know we will go back home in a couple of weeks or a month.The women when she gets to your country.They are not really sure when they will go back to China.Couple that with new sites and sounds smells  culture and customs.it can be overwhelming.

You guys that are thinking well we will live 6 months in China and six months in your country.Have you really thought this through?Most of you can't take a couple of weaks off from your life just to go to China.How tough is this going to be with a wife and kids in tow.And how much harder does it get for your wifes everytime they have to leave China.And what happens if China doesn't suit you.(I can take China for about a month at a time.Then I'm ready for something else).

You guys really need to think about this before you start making promises.That you can't keep.Or your not willing to keep.It does have long term effects on the relationships.
Sorry Arnold didn't mean to jack your thread.I'm enjoying reading it.keep posting
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Post by: JimB on December 13, 2009, 04:30:09 pm
Great job Arnold and good pics.  Thanks for them.  I am surprised she likes our type of Chinese food.  Different to say the least.  About the driving lessons, you are taking your time with them and after all there really is not big rush so i would think that you can try it for a little while getting her used to all of this, then if she is still having problems, professional lessons.  But, I wonder how good her English will be and how will she handle a teacher just telling her to do this or that and her not understanding. You know what i mean?
It was probably nice for her to speak Mandarin.  I have been making friends with local Chinese so when she gets here she will have people already that will look out for her also and give her some familiar social settings.

Jim
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Post by: rockycoon on December 13, 2009, 08:06:28 pm
I can say that teaching a wife to drive can be frustrating, also so can a drive instructor.  Better teach her yourself and by the way, teach her where the steering wheel and brakes are first!

By the way, shades of chevy chase in xmas vacation, thats a nice tree, are the neighbors still looking around their yard for it....:icon_cheesygrin:
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Post by: mustfocus on December 13, 2009, 08:08:32 pm
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I can say that teaching a wife to drive can be frustrating, also so can a drive instructor.  Better teach her yourself and by the way, teach her where the steering wheel and brakes are first!

By the way, shades of chevy chase in xmas vacation, thats a nice tree, are the neighbors still looking around their yard for it....:icon_cheesygrin:


Not sure about down there...but up here, you get discounts on your insurance if you use a recognised driving school.  Might be worth it.
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Post by: Arnold on December 13, 2009, 08:55:19 pm
No problem Maxx , you bring out good point's as alway's . One is not to jump into anything unknown to the outcome , I know LOVE will make you say and do many things ... one might think over ... when actually face with them . Like her driving lesson's , here I thought of course .. HOW hard can they be ? It only took two / three and I know , it's no cakewalk . Especially the backing up . I'm looking sooo forward  to the parallel Parking ... NOT .

Thanks Jim . Her English is good enough to understand simple instructions , but she is very nervous about it all . This is where it's better for me to hang in there and teach her the best I can ... to be at least somewhat confident if the Driving School is needed later .
I'm also glad she likes the Americanized chinese Food at least . It's bad enough , she would not have any fast food like Mc D's / KFC and the like .

Rocky , also good point . I'll do my best of course . It's good to see a X-mas tree again in my Home . Up to now , I had no reason to go this far after my first wife passed away .

Must Focus , I know the Insurance  part will be going up either way here . But I will keep the mileage down on paper , as to how much she is going to drive a year ( like 10 miles ) haha .
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Post by: Chet Sams on December 13, 2009, 09:12:26 pm
I want photos of the parallel parking arnold. Isnt too many people that can perfect it. And use orange cones for the cars.
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Post by: mustfocus on December 13, 2009, 09:56:37 pm
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Thanks Jim . Her English is good enough to understand simple instructions , but she is very nervous about it all . This is where it's better for me to hang in there and teach her the best I can ... to be at least somewhat confident if the Driving School is needed later .
I'm also glad she likes the Americanized chinese Food at least . It's bad enough , she would not have any fast food like Mc D's / KFC and the like .

Must Focus , I know the Insurance  part will be going up either way here . But I will keep the mileage down on paper , as to how much she is going to drive a year ( like 10 miles ) haha .


Actually, I find KFC is usually quite popular with chinese of any stripe... the only reason people hesitate is because it's so freakishly expensive compared to so many other places.  I refuse to buy KFC except for special occasions (and only if requested) because for the same dollar value, I can get so much more value from most other smaller non-chain restaurants.  And if it's chinese, all the chinese supermarkets in my area also offer hot food take-out.  As for the other chains...well, burgers aren't looked at too kindly around here.  We do have a few other "chicken" places, but still quite expensive...

As for the insurance, I know different places handle insurance differently, but I would not lie to an insurance company as that will also cause your rates to go up...And I heard that in the US, many of the companies have started to check mileage to get lower rates...going to hate that when it comes up here.
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Post by: Arnold on December 13, 2009, 10:02:17 pm
Chet , the Cone part is a good idea . But , no Pictures during parallel parking .. sorry . I also agree , 9 out of 10 DON'T know how to do it GOOD ( without bumping both Car's or taking 10-15 minutes to do it ) . I see it happening all day long across my Workplace . Makes me wonder , how they received a License or from whom ?
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Post by: Chet Sams on December 13, 2009, 10:12:44 pm
Well here i have seen alot of the same. And when i took my driving test many many moons ago. I saw alot of peoples test passing cept the parallel parking. So as long as they making a passing score on the test, they get to drive on. Which really sucks. Since alot of people cant even drive with a license as it is. And those people get there license from a old fashion cracker jack box.
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Post by: shaun on December 14, 2009, 05:08:36 am
Arnold,

I think all of the men her can compromise with the no picture policy here IF you will shoot a video and post it. :icon_cheesygrin:

Shaun
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Post by: RobertBfrom aust on December 14, 2009, 05:50:52 am
Arnold , go find a local hire a gokart track and have a fun couple of hours , Qing will then get an idea of balance and when she turns the steering wheel what happens , and it will get rid of her nervousness , regards Ying and Robert .
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Post by: Vince G on December 14, 2009, 08:55:38 am
Arnold, Did you check to see what is needed to get a lic in Calif? To get driving lessons you need a driving permit (?) you need a SS# for that? Or can something else be used?
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Post by: rockycoon on December 14, 2009, 12:21:04 pm
In Calif, you need birth certificate, or passport, to prove your age and place of birth. You do not need a SS card as it does not have a picture on it. You also need a drive instructor with nerves of steel and a bottle of nerve pills.  I think there are only 20 questions on the test.  You also need a very comfortable pair of shoes for standing in line for hours or take a folding chair. and State farm probably has the lowest insurance check them out.
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Post by: Sylvain D on December 14, 2009, 04:50:24 pm
haha, talking about kart... well, that could be any funny experience, but that would also help, I think. But for sure, the difference with "real cars" is very big.
Glad to see how things are doing so fine for both of you, Arnold, that's always a pleasure to follow your story, from China before, then, in your country right now. I wish to live the same, later, that's also what I'm dreaming about, day by day :)
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on December 15, 2009, 01:43:09 pm
Thanks for all the advice Guy's . Believe me , I've had all this going through my Mind . About Qing's third lesson , I had her even going around serveral blocks near my House . I had to show her , that when you make your turns ( 90 deg . ) too slow that the steering wheel will not return by itself and told her to look in front of the Car not look at the steering wheel , which she is so involved with .. she forget's where she's going . But I see improofment in realizing all is a little easier with a little accelleration . She is now very comfortable with statrting the Car and putting it into gear and ready to go . Had her also make U-turns going up the driveway and down the street where it ends . She did those part's great . I'm proud of her process . She does want me to teach her , as she would be too nervous with a stranger .
I will get the Permit when it's time to do so . She has her Green Card ( which is good for two year's ) and S.S. Card already .
About the ESL classes , I'm trying to get in contact with that darn place .. as they have no Phone number listed anywhere . The one we found now , is a little less then 6 miles away . She is willing to walk this . I would drop her off in the morning on my way to work and she would need to walk home after . Of course , I'm somewhat uneasy about her walking alone .. even during the day time . I've have told her , that most likely many Car's / People will offer her a ride . Not to get to close to any Car's , no matter what . Have Pepperspray will travel . She does want to start the Classes ASAP , even they run from Aug. to May each year .

As myself concerns , I caught a bad Cold and was in Bed early last night with a high Fever . As luck has it , Martin called my House and Qing answered and had a nice talk together from what I learned this morning . I do feel much better , as I broke the Fever ..but still had about 99 deg. going to work this morning . Which of course worried Qing tremendously as she would have stayed home in Bed if it was her . But , us Men are too stubborn to do that .
She also had a call from my Neighbor's Lady and she will take Qing to the Mall this afternoon . Am I worried about her spending too much ? Not at all . She does have her own Money and I know she will not waste it on anything not 100% needed . What a big plus , these Women are ... compared to our western Women .

Ps: Sorry Ed , to have missed your Birthday . Hope you had one to remember .
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Sylvain D on December 15, 2009, 03:07:42 pm
Nice to see that Qing is progressing, by driving lessons wit hou, Arnold :) and for sure, man can understand that she prefers to be with you as a teacher, instead than with anyone else. But later, when she will have to drive with any drive instructor, maybe will she be more "sure" about herself and her driving skills :) so that she would be less nervous :)
About your health, good to see you're better, even if you were not so fine yesterday. by the way, how is weather by your side? is it really cold, by now, over there?
Concerning money, I agreee with you, chinese women know much more than western women how to "save" money. That is also a good thing, that gives a little bit some more difference, too :)
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on December 15, 2009, 03:24:57 pm
Thanks Sly ,
it has been raining alot the last few day's here and we also had a cold wind to deal with . But , I still think .. I picked it up from somebody else . I have not had a Cold in many year's and I do take care of myself quite well .. weatherwise . But dealing with Customer's and all the crowd's in the Malls , easy to catch something .. unwanted .
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Ed W on December 15, 2009, 09:45:25 pm
Arnold. I've still been giving some time to this whole driving issue and your lovely wife. Something I have planned for my duaghters is to take them to an indoor gas powerd racetrack. These are Sodi's I think they're called but get up to about 30-40mph. The intention was to teach my girls about friction. Acceleration, cornering, breaking, all hinge on this, good weather or bad but I thought it'd be good training to help them understand what it feels like to spin-out, to over-break, under-break, take a corner too quick, or accelerate too quickly after a corner. It might sound a bit silly but I felt if they learn what happens when the lose friction then they will be prepared to understand better what can happen in a regular car and will not be totally unfamiliar with the feeling of losing traction while driving. Anyway.... it's just a thought of what im planning to better prepare my most prized posessions..
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on December 15, 2009, 10:17:18 pm
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Anyway.... it's just a thought of what im planning to better prepare my most prized posessions..


What you planning on buying a brand new BMW :icon_cheesygrin:

Seriously - good advice Ed. Another day older another year wiser great suggestion from the Birthday Boy + 1
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on December 15, 2009, 11:07:10 pm
I must agree with you Ed . The thing is here I only know an outdoor racetrack for Go-Cart's . Just have to wait for better weather . But , this is exactly how they taught us in School . Set up a test area on School ground's . I remember , that was also a lot of Fun when about 12 or 13 years old .
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on December 20, 2009, 01:15:54 am
Well , after fighting a bad Cold and Cough all week long .. we did make it out off the House today . After getting my Hair cut and the Car washed , we set out to see my Lawyer to let him know .. Qing's Green Card
( which is Beige ) and S.S. card arrived . The only problem , the Green Card read Qing Zhu and without my last Name . So the good thing is , the Consulate in Guangzhou made the mistake not ME . What does that mean ? I don't have to Pay $ 380 for a name change . Second , my Lawyer noticed that the Green Card was only good for two years ( a restricted Card as he called it ) . That means , more Paperwork in two years and a lot more Money to dish out for both the Lawyer and the Government , in the tune off some $ 1,100 now and in two years he say's the price will be much more for sure . Ahhh...alway's love great news like this .
The way to get around this Fee ( which there is ) , marry your Lady in China and don't File paper's for her to come to your Country till after the two years are up ... then they bypass that Fee and Paperwork . It's nice to save some Dough ... but what the Heck ... wait for your Wife two year's on top of everything else ? What a screwed-up Policy they run . It again as alway's , just about Money . I'm surprised the second Green card is good for ten years , why not do it every two year's ? While they are sucking you out of your money ... why stop now ?

Anyway , we did not let this ruin our day together . We drove to Bel-Air and I told Qing , I buy you some of the great Perlier product's made with natural Honey ( Lotions , Soaps , Bath Gels ect. ) which do come with a Beverly Hills price tag . This is the only place one can find them .. locally . I know the internet has them , but I need them now .. not next week . After that I took her to Santa Monica Pier and Beach for the most of the afternnon , which included riding on the big new Ferris-wheel with the Sun just about to set . Talk about ROMANTIC ? I told her ,  on a clear and sunny day .. one can see all the way to Shanghai and see the Pearl Tower from the top of the Wheel .
So ... what was left to do after this ? We gone and found a place right next to the Asian Market that serves Shanghai Noodles and Dumpling's . YES ... really . After stuffing both our Faces , we got to do some Marketing ( the Happy Market ) . Talk about somebody having a great day ? NO ... we both did and it feels so good ... to see my Sweetheart SMILE and be Happy and Loving every minute of it .

Oh , not to forget ... for my Cough , she went into a chinese Herbal Store and got some Stuff and some Sugar Stones and A few Asian Pear's and is making something out of that ... that will help my Cough . How sweet is that ? I don't know ... that's why I'm asking ? Haha
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: maxx on December 20, 2009, 01:38:41 am
Arnold What Qing is making will work real good.My wife has given it to me a couple of times.When I was sick.After the first one I told my wife no sugar.It was way to sweet for me.

I don't know of any way around the temporary green card.Like you said it is just to suck more money out of you.And yes when I filed for my wifes permanet green card it was 1,000 dollars and some change.They get you comming and going with this visa stuff.And the green cards.

Hey just a little triva for you.Did you know that after you and your wife did all that work.For her to get the visa.The border patrol officer that stamped your wifes visa.If he thought something was funny or suspicios.That he could of denide Qing entry into the United states.I didn't tell you this before.Because I didn't want to scare you.Plus that I have never heard of anybody from China being denide access to the United States.When they have a visa.The only one Ive ever heard of getting turned back at the border.Were some people from the middle east.And south America.So I wasn't to worried for you and Qing.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on December 20, 2009, 01:46:11 am
Maxx , I did not know this . But , Qing's Passport had the correction made already . She noticed it right away and got it done before I ever got there . So , I think .. there was no chance for anything bad happening at arriving at LAX .
This is , I hope some helpful news for other's later .
Thanks Maxx .
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: maxx on December 20, 2009, 02:00:54 am
Arnold buddy I think you misunderstood me.Or I didn't write it clear enough.If the border control agent had a hard on that day for Asians.He/she could of denide access to Qing just because she is traveling on a visa.

I had my lawyers number punched in on my cell phone speed dial.Just incase they gave my wife any grief.They didn't but I was a little concerned at the time.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on December 20, 2009, 02:36:23 am
I see Maxx , just like the Interviewer ... bad day for him ... then why should everybody else has a good day . These People , sometimes play Judge/Jury just because they can . Hide their trouble's behind a Badge and let it out on ordinary/honest People to vent .
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David5o on December 24, 2009, 05:19:01 pm
Arnold,

Today coming back from Larnaca, and while stopped at traffic lights, i saw Qings Double, walk across the road in front of me, ....and i do mean double. From her actual looks, hair style to her build and the type of clothes that she wears...... I was so taken back i was hooted for not getting going when the lights changed ...hahaha!!

You'll have to ask, if she has any relatives staying over here, or have any family mature students studying in Cyprus...lol!!! (though what they study over here i have no idea ...lol!!)
I've noticed quite a few Chinese over here the last couple of years, Lucy says's there mainly students or on work experience...

But i can assure you, Qing has a double over here, if i'd seen her on the street i would have spoken to her, ( well, got Lucy to do the talking anyway) and found out the SP on her, see if she came from Shanghai or not ....haha!!!

David.....
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: JimB on December 24, 2009, 05:45:59 pm
Maybe Qings father came there for work at some time.  lol
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David5o on December 24, 2009, 06:03:20 pm
Jim,

If not her father, her fathers brother!!  But the likeness was really striking!!

David....
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on December 25, 2009, 11:11:44 pm
Ahhh ha ... she was gone for a couple of day's and now I know where she's been .

David , I'm not surprised . Don't they say , everybody has a double in the World somewhere ? One of our Customer's ones said , I had a Professor in Chicago at the Universary that looked exactly like me .
Qing has nobody related in that part of the World ... sorry and her Dad was never near there . Haha
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on December 26, 2009, 10:07:23 pm
So , a little up-date from our Trip to La Quinta ( near Palm Springs ) for the Christmas Holiday with my In-laws . First we booked a very nice Suite near the Freeway for one night , where we had to get off anyway , to go to my Sister in-law's house for the get-together . We checked in and then changed our Clothes for the 6pm gathering . Qing got to meet two of my late Wife's Sister's and Husband's and the only Brother she had and their Families of course . This was very nice for both of us , as Qing was warmly welcome into this part of the Family with open Arms and loving Heart's . I myself had never any doubt it would be otherwise , as I have alway's taking very good care of Nancy for all of the 30 year's . They wanted to see me happy and with a Wife again , as one could tell by the way they all excepted the way we have met over the Internet . Anyway , we had a wonderful Dinner and talk to all the Family present ... til almost midnight . After a good night sleep ( yes we did sleep some ) , we all met again for a big Brunch at the same ( my Sister in-laws ) house . It was my turn this time to bring a Fruit tray , for which I bought all kinds of Fruit the day before and all the Knife's and Board's to go to work the next morning , as I wanted it to be fresh Fruit , not a Tray put together day's before at a Store .
After filling us up with some great Egg dish and mexican Pasole and Tamales we all drove west to Moreno Valley ( except my Brother in-law , who lives in Arizona ) to Visit my Mother and Father in-law on our way back home . Qing was of course excepted the same there and we spend a wonderful afternoon there also .
From there it was about a hour and a half drive back to our Home . But we did encounter a bad multiple Car accident on Highway 138 which closed both sides of the Road . Two Helicopter's had to land , picking up the injured . It was an awful sight to see and especially on Christmas day . So all the Traffic had to do some OFF-Roading to get around it and back on the Highway . As it was dark by now and I did not want to come Home and cook Dinner , I ask Qing what she would like to Eat ? After deciding and getting to Restaurant Row ... guess what ? All was closed , but El Torito . But the line was out the Door , so home we went and heated up left-over's for Dinner . Ahhhh , was not too bad . I think because we were pretty tired from the long drive . That was true , we both slept till 11am this morning . I needed it bad , as I'm finally getting over that nagging Cough of mine . These Chinese Herb's and Qing's love ...really do work very well together , I must say .
 As most Photo's were taken by my Brother in-law with a pro Camera , I do not have any ... but a few . I will show my Fruit Tray , which I was very proud of .. to say the least .
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on December 26, 2009, 11:15:12 pm
Gee Arnold that looks good enough to eat? Nice job.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on December 27, 2009, 02:48:35 am
Vince , yes it was . There were NO??????????????????????????????????
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Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: JimB on December 27, 2009, 07:30:40 pm
I imagine Qing would have been nervous to meet them.  Afraid of being compared and coming up short.  How did she feel?  I am glad the family welcomed her that says a lot about them.  Anyway good work. Arnold.  Thanks.

Jim
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on December 27, 2009, 08:37:19 pm
Jim , actually Qing did not show any signs of being nervous at all . It must have been all the prep work I have done , to let her know ... there was nothing to worry about ... meeting them . If I had any suspicion of them NOT liking her for any reason , I would not have put her through this . As with my Step-children , that is another thing . I will thread very carefully ... as some of them do not fully agree with me having found a new Wife sooo soon after my late Wife's death . Well , as I'm concerned ... they can jump you know where ? I will not let anything negative even near my Sweetheart ... coming from ... whoever ?
As you know yourself ... these Women are so special , I still lay awake next to her and wonder ? How do I ever deserve this ? My worry is , how much will she change here in America ? Maybe it's selfish , but I would just like her to stay ... just how she is now and not change at all . But , we all change as we get older and I only wish it is alway's for the better not worse .
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Sylvain D on December 28, 2009, 03:37:34 pm
Reading you is always nice, Arnold. I am reading about your Step-children. Even if I don't remember how old they are, I think anyway they could/should understand your point of view. Ok, you found a new love after your ex Wife's death. But... do they "need" or "have to" judge you for it? I think they can understand that one day, man needs to love again and to be loved, and you did absolutely nothing to be blamed, be sure about it. From what I've seen when talking with you and meeting you and Qing, I think I am right about commenting right now over here. Maybe (and I hope for it) they need some time to "accept" your situation. I know you want all the best for Qing, and you are doing very well. Even if sometimes, a few grey clouds can be around you, you know you live with a rainbow that can "chase" it away ;)
maybe will she stay as she is, maybe will she "adjust" a bit with US habits, who knows? ^^'
Eh Arnold ! Please don't keep all dumplings from Shanghai, with you :)
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on December 28, 2009, 06:37:58 pm
Thanks Sly , appreciate that .
Yesterday , we moved to another milestone . Our first Web-cam (through Skype) meeting with Qing's best Friend from Shanghai and her Husband . I'm so relieved , that this is now working . So , now Qing's brother will set up the Web-cam at Qing's Parent's home and she can do the same with them and her little Boy . I had to call Norton Internet Security to Un-do their Program and set up Skype and then give me the updated version of their Program . After Qing bugging me for weeks to get Skype and have three People trying to get it done without success ... finally that is out of the way . As many times , I was real close of throwing the darn thing out again ... had it not worked out this way .
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Danny on December 28, 2009, 07:10:16 pm
Quote from: 'maxx' pid='25996' dateline='1261292454'

Arnold buddy I think you misunderstood me.Or I didn't write it clear enough.If the border control agent had a hard on that day for Asians.He/she could of denide access to Qing just because she is traveling on a visa.



In Australia the phrase "hard on" has quite a different meaning from the way you appear to be using it, and so if the agent had a hard on for Asians that day then she would have had no problem about getting that stamp of approval *laughs*
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: JimB on December 28, 2009, 08:41:43 pm
Arnold, I know you would never intentionally put her in that situation.  It is just that sometimes things can happen that we do not forsee.  I can see how she could be nervous thats all.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on December 29, 2009, 12:35:07 am
Very true Jim . I tell you when she is nervous , I can see it on her Face and she will let me know in most cases that she is somewhat uncomfortable with certain situations . She is very open about those kind of things and I am so thankful for that . It beat's keeping it in and let it brew before mentioning it . Funny thing here , I think ... I'm the one more nervous ... just to want everything to go perfect . But on the other Hand , she is not made out of Glass . Thank God or I'd be a wreck for sure .
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on December 29, 2009, 11:50:55 pm
For the Guy's who don't have the opportunity to see my Blog , I will Post here my 14th Poem . The one I have promised Qing for her arrival here in the States . I finished it today and you'll be seeing it before she does . She is out with my Neighbor's Girlfriend shopping , so she will have to wait till she get's home . Hope you like it ?
I guess the upload did not work for Printed stuff ? I'll write it down again .

A Flower comes Home !

Flower's bend in the Wind
freeze in the Cold
some need to be in plenty of Sun
other's are afraid of the Rain
so to have it all told
Flower's,to blossom can have no Pain .

Certain tall and lengthy Flower's
can reach for the blue Sky
filter the Love out of thin Air
only to find light shower's
seeking someone that truely cares.

Being planted in a foreign place
the Love away by oh so far
hoping,wanting and wishing
one Day to be able to touch that Star.
 
Having found one with a smile
only to cross a Distance
of oh so many watery miles
to where this Love can be shared
never to leave this Dance
in the warm Arm's of Romance
so nothing more can be said...
...The Flower is Home .
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on December 30, 2009, 12:06:39 am
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But on the other Hand , she is not made out of Glass . Thank God or I'd be a wreck for sure .


Maybe not glass, but instead, she is all Class. :icon_biggrin:

I am jealous of you Arnold. But then you did pay the price of waiting one long year for her to finally arrive. Now it is my turn to suffer and wait.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on December 30, 2009, 12:23:25 am
Rhonald , just tell Yan to send you some CD's of her playing that beautiful GuZhang for you . That would keep me from suffering , as Qing's Song's did .
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on December 30, 2009, 03:19:34 pm
Well what's up for this New Year's weekend ?
On Thursday night , Qing and I are invited ( yes People acually invite me sometimes ) to a friends birthday Party . There will be of course Salsa Dancing and whatever Latin's can muster up on the Dance floor . That should be interesting , as this is really the first time we will Dance together ... other than the Bedroom  . On new year's day , after watching the Rose Parade on TV together ... we'll head up north to my Uncle's Cabin in the Mountains . Spend the afternoon there and head home again in the evening . On Saturday , we will go and check out the Float's in Pasadena . That should be exciting for Qing to see for the first time and after seeing them on TV the day before . Our Neighbor's will most likely go with us too . So we will do Lunch in old Town , which Qing loves by the way .. after the last time with my Sister in-law .

Ps: As my Uncle and Family at the Cabin alway's play Games , I had to tell him ... Qing does not play ANY games just for the Fun of it . It's alway's for Money , just like in China . They do not waste time on Games if there is not something to gain . haha
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Danny on December 30, 2009, 04:20:37 pm
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I will thread very carefully ... as some of them do not fully agree with me having found a new Wife sooo soon after my late Wife's death . As you know yourself ... these Women are so special , I still lay awake next to her and wonder ? How do I ever deserve this ?


Arnold

It was good to read this. It spoke to my heart.

Now that I have announced my engagement it is strange all the advice you receive, about doing things differently. Like: "why don't you find someone in your own country, from your own background, blah, blah, blah, etc". I feel like thumping people when they say this to me. I have been alone for such a long time. In all that time I was alone, I never even came close to even having a coffee with a single woman from my country. It is not like that they're lining up at my front door to ask me out or anything. Now that I have found someone I love and who seems to love me too, there is no chance at all that I am going to give her up for the vague possibility of meeting someone else. I know the bitterness of life, what it is to be lonely and what it is to lose someone. I am going to do my very best to make this marriage a happy and good one. Whatever it takes, like the way you're doing it. Well said, Arnold.

Danny
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on December 30, 2009, 04:59:28 pm
Danny , is that not the truth ! I got my Ear full of this too . Why there ? What's wrong with a Woman from here ? Felt like just telling them ... go look in the Mirror ! Yeah ... why not ? Oh they had answer's to everything , why we shouldn't look in China . Makes me laugh if I even think of it .

Thanks Danny , word's coming from the Heart .. will alway's reach other Heart's and then come back to you . Makes one feel good as a Person .
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Post by: David5o on December 30, 2009, 05:40:37 pm
Arnold,


Arnold Wrote....
I still lay awake next to her and wonder ? How do I ever deserve this ?

For exactly the same reasons why Qing deserves YOU!!  You both have your own worth, so don't belittle your own worth, it is just as valid as Qing's..... Just ask her if you don't belive me!! ...hahaha!!

David....
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on December 30, 2009, 07:06:10 pm
Haha , don't belittle my own worth ! That is something so easy to do , when married to such sweet Woman . Maybe I have a quilty concience that she's too good for me ? Haha But that is my secret .
Anyway , your very right David ... we do deserve each other ... no matter what .
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Danny on December 31, 2009, 01:21:07 am
There's a balance, isn't there . . . between thinking on the one hand that you are not worthy of someone's love, and on the other, of taking it all for granted.

In my humble opinion, it is worse to take her love for granted, that to feel a little unworthy of the love you receive.

To love a woman properly, over many years, she must be desired and loved, pursued and won many times, over and over, through your life.

If you're lucky enough to receive the love and affection of a good woman, don't ever think that it is something that can be taken for granted. If you neglect and discourage her for long enough, you can turn the fire of her love to ashes. It happens all the time.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on December 31, 2009, 02:41:48 pm
Danny , it's so strange you mention this now . Qing and I just last night discussed how I will never take her for Granted , as she keeps telling me over and over the House work she does is NOT work , that only I do work . It took me about half hour explaining to her , that all the thing's
( Washing , Cleaning , Cooking ect. ) is very much Work as  well . I kept getting a NO-NO back all the time . Finally she agreed with me . I think she just gave in .hahaha
I have never taken my late Wife for granted and I certainly will not do it now . But you hit the Nail right on the Head , how to keep the marriage fresh and loving all the time . Nobody say's it's easy , but everything which is good comes with a price and this is such a little price to pay for the Love we receive back .
 
Ps: I'm a little down , as no one said anything about my new Poem ... which Qing obsolutely loved . I told her I will pull it off here .
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on December 31, 2009, 06:00:52 pm
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Ps: I'm a little down , as no one said anything about my new Poem ... which Qing obsolutely loved . I told her I will pull it off here .


:huh: No need cutting off your ear Arnold - I did enjoy some of the nuances of your lines. I would, however, like to argue that I believe for a flower to truly blosom, it needs to experience misfortune to strengthen its charm. But the only critic you need to impress is your lovely flower and yourself. Have a happy New Year Qing & Arnold - the town is a Buzz with your Bliss while I am stuck here in a blizzard.

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Flower's,to blossom can have no Pain .


Just read the same poem on your blog site. You have "cant have no Pain" there. Now I see the typo here was what made the poem unbalanced. Also, somehow seeing it in handwriting on your blog site gives it even more charm.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Buzz on December 31, 2009, 06:26:53 pm
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the town is a Buzz with your Bliss while I am stuck here in a blizzard.

" I did't even know I was expecting.  So just where is this "Buzz Town full of Bliss"?  I should have known better than to mess around with that village.  Happy new year to all!  

Buzz "with your Bliss"
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: shaun on December 31, 2009, 07:47:38 pm
Arnold, some how I skipped a whole page on this post and your poem.  After I read it I can see the love you have for Qing. I always hear how we are so lucky to have wifes from China.  One thing I would like to point out that shows the depth of where this poem comes from is that Qing is lucky to have you too.

The poem gives insight into the relationship between you and Qing from your perspective.  Quite remarkable as to love the two of you share.  We could only be as lucky.
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Post by: David on December 31, 2009, 08:35:04 pm
Arnold I love the poem... you have the heart of a poet.  I still remember some of the poems you wrote and posted here for Qing when she was still in China.  I am so happy that you and Qing are now together at last!:heart:  I wish you both all the happiness and a long life!  Your romance and marriage to Qing has been an inspiration to me and you always give the best advice to the Brotherhood.

I think it would be great if Edward and I can drive up from San Diego one day and have dinner with you and Qing!  If we are all lucky, maybe Qing, Edward's wife, and my Anna will one day be friends too!:icon_biggrin:

Big Dave
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Post by: Rhonald on December 31, 2009, 09:09:48 pm
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Quote from: 'Rhonald' pid='26928' dateline='1262300452'

 the town is a Buzz with your Bliss while I am stuck here in a blizzard.


" I did't even know I was expecting.  So just where is this "Buzz Town full of Bliss"?  I should have known better than to mess around with that village.  Happy new year to all!  

Buzz "with your Bliss"


I was just trying to poke fun at Arnold's many references to being a Bee that Buzzes - since I am an illiterate fool that likes to use alliteration literally. I forgot to think that we had a member with that bell ringing name. Now I feel that I am an old cantankerous man - buzzard :s

Happy New Year to you too Buzz and I will wait with baited breathe for your next Buzzword :icon_cheesygrin:
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Buzz on December 31, 2009, 11:13:30 pm
Quote from: 'Rhonald' pid='26941' dateline='1262311788'


Happy New Year to you too Buzz and I will wait with baited breathe for your next Buzzword :icon_cheesygrin:


Since I am aware of my limitations and do not wish to match wits with a master, I bow to your greatness.  For it is most likely that I will need your assistance this year in finding those elusive red october shoes, and therefor wish to remain humble before the master.   :blush:

I do wish to point out that this really is not the year of the tiger;  it truly is    "buzz lightyear" , 'to china and beyond'.

  buzz
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold's LaoPo on January 01, 2010, 03:43:37 am
Thanks David , you know ... I might just come down to San Diego and we can do Dinner there . It's been a long time and I kind of miss that beautiful City . It would make me very happy to meet up some time in the near Future . I can really see us all six together someday ... looking forward to that . So , thanks again and have a great 2010 .
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on January 01, 2010, 03:53:30 am
Just want you all to know , that I like to publish some of my Poem's in my Book .. this is why I ask for anyone's thought/opinion of them , to give me an Idea if I should or not use a certain one . I do appreciate an honest answer either way . So thanks in advance for this help . Sorry to use the Forum for this , but I also hope it would inspire some other's to start writing their Lady similar Poem's .
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David on January 01, 2010, 05:44:32 am
Quote from: 'Arnold's LaoPo' pid='26971' dateline='1262335417'

Thanks David , you know ... I might just come down to San Diego and we can do Dinner there . It's been a long time and I kind of miss that beautiful City . It would make me very happy to meet up some time in the near Future . I can really see us all six together someday ... looking forward to that . So , thanks again and have a great 2010 .


It was so nice to see your post Qing!  Of course you and Arnold will always be welcome in our home so I hope you both will visit in San Diego many times in the future!  I think it would be great fun for all six of us to celebrate some traditional Chinese holidays together!:icon_biggrin:

Big Dave
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David on January 01, 2010, 10:37:32 pm
Arnold and Qing...

Anna wanted me to ask you both how long of a period of time passed between your filling for your spousal visa and your arrival in the US?

Anna has been reading Arnold's posts here and I have shown her photographs that you have posted.

We have decided to try the fiancee' visa first because it seems that it might be slightly faster due to a longer waiting list for married couples.

I hope we are right.  I would marry her right now though...  :heart::heart:  I know we are both very much in love!:icon_cheesygrin:

Big Dave
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Post by: chen yan on January 02, 2010, 08:00:36 am
Quote from: 'Arnold' pid='26747' dateline='1262148655'


A Flower comes Home !

Flower's bend in the Wind
freeze in the Cold
some need to be in plenty of Sun
other's are afraid of the Rain
so to have it all told
Flower's,to blossom can have no Pain .

Certain tall and lengthy Flower's
can reach for the blue Sky
filter the Love out of thin Air
only to find light shower's
seeking someone that truely cares.

Being planted in a foreign place
the Love away by oh so far
hoping,wanting and wishing
one Day to be able to touch that Star.
 
Having found one with a smile
only to cross a Distance
of oh so many watery miles
to where this Love can be shared
never to leave this Dance
in the warm Arm's of Romance
so nothing more can be said...
...The Flower is Home .


Arnold,

You are such a romantic person,Nowdays seldom guy use this way to express their feeling. I remember my friend ever showed me the poem which the boy wrote to her in high school, and it made me jealous, Because I have never receive a love letter until now.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on January 02, 2010, 11:30:55 pm
Thank you Chen Yan , it is strange for me to start writing Poem after I met Qing . So , in other word's .. it took 54 year's for that to happen . She was the sole insperation for me doing this . I was alway's Romantic , but not in this way . Who know's , maybe writing Song's is next . Haha
Well , this has certainly been a Wonderful New Year's eve and New Year so far .
First thing on Friday , Qing and I watched most of the Rose Parade from 8:00 am on . Missed some , because she would not leave me alone :icon_cheesygrin::heart:. Then , it was off to my Uncle's Cabin in the Mountains about one and a half hour's away from Palmdale . Spend the day and early Evening there , which was a real nice Family gathering of about 18 or so People .. counting Kid's . In the evening after Dinner , we got down and play'd some Poker ... which I gave QIng some lesson earlier . Turns out she outlasted me on the Table , as my Uncle was the big winner . This was for Money of course , because Qing ( chinese ) don't play any Games just for Fun .
Today , it was off to Pasadena to see the Float's with my Neighbor's . I had made Breakfast as Qing was getting ready and we left about 1/4 to 10am . We got there about 11:00 and we walked about three  hour's ( with a large Crowd ) and pretty warm temp's , which nobody expected . So we all were way to warm dressed and that made it a little harder , as it felt like a hot summer day .. with little shade . You know , about chinese Lady's and the Sun ? No umbrella , no sun glasses ... this of course worried Qing . Especially , after I told her .. boy your getting brown .:angel: :icon_cheesygrin: . All this was fast forgotten when we came upon the Shanghai Float , with the Pearl Tower , Financial Building and Jinmao Building on it . I also had the chance to talk to the Security Guard ( which was Chinese ) about my four Trip and how much I love that City .
After all that it was off to Burbank and catch some Dinner and back Home . Tomorrow , it relaxing .. with only Qing getting her Driving lesson and a Trip to Wal-Mart for some Bargaining . Hahaha
As the time spend that we are together , our Love just seems to grow even beyond ever thought possible .
Well , now it's time to make Honey ... so I have some for my Tea tomorrow .:blush:
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on January 03, 2010, 06:57:19 pm
I guess it's time for some Photo's again ?

Start of the Salsa Lesson (1)
Qing and my Neighbor ( Glenn ) (2)
Us (3)
Looks like the Eagle will land soon and get Qing from behind  (4)
Qing with the Shanghai Float ( 5&6 )
My Neighbor's Girl and her Son (7)
Us again (8)
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: mustfocus on January 03, 2010, 07:07:43 pm
Pictures are good.  How your love and life are progressing are better (get your mind out of the gutter guys). :icon_cool:
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: ttwjr32 on January 03, 2010, 10:03:57 pm
Hey Arnold,

here is a suggestion for the two of you. if i remember correctly
the Hot Air Balloon Race is in Reno NV  in may. that might be
something she might really enjoy and during the 3 day event
you can even go up in one if you want to pay for that. that
is a really neat experience   just thought i would throw that
out
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on January 04, 2010, 01:07:18 am
I don't know sometimes it's scary Ted , how people read or think the same we have been talking about just a day earlier . From seeing the Float's we got some little Booklet's from New Mexico and myself having been there many time ( Albuquerque ) I talked to Qing about this Event in that City every year . But then ... here in Palmdale we now have a yearly Balloon Festival of about 10 to 20 Balloon's going up from the Park just a mile away from our Home . So this of course I ran across Qing , if she would ever do this kind of thing ? She is very afraid of Roller Coaster's , so she said ... that she would try this . She is after all not afraid of height's .
Anyway Ted , much appreciated and thanks for the Tip .
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: chen yan on January 05, 2010, 12:02:33 am
Arnold,

Great photoes ! I watched the Rose Parade from newpaper,now I watch it again.
Do you have plan to come back to your wife's hometown Shanghai to attend EXPO ?

Chen Yan
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on January 05, 2010, 09:59:24 am
Chen Yan , I would love to ... but Qing can not travel out of the Country for two year's , till she get's her 10 year Green Card . But then again , too many People are expected there . Qing and I have enough from that at the Float's showing , three hour's under a bright Sun and hardly any shade . So , this will be it for a while ... where large Crowds gather for us .
I will move to Shanghai , when it's time to retire though . Love that City and it's People and the FOOD of course .
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: maxx on January 05, 2010, 08:06:00 pm
Arnold somebody is pulling your leg.Does your wife have the temporary green card? If not go talk to that no account lawyer and tell him to do his job.You payed him money right?All Qing needs to get is called permission to travel.I will look and give you the form number.When I adjusted my wife's status that form was part of the package.It didn't cost me anything.

Arnold I just went to the official government website.The only thing it said was that.If you are in the process of Adjusting Qings status.That they would not consider it as abandonment of her visa.So in short check the web site see what you think.Second kick that no account lawyer upside his head.For telling you those kind of lies.

Me and my wife went to China and came back to the states on the temporary green card.2 times didn't have a problem either time.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: ttwjr32 on January 05, 2010, 09:54:05 pm
yes mine traveled with me also with no problem
 sometimes thats the problem with some of the
 lawyers and people who help with immigration
 they also have mis information
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on January 06, 2010, 12:45:15 am
Thanks Maxx and Ted for clearing that up for me . I still will not go back to China till some time next year . After what I have spend so far on all , I need to recuperate somewhat first . Haha
Qing and I had actually made plans , to have her Son ... go to School for about two year's to learn some chinese reading and writing before we bring him to the States . So we plan on going and all three of us coming together then ... . This is how we thought it is best in his interest later , if he ever want's to go back to China when grown up . It is also in Qing's best interest , for her to adjust here first and then we can concentrate on Tianchi ( Son ) for him to adjust to the new life .

Today , Qing got out of Bed early this morning all excited . Not because the night before , because ... I was going to sign her up for ESL classes . But as it has it , we need to wait till next week ( 11th ) to sign up for the Jan. 19th starting classes or if over-crowded she will be put on a waiting list . This of course kind of dampened her day somewhat and I got to work late for nothing , only to do it again on Monday . Hope we have better luck . She is really looking forward to them and I want her to meet some People . Hopefully ... from her Country , at least a couple of them .
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Post by: Arnold on January 10, 2010, 03:25:29 pm
A little up-date of this past Saturday . After having Breakfast with you know who , we headed down to Marina Del Rey . From there we walked over many Bridges over the Canal's there and on to Venice ( no not Italy ) . As some of you here ... know what goes on at Venice Beach here in LA , I thought ... I take Qing there for a wonderful fun filled day . People watching , being close to the Beach .. which is alway's Romantic and of course Rent some Bikes and ride them all the way passed Santa Monica Pier and back again . This was such a great time ... as it reminded us both of the Bicycle ride we had in HangZhou around West Lake ... way back on my first Trip in May 2008 after our first Face to Face meeting . Anyway , after the Ride and some rest and some Drinking ( Water ) we walked down the length of Venice Beach with includes Muscle Beach and of course we had to Meet my good Friend ( Harry Perry ) which has been skating and playing his Guitar since 1974 , ever since I came to California . Of course we took some Photo's and I will share some here .
To top this great afternoon together ... we went to the Happy MArket ( 99 Ranch Market ) on top of that . I think Qing can't be much happier , as to be together and share this quality time as a Couple so much in Love .
Today , it's back to her Driving Lesson's ... as I like to have her perfect her Turn's and Yield's and now her Parallel Parking which is on the list of today .
What I also like to mention , last night was the first time .. both of us got to use the Webcam and actually saw both of Qing's Parent's and her Son on Skype and it was just like being with them . I could just look at my Sweetheart and see .. how happy this made her and in turn me of course . As most of you know , Qing and I did all of our Chnlove meeting and through all the waiting period's without the benefit of a Webcam ... not that we regret it at all . But , we could have a added bonus there or all could have turned the other way .. if Qing saw me life before meeting Face to Face . hahaha
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Post by: ttwjr32 on January 10, 2010, 06:17:42 pm
Arnold,

she should and will probably meet a few chinese people in her english class. i dont know about you
but i dont think people really realize the sacrifices these ladies make to be with us. they basically give
up everything they have grown accustomed to in their life to be with us and take care of us. they work so
hard to learn everything they can. i am from california also (northern part) and sometimes they run across
some narrowminded people who dont understand the chinese culture and make some rude remarks and
they take it all with a grain of salt. could you imagine a california girl making these same sacrifices???
i dont think so or at least they would be so far and few between. its funny after all these years now i am
doing in China what your lady is doing in california. And now that my face is being seen everyday here so
so many chinese people are talking with me eating with me and we are learning from each other. anyway
just wanted to share that. when we move to USA in a few years to live there parttime i dont think i will
teach the driving though. i think it would be better for my peace of mind if i have a school instruct her.
otherwise i might have to start drinking i the passenger seat :icon_cheesygrin:
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: rockycoon on January 10, 2010, 07:28:37 pm
Yes, but think about this, she is with you every day now and is probably very happy!
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Post by: Arnold on January 10, 2010, 08:23:30 pm
Quote from: 'rockycoon' pid='27904' dateline='1263169717'

Yes, but think about this, she is with you every day now and is probably very happy!


Rocky , you are obsolutely right there . I happen to ask her right now and she quoted me ... that she is indeed very happy here with me . As I could and would be the same , if things are reversed . To be together is after all the most important and the rest one works on and ajust's as needed .

Ted , I teach her because it is after all the first time she has ever driven a Car . So , I do not want to put her into a Car with a stranger just yet .. only if it would be needed later . I do have Life Insurance . Hahaha
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Post by: Jimmy on January 11, 2010, 04:44:56 am
Quote from: 'ttwjr32' pid='27895' dateline='1263165462'

Arnold,

she should and will probably meet a few chinese people in her english class. i dont know about you
but i dont think people really realize the sacrifices these ladies make to be with us. they basically give
up everything they have grown accustomed to in their life to be with us and take care of us. they work so
hard to learn everything they can. i am from california also (northern part) and sometimes they run across
some narrowminded people who dont understand the chinese culture and make some rude remarks and
they take it all with a grain of salt. could you imagine a california girl making these same sacrifices???
i dont think so or at least they would be so far and few between. its funny after all these years now i am
doing in China what your lady is doing in california. And now that my face is being seen everyday here so
so many chinese people are talking with me eating with me and we are learning from each other. anyway
just wanted to share that. when we move to USA in a few years to live there parttime i dont think i will
teach the driving though. i think it would be better for my peace of mind if i have a school instruct her.
otherwise i might have to start drinking i the passenger seat :icon_cheesygrin:


A California girl making a sacrifice. Now that is funny. You would be hard pressed to find one that even knows what it means.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: ttwjr32 on January 11, 2010, 09:11:19 am
the only sacrifice a california woman would make is for you not to
 give as much money or do for her this week. you could always double
 up the next week   hahaha
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on January 24, 2010, 02:08:04 am
So today I learned something new . As I invited a good Friend to come to our House and later I will take him to a Chinese Super Buffet close to where we live , I found out this ... to me surprising news . This is the same Restaurant Qing befriended some Waitress and Waiter ( Chinese ) that told us about the ESL classes here in Palmdale . Well Qing and the Waiter got talking for about 15 to 20 minutes , of which I did not know what it was all about ... till she told me later at Home . These People work from 10 in the morning to 10 at night seven day's a week at "NO" Pay ( except the Cooks ) . They receive Board ( a small Apartment ) and their Food is also Pay'd . The only Money extra they get , is from the Tip's People leave . Which can be quite small here ... we are talking a Buffet place , not a fancy Restaurant . This is really taking adventage of these poor People , they can work for many year's and receive nothing what S.S. or any other benefit's concerns . So they work all those hours and are still like a part-timer on paper . On top of that , they say ... this is pretty much the way at all chinese Restaurant's here . Of course this makes me think of "other" national's that work here in the States ( especially in southern Calif. ) . Also , they find with this arragement of course no time to go to School and better themseves and get out of this ... at the Owner's convienence of course . This is just aweful to see .. in any Country , using People like this . This of course makes Qing think less of America very quickly , if you ask me .

About Qing's driving lesson's ; I took her on two of our busy Street's today ( 55 Speed Limit ) with other Car's around . This .. I only did , because I felt 100% comfortable with her driving by now ... to do this . She did great , but was a little afraid of the Speed ... but she need to learn some of our Calif. way's of driving . Which of course is not the slowest by no mean's anywhere . Oh , I also found out that the written Driving Test can also be done in Chinese . I still have her , study out of the English version though . I think , she'll be ready for the written and driving Test's in about a month to a month and a half's time .
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Martin on January 24, 2010, 02:17:42 am
So this restaurant is some sort of legal sweat shop?  Is this legal?  I don't know if I cold continue to go to a restaurant that treats its slaves...er, employees so poorly.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: ttwjr32 on January 24, 2010, 03:10:09 am
actually under usa labor laws this would not be legal
 and the workers would be entitled to back pay remember
 we have a minimun wage law in usa and everyone is
 entitled to it. but actually the workers would have to
lodge a complaint which i doubt they would
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: maxx on January 24, 2010, 06:33:24 am
Restaurants operate under different business laws.But what Ted is saying is right.The restaurant would also have to pay.Back taxes and Workman's comp.The owners of the restaurant would be looking at some huge fines and possibly some prison time.

Arnold what you and Qing heard about.Is real close to Human slavery.And yes it is against the law.When I worked in the restaurant business.20 years ago.The minimum wage was 2.50 a hour plus tips.For the wait staff And the buss people.It was minimum wage for anybody else who worked at the restaurant.Cooks,dishwashers,Hostess.

As a side note.Restraunts and factories  in China are run this way.You have dorm rooms for the employes.Wich may only consist of a little room.With a bed.And they recieve a small salary.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: ttwjr32 on January 24, 2010, 06:44:19 am
also i am wondering who owns the resturaunt?
 probably not from the USA as i think someone
 from there would not take this risk. so tell Qing
 its others exploiting there own. this happens all
 to often here in USA. its to bad but many people
 do a lot of hard work to obtain that freedom that
 they think they are recieving.  Im not sure if they
 do that in China Maxx i think that they just pay a
 low wage like maybe 1000 or 1200 rmb and this is
 why many people from the countryside here come to
 the city to work. just an observation ive seen here
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David5o on January 24, 2010, 06:55:05 am
Arnold,

The real downside to this is, that it's normally there own Nationality that are treating these workers so badly, taking advantage of them in the same way as they do in China given half the chance!!

If you want to help these workers Arnold, turn the owner in, by making a complaint, but make sure that Qings friends are not illegal workers first, just to be on the safe side!! lol!!

David....
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: shaun on January 24, 2010, 08:30:02 am
Arnold,

Thank you for sharing this information about Chinese Restaurant workers.  I hope this is isolated to a few dishonest restaurants in the country and not the standard practice in Chinese Restaurants in America.

A lot of what has been said here is true.  Restaurant workers are paid a minimum wage and tips are a part of it.  I have never understood why there is a double standard with minimum wage. I know there are tips to make up for the lost minimum wage but so many people stiff wait staff. It has never sounded ethical to me.

This whole issue makes me wonder about one restaurant in my community.  I took my family to a Chinese Restaurant, when I paid the bill I did not put a tip on my debit card but left cash on the table. (The last time I did that.)  The waitress chased me down outside of the restaurant crying and asking me if she did something wrong.  I took her back inside and showed her the tip on the table.  She apologized profusely. It makes me wonder now.

You can report the restaurant and its owners but if the employee will not file a complaint, in most states, the agency will not respond.  I do not know where California stands.

The way some businesses operate today is outside the intent of the law.  There is a provision where an employees can sign his rights away on a piece of paper prepared by the employer.  If the employer says that the employee is not to receive an hourly wage but will be compensated with living quarters and food and then the new perspective employees signs it then it becomes legal.

I think that these employees, should they choose to fight this issue, could claim that they were under duress if such a document exists with two reasons.  1.  If was in English then they can claim that they did not understand what they were signing.  2.  Being new to this country they did not understand that there were laws against this kind of abuse.

I am currently involved in a case where employees, me being one of them, were forced to sign documents like this.  I will tell you that if these restaurant workers choose to follow the path of suing the owners it will take a long time.  Our last law suit took almost 2 years.

I think the best way to overcome the issues these employees is to assist them in finding other work.  Realize that this would be more than just helping them to find work they will also need help in establishing residency as well.

Shaun

A thought and a quote: How do you change the world?  One person at a time.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: chen yan on January 24, 2010, 08:53:12 am
Wow, "the Bicycle ride we had in HangZhou around West Lake " must be very romantic.
Arnold you are aboslutely a fantastic and considerate husband material. Hehe
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David5o on January 24, 2010, 09:07:57 am
Shaun,


I can't believe American law would allow a worker to sign away a 12 hour working day, without pay.
For a start Health and safety rules wouldn't allow continuous 12 hour day working, let alone 7 days a week 12 hour working!!!  No these owners, are exploiting these workers BIG time, and need to be brought to boot, and shown that this is just not acceptable in the Western world. While they are racking in the money, there workers are living like paupers in a near slave capacity...

Dob them in Arnold, these owners need to be shown that this is just not acceptable and taught a stiff lesson....

David....
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on January 24, 2010, 09:30:14 am
Your all sort of right. There is the federal minimum wage act. Which is anyone working has to be paid this. BUT restaurants don't go by this and I've never heard of one paying it. The figures vary but most waiters and waitresses make about $2.50 an hour plus tips. And that's anywhere at any restaurant. Most places use a share plan in which all tips are put together and even split between all working. Sometimes even a manager/owner will dip his hand in it? So each restaurant is a little different in how they treat the staff.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: maxx on January 24, 2010, 10:25:51 am
Ted that is how it works in China.My wife's cousin.Owns a restaurant in Beijing.We spent about four hours at the restaurant.We ate there then They showed me around and we discussed how the restaurant was run.The head cook had his own little room.Just off of the Kitchen.The rest of the staff had a dorm room above the restaurant.And yes there is a small wage payed to the staff.Head cook was making like 1500 Rmb a month.The dishwasher was making 800 rmb a month.The restaurant staff could eat 2 times a day.And had 2 days off every month.

My sister in law worked in a factory in Shenzhen.Where they made plastic bags.She had the same working conditions.Worked 7 days a week.Had 2 days off a month.With room and board provided.The room was a big dorm room with rows and rows of bunk beds.With foot lockers to put your personell stuff in.They had a cafeteria at the factory where all the employees ate.2 times a day.She made 800 rmb a month.

My brother in law works in a factory.As a Chemist they make chlorine.My brother in law is married.And has a daughter.The company provides him with a house.And if he wants to his family can eat in the company cafeteria.I'm not sure what he makes a month.But I think it is good for Chinese wages.He is a college graduate with a bachelor in Chemistry.

My wife's last job in China.The hospital she worked for provided a nice room.She could go to the cafeteria at the hospital and eat 3 times a day.She worked from 8:00 am till 8:00 pm.With 2 hours off during the day.6 days a week.She was making about 3000 Rmb a month.My wife was a plastic surgeon consultant.Before that she taught plastic surgery.To medical students.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: mustfocus on January 24, 2010, 11:04:09 am
Hi Arnold,

If that restaurant is exploiting those people, then I would definitely expose them.  I would be careful if those people are "illegal aliens", but even something like calling your local TV station and letting one of their reporters do some investigating might help.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: ttwjr32 on January 24, 2010, 07:10:02 pm
no matter how you put it this is exploytation by the resturaunts owner
 here in the states. everyone needs to be payed for what hours they work
 and not have papers saying they will accept rooma and board. this would
just be counted as income for the irs but wages have to be payed
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David5o on January 24, 2010, 07:19:27 pm
Ted/Arnold,

There's a very meaningful saying, that covers this situation and many more....

''We work to live, We Don't Live to Work!!''

This restaurants owner seems to think very differently, and needs a stiff lesson in humanity!!

David......
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: ttwjr32 on January 24, 2010, 07:30:41 pm
i agree with that David it has been my motto
 all my working carreer up until my early retirement
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on January 24, 2010, 08:40:48 pm
Yan , yes I guess I am that Romantic Guy . Haha . Qing keeps telling me that also often .


Thank you all you Guy's , for the reply's . I will check into this some more , next time talking to these People ( Worker's ) if they are looking for a way out and if they have the means to do anything about getting a better Job . If they also feel , that there Boss ( Which is by the way Chinese himself ) does take adventage of them . If it's a problem for them , I will for sure take this up and further to help them any way I can . They been helping us getting with finding an Adult School in our area , so this is my way of helping them ... if they are indeed wanting out of this Slave Job .
Ted is right , while the "nice" Boss fills his Pocket's and deduct's the room and board and food from his Worker's , they are out of income and the Government out of it too . So this can not be legal anyway you look at it . Qing say's , even in Shanghai the restaurant worker's get Pay ( not much ) plus tip's and in some cases even room and board . Looks like an OLD custom is fast sinking into the western way's .
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: shaun on January 25, 2010, 10:26:16 pm
Quote from: 'David5o' pid='29163' dateline='1264342077'

Shaun,


I can't believe American law would allow a worker to sign away a 12 hour working day, without pay.
For a start Health and safety rules wouldn't allow continuous 12 hour day working, let alone 7 days a week 12 hour working!!!  No these owners, are exploiting these workers BIG time, and need to be brought to boot, and shown that this is just not acceptable in the Western world. While they are racking in the money, there workers are living like paupers in a near slave capacity...

Dob them in Arnold, these owners need to be shown that this is just not acceptable and taught a stiff lesson....

David....


David,

I know it sounds hard to believe but I had to sign a contract I drive without pay each and every day.  I signed under duress.  I know it sounds impossible but it is.  If the company can prove that they support you with living quarters, food and clothing they can.  The Church of Scientology has people who work free for them in return for room and board.  The organization is huge with little overhead.  Many of their people work from 8am to 10pm, 7 days a week.

It is possible and it happens more than you think.  Arnold if they signed a contract then it is legal and binding.  I do not agree with it but it is a reality.

As far as 1 hour  being lost each day since many of us signed under duress we have legal right to sue and recoup our lost wages.  It is in the works.  I am looking forward to the lump sum plus penalties.  It ought to get me a couple of trips to China.


Shaun
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on January 25, 2010, 10:28:17 pm
So ... is it time for some Photo's again ?
Qing and I went Sunday to my late Wife's Gravesite and put some Flower's there . It was exactly three year's since she passed away . After we had taken our new Tennis equipment with us and drove to the Court's I used to play many times . I found that Qing is good , but not as good as in Ping Pong . But that will change , as I will teach her this also in the coming year , as we plan to play often . Makes me want to go back and play my old Friend's , at the semi-pro level . That will take a while though , as I have to get used to a new Racket . They sure are big , compared to the old ( Jimmy Connor's Wilson T-2000 ) racket . If I'm capable , that is another thing of course ?
Anyway , here are some Photo's from the Snow near-by where I live and at the Court .
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: brett on January 26, 2010, 06:12:02 am
Wow, nice photos. Are those the Rockies? Here we only have hills.

All Chinese ladies seem to love sport and exercise. I'm not sure I like either. I think I will be ordered to take up some activity. I like the idea of watching my lady in her belly dancing exercise class :angel:. I am rubbish at ping pong.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: ttwjr32 on January 26, 2010, 09:59:43 am
i get killed in ping pong here in china even the little kids
 are really good at it  hahaha
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David5o on January 26, 2010, 12:44:13 pm
Shaun,

I am totally baffled!!! ....What do you mean you drive each and every day without pay???
You have NO workers ''Health and Safety'' regulations in the States??  No-one is allowed to work 12 hours 7 days a week, Surely?? Your labour laws would hold president over any buckshee employers contract, in fact all contracts would have to apply to your Labour Laws....

Something just don't sound right here, .....We are talking about America here, ...aren't we ????

David
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on January 26, 2010, 02:11:18 pm
Quote from: 'brett' pid='29341' dateline='1264504322'

Wow, nice photos. Are those the Rockies? Here we only have hills.

All Chinese ladies seem to love sport and exercise. I'm not sure I like either. I think I will be ordered to take up some activity. I like the idea of watching my lady in her belly dancing exercise class :angel:. I am rubbish at ping pong.


Your right Brett , she loves Sport's and also exercises daily at home . These are not the Rocky's , they are only about 5000-6000 feet high at most . Snow-level was down to about 3000 feet that day . It Snowed at my House for a while .. not much .
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Neil on January 26, 2010, 04:02:58 pm
I was thinking the same thing David.  I don't think that would work in Canada either - contract or not.  I'm pretty sure you can't make a contract to supersede human rights and labor laws.  Signing under duress - isn't that a good reason for a contract to be void?
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: maxx on January 26, 2010, 08:39:44 pm
David your right.Labor laws in the states fall under Federal law.Any state law that contradicts federal law.Is not a law that will hold up in any court.

There is ways around labor laws.If the employee is on a salary.(Salary means a set amount of wages per day.week,or month).It is real easy to get around labor laws.

The last salary job I worked was 60 hours a week.Federal law states that if you work more then 40 hours a week.The company has to pay you some kind of compensation.My compinsation was I could come to work when I wanted to.I could go home when I wanted to.I took as much time off as I wanted to.I went to China 4 times and Thailand once all withen a years time.I was payed for all the time I missed work.I had free gas..And the use of a company vehical anytime I needed to.

The salary job I have now is 35 hours a week.Five days a week.Anytime I need off.I just take off.I'm still payed for the time I miss work.

With a salaried job.It's all in the contract you negotiate.With the company or the individual.If you do not like the contract.There is no law saying you have to work there or sign there contract.I always had my contracts wrote up.That if there was something the company needed to Change.That would effect my contract.I would be told.And a new contract would Then be negotiated.The last company wanted to renigotiate my contract.I didn't want to renegoitate my contract.So the company terminated my contract.They payed me for time left on my contract and 2 weeks pay.

On a sales job it is way to easy to get around labor laws.Most companies in the states where the sales person is payed a commision.There only salery is there commision.They are payed a substance wage durring the week.And the end of the month they are payed there sales commision.Minus what ever money they used durring the month.On a sales job you can work 12 hours a day seven days a week.Depending on the company you work for.No further compinsation is mandated by federal or state law.

Where the United States labor laws really come into effect.Is on employes that are payed hourly.In the States you must pay.A full time employee 7.50 a hour at the minnumum. Most Americans make way more then 7.50 a hour.They only have to work 40 hours a week anything over forty hours is time and a half.In short they are well payed for anything over forty hours.It is mandated by federal  laws.That you must give them a 30 minute rest every 8 hours.If the company has over 15 employes they must offer there employees insurance

If you own a company in the states and you don't follow theese laws.The employees can and will take you to court.After you pay the court fees and the fines.And payed the back wages owed to the employee there is a good chance your little company will go bankrupt.

I think what Shaun is talking about is that he has to drive a ways before he gets to where he starts picking up passengers.And the Bus system Shaun works for  isn't paying him for the time.It takes him to drive the bus to the start of his route.Some bus companies consider this a grey area where the law really isn't exact.

It really isn't a grey area.The law states that anytime you are driving a company vehical on company time.That you will be payed.For your time.As long as you are engaged in work.In Shaun's case driving to the beggining of his route.

The paper Shaun signed.Probably said we are not going to pay you for this time.If you don't sign this paper.Your services are no longer needed.Wich means Shaun would be terminated.It is against labor laws.

I used to drive Semi trucks like Martin does.The company I worked for.Tried the same thing with me.They wanted me to drive a empty truck and trailer from Fontana California to Denver Colorado.They told me since the truck was empty I wasn't going to get payed.I just told them if they wanted there truck and trailer back.I was going to get payed.If I ddin't get payed I was going to drop a loaded truck and trailer on Sunset boulivard in Los Angelos.And let them come out and get what was left of it after the cargo was stolen and the truck was stripped.

The company payed me for the run from California to Colorado.3 weeks after that.I found a different company to work for.

Just the few of the goverment agencies you have to deal with in the States if you own your own company.

Osha.( ocuptaional saftey health administration) real bad people.Safty violation fines alone can close your company.

 labor board.If a employee in your company has a problem.With the company.This is the people the employee complains to.Labor boards in New Mexico have about a 70% succes rate.That means if a employee complains there is a good chance you as the company owner ar going to be out of allot of money.

Workmans compinsation.You have a employee on your payroll that gets hurt on the job.Your workmans comp insurance is responsabel for all medical bills lost wages.And retraining expenses if the employee cannot return to work after the injury

Another orginisation in the states is labor unions.Labor unions Are real big and real powerful in the states.I have never worked  a union job.Vince or abiggbutt would know more about them then I would.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: ttwjr32 on January 26, 2010, 09:12:35 pm
Maxx- was that company central refrigerated out of fontana? the old dick simon company?
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on January 26, 2010, 09:35:58 pm
I work for a wireline company and during the winter months the field workers do 2 weeks on and one week off. The field engineers will do a job catch 3 hours sleep and be off to another site. They get pushed, but also they get bonus per job. So if they want to abide by the labour law - then they don't make the coin.

Sorry for the partial Hii-jack Arnold so I will conclude with

Nice set of pictures and I can see who one the set :sleepy: Advantage Qing.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: maxx on January 26, 2010, 10:25:52 pm
Ted no it was Swift transport.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on January 26, 2010, 11:30:11 pm
Did I ever mention , that funny things keep happening to Qing and Me ? As I said before , Qing took her English Test a week and a half ago .. to determine what level of Class she'll be in . They told us , there are about 100 people ahead of her ... to be placed into a class ..then . Today , Qing get's a call at Home and they wanted her to come in and Register for Class and join the first one for her .. at level three out of four . This now coming to think of it , of course had to be on the 26th day of the month's . As both our Birthday's are on the same day .This doesn't surprise us any more , there are just too many to remember ... if I don't write them down , to be used later in the Book . Anyway , before leaving her alone and I went home ... I told her NOT to make a new Boyfriend and forget about the Bee . Hmmm ... that's funny and I got a poke into my side . Haha
I just hope she can make a or some Friends in her Class . Well , got to go and pick her up now . She has class only two hours and Home is about 15 minutes from the School .
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on January 26, 2010, 11:38:02 pm
Strike!, Strike!, Strike!, Yes, I was a Teamster for a many years. My dad was for 40 years or so. It's basically the same rules except there was a shop steward on site, we had about 60 drivers and about 75 people during the day and about a dozen at night. It was a milk company so I worked nights. If there was a grievance you went to the Shop Steward and he'd take care of it. I never had a problem from management that I had to go to him. I knew them since I was born, owners and all. I had a problem with a coworker once. Been on strike a few times too. Even a wildcat strike. Going to Teamster meetings was scary. It was NY City in the 70's., if you get my drift.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: shaun on January 27, 2010, 05:09:15 am
Quote from: 'David5o' pid='29374' dateline='1264527853'

Shaun,

I am totally baffled!!! ....What do you mean you drive each and every day without pay???
You have NO workers ''Health and Safety'' regulations in the States??  No-one is allowed to work 12 hours 7 days a week, Surely?? Your labour laws would hold president over any buckshee employers contract, in fact all contracts would have to apply to your Labour Laws....

Something just don't sound right here, .....We are talking about America here, ...aren't we ????

David


David I do not get paid for my first and last 15 minutes of each trip.  I drive 2 trips a day.  It equals 1 hour.  The rest of the time I am paid.  Their reason is that they should not pay for me to commute, I drive their vehicle, it is not parked at my house, it is 5 miles to my route.

I was forced to sign their contract stating that my pay would begin at the first pickup and end at the last stop before I could pickup my vehicle.  Is it legal according to State and Federal law?  No.  Is it legal if I sign a contract stating they will pay me that way?  Yes.

We have over 200 drivers.  If 150 of them willingly sign the contract and 50 do not then the 50 lose their job.  We have a lawsuit against them and it looks at this time to be in our favor.  I couldn't talk about it earlier because it is a government agency but it has been made public so now it does not matter.

No, my issue is nothing like what Arnold and Qing ran into but it is legally possible to do it.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on January 27, 2010, 09:45:55 am
Shaun, your not alone in this and it's really not that bad either. One job I had I installed and repaired elevators and ADA lifts (wheelchair carriers and that seat that goes up the stairs) The boss called one day saying he wanted to only pay us for time on the job and deduct any travel time to, from and any travel in between. My reply was "NO!" He made the (stupid) contracts with management companies of a 24 hours service. If someone got stuck we had to get there and fix the unit within 24 hours. That means we had to drive to some place as soon as a call came in maybe Sunday night at 9pm? I got a call one time on a Saturday night 9 PM to South Beach which means try to find a place to park could be a half hour alone? Raining, dark, no overhead and your working with electricity? I saw it this way, If I had to leave from my house to get to the job? I'm getting paid.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: ttwjr32 on January 27, 2010, 11:05:33 am
Maxx,

same owner he bought central off of dick simon.
my last working stint was i bought a new semi and drove for central for
a year and a half before i retired again. always wanted to drive and see
the country so i did it and enjoyed it for about a year and it took 6 months to
sell the truck so i could retire again. driving was on my bucket list of things
to do in life before i go
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David5o on January 27, 2010, 03:03:54 pm
Maxx,

Thanks, that makes a lot more sense to me, than the snippets that was being mentioned. I have experience of the OSHA rules from overseas construction contracts that had them written in, under the ''Standards and Specifications'' of the main contract details.

Shaun,

OK, i understand where your coming from now.  But i fail to see how a worker can legally sign away 12hr working day/7 days a week, without pay!!!. It's one thing to sign away (for arguments sake) 30 minutes, than it is to sign away 12hrsx7 days and totally without pay. Board and meals wouldn't come anywhere near compensation for 12hrs/7 day a week working. At least Shaun, you get paid for the other hours you spend at your place of work!!!

For a start they would deemed to be in an ''unsafe working environment'' as everyone would be in the same position as themselves, ..ie they would all be working in or around a working kitchen, ..Fire hazards, open hot cooking areas, rotating machinery, sharp hand utensils etc, etc When due to the length of there working day, are not deemed to be fit enough to carry out there duties in a safe and diligent manner.... In other words, it's bloody dangerous to be working 12 hrs in a busy kitchen when your going to be inherently tired, that's when Bad Accidents happen.

So, i'm pretty sure that your federal, and even your state labour laws wouldn't allow any of what this employer is doing to/with his workers.

Another thing, Don't you have local Public Health and Safety inspections, at such food outlets?? In UK/(Europe) when they visit such businesses, one of the things they ask to see is employee contracts.
As contracts of those working over (i think) 16hrs a week, have to be in registered and in compliance  with County Council authority requirements...

It does seem you have many ways around your labour Laws!!
It reminds me a lot of your National Electric Codes, where it can state a rule, and then proceeds to give about 10 exceptions, which just about wipes out the original rule!!  haha!!

Jokes apart, this owner has just got to be breaking umpteen different federal and state rules...... Isn't he????

David....
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Neil on January 27, 2010, 03:20:10 pm
Speaking of electrical codes...[attachment=1369]
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David5o on January 27, 2010, 04:02:43 pm
Neil,

I hope it's nothing like the American codes!!! Full of ....exceptions ,exceptions and even more exceptions ...hahaha!!!

David.....
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: shaun on January 27, 2010, 05:47:15 pm
As Arnold holds his head in his hands saying, "I had no idea you guys would take it this far."

David, this is my last word on this.  I agree that 1 hour a day does not compare to the 12 hours of the restaurant workers.  My point is that companies have the ability to change the law to fit their needs.  All they need do is to get the employee to sign it.

The purpose of wage and hour programs is to protect the employee not the employer.  Like everything else our government this provision has run amuck.

Arnold, sorry.

Shaun
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David E on January 27, 2010, 05:53:37 pm
Not in Aus Mate....nor anywhere else for that matter. It is not possible under Common Law to allow/entice/cajole or bully someone into breaking the Law. Neither is any such signature that endorses the breaking of a Lawful Condition lawful in itself.

Any person/Business that entices an employee to break the Law with such a signature are themselves breaking the Law !!!

It is a defence that is often used in Common Law and has been thrown out and overturned so many times that it is hardly worth the bother of a defense......however, if the signatory does not complain...then nothing gets done. Usually, fear and concern prevent many disadvantaged people from making a legitimate complaint, which under a Westminster type system would certainly succeed !!

David
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on January 27, 2010, 11:28:47 pm
Quote from: 'David5o' pid='29542' dateline='1264626163'

Neil,

I hope it's nothing like the American codes!!! Full of ....exceptions ,exceptions and even more exceptions ...hahaha


I just got home from doing some electrical. What a bowl of spaghetti? Whoever did this wiring just shouldn't. Same for the construction part of this job too. A 2 day job has turned into a week so far?
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: ttwjr32 on January 28, 2010, 12:00:30 am
i have seen some pretty bizarre electrical stuff in my time
 wondered why there was never a fire ??
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on January 28, 2010, 12:43:09 am
Quote from: 'David E' pid='29556' dateline='1264632817'

It is a defence that is often used in Common Law and has been thrown out and overturned so many times that it is hardly worth the bother of a defense......however, if the signatory does not complain...then nothing gets done. Usually, fear and concern prevent many disadvantaged people from making a legitimate complaint, which under a Westminster type system would certainly succeed !!

David


That's exactly how I feel about the whole thing David . If they want to take it further , I will help them . If not , I'm not going to stir-up the Pot .
Thanks Guy's for all the input on this , appreciate it ... even if it took a little curve away from the Topic .
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: rockycoon on January 28, 2010, 01:00:54 am
Vince, I've been there and done that, I with you bro...sorry about the mess you have to deal with.:dodgy:  Charge them by the hour on that (a lot).  :icon_cheesygrin:

I think they hire monkeys to do stuff like that...:icon_cheesygrin:
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David5o on January 28, 2010, 11:30:55 am
Arnold,

What's a little curve or two amongst friends!!! ...hahaha!!

David....
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on January 28, 2010, 11:44:59 am
Quote from: 'rockycoon' pid='29585' dateline='1264658454'

Charge them by the hour on that (a lot).  :icon_cheesygrin:
I think they hire monkeys to do stuff like that...:icon_cheesygrin:


I'm on my way back in a few minutes. I spoke with the boss about it. It seems he bought the place like this? But this extension of the showroom (it's a store) was done like 10 years ago? Three circuits, two tied together? The power for the lighting is out of two boxes but only one switch? On top of that the power wire and natural wire were mixed? Each box had the colors mixed, blk to wht, blk to grn? None of this is more then 12 feet apart? I sent a change order, changed my fee. hehe  Oh yeah another mess? Garage door openers? Power going up to a recep (plug) then over to another then an extension to another recp box? and then to another box for power? Wonder why the motors don't work? hehe 240v on one 14g wire for a 120v motor?
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: rockycoon on January 28, 2010, 01:41:29 pm
Vince  sounds like a hatchet job to me.  You have my deepest simpathy's,  sounds like a new bmw to me...:icon_cheesygrin: or at least a trip to china...:dodgy:

#14 wire don't get it drawing that much power.  i would have used #12 or #10 for the amps.  Wonder why no one was zapped...:icon_cheesygrin:  Turn on the power, and half of Orlando goe's dark...hahaha
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David5o on January 28, 2010, 02:39:28 pm
It's about time you lot went metric, like the rest of the world..... talking about being out of step!!   hahaha!!
I think, but not sure, that even Canada is using metric cable sizes!!
So what's the big deal with sticking to your antiquated AMG??

David....
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Neil on January 28, 2010, 04:19:12 pm
We use AWG too (American Wire Guage)
[attachment=1382]
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David5o on January 28, 2010, 04:43:53 pm
Neil,

Then shame on you, your stuck with the only other country in the world that uses this old and antiquated wire sizing! Has nobody told you, ...The modern world is now ''Metric'' ??....hahaha!!!

Neil, is there an on-line version of your Canadian National Electric Codes?? It would be interesting to have a look through them...

David...
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: shaun on January 28, 2010, 06:42:08 pm
Quote from: 'David5o' pid='29643' dateline='1264707568'
It's about time you lot went metric, like the rest of the world..... talking about being out of step!!   hahaha!!
I think, but not sure, that even Canada is using metric cable sizes!!
So what's the big deal with sticking to your antiquated AMG??

David....

They tried back in the Jimmy Carter days to go metric.  I think the people didn't accept it.  Plus your one to talk.  Wasn't England the last one to convert?  It hasn't been that long.

The only thing I do not like is that I keep two sets of tools in my shop.

Shaun
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David5o on January 28, 2010, 07:12:23 pm
Shaun,

Electrical wire /cable sizes went metric in the UK in the middle 70's, that's over 35+ years ago!!!
The point is that now, The whole world, except the USA, and it seems Canada too, ... is Metric...

As it happens, i've just been looking up the latest NEC tonight, and see that you are still using what we used to call ''Screw-it'' wire connectors everywhere. These things were banned in UK over 40 years ago, and probably longer in parts of Europe. I've had lots of experience of the NEC from working on overseas projects where the NEC was initially the projects electrical standard. It caused nothing but trouble. It's standards are out of date, vague in important areas, nitpicking in others. And sometimes completly incompatible with equipment and materials from countries outside of the USA....

David....
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: mustfocus on January 28, 2010, 08:06:39 pm
Canada actually uses both.  Not sure about cables and wire, but we sell gas by the litre, food is sold at both by the pound and by the kg... height is given in both cm and feet, cans are ml...speed is in kph (although we do have mph on our cars)...distance is usually in km...

You can't flip just like that overnight, especially beside someone who is not using the same system and is bigger than you...
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: ttwjr32 on January 28, 2010, 08:23:31 pm
modern world? outdated? i think if you really got down to it each
and i mean each and every country has its good and bad points and
always will. its what makes the world a unique place. so its nice to
love your country but i would have to disagree with you that everything
is not perfect in each country
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: shaun on January 28, 2010, 08:32:27 pm
Bingo Ted.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: ttwjr32 on January 28, 2010, 08:43:18 pm
by the way i am not offended by what anybody said i
just wanted to make a point of difference and uniqueness
that makes the world an interesting place
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: rockycoon on January 28, 2010, 09:08:57 pm
All the other countries use wierd voltages, except Canada and United States.  We use 110 and 220 volts and get along just fine.
So all you other countries MUST CONFORM or else....haha  :icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin:
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: shaun on January 28, 2010, 09:12:28 pm
Quote from: 'rockycoon' pid='29686' dateline='1264730937'

All the other countries use wierd voltages, except Canada and United States.  We use 110 and 220 volts and get along just fine.
So all you other countries MUST CONFORM or else....haha  :icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin:


Or else we will give your country financial aid from America and send our political carpet baggers to administer it.  YOU KNOW what will happen then.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on January 28, 2010, 11:32:06 pm
As for connectors we use both now screw on and push in. Most newer services have the push in. Sorry but we Americans are stubborn and refuse to change to metric. Let all you others convert to our way. (just kidding I can feel Dave 5o's fingers itching for the keyboard).

Uh! I wonder if this red button works...  Oh damn!!!  :icon_cool:
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: maxx on January 29, 2010, 12:00:32 am
I remember it was carter who tried to convert us to metric.back in the 70 nobody knew anythng about it so it didn't take.They tried to teach us a little in School.But it came and went real quick.I think now in schools they do teach the metric system a little more.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on January 29, 2010, 12:05:08 am
Quote from: 'ttwjr32' pid='29682' dateline='1264729398'

by the way i am not offended by what anybody said i
just wanted to make a point of difference and uniqueness
that makes the world an interesting place


:huh: I thought uniqueness was missing your balls - and wasn't the forbidden city governed by those that had them off ended ? :huh:
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on January 29, 2010, 12:07:22 am
Maxx your right about they teach it now. A few years ago i had to take a test for school on a computer. Some of the questions were on metric. I jokingly expressed that I didn't learn the metric system when I went to school. I think I was older then the teachers. :-/
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on January 29, 2010, 12:10:15 am
They converted here I believe late 60's. I still think of people by ther height and weight in feet and lbs. Short distance in Yards, but for car travel I think in metric.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on January 29, 2010, 12:18:01 am
Actually we do have the metric in some places. Some cars have a double indicator mph and km. Tools for metric screws and bolts and also allen wrenches. Soda bottle is in both liter & gallon, etc. Even the auto tires are metric now.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: ttwjr32 on January 29, 2010, 01:58:55 am
you would be unique if missing those:dodgy:
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David5o on January 29, 2010, 03:01:54 pm
Sorry if i've upset any of you guy's here, it wasn't my intention ....It's just a bit of fun...lol!!!

When i was talking about Metric above, i was really only talking from an electrical stand point. Like as been pointed out here, in the UK several things are still sold in Ibs and our auto speedos are still in MPH (dual with KPH). But it's been years since i've seen anything sold, or have used yards, feet, and inches. though i still convert in my mind back to those sizes, when i need to imagine the size of an area! ...haha!!  To be honest, Lt/100Km still means nothing to me, i still only understand Miles per gallon, which i always set my car fuel computer to..lol!!

Rockycoon,

You have more voltage bands than any other country i know!! Have a quick look in your NEC if you don't believe me!!...haha!  Your 110/115v  (220/115v) supply voltage is probably one of the most inefficient for a general power supply. (That voltage (110v) is only used in Europe as a temporary safety supply voltage on building sites) Required Cable sizes alone would prohibit its use, let alone the losses incurred on cable runs. Supply Transformers Need to be 2.3 times the KVA size of an equivilent European Transformer, Who's Supply voltage is 380/230v. And UK/Europe uses JUST that supply voltage system, not the half dozen or so different voltage bands you have in the States.....

So, ...Nah i think we'll stick to our system, your more than welcome to your 220/115v, Oh, and the rest of them ..haha!!

David....
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Post by: Josh Markley on February 09, 2010, 06:23:12 pm
Arnold, Sorry so late congrats brother.  Reading all your stories really teared me up.  You sound so happy, and look very happy in your pictures.  Hey and if you need any help at all with english I am willing to help, I have been taking classes and have a korean client so I may be able to help a bit if you get your skype up and going.

Qing, Congrats sister, and welcome to America!  Look forward to getting to know you.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: rockycoon on February 09, 2010, 08:44:23 pm
Contrary to belief, I've been doing electrical for a very long time.  Now that I am retired, I could care less.  However, on an upbeat
note.  I had every tool that you could possibley get, but because of the metric system, I got to go to the "CANDY" store and buy all
metric also.
I guess other than football and a cold beer, a man's favorite place is the tool or "candy" store.  I have never seen a man walk in there
and walk out with nothing, even if he's broke and only has a quarter, he will find somthing that he absoulty has to have.  Even if he has
three of them at home, he will get another just in case one breaks.
For those of you in China, you are so lucky as they have so many tool stores there, its got to be like Christmas every day.  The only
other place a man needs is a "shop" where he can tinker and play and find ways to use all those tools he bought.  Even if nothing is
broken, he will invent somthing to fix or repair.  He knows that other than football or baseball, the tool shed is the last bastion of
manhood, where women arn't allowed and he is KING of his castle.  He will buy tools that he has no idea of what they are for
just so he can claim to his buddies he has one, even though he will never use it.  But hey, it's new and shiney and is good for somthing
like perhaps cracking walnuts.
So get off your ass and get down to that tool store and max out that credit card, there is gotta be somthing you just gotta have before
you kick the can....haha :icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin:
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: dude on February 10, 2010, 08:22:39 am
I've been with a company from Hong Kong, in Las Vegas, the last couple of years and all their material was manufactured in Hong Kong. Being that "we" in The U.S. still use inches, feet, etc. I had bought a stanley tape measure with both standards on it...the funny thing, all my Chinese co-workers had to adjust to "our" measurements when it came to replacing broken lights and such(nobody would call out measurements in metric)! :icon_cheesygrin:  Also once you have everything in ur head you can convert one way or the other very simply! or use a caculator!
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Post by: David5o on February 10, 2010, 10:38:50 am
rockycoon,

I'm a bit like that myself, ...haha!! My indulgence is electrical test and measuring equipment, which tends to be a tad on the expensive side unfortunately. But over the years i have managed to acquire some pretty impressive stuff, mainly from the contractors that wanted to keep me sweet ...lol!!

That was one of the first things i noticed about the NEC, virtually nothing about test requirements on completed installations, as i remember just required a megger test (insulation test) In UK/Europe, there is a set procedure and sequence to testing installations, and far more involved than just a megger test....

That's not to say i can't spend hours in tool stores, if something catches my eye, i have to it, and it normally leaves the store with me!! ..lol!! Built all my own fencing round the garden and the covered patio, also laid all the swimming pool area tiles around the pool. So you could say i'm very much a DIYer too ...lol!!!!

David....
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on February 14, 2010, 08:20:57 pm
As for the ones not being able to go and see my Blog , I brought that last Post here . I thought this would be interesting for all .
Second , I like for you Guy's to keep to the Topic at hand if possible . That is much appreciated of course by both Qing and myself .

Friday, February 12, 2010

A first sign of wishing to be with her Son .

A few day's ago , Qing talked on Skype with her Parent's and using the Webcam . As I ... most of the time sit next to my Sweetheart , I understand very little if anything at all what's being said between them . I just like to listen my LaoPo talking shanghainese and dream ... I some day will be able to speak and communicate to some small level . Anyway , all seemed normal ... till the next day at the Dinner table . When Qing told me of her Son's ( Tianchi ) three day Hospital stay , for a Hernia Operation . For a Child ? This is what came to my Mind ... this only happens to older People , who do heavy lifting . So on it went , I also found out ... he was born pre-maturely . This explained what happened somewhat .
So , after all was said and done ... Qing's next sentence was , what a bad Mother she was/is . Not being there to be with him , was deep down really painful for her and also for me to witness . Something I could easy see in her Face .
This left of course a bad taste in my Mouth , as I felt really somewhat selfish ... having taken her away from her Son . Halfway around the World to boot .
The good thing being , he is back at Home with the Grand-parent's and doing fine . The reason I'm posting this on my Blog , is to make other's realize ... what one can be in store for , bringing a Chinese Lady/Wife to ones home-country and especially one with children that are left behind for whatever reason . Even if it's only for a short time . Remember , Chinese Family's are one of the closest nit in the World .
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on February 14, 2010, 08:44:48 pm
Thanks for sharing Arnold. I can only imagine the frustration your wife feels and in turn you share. I am glad her child is back with the grand parents and lets hope the future smiles brightly on your extended family. And with that I also hope your thread is now back on track.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on February 15, 2010, 01:33:23 pm
Quote from: 'Rhonald' pid='31741' dateline='1266198288'

Thanks for sharing Arnold. I can only imagine the frustration your wife feels and in turn you share. I am glad her child is back with the grand parents and lets hope the future smiles brightly on your extended family. And with that I also hope your thread is now back on track.



Rhonald , my Wife did calm down now` ... as we had a long talk about the situation , that some things are just unavoidable as we are doing things that we felt are the best for everybody .

You bringing up " Track " and being Valentine's Day yesterday , I thought ... after I made Breakfast for us
(breakfast burrito's which Qing loves ) I took her to the Go-kart Race Track near my House . As you know , I'm teaching her to Drive and this will show how she will handle herself with not only the Kart , but also with other's on the Track as well . So , don't need to tell you ... she had a wonderful time and did not loose it ones as other's just kept racing by her at neck-breaking speeds of 20 to 25 MPH . haha
After that it went on to the real deal . I can see a big improofment in her confidence of having the Car under control at all times . I felt save enough to take her on Roads ( with Cars ) of speeds of 45 and 55 . She did very well ... so I'm still alive and able to write this .
Friday night we went back to the Chinese Buffet , where we befriended a couple of the Waiter's and Waitresses . One of them brought along three MVD written test ( all in chinese ) for her to study . So she has all the answers of the questions they will ask , both in English and Chinese ... which she has chosen to do in Chinese in about a week or so . After she receives the Permit , it's on for bigger challenges .. including Freeway . Guy's please say a prayer for me , that we will make it through this in one piece .
In the Evening , we had reservations at an Persian Restaurant for love couple's .. which I'm sure we qualify for . We went with our closest Neighbor , had Dinner , Music , free drinks from the Boss and all this lead almost everybody there to make room in the place to do some Dancing and Singing ... which I found myself surprising myself how well my Singing took hold of me and shocked Qing as she has never seen me like this before . Just play the right Music ( songs ) and I'm all game . We all had a super time and all this for about $ 100 bucks . Qing did not Sing , but boy did she Dance with all the other Lady's .. when it was all Lady's on the Floor ( as ask by the Entertainer ) I was so proud of her and of course it raised my level loving her more by the minute .  So , hope all that had the chance to be with their Lady / Wife's had a simuliar great time on this special day .
I have some photo's that I will share later ... patience .
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: rockycoon on February 15, 2010, 01:37:41 pm
All lady's dancing ?  was this individual dancing or like line dancing ? (all lady's at one time)
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on February 15, 2010, 01:41:49 pm
All the Lady's together as ask , then came the Mens turn . This was during MO-TOWN sequence . As you know , there are alway's the stand-out's and this was no exception . Great Fun !!
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: ttwjr32 on February 15, 2010, 07:27:30 pm
really sounds like it was a terrific day for the two of you.
and her driving is getting better which will be good for her
when your at work, so she can go out and about and not
have to stay home all the time.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on February 15, 2010, 11:26:16 pm
Exactly right Ted . She was willing already to walk 6 miles home from School . Something I did not like her to do , as she thinks still ... it's as safe here as China ... wrong !!!
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: JimB on February 15, 2010, 11:43:22 pm
I can empathize with you Arnold.  Even though I am here with my wife and Chinese family, I still feel I should be back with my daughter as she is having some problems with her pregnancy.  Her husband being in Afghanistan and me being here there is no one close to help her.  But, I do think that I will be home with her for the final 3 months and after so, I need the time with my wife.  As you said you are doing what is in the long term best interest of your family.  Personally I think you are doing the right thing about the son.  You two need to set up your life together and get it working then bring him in with a settled family life.  He doesnt need to see his mother trying to cope in a strange environment, this way she can guide him through it when he gets there.  Kids adapt to things quicker than we do so it wont take him long once he gets there.
Good going.

Jim & Gina
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Post by: ttwjr32 on February 16, 2010, 02:40:24 am
Arnold,

walk 6 miles home from school. that is just a little piece of the reserve and
determination these ladies have, and what they are willing to do.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on February 22, 2010, 02:06:41 am
Thank's Jim and Ted for your comment's , alway's value them .

A little up-date over what gone on last week and this weekend . As the Spring Festival is in full gear in China , I've decided I will give Qing five day's off from Cooking Dinner for us both . So , after coming home from Work .. it was to get busy getting a American Meal on the Table . Now honestly , I'm not a Chef Emeril or the like ... but I have picked up some Tips from my late Wife over the many years . The one Dinner that stand's out , after going shopping at Costco ... where we picked up some Filet Migon and a couple of Lobster Tails for a special first time for Qing treat and served with Fettucini Alfredo and a wonderful Salad. Calories yes , but who cares ? She really enjoy's the break and learning new western dishes too .
Saturday (yesterday) we went to Downtown LA or Chinatown to be exact , to see the Chinese New Year's Parade down Broadway . Which is a yearly thing there . Day started out great , as it has Rained all night but cleared in early Morning and did not return till the Parade was over and we had our Dinner at one of the Restaurant's nearby . Thanks for mother nature for being sooo kind .
I have some Photo's to share we all of you .
Today , we did not get out of Bed till about 10 o'clock .. as both of us were wiped out from the long day's all the week before . So , in the afternoon , I was showing Qing some Card games .. she could play by herself during the day , if she get's bored . The answer I received after she she learned how and try'd herself to see if she's got it all down , was ... this is not good . You do not have to use your Brain for it . Now , of course I felt guilty for all the times I play'd Salitaire by myself ... which was quite often when I had nothing else to do around the House and nowhere to go . I tell you , chinese don't like anything that doesn't inproof your Brain-power or makes Money . No wonder they are so smart at a much younger age then many of western Folks . I have to include myself in this group too .
Makes one think , should I be proud of having such a smart Wife or feel stupid for not being at her equal ? haha  waaahhhh .
Anyway , so this Friday ( my Birthday ) I will take the day off and I will take Qing for her written test at the DMV . She decided to take it in chinese ( I had no idea they had the Test in dozen's of languages , some I never heard of ). I know she will do good . After getting the Permit , I think she'll be ready in a month's time for the driving Test .

PS: A little hint I heard today , Germany would be a much better place to live ... she say's . I know she realized that it is pretty bad here in California's Economy , compared to Shanghai ... but I never saw that coming .:-/

Our first Cake together ( Lemon Bandt )
99 Lily's for my Valentine and one Rose
Swinging with my Neighbor at the Valentine Dinner Party
At the Parade , my Uncle and some of his Grandkid's and Us
Qing said , I could pick three Girlfriends for myself from all the pretty Girl's going by . Since it is normal in China she said .
I think , this Dragon has it for me ... if I did this three Girl on the side thing
After a wonderful day , I can't ask for more ... then a beautiful Sunset
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Post by: Chong on February 22, 2010, 05:21:42 am
How about 'Computer Solitaire' where you can play with "TWO" or "THREE" different suits in ONE GAME ... Now that's tough and requires brain power.  :huh: Glad to read about Qing and your life in California.
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: JimB on February 22, 2010, 07:19:37 am
I know what you mean about the card games.  I taught my wife Gin Rummy.  I am not bad at cards.  She beats me 2 to 1 every time.  We play for massage time, needless to say I do a lot of massaging.  I am going to teach her poker and see what she can do. lol.  If she is that good, I may take her to Vegas when she gets to the US. hehe.  She told me she never loses at Mahjong when playing for money.  I told her that is the way to get her Mercedes.  (that is the car she wants).
Good luck to Qing on her driving test.  I know she will do well.  She doesnt know how to do anything less than that.
I need to let my wife talk to Qing about the girlfriend deal.  She tells me she will not share me, no matter what.  lol
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Post by: Willy The Londoner on February 22, 2010, 09:32:33 pm
You did not get out of bed until 10 o'clock???  

We never get out of bed before 10 o'clock when at home.   At least that is one great change I have made to her life.  No more getting up at 6.30 am 13 days every two weeks for her to go to work.

She has joined me in becoming a late night person.  Except I can spend hours playing on line poker and she watches every cent coming from or going into my pot.

Willy
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Post by: ttwjr32 on February 22, 2010, 10:52:47 pm
are you teaching her bad habits Willy??
Arnold   let us know how she did on the test im sure she will pass with flying colors
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Post by: Arnold on February 26, 2010, 12:12:54 pm
As usual , I take my Birthday off from Work . First thing we are going to do today .. is go to the DMV for Qing's written Test to receive her Permit and then off to more serious lesson's on Calif. driving .:-/
So , I will let you know how she did later . Going by her confidence , this should be no more than 5-10 minutes with the chinese Test . If it takes longer , I will worry . She did have all the Test's available ( somebody else' ) to study the answer's , so hopefully ... they did not come up with new ones for the new year:huh:.
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Post by: ttwjr32 on February 26, 2010, 05:34:15 pm
they keep he same tests for a while then just chnge questions between them
when they make new ones. i think they have a total of 4 test to take or i should
say versions
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on February 27, 2010, 12:40:00 am
You're right Ted . They have four different versions of the Test . Over the last months , Qing has both studied the English and the Chinese version's of the DMV Booklet's and it proofed to has pay'd of very well for her . She passed the test with an score of 100% and only needed 10 minutes to do it . What can I say ? I'm very proud of her . If I was to take it now , I most likely get 5 - 6 wrong or even fail . We did mention here ... they are very smart People those Chinese . I give her a month's time and she will take the driving test , which I think she'll be more than ready for .
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Post by: Hajo on February 27, 2010, 01:08:54 am
Hi Arnold,

Happy birthday, even so I am late, he he. You may tell Qing that the living in Germany is not good too. I am very glad that I do not live there at the moment. I think the economical situation in Germany is close to the Californian situation.

Glad to read that everything is going smooth.
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Post by: ttwjr32 on February 27, 2010, 04:19:24 am
Arnold,

well you had a great birthday this year with all that has happened.
now she can drive you to work and pick you up soon when she aces
the driving test. you can take a short nap on the way home :icon_cheesygrin:
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: JimB on February 27, 2010, 04:20:40 am
Happy Birthday Arnold.
Ted, sure he will nap hahahahahha.
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Post by: Arnold on February 27, 2010, 03:34:31 pm
That's funny Ted ... take a nap while she is driving . You know this way , I might not wake up at all anymore . haha

Thanks Hajo for the Tip , I will show Qing your Post and I'm sure she will start to miss Shanghai again instead . :icon_cheesygrin:

Thanks Jim . Hope you are starting to feel better by now . We both know , your in the best of hands with your Wife .. even if she wasn't a Nurse .:heart:

To close out my Birthday yesterday , we did go to one of our favorite Sushi places and it just so happens that as we walked in ... there was a chinese Lady with her western Husband sitting at the Sushi Bar already . It turns out , this Lady is from Shanghai also and grew up not too far from where Qing grew up . She's been here 10 year's already , mostly in San Francisco but she moved down to Palmdale two year's ago .. as her Husband is one of the designer's of our new Hospital here . After the introduction , I think ... I could have left for Home ... Qing would have never known I've left . hahaha
Talk about them two getting on ... boy ... the Shanghainese just flow in all directions let me tell you . How is that to top off my Birthday ? It is like Qing received a reward for doing so great on her Test .
Well , I for sure can not be any happier ... for taking this day off .
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on March 09, 2010, 01:49:23 pm
Well , things are still going great and the Honeymoon is far from over :blush: .

One thing of notice though , a couple of day's ago Gary from California called me at Home . As I found out he is also from my Hometown Palmdale and we will pick a day to have Breakfast or something to meet up . I will see how this will go and inform you of the ongoings concerning this meet .
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Post by: ttwjr32 on March 09, 2010, 06:52:52 pm
Arnold,

is Qing ready yet for the driving test? or are we still
a few weeks away from that?

Ted
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Post by: Arnold on March 09, 2010, 07:51:23 pm
Ted , she'll be ready the end of the month . I still don't want to rush her . I don't want her on the Road , til I'll know she is safe to do so . Don't want to loose another Wife .
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Post by: ttwjr32 on March 09, 2010, 08:06:32 pm
i agree totally with you. but i am sure she
 will be a great driver and soon you will let her
 do all the driving when your together in the car


that way you can take a beer and take naps
just kidding lol

about the beer and naps im kidding
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Post by: Arnold on March 10, 2010, 11:17:11 am
Ted , here I thought chinese all take naps wherever possible ? Well , there been day's ( like after a big Brunch ) you just want to dose off for a few hour's , but NO .. not with my Wife . I think that she might want to , but is ashamed to do so ... thinking she is not a worthy Wife just laying around . It took me weeks to convince her to stay in Bed a little longer in the morning , after I get up for Work . That was not easy I tell you .
Now , about drinking ... oh she watches carefully , as I have said early on " I don't drink and smoke " only at Parties or get togethers . At Home nothing but Tea and Milk .:icon_cheesygrin:
After a nice dinner , I do like a nice Cigar ones in a while . She is okay with that .. I think ?
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Post by: Rhonald on March 10, 2010, 11:41:40 pm
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I do like a nice Cigar ones in a while . She is okay with that .. I think ?


Arnold have a Havana
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on March 16, 2010, 01:04:59 pm
Some more up-date of a wonderful and happy Life with my LaoPo .

Driving with Miss Daisy ... oh Qing .. I mean !
So , want to update how the Driving and some of the other thing's are going so far .

On a not so bright side , Qing's ESL classes are giving her two weeks off . Not because it's going to be St. Patricks Day soon ( funny .. I chose green today ) , but because the State is out of Money and can not pay their Teacher's for a full year . It's sad , as this Class is a big success , as their are always full with People eager to learn the English language . But it is out of our control and we must live with that for now .

Now , back to Qing's driving progress . As we received a tip on where and what street's the DMV uses for it's driving test , we of course went there and are practising ... to make Qing feel as relaxed and not be too nervous as possible when the time for the actual Test comes . Her driving has improved and made advances just as I have hoped she would . Yesterday ( last night ) I took her to down a Country Road about 15 miles from our home and the way back , I guided her into a Freeway
on- ramp . She of course did not realize , she was on the Freeway .. till I told her to speed up to at least 55 -60 mph . This was as expected a shock , being on the first Freeway drive and at night too . I chose the night time , because much less traffic at that time . Did not want her to go into " FULL "Panic after all . So we cruised back for about 12 miles before getting off .. back into normal traffic . I try'd my hardest to convince Qing , while on the Freeway ... how much easier it really is , not having to worry about all the light's - stop signs and cross traffic all the time . But , she is not very comfortable at higher speed's . Something I saw already in China at a Amusement Park , like the wilder rides .

That brings me back to Sunday's fun filled day at the Family Fun Center . It was Race day again , doing the Go-Kart thing over . This had a really funny start . As the Operator explained the Rules of the Course , Qing just took off ... as she was in the first Car on the Track ... before the Guy gave the signal to go . I guess she wanted a pretty good ' HEADSTART " from the Field . Can I blame her for that ? So it turns out she got overtaken twice anyway . Hahaha .
After that , we went on to Miniture-Golf . This was Qing's first time and I tell you .. after a couple of Holes , she was right up to Par with me .
To continue this fun filled day , we drove to the " Happy Market " for some Food shopping , which Qing alway's enjoy's . She loves that Market , one can see it in her Eyes ! Or maybe it's Love instead ??? as I am right there next to her .. like a shadow .
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Post by: Sylvain D on March 16, 2010, 01:44:05 pm
Ahah ^^
I like he karting story ^^ I can imagine Qing speeding up at the headstart and willing for a medal, next... Then, being overtaken by all racers, trying to come back in the race, willing the medal but...  nothing ^^ anyway, I guess she liked the race :)

About her driving, it's very good to see her progress :)
by the way, man thinks that most of the time, driving at night is not so good, because of dark, "aggressive lights" and so on... but well, sometimes, there are less drivers, and when man is driving on a "little road" or in a freeway, that maybe is better, instead driving by day,  hidden in a monter traffic-jam... :D

Anyway, it seems you are having lot of fun whatever you do and share with Qing, Arnold ;)
keep that post updated ^^' you can also add some photos when you have time for it :)
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Post by: Arnold on March 16, 2010, 01:50:02 pm
Sorry about the lack of Photo's lately . I try to take all my Photo's ( close to three thousand ) off my Computer and store them on a Memory Card that is big enough and I refuse to add any more till then . I have many waiting on my Camera , but have to wait .
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Sylvain D on March 16, 2010, 02:00:05 pm
oh, then we will have to wait to see 3 000 photos from you with Qing... :D
Title: RE: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on March 30, 2010, 10:50:08 pm
So it's about time again .. to give you Bro's something to read and see some Photo's , which is alway's welcome .


More of the wonderful time spend with my Qing .
What can I say other then ... what a lovely time I get to spend with my LaoPo . If it's after my workday or on the weekends . As this Journey started more than two years ago , we or should I say ... I find myself somewhat in a dream world . How it is possible for two People from opposite worlds / cultures can meet over a Computer screen and fall in Love the way Qing and myself did , really is an amazing thing . Anybody in their right Mind , would not even give this a thought .. much less a try even . But , seeing ... someone who does not DARE to try something new , will not gain certain stuff in Life . That is of course something we both had to do , with the unknown staring us in the Face and the disapproval of Family member's and Friends alike . So .. two point's one must overcome here , one being .. do it and the other .. don't listen to other's sometimes .

Now , about the weekend that just passed .
After getting up early and doing some Yardwork ( first of the new year ) , we both went to have Breakfast and then .. it was off to Downtown Los Angeles . I wanted to take Qing to the Imax Theather for a couple of Films , show her the old Coluseum Stadium and get a climps of the Museum's down here .. that we are planning on Visiting in the near Future . This was a wonderful of a Day , as I could have imagined it would be . It was topped off with a great Dinner of BBQ'd Babyback Rib's . Having a lovely .. daily companion like my Wife , it's heaven on Earth . I only wonder .. if she also feels that way about me ? Ohhh ... I think she does .

There are from having my Neighbor and a Friend from the Phillipines and from downtown LA last weekend .. at the Imax and Science Center . Also a Sunday Brunch with many friends and the Neighbor's .
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Post by: Chong on March 30, 2010, 11:22:40 pm
Master SiFu,

How's Qing adjusting to the culture shock ?

Is she enjoying the North American food ?

Her english must be getting better everyday.

Student
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Post by: Arnold on March 31, 2010, 12:28:42 am
Quote from: 'Chong' pid='35821' dateline='1270005760'

Master SiFu,

How's Qing adjusting to the culture shock ?

Is she enjoying the North American food ?

Her english must be getting better everyday.

Student


Student Chong ,

She does like it very much here .

She loves my Cooking .. no kidding .

Her English is getting better . Just today her Classes continued.
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Post by: Norb Smith on March 31, 2010, 08:44:55 am
Have you fed her any of the famous german cabbage burgers yet, I always rember those when we had our Octoberfest celebrations back home,  along with all the tryolean music and the beerstubs........lol
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Post by: Arnold on March 31, 2010, 09:51:51 am
Norb , I did make the German Burger's ( but my hometown style ) no Cabbage though . I also let her have some Sauerkraut , she made a Face like it was a Lemon she was eating . Did not care for it too much . But overall , she likes German Food . I do have to try a Sauerbraten yet . I do play some of my German Music as well .. no complains .:icon_cheesygrin:
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Post by: ttwjr32 on April 01, 2010, 10:41:58 pm
a good kraut dog   wow i do miss those maybe i should open a
hot dog cart here in guangzhou over by all the embassies. but i
would have to import the dogs as the ones here a terrible
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Post by: RobertBfrom aust on April 01, 2010, 10:58:00 pm
Ted , you are not supposed to be eating dog , hot or cold in China ha ha , perhaps another name might get more customers , regards Robert .
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Post by: ttwjr32 on April 02, 2010, 02:09:34 am
never thought of that   hot dog  might give people the wrong impression :icon_cool:
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Post by: Arnold on April 04, 2010, 02:48:50 pm
Here are some new Photo's of yesterday's Dinner with my oldest Grand-daughter and her Husband and little Girl . For anyone , still might sound funny .. she made me a Grand-father at 24 and her little Girl made me a great Grand-father for the fifth time at 53 . Telling People this of course , will alway's shock them somewhat and will be followed with many question's ... how .. ??

Anyway , here are a couple Pictures we took after Dinner .

PS: The third photo .. there is my Smile missing . I guess , because I had to pay the Bill . :icon_cheesygrin:
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Post by: ttwjr32 on April 05, 2010, 04:33:58 am
ok Arnold i cant resist    HOW :icon_cheesygrin:
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Post by: Arnold on April 07, 2010, 12:28:58 am
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ok Arnold i cant resist    HOW :icon_cheesygrin:


Well Ted , you ask for it .
 I met my first Wife when I was 24 and she was 36 and had seven Children already at that time and had two husbands . Just before we got married , my first Grand-daughter was born from the oldest Step- daughter . Hence Grandpa at 24 . Now I have 19 Grandkids and five ( sixth on the way ) great-grandkids . See what LOVE can do to you ? One better watch out !!!
She was alway's like a measuring stick .. so to speak for my first marriage . She is 33 now in a few months .
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Post by: ttwjr32 on April 07, 2010, 12:52:25 am
Arnold,

ok i see i didnt know your first wife was older which explains this. 19 grandkids wow
i have 7 right now with more being planned by both sons. so i will end up probably
with 10 0r 11 i think, i took all 7 to disneyland and the area around you know
knotts berry,universal and i needed a vacation when i got home lol!!!! after that week
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Post by: Arnold on April 07, 2010, 01:33:24 am
Hahaha ... yeah Christmas's and other Holiday's were never boring at that time . Especially , when some of them don't get along too well . But like they say , those you can alway's give back or send them Home . And your right , one needs a vacation after such event's .
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Post by: ttwjr32 on April 07, 2010, 01:40:21 am
my oldest grandson is now 18 and i am trying to convince him to come to
China to live with Sisi and i. He can help me in the english school i am starting
to get developed and up and running with a partner here in China.
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Post by: rockycoon on April 07, 2010, 01:48:15 am
Arnold,  I am so sorry, all those kids to buy presents for at christmas.  Perhaps the Chinese have the correct idea and that is RED envelopes.  One envelope fits
all...:icon_cheesygrin:

Your correct on needing a vacation after an event like that...:angel:
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Post by: Arnold on April 07, 2010, 01:53:09 am
I wish I had known about them Envelopoe's at that time , what a Headach it would have prevented .. for sure . Well , but we do have Giftcard's now .. not bad either .
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Post by: ttwjr32 on April 07, 2010, 09:16:25 pm
gift cards--- our version of the red envelope
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Post by: Arnold on April 18, 2010, 09:45:50 pm
Here are some more Photo's for the Photo-starved Guy's .
 
Some are from last weekend at the Hunington Library in Pasadena . Other's are from this weekend at the Renaissance Faire in Irvindale . Took Qing back in time some 500 year's , which she enjoyed very much and of course that keeps me happy as well .

PS: Pinky and the Blue Boy ( by Gainsbrough ) are the originals . Talk about looking right at a few dozen Mill's each .. right in front of you and NO????????????????????????
???????????????????????????????????????
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Post by: JimB on April 19, 2010, 12:13:40 pm
Great pics Arnold.   Thx.
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Post by: Scottish_Rob on April 20, 2010, 12:03:18 pm
I thought that was Blue Boy arnold i looked at the pics before reading the post...:icon_cheesygrin:

Very nice pics mate
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Post by: shaun on April 20, 2010, 12:56:58 pm
Great photos Arnold.  I especially liked the last one.
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Post by: ttwjr32 on April 21, 2010, 10:31:41 pm
great pics Arnold and i am sure it was a fun day for the two of you.
 Renaissance fairs always make for a great day. have you done the pacific coast
 highway drive yet with her? that is always a good trip up the coast with
 many great stops along the way.
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Post by: maxx on April 22, 2010, 02:22:36 am
Arnold nice pictures.I think renisaunce fairs are great.And like Ted said.I think Qing would like the Pacific coast highway.I did that drive about 7 years ago.It was real cool.
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Post by: Arnold on April 22, 2010, 11:24:50 pm
Ted - Maxx , I guess you can't read my Blog or you two would know what happened about the Trip I had planned to Carmel-Monterey and San Francisco . But Qing did not want to miss any of her ESL Classes , so I canceled that Trip . We will now go to Vegas for a few day's instead . The Coast Highway must wait a while more . I've been going to Carmel almost every year on my late Wife's and My Anniversary . Want to continue this tradition with Qing . But both of you should know , how important School is to the Chinese .

My Blog address ones more : www.shmifeng.blogspot.com
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Post by: Arnold on April 23, 2010, 12:35:19 am
On a different note : Qing took the driving Test yesterday and due to a heavy Rainfall got too nervous and failed . This test was planned for two weeks and of course it had to Rain on no? only that day , but as soon as Qing took off with the Examiner it started to come down . I felt sooo bad for my Sweetheart , hence I knew it was NOT going to turn out good . She does drive very well already . She drives herself to School and Back Home ( with me of course ) and does everything I have taught her right . Now , we will make an Appointment for three ?fo?r day's in advance only , so we can keep an Eye on the Weather-report and make sure NO???????
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Post by: ttwjr32 on April 23, 2010, 02:25:38 am
no Arnold from china i cant log on to it.

sorry about the result of the test
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Post by: chen yan on April 23, 2010, 06:29:31 am
Arnold, You always sharing your happiness life with us here,These photos are vivid.
It makes me see how a great relationship can make each other grow. Thank you.
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Post by: Arnold on April 23, 2010, 12:08:24 pm
Ted , you are the Ambassador to China and you can't Log on Blogspot . :icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin: Sorry I forgot .

Yan , thanks !
It is great when you start out with a wonderful Relationship like Qing and I , but one has to work on it to alway's improof it .. by caring / loving and doing Fun things together as a Couple beyond the Bedroom .
A good example , her failing the Test . This is when she needed me more , as she was very down on herself and still is somewhat . But I love her more because of it and I show it not just talk . We are of course are going to have up's and down's like in every Marriage , but this should only strengthen it .. not weaken it .
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Post by: Chet Sams on April 23, 2010, 07:04:13 pm
Arnold ya cant come to vegas. We are trying to clean our roads of california drivers. Hehehe.
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Post by: Arnold on April 23, 2010, 10:29:40 pm
Chet , it's okay ! Qing will be Driving if that is better and welcome ?
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Post by: Chet Sams on April 23, 2010, 10:36:10 pm
Cali driver or Shanghai driving skills. If its shanghai skills. She will fit in with our taxi cab drivers. If its cali driving. She will fit in with the rest that are well known for there. Ahem running red light stops. And ya know what i mean by that. But as long as she can keep it on the road she will be fine. Just keep her away from the casino. It will corrupt her.
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Post by: Arnold on May 18, 2010, 11:20:25 pm
Well Guy's .. my first Post in the New World .
Here is for those that can not see/get to my Blog .. my latest Post of the last weekend spend together with my sweet Wife .

Monday, May 17, 2010

A wonderful Weekend Visiting !

I must say , this past weekend was very nice .. including somewhat tiring . Having driven a total of some 530 miles round-trip to Visit a couple of Family member's near the Beach area around San Luis Obispo . Paso Robles and Los Osos to be exact .



This was by now " Our " furthest Trip away from Home , since Qing is with me . No need to tell you , driving in a Car is not a Chinese favorite past-time thing to do . But at the same time , she was eagerly awaiting to meet some of my late Wife's Cousin and ex-Sister in-law . So going through some of California's Farming and Cattle Fields in the flat lands of the Bakersfield area . Including Cotton fields and for myself actually a somewhat boring drive ... having done this an countless number of times heading North . The later part ( to Paso R. ) of this Journey , took us through the more nicer Mountainous drive and through the Wine Country surrounding Paso Robles . Having reached our first goal at the Cousin's House , where we expected to spend the night and move on to the second leg ( to Los Oslo ) of this Trip . After spending a wonderful afternoon with my Cousin and her meeting Qing for the first time and talking of old and new times . Something that could have gone on forever , if we didn't start to think about Dinner . My LaoPo and I ask where there is a good place to eat in Paso R. and as I should have known .. my Cousin suggested a Chinese Buffet in Town . Ohhh .. why not we thought ? After all it been tooo long having had Chinese Food .. hahaha .



As my Cousin had to take care of an elder Lady at her house , we decided .. hence it was only about 6:30 pm and we did not want to retire so soon . We agreed to take a short Drive to Cambria , which was about half hour away . That by itself was very exciting as we had timed it just right for the soon coming Sunset at Moonstone Beach across the street from Cambria so to speak . Try to include a couple of Photo's if I can .



After a good night sleep , that we desperately needed .. it was to say Goodbye to my Cousin and hit a close Coffee Shop for some Brew and some Breakfast food for the coming drive to Los Osos . Having filled both our Tank's , it was time to hit the Road and back to Cambria . Why Cambria again ? Well the day before looking into a few Art Galleries and Souvenir Shop's , we came across a wonderful little ( but heavy ) solid stone Buddha . Something I was looking for to put in my Backyard by the Waterfall and Garden I was planning to build soon . Perfect I though , going to look great and at the same time ... something from Home for my Sweetheart to enjoy .




By then , it was time to meet my Ex Sister in-law and spend the rest of the day in Los Osos and Morro Bay . This also was the first time for her meeting my LaoPo , that I was telling sooo much and to sooo many People as I was still waiting for Qing to receive her Visa . I guess ( I know ) they all know now , why I always carried a smile and was in a Super mood every time they saw me prier of Qing's arrival . Spend an equally pleasant and wonderful day as before , but the weather had turned colder and the Sky started to get Cloudy more and more as the hours went by . Of course us thinking " Warm " , were caught with pretty much only the warm blancket I always have in the Car for just those kind of situations . I was in Short's and T-Shirt , but I was only thinking of my Sweetheart .. making sure she felt warm and enjoyed the View's and not ruin her Trip because of freezing to death .



As previously , we enjoyed a wonderful Dinner ( well late Lunch at the Waterfront ) but Inside this time . The outside Heater's just weren't enough to keep everybody comfortable and preventing us to indulge in this awesome Seafood Sandwich and Salad they famous for .



Back it went to my Sister's house and to have the Dessert that would have cost us too much at the Restaurant . Besides , we were stuffed and needed to relax a couple of hour's of being shown the very beautiful Beach Area around Los Osos and the Neighboring Town's/Cities . By almost 7:00 pm , myself and the two Lady's were ready for some Coffee ( Home brewed ) and the now made room for Dessert .



Being well treated for the last two day's , it was time to head Home . By now it was nightfall and looking at about a three hour drive to finally sink into our own warm Bed ... dreaming ??? Of course , a good night sleep and the great weekend we shared together .


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Post by: Arnold on May 24, 2010, 03:08:36 pm
Monday, May 24, 2010
Another wonderful Weekend passed .
It seems that , ones you have spend a wonderful Weekend with your LaPo , the going back to Work on Monday's is not so bad after all .
This Weekend started actually out on Friday after just stepping through my front door coming home . Qing was on the Phone and was really excited seeing me . Well , not that it was all because of me being home .. no .. she was talking to somebody that is a Member on the Official Chnlove Forum . Also , he lives in Palmdale . This is the second time I have talk with this Person ( Gary ) is his name . But this time , after Qing handed me the Phone .. was going to be special . He ask me , if he could meet both of us for some Coffee sometime . Here I thought , why not tomorrow for Breakfast at an nearby Restaurant . So it was set up to meet not only Gary , but also his Mom . The reason for his eager to meet us .. well the two things actually , one being Qing and I met at Chnlove and the second being .. she is from Shanghai . He's been to China before , meeting up with a Girl in Changsha . But , he and his Mom are planning to go back to China for a couple of months and do some Traveling with a friend of his that is Chinese . Naturally I was looking forward meeting this Member and his Mom .
As it turned out , they were quite nice People with a Russian background . To Qing's and my surprise , he was also in Japan for some time and spoke Japanese quite well . Qing's just loves having a chance to use her language skills of both Chinese and Japanese equally . That is as always great to see/listen to , even not understanding one word . Well one or two maybe . haha
On Sunday , it was going to be Yard work . We first started to set up the Swing-bench that Qing had wanted and then .. it was over to the other side of the backyard to start working on my Waterfall and Cactus Garden I have planned . While I was busy with that , Qing on the other side drew some Character's on one of our big Rocks next to the Swing-bench . Those I will carve out later with chisel and hammer and have her paint them Red of course afterwards . One thing I found out since my LaoPo is with me , is ... no matter what we do around the House or outside/away from it ... it is such a pleasure to do things together as LaoGong and LaoPo . I also feel , she's feeling the same way about me .
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Post by: shaun on May 24, 2010, 05:23:15 pm
Two great posts Arnold.  I look forward to the day when Peggy and I are doing similar things.  We talk about it quite a bit.  You posts are encouraging and I can't wait to see pictures of what the two of you are building in the back yard.
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Post by: Vince G on May 24, 2010, 06:14:34 pm
I will carve out later with chisel and hammer

What are you a cave man? Get yourself a Dremel or Rotozip?  ;)
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Post by: Arnold on May 24, 2010, 07:30:44 pm
Hahaha Vince , yes I am ! Why do it the easy way .. when you can do it the hard way ? Afterwards , one can look at it and know how hard it was to do this .
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Post by: Arnold on May 24, 2010, 07:33:29 pm
Two great posts Arnold.  I look forward to the day when Peggy and I are doing similar things.  We talk about it quite a bit.  You posts are encouraging and I can't wait to see pictures of what the two of you are building in the back yard.

Thank you Shaun , I guess I will show some of my Backyard here soon .. as it comes to be near the finish line .
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Post by: Arnold on May 25, 2010, 11:23:00 am
Ok Shaun , here are a few of my not quite finished backyard . Should have it done by end of year .
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Post by: Vince G on May 25, 2010, 01:01:55 pm
Arnold, Is that suppose to be a small pond? or waterfall? Is there a lining under it? Doesn't seem like there is one. Otherwise whatever water you put in there it will drain away.
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Post by: Arnold on May 25, 2010, 01:11:37 pm
Arnold, Is that suppose to be a small pond? or waterfall? Is there a lining under it? Doesn't seem like there is one. Otherwise whatever water you put in there it will drain away.

This will be our Cactus Garden and I will water it all with the Sprinkler system with timer , coming down like a waterfall when finished . One of a kind ( I think ) . No Pond here . Thought about it , but too much trouble and upkeep . Here it get's 115 degree's sometimes , so Catctus is my choice .
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Post by: David5o on May 25, 2010, 02:48:44 pm
Arnold,

Did the same here in Cyprus, not big or as elaborate as yours, but a cactus bed/garden just the same!!!

Made mine from sidewalk paving slabs. The council made the mistake of leaving a stack of them, just along from my house, along with a sizable pile of sharp sand!!!  So i made good use of both, ....haha!!! The slabs were too thin to use singly, so i first stuck them together, ....jeez, they tend to get bloody heavy in two's ...lol!!!
Anyway, when all was erected i spritzed them so now totally disguised...lol!!!!

How come you haven't go some sort of pool or plunge pool to keep cool during your summer's, ....I thought all you Californians had a pool round back and at least a 100' garden to put it in!!! ...hahaha!!


David.....
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Post by: shaun on May 25, 2010, 03:51:16 pm
Thanks Arnold.  It will look very nice when you are finished.  A kind of Oasis.  If it gets to 115 degrees there then one of those air mist what ever you call them along the fence might help cool things down.  I talk in such technical terms I know.

By the way I will be jealous when you are finished.

Peggy would say, Good Job.
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Post by: Arnold on May 25, 2010, 05:27:31 pm
David ,
the Pool idea I through out , after seeing how much trouble it can be keeping it clean at my Uncle's . When ready for a swim this is where we'll be going to cool off . I just wanted a Spa which Qing and I love very much .

Shaun , can't wait myself to finish it and enjoy my own Park at Home .. but away from Home feeling .

This is a Tree right next to the Swing-bench , Qing loves this Tree and it is only 30-40 % grown . It will give us shade right there .
If I had enough for the day from the backyard , there is always my little Shanghai/Pudong right by one of my Livingroom window's .
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Post by: Philip on May 26, 2010, 02:37:44 pm
Hi Arnold,
just wanted to say how much I appreciate you sharing your experiences, living with your beautiful wife. Reading your stories helps to counterbalance the trials and tribulations faced by many of the other members.
Can I make a plea to other married members living with their wives? I, for one, would love to hear those ordinary/extraordinary experiences faced by those members who are living the dream that most of us haven't attained yet. So, Maxx, David5o, Ted, Willy, and others, can you give us some Arnold-like stories? I am married now, but I am a rookie regarding the reality of living with a Chinese wife, and would really appreciate some day-to-day diaries.
For example, Maxx, most of us have received the benefit of your wise rules and advice, but, most of us don't know about the personal lived experience of being married to a Chinese woman from your perspective. Maybe you prefer to keep your personal life private, but I would appreciate finding a little bit more about the man behind the 24 hour rule. And David, you give us the wisdom of your experience, but it would be nice to know some more everyday stuff about living in Cyprus.
Just a thought :)
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Post by: Arnold on May 27, 2010, 11:32:17 pm
So , I finished my Rock today .. chisel'in three Character's into it .. the old fasion way . My Hands and not a Power Tool . I think it will do the Job .
Here are a couple of Photo's of the piece of Rock that's mine . haha

Now what does that mean ? It has actually two meanings , which everybody should know by now .. with the Chinese and their Character's .

1st: Garden of Lily's ( my LaoPo's favorite Flower and in Honor of my Sister " Lily " in Kunming .
2nd: Together forever ( these three Character's are often seen at Wedding's and simular Celebrations wishing Couple's well .
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Post by: shaun on May 27, 2010, 11:56:23 pm
Arnold all I can say is that you are incredible.  It looks very good and your back yard should bring you and your wife joy and relaxation for many years.
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Post by: Rhonald on May 28, 2010, 12:01:31 am
 :) Arnold way to go you Romantic chip off the old block - way to get your Rocks off... 8)
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Post by: Arnold on May 28, 2010, 11:35:44 am
Appreciate the nice comment Shaun .. thanks.

Rhonald , hahahahaha .. you're the master with WORDS !
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Post by: Arnold on May 31, 2010, 08:57:35 pm
Alright , here are some of Qing's and My Photo's from our Trip down to San Diego and meeting up with a wonderful Person .. that we all know by the name of Ed W. former Mod here with us .
I start out with some from our first Stop before checking into our Hotel , Old Town and Seaport Village in the afternoon . What happened in the early Evening is something we'll wont forget for quite some time . Getting an Adventure .. without looking for one ! :-\ As the Sun was setting , I thought .. it's to early to head back to the Hotel and retire . So , smart Me .. decided let's take Qing down to the Border of Mexico without crossing it of course . That was the Plan , but somebody had other things in Mind . I missed the LAST exit before crossing and I was on my way to NO return . Stopping just before the actual Border , I ask a Patrol Guy what to do next ? He said , well it's too late and you must cross into Mexico and tell them of your misfortune (Haha) .. they will let you turn around through the BIG fence which did have a huge Gate build into it . Everything nice and dandy til now I though . But waiting in a long line to be check by American Border Patrol , it dawned on me ? I don't have my Passport on me . A Driver's License is not good enough anymore . As I moved up and started to pull our my Lic . , the first word's came out of Him ... this Lic is NOT enough . I need your Passport !!! Oh yeah , I knew that .. but I'm only turning around .. because I missed the last Exit . By that time I was Sweating Bullet's already . But ..but SIR , I really did not really want to go to Mexico .. only show my Wife the Border and the Hills of Mexico that's all , and I missed my Exit . As he checked Qing's Green Card and gave her the Ok , I remembered that I still had my Copies of my Passport and Chinese Visa with me .. from my last Trip . A sigh of relief came over me . He looked at this Copy and let me sweat some more . Okay ... SIR ( yes he called  me that too ) , usually this is not good enough to cross .. but I am going to make an exception this Time . Talk about being caught in an situation ( with your Pant's down so to speak ) with your poor Wife wondering .. are we going to have to stay in Mexico now ? So , all is good now and I will mark this down as an not so nice experience .. that I can look back on though later and laugh about it . Which I actually did already .
Anyway , the next day it was of to meet Ed at the Zoo entrance . He was going to take us to Balboa Park for some Photo shoot , as he felt .. everytime he see's Photo's of us it's never both of us together much . So he offered to use his Camera and get some shot's at a wonderful/beautiful Park in backgroung . After spending about two hours doing this , Qing and I went inside the Zoo and knowing we are going to meet up again for Dinner later that Day at a Sichuan Restaurant of Ed's choosing .
I really can't say enough about Ed , not just as a Person .. but also about the great Father he is to his Daughter's with all he is having to go through at this time . We said our goodbye's at about 9:30 pm and it took us exactly three hours to get Home again . So I had the DOUBLE pleasure spending a super weekend with my Wife and a great Member of the Brotherhood too .
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Post by: Arnold on May 31, 2010, 09:08:30 pm
some more photo's
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Post by: Arnold on May 31, 2010, 09:15:28 pm
And some more of my Project going on at Home in the Backyard .
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Post by: Rhonald on May 31, 2010, 09:21:08 pm
Thanks for sharring the new pics and the story about crossing the spanish border  ;D

Next time start singing Chech's song "I was born in East L.A." and they will easily let you cross back over.

I have once been to San Diego and I remember it as being a very beautiful city, and with the visit of Qing, the city has been additionaly blessed with beauty. I envy you Arnold having you wife with you while I am still waiting for mine. But maybe at least, that soccer jersey you are wearing is wrong and it will be the group in Orange that wins this year's World Cup  8)
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Post by: Arnold on May 31, 2010, 09:49:44 pm
 :) I made sure I bought the Winner's Jersey this Time  :) Home or away .. I'll be right there every minute . ( TV of course )
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Post by: David5o on June 01, 2010, 03:09:23 pm
Arnold,

Looking at your photo's of your garden, it seems like the end of your garden there is on a very steep slope, so i guess there's not much you can do with that section, apart from planting.

Jeez .... What are you going to do with those grey block walls you have there?? ...They would send me (pardon the pun)  up the wall,  looking at them all the time.  They really spoil the look, of an otherwise tidy little garden that you have.   Is sorting out these blockwork walls a part of your ''grand scheme'' for the garden??   Well if there not , ...They should be!!!...lol!!!

David.....
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Post by: Arnold on June 01, 2010, 04:26:44 pm
David , if you mean those Grey Stones I have put into the Hole where the Cactus Garden is going to be .. they are only there for now as these are going to make up the Waterfall later . If you mean the Red Stepping Stones , they are for tying it all together at the end . Pictures really don't do it that great of justice . The Hill , yes it is just covered with Groundcover that was already there 10 years ago . I just dug into the Hill for my Spa , to gain more room or NOT loose any of the backyard . I still have a 1/4 Acer , which is not common anymore with new homes .. even the Big two story ones . We were the last ones to be that lucky , to actually have some room outside too .
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Post by: David5o on June 01, 2010, 05:02:04 pm
Arnold,

NO, ...I mean the walls around your garden!! (they look grey in the photo's) ..haha!!   We call them ''blockwork'' walls....



Here is my little effort of having a Cactus bed... haha!! The second pic, is the start of a water feature, just looking around now to find the right large pot to use. I made provision for all the electrical connections when laying the stamped concrete area, in which the sump is located....


David.....


I think those photo dates are wrong, .... only built the cuctus beds last April... hahaha!!!
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Post by: Vince G on June 01, 2010, 05:16:30 pm
I think he's referring to the cider block walls. Lots of things you can do with that. Paint it and put a lattice in front?
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Post by: shaun on June 01, 2010, 05:29:16 pm
Arnold and David,

All looks very nice.    Some day I might be able to show mine.  Who am I kidding? If it is green it is good.

Shaun
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on June 01, 2010, 05:45:46 pm
We are also lucky to have these Blockwalls instead of some cheap Iron Fences where everybody is enjoying your Privacy . haha
Painting them is a good idea Vince , but I think by the time all is done and Hedges have grow some more .. one will see a minimum of these Walls from my side of view . 80% should be covered by then .

David , I now know what you meant and thanks for a look into your Yard . It is very neat and clean like you had mentioned before . Great Job yourself there .

Yesterday , Qing and I talked about doing a Waterfall after all . Where I place a Waterproof custom-made Tank down into that hole I made already only twice as deep and place it there with a narrow opening lenght-wise to catch the water coming of the Rocks ( instead of going to water the Plant's ) with a enlarged and wider opening on one side for the Pump to fit through and for future replacement's if needed . As for the Plant's ( Cuctus Plants ) I will now lay a seperate Sprinkler line of the Side by the Grapes and use that to put one center sprinkler for that . I did lay an extra 110V wire as I was laying down the 220V for my Spa , knew it would be handy some day and that is only about 10 feet away . I should have it all ready and running by the end of this year .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on June 05, 2010, 11:36:06 pm
After Cherry picking today and eating them like a Pig , it was time to go Home and bake our Cake number three . Here are a couple of pictures .. but no taste or smell - o - vision .. sorry Guy's . It is an Lemon cake which is cut in half and place 1/4 inch of Vanilla Pudding into the center , close it up and spread Vanilla frosting all around and top off with Coconut flakes . We'll see tomorrow how good it tastes . No ORDERS please .
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Post by: RobertBfrom aust on June 06, 2010, 01:47:44 am
Arnold , looks like the filling is thicker than 1/4 of an inch ha ha , please post my half of the cake as soon as possible as I would like to eat it while it is still fresh , regards Robert .
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Post by: Jason B on June 06, 2010, 02:53:29 am
Did somebody say cake? I will bring the coffee.
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Post by: ttwjr32 on June 06, 2010, 08:01:07 am
coffee and 1 scoup of ice cream with that  looked good did it taste good??
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Post by: Arnold on June 06, 2010, 01:31:14 pm
did it taste good??

Now .. it looks to good to cut into it . No actually , we are having the Neighbors come over later today for Coffee and Cake . They survived the other two Cakes .. so they let us know if it was an success again .

Rob . , the filling is 1/4 inch . It just looks that way , due to not all the side is covered with Coconut and some of the actual Cake is showing . One can not see the filling from the outside . I post a Photo when Cut to show the inside , where I also poked holes into the lower part and let the Pudding filling run down and fill them as well . Should be interesting .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on July 16, 2010, 11:46:06 am
Life is good .. no it's great actually !

As Qing and I are pretty much always busy , especially on weeksends .. I haven't had much time to be here as of late . To the point Qing even ask me , what is the matter with you ? Lost interest in your Forum ? No , I reply'd .. just needed a break and second .. I thought/felt guilty , that I was spending too much time away from her . Anyway , thought I post some new Photo's here for all the eager Eyes ( if there are any left ) .

1st: Ahhh .. yes Sweetheart , I like this one .. after I get my License . I can really see Qing in this one , cruising down the Road and send some photo's back to her Family .

2nd: A Dress I have bought her in San Diego , one for Summer she say's . Four Season's , four different Wardrope's from Head to Toe's .

3rd: Two weekends ago , at a " Spinners " Concert by our House . Great Performance under the Stars and full packed Park .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: ttwjr32 on July 17, 2010, 12:29:59 am
Arnold  you should get her that car for driving around Palmdale in the cool summer nights  lol!!!
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on July 17, 2010, 12:42:29 am
Yes Ted , as the House prices are down to about the price of that Car .. I can just trade my House for the Car straight across . haha We can sleep in the Rumble seat in back .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on July 17, 2010, 07:48:19 am
Just change one word and you got yourself a song she can blast while driving.

"The Little Asian Lady from Pasadena" (Palmdale doesn't work?)
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on July 17, 2010, 05:05:49 pm
Watch out , here she comes .. here comes speeding Mama .


That's a great idea Vince . That Car would be the perfect Car for Qing . Half of this Car is missing already and if she get's into a Crash , we'll just leave the bend stuff off .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: shaun on July 17, 2010, 07:35:24 pm
Arnold,

The two of you look like you are having a blast.  Live couldn't get much better could it.  Oh wait.  It could, there could be his and hers roadsters.  :D
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on July 17, 2010, 11:13:17 pm
If I wanted an old Classic like some of the Muscle Cars , I'd go for just this Roadster . Always a favourite of mine .
But Qing like's to drive something with an Airbag , which her training Car ( '88 Toy Pickup ) does not have . Besides , she just today told me .. I like the ones with Power Windows .. not the hand cranked regulators . Hint .. hint ! This Car is toooo old ! With 510,000 miles with original untouched Motor , now .. who would NOT love this Car ?
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: shaun on July 17, 2010, 11:36:59 pm
Funny how it is Arnold.  Peggy says new car, new house and new furniture.  I say old restore car, old remodeled house, and old restored furniture.  I wonder who wins?  Why should I even guess... they do.  So Arnold?  What will it be?  A new car for her?

Why is it the only thing old they want is their men?  Don't answer the your might get in trouble.  :D

I jest of course. We are not old, we are only more experienced.  ;)
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Post by: Chet Sams on July 17, 2010, 11:58:58 pm
As arnold takes out a loan on the house to pay for the car.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on July 18, 2010, 02:26:56 pm
Haha .. NO new Car coming soon . When she is showing how well she'll drive by herself , I will fork over my newer SUV to her of course . I too , want her in a safer Car of course , but NOT now !!!
Chet , a loan from my House for a new Car .. I don't think so . we're trying hard to get a Government assisted Loan to cut my Mortgage in half without loosing any years on the Loan itself ( Countrywide/ BofA ) . We are in the final stages . Remember , I took out a $100,000 on the House already in '06 to stay at home with my dying first Wife . Eight months no work/pay coming in , because I wanted to be with her daily to the end . Then , pay off all her Cards/Bills and the newer Car . Wrapped it all up into one payment , which ballooned my Mortgage payment of course . To add my China Journey , it's gotten pretty hard as of late . But , ones got to do what's right and I never regret a minute of it . Qing questioned this home loan of course , I had to tell her .. thats just what a good Husband does .. take care of his dying wife . I would do the same for Qing of course , no matter what would follow later for me to carry .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Chet Sams on July 18, 2010, 02:37:55 pm
Government assisted in cali. Didnt know they had any money left to give.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on July 18, 2010, 03:06:59 pm
Government assisted in cali. Didnt know they had any money left to give.

This is not a Loan they advertise at BofA . Hence I have a Friend of my Neighbor working there , he told us of this Obama Plan Sponored Loan . The only pitfall .. it can take up to a year to get approved and one can NOT be behind in the payments and must meet other requirements of course .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Chet Sams on July 18, 2010, 05:53:24 pm
ohhhhhh i forgot bout the bama plan one. I reallllly didnt like the options of choice with that thing. Just becareful with it.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: ttwjr32 on July 19, 2010, 01:21:10 am
yes i to say be careful with that one. i recall reading somewere were it wasnt what it was supposed to be
and didnt really help in the long run??? but costs more  oh hell i forget the particulars
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on July 19, 2010, 11:10:26 am
Careful ??? You bet ! Before I sign anything , I'd make sure it's to my benefit not to their's . As with anything , the nice stuff is up front and the not so nice comes later . We'll see if there is any hidden / not mentioned items popping up at signing .
Thanks Guy's for the extra warning's .
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Post by: Jadams79 on July 19, 2010, 05:36:07 pm
Arnold good to see you still around, catching up on your thread.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on July 19, 2010, 07:15:18 pm
Arnold good to see you still around, catching up on your thread.

Yeah , still here ! Had a sort of Un-payed Vacation from here . Haha
I needed that break from all this Hoopla . It was driving me to be a Feng Le Mi Feng , if you know what I mean . Otherwise , I have to much Fun .. not to tell about it .
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Post by: ttwjr32 on July 19, 2010, 08:38:05 pm
Arnold,

as they say ' read the fine print" very carefully
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on July 19, 2010, 11:52:55 pm
Arnold,

as they say ' read the fine print" very carefully

Better bring the magnifying glass , instead only my Glasses at signing .  ???
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: ttwjr32 on July 20, 2010, 10:08:07 am
i take my reading glasses and when that doesnt work i take them off to read  lol!!!!
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on August 01, 2010, 12:55:28 am
Boy , Qing and I just got home from a " The Guess Who " concert at the Park by our house . I must tell you , this was one of the best shows that I
have seen . It really takes you back , when Music was still Music and not just noise . Two were originals , but their lead singer .. super-super voice .
It made both of us get up with the rest of the People and start dancing with each song .
One of them clearly reminded me of this Forum and our Member's here . Anybody like to guess ??

" American Woman " of course ( get away from meeeee ) . Now I know , why I all of a sudden started to sing along .. where Qing turned towards
me and ask .. do you know this song ? Hahaha .. do I know th.. ! One look into my Sweetheart's eyes and I started to sing louder .
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Post by: ttwjr32 on August 01, 2010, 12:59:59 am
Arnold i must admit i do remember them  some great memories there
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Post by: shaun on August 01, 2010, 07:47:04 am
Yes Arnold.  The American Woman song comes to my mind quite often. 


Gotta get away... gotta get away... gotta get away yeah
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Post by: ttwjr32 on August 01, 2010, 11:19:33 am
yeah yeah yeah
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Post by: ttwjr32 on August 01, 2010, 11:20:07 am
needed a few more yeah 's at the end Shaun
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Post by: Arnold on August 04, 2010, 12:13:34 am
Woo hoo .. and ones over !!! ;D

Qing has passed her driving Test today and is besides herself with happiness . So am I !!!
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Post by: Martin on August 04, 2010, 12:41:40 am
YAY!!!  Congrats Qing!
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Post by: ttwjr32 on August 04, 2010, 01:29:40 am
well congrats to her now she doesnt have to put up with your driving Arnold lol!!!
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Post by: ttwjr32 on August 04, 2010, 01:30:34 am
oh i forgot to add------ keep the tank full for her at all times!!!!
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Post by: shaun on August 04, 2010, 06:46:56 am
Congratz Qing!  You will love it behind the steering wheel.
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Post by: Sylvain D on August 04, 2010, 08:11:09 am
Many congrats to you, Qing :)
Now, you'll feel free to drive on America's roads :)
And maybe that Arnold will feel free to look at the landscape, through the windows, instead that watching the steering wheel and the brakes non stop :D
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Post by: ttwjr32 on August 04, 2010, 09:48:34 am
i think she does that when Arnold drives lol!!!
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Post by: Arnold on August 04, 2010, 09:49:21 am
Thanks Fellow's , I will have Qing sign in and also read and have her thank you Guy's herself tonight .
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Post by: RobertBfrom aust on August 04, 2010, 09:54:06 am
Congratulations to Qing and her instructor you both must be grinning from ear to ear , what was that I heard about a new safe car for her to drive , well maybe next year , regards Sujuan and Robert .
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Post by: ron on August 04, 2010, 11:22:35 am
Congratulations to Qing next step flying lessons ? That would be so awesome lol.                                  Ron
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Post by: Arnold's LaoPo on August 04, 2010, 11:48:42 pm
Thank you fellow members so much for the congratulation to my passing the driving test. Me and my Lao Gong(my instructor)
were so happy finally got it done.Now we are looking for a porsche for my next car. :D
Sorry my english is not that good enough to write much more,unless you want to read some chinese instead.

QING
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Post by: Martin on August 05, 2010, 12:09:17 am
Qing...I have heard your English, and it is excellent...maybe better than Arnold's. hahaha  Don't give up on that Porsche!  Keep asking your lao gong until he gets it for you.  Can you also ask him to buy me one as well?
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Post by: Arnold on August 05, 2010, 12:31:53 am
 ??? That is NOT funny !!! She was talking about a Matchbox Model .. not real .
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Post by: ttwjr32 on August 05, 2010, 05:29:47 pm
get her the BMW first and after a year of driving that you can get her the PORSCHE
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Post by: Arnold on August 05, 2010, 06:52:53 pm
If we were not kind of short on Funds , I would have bought her the beautiful BMW my neighbor down the street was selling . A 525i in showroom shape with only 120,000 miles on it . Miles don't mean nothing to me on a Motor , I just re-do it when needed . It was a steal at $2,200 ( '85 ) . But Qing needs some solo driving before I get her into a newer Car . I will first teach her to get used to my SUV , then we see .
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Post by: ttwjr32 on August 06, 2010, 04:04:53 am
im sure it will be all good  just a little ractice on her part
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Post by: Martin on August 06, 2010, 09:41:32 am
im sure it will be all good  just a little ractice on her part
Yup...a little "ractice, and "ersistence" goes a long way!
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Post by: Arnold on August 11, 2010, 05:55:47 pm
I guess Qing did not waste any time after passing the driving test . Yesterday , now where do you think .. she gone off to on her own ?
First to one Supermarket about two miles away . Did not find one item , so off to the next .. about eight miles away to find this special Sauce which she must have for dinner . She did find it there . I would have been afraid if she didn't , she would have most likely driven to the S.Fernando Valley to the 99 Ranch Market for it . Only 60 miles away . She is at least free to get out of the house now ones in awhile . Happy for her , but I do worry to come home and the Car is a foot shorter . So , my little Truck has 510,000 miles now .. it will be a million soon . :o

First two : Yes that crazy Helicopter .. round and around and upside down .
Next two : This War-Hog had the ground shaking pretty bad dropping those Bombs .
Next three : Thunderbirds , perfection at it's best .
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Post by: shaun on August 13, 2010, 06:59:46 pm
I read the first line that Qing didn't waste any time and saw the pictures and though  :o OH! NO! she is taking flying lessons.  ::)  Good thing I read the rest.  I imagine she is having a lot of fun going out to do what she needs to do.
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Post by: Arnold on August 13, 2010, 07:09:12 pm
  :o OH! NO! she is taking flying lessons.  ::)

Oh .. she will have a good laugh .. when she reads this one .

here comes this chinese Woman trying to fly a Copter . Believe me , they all are heading to the Exit .
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Post by: ttwjr32 on August 14, 2010, 02:29:28 pm
the flight back to here would be shorter
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Post by: Arnold on August 17, 2010, 12:08:52 pm
Today is the day , Qing is going back to her ESL classes . After only doing the third level of English last year and early this year , she'll be doing the final fourth level . Being a Chinese , she didn't want to repeat the previous classes again and then start the fourth with more confidence . Oh no , she likes the challenge . After that she'll have a High School equal of a Diploma . Second , I will enroll her into a Employment Agency and let them find her a good Job near to where we live . No McDonald's here ! :P She wouldn't want to sell Food she would not want to eat herself . So , she also wants to drive herself now , but I will be on Board still .. as it includes night-driving after School and on a two-way Road ( no shoulder ) with Speed Limit 55 .. not to my like'in .
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Post by: ttwjr32 on August 17, 2010, 06:25:27 pm
Arnold,

being in calif all these years she will probably drive better than you  hahahaha
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Post by: Arnold on August 17, 2010, 06:50:46 pm
I'm going on my second Million ( not $ ) miles that is , so I don't think so . I live and breath Calif. driving .  :) :( :P >:( :'(
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Post by: Arnold on November 18, 2010, 01:05:03 am
A quick note .
This Sunday the 21st. is exactly one year that Qing arrived here in Calif . Well , call it an coincidence .. but this Sunday will be her first day at Work here .
Nothing big , 30 hours at an Panta Express only ten minutes from our House . Finally , after month's and month's of filling out Applications and sending Resume's .. she landed a part time Job . She is very excited of course and I'm happy for her to get out and meet some People . It will also improve her English being with Customer's and Co-worker's alike . Will keep it updated , how it's going and such .
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Post by: Paul Todd on November 18, 2010, 07:07:35 am
Great news Arnold, has it really been a year since she arrived in the US! Please wish her the best of luck from Ming zhi and myself for her new job :D
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Post by: Rhonald on November 18, 2010, 10:40:23 am
Well congratulations Arnold.... you got yourself a Lover, a Wife, a best Friend, and now with her working...... your own sugar momma  8)
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Post by: RobertBfrom aust on November 18, 2010, 04:47:53 pm
Gee Arnold , how time flies when you are having fun , and it is great that Qing also has a job now , regards Sujuan and Robert .
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Post by: Arnold on November 18, 2010, 11:11:27 pm
Thanks Guy's !
I now finally have some free time for my two Girl Friends that I'm allowed to have , you know Chinese Custom !  8)                                   
NOT

Would I ? I'm not crazy .. right Guy's ?
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Post by: David E on November 19, 2010, 03:39:14 am
Arnold...pleased to hear that you are now a DINK family...congrats. to Qing...she would be very pleased with this outcome.

Maybe now its time to order the Ferrari !!!!!!

David
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Post by: Jason B on November 19, 2010, 06:05:31 am
Congratulations to you both on having chalked up one year together.  To someone just starting out like me it seems like such a long way off but I hope to be in your shoes very soon.  Congratulations to Qing on getting her job.  Now it will be whoever gets home first has to cook dinner etc.  She will be able to save up for her own brand new car now.  ;D

as for being crazy..........you tell us
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Post by: Arnold on November 19, 2010, 06:22:03 pm
Actually , no I'm not crazy ( feng le ) or near it for that matter . haha

Thought I bring something from my Blog over here , for those that still can't get there or can't find it . Hope it is of some interest to some .

" The Honeymoon Saga "

Every Couple getting Married or are close to do so , know about it . Making plans of going to their so called Honeymoon . What exactly is a Honeymoon ? As we know so far , it comes right after a Wedding and it usually starts a day or two after saying the " Yes " word .

Now , we know it has a " Start Date " and it is starting out in a chosen Place .. that is often a very Romantic/Scenic setting . Why this , sounds more like a Vacation .. then anything else . I guess , being only Married for a short time , this is somewhat different from the other normal Vacations . Yes , what's different .. is one spends more time in Bed together . To boot , in someone else's Bed . Why not just stay Home and in your own Bed then ? Go figure ? Why now , choose a beautiful Place and stay mostly in Bed anyway ? Makes little Sense , if you ask me !

Point One : So we have a Start Date . Do we also have a Stop Date ?
This is a lot more difficult question to answer . At what point is it " Over " or you think it is ?
The easiest answer is of course , well .. it is over when the Love-Making slows down and not so much time is spend in the Bedroom anymore . Right ? Like til Noon or the Afternoon . That answer will now show us , that the " Honeymoon " is only a Physical thing .. really . This is how most People feel , when they ask such a question as .. " Is the Honeymoon over " ? Again , this will show .. these People want to know something as Personal as .. is the Love-Making / Sex over ?

Why do strange People feel , they can even ask someone such a personal question ? They must have a " Right " to , because .. I never see any Couple get all upset .. being ask a question this Intimate .

Point two : Is it really over , when the Physical part of the Relationship / Honeymoon is less or does it go beyond this ?

From my own experience , Qing and I are Married now some 2 and 1/2 years .. I can say ( Qing too ) , for us it is not over by no means . Do we see an End coming ? This question I also answer with a " No " . Do I know / realize when it will be over or close to it ? I must repeat with the same answer again .. " No " .

Therefore , we can honestly say a Honeymoon is over when a Couple says it's over or there is some kind of trouble in the Marriage that puts it to a " Halt " . Living like it's never going to end , is of course what every Man/Woman on Earth are looking for .. just Plain and Simple .. Be loved " ALL " the time .. Period !

Point three : It does not " Ever " need to be over !

Anyhow , this is how I look at it .. may it be right or wrong .. I'm too happy to really care . haha
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Post by: Vince G on November 19, 2010, 06:36:42 pm
Arnold this sounds like something from a standup routine of Jerry Seinfeld.   ;D
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Post by: Arnold on November 19, 2010, 06:44:59 pm
Well , it's all come from poor me and not no JS or Mr. Jefferson . haha
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Post by: Arnold on December 09, 2010, 07:22:52 pm
As the year comes to a close , I thought why not bring this Post from my Blog here . It cover's how I started on my Journey and how I met Qing and so on ... I myself read back in Time and find it to be very interesting what I have done to get where I'm at today .

October 2007 : I made first contact with MIN from Baoding .

Early November 2007 : Decided to keep MIN as a Friend and quit the Search for a chinese Wife .
But , MIN did not want me to quit ... so I agreed to keep on and try again .

November 22nd. send out Cupid Note to LILY from Kunming .

November 25th. wrote a Letter to Qing , instead of a Cupid Note .

November 26th. received reply from LILY . Was happy to receive this of course .

November 27th. Received a Letter back from Qing . Which warmed my Heart instantly .

November 27th. Now I was in a position to have to make a choice . I made one smart and one not so nice decision . I had decided , to keep Qing and NOT answer LILY's Letter at all .

December 2007 : We both exchanged our first Christmas Gift's via Mail Service . Something , I will never forget ... opening that Package from my Sweetheart and reading her X-mas Card . My first look at Qing's Handwriting , something I will treasure forever in my Heart .

During this Time , Qing and I were tested by Father Time for the first time . I had Ticket's already for Shanghai , but not till May 7th . 2008 .

After writing about circa 200 EMF's between us , also many E-Mails which we started with in April 2008 to save and not have to Buy Credit's from Chnlove anymore .
The day finally came , after counting down each and every day .. from both sides of the Globe .

My first Trip , our first meeting , our first Touch , the first Hug and of course our first Kiss ... right there on the very spot , where we first laid Eyes on each other . It really was like we knew one another for years already . This truely was a Magical Moment we will alway's cherish together .

This Trip was from May 7th through May 18th 2008 .
It was also , the Trip where we got Married at the Registry on May 09th 2008 . Including setting up our Wedding Ceremony for the coming August 08th . Yes , we picked this very special day ( 08-08-08 ) it happens only ones every hundred year's . It was also the start of the 2008 Olympic Games in Beijing . A great time to Unite .

After being back home , after our first hard and emotional goodbye's at PuDong airport , it was to be our second test of time . But at least not as long as the first one . Less than three month's , was by far much better than six month's .

My second Trip approached pretty fast , which was to be from August 02nd through the 14th this time . This happen's to be one of my best times of my Life ( I'm sure my Sweetheart's too ) . A most wonderful Wedding Ceremony , with many of Qing Family and Friends , my Mom , my Aunt and Uncle , plus a Friend of mine and his Wife . Before and after the special day , we got to play Tour Guide for my Family and Friend's . As this was my second Trip and only their first .

Time flew by , it was time again .. for every to pack and find their way to the Airport again . Also ones more for Qing and myself to look at each other and say Goodbye again , which by now .. was hurting more by the minute . I was missing her so much when I landed in Seoul ( Korea ) for a lay-over , that I really concidered to turn around and go back to Shanghai . I had never felt this way ... it truely was tearing me apart on the inside .

After arriving Home one more time , my first thought ??? When , am I going to go back to my LaoPo ? I decided on February , the following year . I could not and did not let Qing wait longer than six month's ... over and over like the first wait . I did not want to be part of the Mad rush of everybody going Home for the Spring Festival and not having a chance to Travel anywhere in a more quiet style .
So it was to be ... Feb 13th through the 27th 2009 . One day after my Birthday .

But , before the year's end ... still remembering ... never to have answered LILY's letter . It started to eat away at me inside . I had to write to her and apologize (after almost one year has passed ) to her , for never answering her nice letter . She barely remembered me , but she did ! From then on , we became best of Friend's ... where I can really say , I have two Sister's living in China now ( MIN & LILY ) .


This Trip , my third ... was to be special in a different way . Qing and I , after spending a week in Shanghai together . We were to go by Train to Beijing , yes ... to Sightsee , but first we are to Meet up with Qing's Aunt , Uncle and two of their Children ( Qing's Cousin's ) . As all of you can imagine , we had a very busy ... but wonderful time in and around Beijing , including the Simatai Great Wall , the Forbidden City , Tiannamen Square , the Olympic Village , Summer and Winter Palace's and not to forget the great Food everyday .

Back to Shanghai for three more day's , the final three day's of this Trip .We are both thinking of that awful day , that we knew was coming sooner or later again . The third Goodbye at PuDong Airport . I have gotten to know this Airport quite well , but as I remember ... it's both a Happy place ( to meet ) but also the total opposite ... when I had to leave my Sweetheart ones more . This time not knowing when I will return ? I did want to come , when Qing has her Interview at the US Consulate in GuangZhou . I wanted to be with her , because I knew she was to be very nervous ... and be by her side if the news was Good or Bad .

This is continued , to read further .. one must go and see at my Blog Site ( Nov 4th 2009 ).
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Post by: Jason B on December 09, 2010, 08:16:29 pm
I know exactly what you mean Arnold.  This will be my fourth trip admittedly only one for was longer than one week but i would not give up those other ten days with Xia for anything.  This trip will be for 6 glorious weeks and I WILL marry her this time.  Last time is a learning curve but we will get married.

As someone who is living through the separation at the moment I can fully understand the loneliness, the longing and aching to be with the woman you love and I agree with you, I try to not make the separation periods too long even if I can only go for 5 days. 5 days with her is better than a lifetime without her.  But your journey in that department is over but mine is just beginning, so I am envious but truly happy for you and Qing.  I just pray that one day Xia and I are as happy as you both.
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Post by: Arnold on December 09, 2010, 10:14:43 pm
Jason , I also know what you and other's have to endure very well and I posted this here .. that all can see .. what price we really have to Pay and I don't mean just Money . That part really doesn't hurt too much ( if it does .. one better think it over again ) , it's the Paying of Time . Your lady thousands of Miles away andother People making a decision for you about the Future , that is the most frustrating of all . I look back and sometimes I also ask myself .. how did I ever ? But one knows what keeps us going .. none other then the Woman you came to find .
Looking forward to the beginning of your " New " Life with Wendy .
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Post by: Jason B on December 09, 2010, 11:38:35 pm
I also know what you and other's have to endure very well and I posted this here

But one knows what keeps us going .. none other then the Woman you came to find .
Looking forward to the beginning of your " New " Life with Wendy .

Thanks mate, words of wisdom from a wiser man than me.  As for the money it is not an arm or a leg but you are right, there is a financial commitment involved but it is nothing compared to the price of having such unconditional love that I receive from this wonderful woman.
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Post by: Arnold on December 09, 2010, 11:51:44 pm
I appreciate your kind words Jason , but we here are all much " Smarter " then when we started out . We have truely a beautiful collection of very fine People here with us . If only the World could work together like we do .. wouldn't this be a more pleasant World ?
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Post by: Arnold on December 12, 2010, 02:02:36 am
I received the OK to post those Photo's of my Sweetheart in a Bikini , for anyone in Doubt that chinese Women are too shy to wear them . This is going to show , they noy always will be that shy .. ones they get use to the Western ways more . I've also been told , she would NOT wear this back Home . This might be a " Face " thing with the Family again ? Don't want to look like a Lady of the Night .
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Post by: David E on December 12, 2010, 02:37:28 am
WOW..Arnold !!!

That's a very impressive Philodendron you've got there.......

Pity that vision in the bikini was hiding most of it  ;D ;D ;D
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Post by: JOHN1964 on December 12, 2010, 07:21:12 am
Always love to read the posts here as they are very helpful and i can relate to a lot of what you guys are going through without your loved ones with you,
My question is for Arnold, You state that you married at a registry office just a few days after your arrival, Minying has been told that we have to wait up to ten days before we can get a marriage certificate to be legally wed as i am a foreigner, She lives in Handan which is in the province of hebei,  I have heard that there are different requirements in different places, I have got all my documents authenticated and stamped by the relevant authorities, Can you or someone else please help us as i am not sure as what to do, Thanks guys. 
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Post by: Bee964 on December 12, 2010, 11:04:26 am
Nice photos Arnold. And it looks like you have a nice hot tub there too. I wish you many a soak this holiday season!! hahaha.

Dave C
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Post by: Arnold on December 12, 2010, 03:29:36 pm

That's a very impressive Philodendron you've got there.......

Pity that vision in the bikini was hiding most of it  ;D ;D ;D

That Plant was a very picky one , of where it wants to be placed , finally I put it right there behind my LaoPo and it loved it . haha
This Plant I will place around my China-Cabinet ones it is long enough . It's getting there as you can see near the lower section . Amazing thing is , it's only in a 6 inch Pot , so I'm afraid to change it over to a bigger one and get it upset with me .
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Post by: David E on December 12, 2010, 04:07:07 pm
John

Mike is right...whatever documents you have got beforehand, it is essential that your Lady actually go and ask the local Wedding Office exactly what documents they need for your marriage.

I got caught out myself, because despite having every document with me that I could possibly need, the local Wedding Office only wanted a Single Status Document from the Australian Embassy in Guangzhou...nothing else was needed (Except my passport)
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Post by: Arnold on December 12, 2010, 04:54:06 pm
Sorry John , but Mike and David answered it for you .. they beat me to it . Talking about a quick Marriage .. that's one reason why I love Shanghai .
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Post by: Arnold on January 21, 2011, 02:06:41 am
Today I lit up a Candle in our Bedroom for my late wife's 70th Birthday and my LaoPo does not mind one bit . I know why I love this Woman so much . Going to the Cemetery on Sunday with some Flower's she will join me too , as this will be four year's ( Jan.24th ) since her passing . I am really lucky , not to be married to one of those jealous kind .
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Post by: halfpint on January 21, 2011, 02:34:44 am
Arnold,  my thoughts are with you.  I'm glad you have an understanding lady.  Losing someone does not mean you stop loving them, they are always with you. 
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Post by: Arnold on January 22, 2011, 12:19:47 am
Alan , yes .. your are sooo right and thank you . This has always been a hard Month for me the last four years , but it is getting better .. but forget ? I never can and never will .
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Post by: Arnold on January 22, 2011, 10:40:26 pm
After going to the 99 Ranch Market for our by-monthly Chinese Food Shopping , it also happen to be a time and place for picking up some of the Decorations for the Chinese New Year ( extended Story on my Blog ) . Anyway , thought I up-load a few of the Photo's I took after all that work . haha  Doing this kind of work , it is always .. that you need something .. you don't have at Home and have to make a Run for it .. to the Store .
Of course under a watchfull Eye of my Parrot ( Columbus ) .
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Post by: Chong on January 23, 2011, 04:39:02 pm
Where are the "Rabbits" Arnold ???
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Post by: Arnold on January 23, 2011, 04:46:01 pm
The Rabbit's are in the Bedroom !  :P :-*

No actually I thought of this of course , but I can't decide LIFE ones or STUFFED ones  :-\ ? We will be going to Chinatown and see for more deco's .
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Post by: Arnold on February 01, 2011, 06:48:56 pm
Well Guy's , as we all know .. about the waiting Game some Government's play .. the DMV here in California is not far behind .
It is now five month's since Qing passed her Driving Test and still NO License in sight . Now three visit's later to the darn DMV ( each time a day off from Work ) I'm still getting the run-around .
1st visit .. I was nice to these behind the Counter and was told .. it should be coming soon .
2nd visit .. I faced that Bit** at one Department and left to go to the other across Town . Much nicer and was told it is an Immigration Problem and handed a Phone number to call . So I went to my Immigration Lawyer the next day and was told by Him .. Lic. has nothing to do with Immigration . Okay ? The number I was given , nobody ever answered that one and I try'd for day's .
3rd visit .. mighty upset , but since I didn't have to wait too long and received the same Person as the first time .. I stayed more calm . He of course felt sorry to see us again for the same reason . Made some calls and came back .. to tell us .. Homeland Security put a hold on the License . Why , is anybody's guess .. as he did not know ? It's not our department , so please call this number ( Issuance Dept. and Fax these Paper's to this number .. along with a Copy of Qing's Green Card . By now all I saw was RED . Paper's Faxed and I call if Fax was received ? Trouble again .. now what ? We didn't receive the Green Card Copy . So we both Run to the nearest story to Fax it again , back Home to call to see if she's got it this time . But Sir .. she said .. it takes at least two hours before we receive the Faxes , as they get send to us . What the Fu** ? They don't even have their Fax Machines in the same Office ? Are they living in the 60's ? This was a Lie of course , which I knew .. but this Lady ( the second I've talked to ) didn't know .. that the first Lady got the first Fax after two minutes of holding on the Phone with Her , when she told me .. NO Green Card Copy .
This is our Government !!! Qing and I are just about to ... no not Cry .. but Laugh out loud . This is all a big joke .
So here I'm all day again trying to reach them , phone is busy all the time . Yeah .. busy sitting on their Ass** doing nothing .
Anyway , if it is a Case of Immigration putting a hold on it .. then why the Fu** didn't they send me a Note and let me know what the Fu** they need to please their sorry As* ?

Sorry Guy's , but this is worse then waiting for Qing's Visa Interview . I don't know where they find all those good hard working Folks ? Lazy / Liar's / Dont know what the other in the same Dept. is doing and the only thing they good at .. is let me Transfer you to the Dept. that can help you .
Not to mention the lousy Music you have to endure while on hold .

HELP!!!!!
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Post by: Martin on February 01, 2011, 08:00:52 pm
Arnold...you sound totally frustrated.  I hope you are able to get her missing license soon.
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Post by: Vince G on February 01, 2011, 11:30:02 pm
Arnold I feel your pain. I'm waiting on the courts here as well. Papers are in. Anyway to answer a question you had, and I only know of it just here in florida... When I was on unemployment I was on the phone with them (they don't have local offices here) so I asked "How do you get a job there?" It's a state job right? She whispered into the phone they are hired from agencies, they're Temps. Now I know why it's all screwed up. Hang in there!!
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Post by: maxx on February 02, 2011, 01:00:50 am
Arnold I don't know what to tell you.Just keep after them I guess.It took me 20 minutes to get my wife's Id Card.They told me in the first place they weren't going to issue her one.I told the lady that they were going to issue her one.And if she didn't know how to do it.She needed to get her supervisor.15 minutes latter we walked out the door.With my wife's new Id card.

With a civil servant you have to put your foot up there ass.Or they can give you the run around for months.Just go in there tell them you want your wife's driver's license.When they start running off the lame excuses.You tell the counter person you want to see the supervisor now.Then they are going to tell you that the supervisor is out of the office.Tell them you will Waite.( this is very important while you are waiting you need to look very angry.Keep mad dogging the counter person) about this time two things are going to happen.The supervisor shows up.Or security shows up.If security shows up.Stand up and mad dog them.Security is there to intimidate you.That is all.As long as you are not causing a scene there is nothing they can do.The supervisor will be along shortly.

When the supervisor comes.Explain to him or her what the problem is.Explain to him/her the steps that you have taken.Tell them how mad and disappointed you are with CA. MVD. I'm sure this will work.As long as you haven't threatened anybody with violence.Or cussed at any of there employees.Remember to take all the proof that Qing has taken and passed all the tests.

If this approach is to rough for you.Go into DMV again and ask for Qing's license.When they start giving you the run around again.Start taking down names.And what department they work for.Tell them your lawyer will be contacting them.I bet this problem gets solved soon.Nobody wants to get drug into a lawsuit over a drivers licence.And loose there cushy job.That has such great benefits and retirement.

If you go with option one.You need to look the part.Wear a t-shirt un tucked. a pair of jeans that have stains.And a pair of boots.That have oil and mud on them.Don't shave for a couple of days.And have a look on your face like somebody said something nasty to Qing.You will get results if you play the part right.

If they try to run that immigration has put a hold on Qings licence.Have them show you documentation.Get a copy of the documentation.Of the hold.Have them explain to you why.Qing wasn't notified.Arnold I agree with your lawyer.This has nothing to do with immigration.DMV's computer crashed.And lost Qing's information.And nobody wants to help you because they don't think they make enough money to help you.

Also I just thought of this.If you haven't adjusted Qing's status.DMV is under no obligation to issue Qing a driver's license.Qing is still a foreign national.With no rights.To American services

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Post by: Arnold on February 02, 2011, 04:06:52 pm
Thanks Vince /Maxx !

Maxx , it isn't that easy as you say . First of all , the DMV is not responsible anymore for the Issuance Dept. putting a Hold on it . That Dept. is in Sacramento and all I can do is Call and as I have said .. if they feel like answering you get somebody . Do they know how to help you , is anybody's guess .
 Immigration can get involved !

Vehicle Code Section 12801.5 ( a & b ) it states this . They claim , they don't have enough/satisfactory proof if applicant's presence in the US is authorized under Fed Law .

They ask for Qing's Green Card again and I send it .. just don'ty know if they got it now .. since nobody can be reached ?

I just keep calling and hope I get this Person ( Roni ) who took over the paperwork . Maybe before Lightning strikes me , Qing will get her Lic.
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Post by: Arnold on February 03, 2011, 05:41:55 pm
So I finally got somewhere with these People , after someone answered the Phone after trying all morning .
The problem started when Guangzhou ( Amer. Consulate ) made the mistake with Qing's name .
 
It should have read : Dusch-Chu Qing
They made it : Dusch-Zhu Qing

this confused some of the paperwork naturally , which is understandable . So when Qing came here and received her Green Card .. it was of course " Zhu " still . So back to the Lawyer and ask for a new one with the correct name on it . Not to be charged $ 495 for the mistake they made , I had to proof it was them . Awwwwh .. all they see is Money for everything . Beat them at that Game through , no charge .

So this was straightened out with Immigration ! But this seems  now to come back and Haunt us again .. as these Government Dept. just don't work together to see the correction that was done about this .

Also , as I was told .. it will still take between 60 - 90 day's ( for which we have an extention ) for finally to have it in Hand .

Oh I hope so .
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Post by: Arnold on February 26, 2011, 10:17:20 pm
I thought , I post how my Birthday went .. with one simple Photo that says it all . A great finish for a wonderful day with my LaoPo .
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Post by: Vince G on February 26, 2011, 11:58:04 pm
So it looks like you got a little "tail" with your cake?   ;)
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Post by: halfpint on February 27, 2011, 04:25:08 am
May we all have a similar 58th!
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Post by: shaun on February 27, 2011, 06:50:39 am
Vince, you naughty boy, you know Arnold it to old for such foolery.  ;D
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Post by: Arnold on February 27, 2011, 12:30:12 pm
Shaun .. too old for nothing .. haha

It was a wonderful day ( did even my Taxes and survived ) . Today , we continue with a Champagne Brunch with our Neighbor and Friends . I go by Chinese Custom .. celebrate a minimum of five day's !!  :)

PS: I don't know why two photo's are showing ?
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Post by: Arnold on March 02, 2011, 11:57:08 pm
Being Proud of my LaoPo .

She may not have received her ( earned ) Driver's License yet in the Mail , but she is Cruising the Street's of our Hometown . Most remarkable thing is , People are not scared anymore when she's out there . haha

She's now been Driving herself around Town for about seven months and I do often let her Drive , when we are together . I honestly , can just sit back and enjoy what my Sweetheart has learned in such a short time frame .

Starting out with my little Toyota Pick-up with a .. no less then 512,000 miles on it now , with original Motor still going strong . In a way , I was waiting for Qing to get more use to the SUV , so I can have my Truck back . Want after all , put a million Miles on it . I like this Truck , it has also build-in Sat. Radio for listening to no other than Howard Stern in the morning on the way to work .

Anyway , so she is driving now the last few day's the bigger Car and I feel better about it .. because it's a safer Car with all the Airbags & Power everything .

Oh .. one other thing like to mention , is Qing experienced her first road emergency . Which was kind of my fault , not keeping to Gas Tank full , when the Gauge works only from FULL-1/2 FULL .. then drops to Empty . So she ran out of Gas and of all things .. while going Shopping for my Birthday Present . Good thing I have AAA Auto Club . But my poor LaoPo , I can imagine this happening for the first time to someone and not knowing whats next . But she did pull the Car of the major Road into a side Street , to wait for the Tow-Truck with Gas .

After all this going down , well ... I still came Home to a nice Dinner .. but a few stare-downs and mmmmh's .
We do look at it now as a Lesson learned and not only for my LaoPo .

As you can see , I still Live to write this .  ;)
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Post by: Rhonald on March 03, 2011, 01:13:30 am
What a well written update Arnold. I am glad you put the pedal to the metal and wrote down your latest antics. I am flabberGASted by the result. I hope I am not adding fuel to the fire in saying you better be prepared for the next flare up  ::) TANKfully no-one was hurt.
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Post by: Arnold on March 03, 2011, 10:59:25 am
You sure have a way with Words , now it's a shame one can not do this in/with Chinese Character's . But then again , you might be the first to do it !  ::) 8)
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Post by: halfpint on March 03, 2011, 09:34:15 pm
512,000 miles.  I have two Toyota vehicles.  Based on the amount I drive, to get to 512,000 miles will take 24 years for the older vehicle and over 30 years for the newer vehicle.  I love the idea of never having to buy another vehicle.  I might make this a goal of mine!
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Post by: Arnold on March 04, 2011, 11:10:13 am
Alan , My Truck is a '88 with a 22RE Engine ( one of the best from Toyota ) . 512,000 isn't to much here in Souther Calif. , that averages out at ONLY 22,000+ a Year . I live 44 Miles from my Work , so almost 100 each working day . Also worked for the local Newspaper for over ten years as a Warehouse Manager with 24 Carrier's to take care of , to save to buy a House . That put on the Miles like crazy , at seven day's a week . Oh .. I'm so glad that is over . All I know , I would have NOT made this kind of Mileage on any other Car Make .

I give you and other's a Hint of what I do , when this Truck started to burn more Oil than I liked . I drain the Engine Oil and replace it with nothing but ATF Fluid and drive it about a 100 Miles , then drain it while its Hot and replace the Filter of course . You should see now how it looks like new under that Valvecover and Bingo .. uses very little Oil after that treatment .. as sticking Rings are loose again .. valvestems seals are lubricated and soft again .. so this seams to work great for me . This is NOT something we do for our Customers , even though we been ask many time to do it for them . Let them do it themselves , just in case their Engine takes an unexpected dump due to other things .
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Post by: Vince G on March 04, 2011, 12:57:01 pm
Yeah we use to use a quart of kerosene in the oil for about the same 100 miles and then drain the oil and replace it (and filter). Volvo (when I worked there) had high milage cars come in all the time just for tuneups and oil change. I worked on the highest milage volvo recorded I think it was 500k+ then (1976). I only had one motor go down in all the vehicles I had. Most fall apart with other problems (windows don't open, etc) but the motors kept going.
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Post by: Kiwi303 on March 04, 2011, 07:23:02 pm
I like some Japanese cars for reliability, SOME I said, Mitsubishis tend to eat their auto gearboxes reguarly, Hondas are fine for an old granny and will last for ages if not pushed, but put your foot down and drive spiritedly and they blow up.

I'm basicly down to Isuzu Diesels, and Nissan and Toyotas.

My '96 Nissan Serena van with the SR20DE motor is ticking on at 295,xxxKm and the '85 Hilux toyota with the 2 litre 3Y motor is at 289,xxxKm.

I'll sell these to my mother and sister for a coin or two, just enough to make it a legal transaction with exchange of value, just before heading over to China, No point in paying a years licensing fees and WOF (Warrant of Fitness, like the UK MOT) on cars I won't be driving.
I can always pick up a cheap car when I get back again :P
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Post by: Arnold on March 19, 2011, 08:28:21 pm
Well a quick up-date on Qing's Drivers License . We received it finally on Thursday . Not without a surprise though .. actually two .
First :
They screwed up her name .. First name - Qing Dusch ; Last name - Chu . Here in Calif. the DMV goes by your Social Security Card ( they must match or they will not send you the Lic. ) . So .. where did they screw up ? The SS Card reads * Qing Dusch - Chu * , which makes the "Chu" the middle name , now the Drivers permit has it down as * Qing Dusch Chu * .. so does her Green Card . The only difference is .. it's does not have the * - * seperating the middle name . So it must of looked like the " Chu " was her last name .. still with me ? So her new Lic. reads FN: Qing Dusch LN: Chu . Idiot's , after we spends about 30 minutes filling out her application for the Lic. Written and Driving Test's with this Employee from the DMV .. telling her over and over  " CHU " is her Middle Name and Dusch her last ( like mine duhhhh ) . If there is something to screw up .. they find a way .. don't they ?

Second:
After waiting almost eight months to receive it , it is only GOOD til Nov. this Year . This goes to show , the Immigration Department "IS" involved with the DMV Depart. .. which my Lawyer said was "NOT" when I ask him . This now means , after Qing has to adjust her Status on Nov. ( been two years ) they wait to see if she can stay here in the US first .. before giving her a License with a longer Valid date . Those suckers do find new ways to get Money from you whenever they need more of it . I know the next Lic. will cost a new Fee again , unlike mine that get's send automtically .
So anyone's Wife here in the States ( that learns how to drive within those first two years before having her Permentant Green Card ) can expect to go through this also .

To add : When I called yesterday about the mistake they made .... ohh that'll be $25 Dollars to change the Name . To bad I can't slap that Person on the other Line through the Phone ! >:(
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Post by: shaun on March 20, 2011, 07:43:03 am
Arnold, this is why the US is loved by so many other nations.  Our government has made an art of being stupid, so much so that we just recently....    Oh I won't say it.  It will become political.  ;)
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Post by: Arnold on March 29, 2011, 12:43:21 am
Well back to the brighter side of Life .

A few Photo's from this Weekend in our beloved Los Angeles .

If anybody wonders about that " BELL " , well this is " MY " Bell and my LaoPo can Ring it anytime she wants .  :P ;)
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Post by: Jason B on March 29, 2011, 03:01:56 am
Ahhhh.......the city of Angels, well there was one angel that I saw in the picutres; the bloke in the last picture is not the Belle you are refering to is it?

Glad you had a wonderful time.

ps. Arnold there are a couple of photos that did not load, do not know if it is this computer or not.
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Post by: RobertBfrom aust on March 29, 2011, 03:09:32 am
Put another penny in your computer Jason , all pictures are okay down here , nice photo's Arnold , looks like you are putting on weight ha ha .
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Post by: halfpint on March 30, 2011, 02:34:11 am
Arnold my 1st wife, even though she was born in Canada, ended up with different names on different government documents.  This did cause me some problems when I had to deal with her estate.  My lawyer told me it was very common with Chinese people.  So you are not alone!

I work for a large tire dealer who have mechanics that fix cars.  That suits me very well, once I open the hood and take a look, well then I'm lost.  Perhaps that's why I own Toyota's.  Have you ever seen one attached to a tow truck?

The pictures I can see are great.  I really wish I could post some.
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Post by: shaun on March 30, 2011, 04:49:49 am
Well, I am heavily invested in a towing company.  Almost weekly a tow truck picks up my Ford Pickup to bring it home.  ;D    I'd buy a Toyota but I'd lose my investment.  ::)

Arnold, great pictures.
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Post by: Arnold on March 30, 2011, 11:41:27 pm
Jason , I also posted all the Pict's on Facebook and my Blog .. if you can't see them all .

Robert , thanks and thats Funny !

Shaun , thank you also . You know Alan has a point there .. hardly ever see them being Towed .

On the side , I forgot to mention .. after Downtown .. we headed back to Palmdale via Sunset Blvd . Qing had her first look at all of Hollywood/hollywood Hills with all the Million $ Homes and right through Beverly Hills and by Beverly Hilton Hotel . Ask if she ever wanted to stay there .. at $ 10,000 to $ 30,000 a night .. why not a Weekend ? :o   I think , now Pasadena comes in a Second on the favourite list for my LaoPo .
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Post by: David E on March 31, 2011, 01:31:01 am
The reason you dont see many Toyotas being towed....they are so damm expensive to maintain and repair, the first problem,  and off to the wreckers they go !!!! ;D ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on March 31, 2011, 09:48:57 am
The reason you dont see many Toyotas being towed....they are so damm expensive to maintain and repair, the first problem,  and off to the wreckers they go !!!! ;D ;D ;D ;D

Very true , but aren't just about "ALL" Cars today throwaway Cars . The best example here , look at the RABBIT (VW) they sold more of those than Beetle's and where are they now ? Like you say , engine goes .. to the Wreckers . This is the same with new Cars , drive them 10 years and they are Junk and the Dealer have no more parts for them . The days you want to keep a Car for 40-50 some years are over .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on March 31, 2011, 11:26:40 am
I had a VW Rabbit (bought in Germany and shipped over). I sold it and heard later (a month or two) that he rapped it around a pole.

My last van was 17 years old and ran great till the end. Just about everything else went on it but the motor and trans were fine, not even any smoke from the exhaust pipe. Getting tires became a search because they were 15 inch rims?

I had two Toyota's, one was a company car that at times would not start and they couldn't find the problem? (I think the fuel pump was intermittent?). The other one when I got it I rebuilt the motor (didn't run right) and it went for a long time after until sold and they wrecked it. These days parts so expensive it's not worth fixing. Starters I use to get for $25.00 are now $300-400.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Neil on March 31, 2011, 02:08:19 pm
I love my Toyota.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on April 16, 2011, 07:12:06 pm
We both are glad that Spring seems to have finally arrived , in our Yard . Here are some new Photo's of things to enjoy just staying Home relaxing and taking in your hard work " Profit's " .

1: Apricot Tree ( full again this year )
2: Ivy , that I started when I first started to write to Qing
3: Puppies , that I let just grow wild across backyard
4: Next to Qing's Swing Bench
5: Same as #4
6: Yellow Jasmine around Driftwood from Beach
7: Canadian Maple and Juniper
8: Miniature White Roses

continued ...
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on April 16, 2011, 07:20:09 pm
some more ..

1: Our new Red Apple tree
2: Grapes ( red and green ) with new Scrub's and lighting near Bench
3: Side Patio is looking great
4: White tall Lilies by front Door ( in Honor of my Chinese Sister by the same name )
5: Flowery entrance

Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Martin on April 16, 2011, 07:39:31 pm
Great pictures Arnold.  I am jealous of the colours that you have outside.  The only colour we see today, is white falling from the sky.
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Post by: Vince G on April 16, 2011, 07:51:34 pm
Looking really good. I was going to start planting a few trees and bushes around the yard but decided to move instead.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on April 16, 2011, 08:03:46 pm
Looking really good. I was going to start planting a few trees and bushes around the yard but decided to move instead.

Funny Martin ! We had our share of " White " .

Vince , that is an excellent Excuse getting away from all that work needed to get a Yard in order . hahaha
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Post by: Jason B on April 16, 2011, 09:12:58 pm
Wonderful looking garden going on there Arnold.  I like to garden so when Xia comes here and we buy our house I want to be able to try my "green thumb" out.  Atleast I will not ever have to worry about "white stuff" falling.  If it does I will start to believe in climate change - another ice age coming!
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Post by: kenny on April 16, 2011, 09:24:04 pm
Great pictures.. very pretty!

Linda and I are going to start some grape vines this year. (I always wanted to do that) I have not seen then on an arch like that in years. I am now thinking where I will put mine.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on April 16, 2011, 09:58:06 pm
Thanks Guy's ! Our next project is .. getting our rear Patio Cover Build . I have made Plans for that years ago , but coundn't find them anymore . So I did them all over again and explained to Qing , how it will look when finished . DIY of course , maybe have my Neighbor give me a Hand .. when it comes to Lifting the big support Beams into place . Should have that done , before Qing's brother's Wife comes for a Visit in July/Aug to Buy a House here in Palmdale . A Homeowner's work is NEVER done , even when you think it is .
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Post by: Vince G on April 16, 2011, 11:18:34 pm
Arnold, are you talking about a frame over the patio for the plants to grow on? or an actual roof? I've done many. Let me know I'll give instructions you could do mostly yourself.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: halfpint on April 16, 2011, 11:33:27 pm
Great pictures.  Nice to see spring exists somewhere.  No white stuff here but the heat is hard to come by.  I think the Canadian Maple was the best  :)
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on April 17, 2011, 12:57:57 am
Arnold, are you talking about a frame over the patio for the plants to grow on? or an actual roof? I've done many. Let me know I'll give instructions you could do mostly yourself.

Vince , a real Patio Cover ( not for Plants ) attached to the House . Got my three up-right support's two feet in the ground when I build the frame for the Concrete Slap . It'll be one of-a-kind in my Neighborhood at least . I don't like to copy anybody's Cover or Idea . I'll show when it is done and we open a Bottle Champagne .

Thanks for the offer , I will definitely use it .. when a problem comes up and I have questions .

Glad you liked them Alan , just thought of taking some Photo's while I was watering all . Of course the Front is also coming along nicely .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on April 17, 2011, 08:59:13 am
Suggestion: If you haven't already put your poles in the ground, don't. It will rot over time (even treated wood). Either put cement footings in the ground to an inch or two above ground and attach the pole onto it or on the patio slab itself (see photos, look past the ducks  :) ). Mine is all aluminum but that's code here. The amount of poles depends on the length/size of the header. Home Depot doesn't sell these post mounts they have some crappy ones. 
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on April 17, 2011, 11:22:52 am
I would never put wood straight into or on top of or into Cement , would not last . The support's are all Steel and a little above the Slap , so no standing water will get to Wood . If they do ever Rot , one can easy replace them one at a time . I show you here how I put my Support bracket's into the ground before pouring the Cement . With the 12" stakes , there will either sink or turn ever on me .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on April 17, 2011, 11:54:29 am
You have the idea right. But unless your going to have real heavy weight on these posts? (like a second floor) you may not need to go that 2 foot footing routine. But you can if you feel you want to. OK I'll leave you alone now.  :-X   8)
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David E on April 17, 2011, 05:50:48 pm
Arnold

Your steel support arrangement is standard here for all Patio/Pergola timbers. We dont have the water problem...but any timber here put directly on concrete or into the ground would be consumed by termites in 1 hour flat !!!

We call these steel supports "stirrups" and they are freely available. I dont have any wood in my home, its all steel and aluminium framing, trusses and window frames. My patio supports are all steel with Fibro Architectual surrounds for appearance. If you look at the photo of my swimming pool in my gallery, you can see what I mean.

David
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on April 17, 2011, 08:18:57 pm
I really appreciate your Tip's Vince , I know you are more experienced in Construction than me ( only did it for 4 years ) , but I learned a lot in many fields that concerns a House . Remember I'm German , so when I do something .. it's pretty much always over-done .. but it will LAST as long as I'm around . Mentioning a second deck on top of the Patio Cover , actually came to mind ones ( a Sun-deck ) .. so I put them deep just in case . But I decided on 2/3 covered and 1/3 open at sliding door exit/entrance . So not too much weight and it's only going to be 24 Feet wide all together . I did not want the whole lenght of the back covered .

Hungry little Bugger's those Termites down under .. David . I see this kind of framing only in Commercial Buildings here . Not see it in any House Project yet , maybe Earthquake codes here do not allow that or the price is a factor ? Anyway , let me check your Photo to see .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on May 03, 2011, 11:42:46 pm
It's funny really , that Qing and I .. of all days .. May 1st. Chinese Labor day , that we finished our Cacti Garden finally . So we just sit in front of it and watch it all Grow .. NOT ! We are both in Love with it and just can't wait for it to take-off and grow at least 1/2 inch a year each of them .
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Post by: Kiwi303 on May 04, 2011, 07:20:33 am
I love my Toyota.

The New FJ?

Check out YouTube for the "Road to the Taupo 1000" videos. FJ's bouncing through BIG ruts at HIGH speeds :D
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Neil on May 04, 2011, 02:01:30 pm
It's an '07, so technically not new, but yeah I love it. 
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on May 09, 2011, 03:14:27 pm
Today the 9th of May , I look back three ( 3 ) years and I'm reminded of when we both received our Red Books in Shanghai . What a wonderful time not only that day was , but that whole first meeting which made all those Letter's over 6 month's come intantly true .

3rd. Anniversary and all I can say .. is , if this continues like it has .. I don't ever want to Die . Heck , I'm in Heaven already .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Hajo on May 09, 2011, 03:38:22 pm
Congratulations with your anniversary, you two! May your life be full of luck and happiness!
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on May 22, 2011, 08:53:44 pm
After much struggle with the Computer , disable this and that .. to the point where my Brain was almost disabled and burned up to actually do some damage . Good thing the smoke had a ( two actually ) side openings to let the smoke escape . >:(

A day and a half later and some help from Vince and our Neighbor's Son ( NO .. he was older than 10 yrs. old ) as he finally figured out it was the #@%*#%* Google Toolbar that caused us such un-wanted Pain . Anyway , all this was for Qing to take a Food Handling Course to receive a necessary Certificate .. as everyone who is in the Business of handling any kind of Food .. must have this by no later then July 1st. .
Isn't it nice , how whenever the State needs Money .. they just come up with something that we all of a sudden need to have . I have no idea how we got on all those years without those ? Now these are good for three years ( now that is ) , so that in a couple of years they can make it 2 (two) and then just 1 (one) depending in what money-need they find themselves . What's next , a Cover Charge to enter a Restaurant and eat out ? Oooop's .. don't want to give them any more idea's .

So , all that are handling Food will need this to continue to Work in any Food Serving Business .. here is what it looks like . Took Qing 3 Hours plus to study and answer 40 questions , with a ppassing score of 75% . She had a score of 92 , so 37 right out of fourty . Not bad , to think it's in English and I had not  helped her in any way . Goes to show , coming here and NOT knowing the Language is getting harder even to find a simple Fast Food Job now .
 
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on May 22, 2011, 11:20:59 pm
That reminds me of long ago when in college here in Florida to get a job handling money you had to get fingerprinted and whatever other info needed? (don't remember to long ago, lol) they issued a card (I may still have it?) and this is used for getting work. They must of stopped this cause I've haven't heard anything about it since then.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on May 22, 2011, 11:46:39 pm
Yes , I think I've heard of that too back then .

Looking at the dates on the Cert . , it just dawned on me .. that Qing passed one END OF THE WORLD date and now let's see if she passes 2012 ? hahaha
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on May 23, 2011, 06:57:47 am
2012? Don't get me started
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on May 23, 2011, 12:36:46 pm
That only applies to the Mayans .... are they still around?   ???

Those born between the months of April 30th & June 1st are ?
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on May 23, 2011, 12:55:43 pm
The Bible say's .. only the Father knows .. when the World will end . TRUE

Actually , we have three ways of knowing when the World will end :
1st. : If Humans deside to BLOW up the world themselves .
2nd. : If a Space Rock the size of the Earth will come and HIT us .
3rd. : When it's time for the Sun to burn itself out and engulf's us all .
other than that .. leave it up to God !
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on May 29, 2011, 05:08:07 pm
So ... our Patio Project got finally off the ground . Stage 1 ( yes we have to work in stage's , unless somebody sends us some Cash fast .. haha ) is completed . Took Qing and myself most of the afternoon , but with enough time for a couple of Beer's with my Neighbor and appreciate the work we had finished so far . One thing I learned doing this , was I never knew .. Qing was strong enough to lift them 4x6x12 Header Boards onto the Post's . It looked like an Ant ( LaoPo's Arms ) lifting three times it's weight . Anyway , here are a couple Photo's of our Labor .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David E on May 29, 2011, 06:36:29 pm
Lokin' good Arnold....Man, they are nice bits of timber...pity we cant use such in Perth...termite fodder  ;D ;D

Are you going to roof it in something or just have open rafters ??

Maybe time to lay back and supervise...let the mighty Ant do all the heavy stuff !!!!!

Cheers...David
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on May 29, 2011, 11:03:03 pm
David , it'll be closed except a 5x7 foot by the sliding Door . On top I will use Tongue&Groove 5"x8' Panel's at 45 degree for a more beautiful look from underneat .. to cover the rest of it . Wires for a Fan , two light fixtures and a couple of Speaker's for Music and ect. ect. whatever to make it different from the neighbors .

Qing and I just picked out the colours for the Patio Cover , Stucco and Faceboard trim around the House .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on May 30, 2011, 08:41:44 pm
Qing and I just couldn't wait for step two , so we went out and bought the Rafter's .. since we have another day to relax . Why is it Holiday's one finds himself doing MORE work then on other day's ?

So here are the results of today's work .
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Post by: Vince G on May 30, 2011, 08:45:18 pm
Is there a pitch on that roof? Looks good.
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Post by: Arnold on May 30, 2011, 08:58:48 pm
Is there a pitch on that roof? Looks good.

You bet ! Exactly 2 1/4 inch .. should be enough . That is the most I could give it , concidering I'm installing a Fan and don't want to give People a FREE haircut . Just finsihed the PLans for two Light ( adjustable's ) and one Fan ( without light ) and against the house an Shelf for Qing's Buddha and Insense Bowl with a Light switch underneat IT . Man , can't wait til it's done .
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Post by: Willy The Londoner on May 31, 2011, 12:35:15 am
Must say. thats a very nice summer house Arnold.

Willy
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Post by: Vince G on May 31, 2011, 08:25:19 am
Oh Willy you should see his Winter Home...
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on June 05, 2011, 12:21:22 am
I think Willy knew about my Winter Home already Vince . haha

Well some hard work was done today , from 7:00am to 6:00pm .. buying/cutting/nailing ect. and here are a few of the result .

Tomorrow the final step to cover the rest . Then Falshing/Trim/Shingles will be next . Have all the Electrical stuff already for Light's/Fan , but first comes Paint .
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Post by: Sylvain D on June 06, 2011, 07:49:54 am
Wap... what A Patio ! 'just seems like it will be a very beautiful one !
I know it is not finished, but from what I can see right now, please keep us updated about it ^^
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Post by: Arnold on June 16, 2011, 12:03:00 am
So , today after work I finished the Shingles and Flashing . Now it's off to Paint the darn thing and put on the Trim all around . Buy Light fixtures this weekend and install them . For the following weekend , Fan and beautify the Post's as needed . Ohhhh .. one more thing after that , buy ( yeah buy ..buy ) Furniture to sit on  ::)

Funny , how it looks Blue .. when it matches the Roof of the House .. Grey ?
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Post by: Rhonald on June 16, 2011, 12:35:54 am
Once you are done I hope you buy a brand new barbecue and send out invites to the brothers here.
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Post by: Arnold on June 16, 2011, 12:56:30 am
Once you are done I hope you buy a brand new barbecue and send out invites to the brothers here.

....heck , I can't say "NO" to that ! Whoever is in the area that is a "MEMBER" is welcome . This Home is for Members only ! 8)
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Post by: halfpint on June 17, 2011, 11:00:40 pm
Gre,at work, hope you get to enjoy many nights out there, having a drink, a barbecue and relaxing!
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on June 22, 2011, 01:23:29 am
From my Blog ...

Another crazy Weekend .
This time it started on Friday already . Getting a call from my Neighbor , to see if we wanted to go out to eat and listen to some Music afterwards . It was a Greek Restaurant ( food was excellent ) with some DJ Music after all the Tables are moved into another Room to clear way for Dancing . This is where we worked "off "our Food we stuffed ourselves with . It got really crowded by 10 pm , and ones we hit the Floor .. there was no stopping til closing time at 1:00am Saturday . Now before Friday and Dinner was ever mentioned , I was going to get up early and start Painting the Patio . Well , this still went down , but not "early " like planned . Let's say , about 11am I was out there with Brush in my Hand and Ladder . By 6:00 pm , I called it a day . There was still Sunday to finish it . Yeah .. finish I did .. even put up one of the Light Fixtures . Must say , Qing and I love it .. the Paint and the Light we chose .

Anyway , tired and burned out by now .. what happens ? My Bro ( the Neighbor ) calls and ask us to come over for Bar-B-Que at 5:00 pm . We both agreed to it and arrived at their House ( walked .. haha ) at 6:00 . The trouble there , this also went on til about Midnight . Red Wine and great Cigar's , how can one relax better .. I thought . So today , please someone keep my away !!!! So I get some " REST " .

Well , it's nice actually to have the means to take half a day OFF and start none other then .. yes .. go to work again ! So , I just had to finish up them Lights and hang that Fan in it's place .. as it was knocking at the Box to let it OUT .

Here are the result of todays labor in near 100 degree weather .
Oh yes , the two light switches are on the Rafter's on purpose .. only ME and Qing can reach them ! So NOBODY plays with "THEM" lights ... Hahahaha .
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Post by: Rhonald on June 22, 2011, 04:53:33 am
If you understand the reference......... Nice Patio Lanterns!
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Post by: Vince G on June 22, 2011, 06:59:03 am
Very nice, I'm impressed.
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Post by: shaun on June 22, 2011, 06:46:51 pm
Wow.  I am impressed.  Really looks nice Arnold.
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Post by: Arnold on June 22, 2011, 11:56:09 pm
Rhonald , hahaha .. good ! Let's call them Lantern's , there is a little resemblance .. isn't there ?

Vince/Shaun , thanks .. I think the OLD man still got it !
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Post by: Arnold on June 23, 2011, 12:55:29 am
Sorry Rhonald , but I can not play the Video . " Your Up-Loader can not play this Video in your ( mine ) Country " it says .
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Post by: Rhonald on June 23, 2011, 01:18:02 am
Darn, there was a different version on You tube that give me the same message. And here I thought the USA had access to most music forms. I will delete the post. It was Kim Mitchell's official video song Patio Lanterns.
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Post by: chen yan on June 23, 2011, 06:35:09 am
Arnorld, Donn't tell me you built this patio by yourself ? Your are a telented architect !
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Post by: Kiwi303 on June 23, 2011, 06:56:17 am
 Chen Yan... It's only a patio... you should try making him do what I did and make a 120 square meter deck that was 3.4 meters off the ground! a small patio is NOTHING :D
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Post by: Vince G on June 23, 2011, 07:53:26 am
Now, now Kiwi, no need to steal the spotlight from Arnold. I could certainly steal the show if wanted.
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Post by: Arnold on June 23, 2011, 10:46:28 pm
Chen Yan... It's only a patio... you should try making him do what I did and make a 120 square meter deck that was 3.4 meters off the ground! a small patio is NOTHING :D

Haha .. Kiwi , in my days in New York .. there was no Job to small or to big for that matter . I have done complete House make-over's ( three Stories ) with Cellar ( Bar and Game room included ) . Just wait when I start my Spa Cover ( also one of a Kind ) with Sky Doors and a Bahama look .
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Post by: Arnold on June 23, 2011, 11:16:08 pm
[img]Guy's , this is for the Romantic Dude .. so if you are NOT .. don't read further . ???

If anybody has ever followed my Blog over the two years , seen where I have mentioned that it is my honest feeling " Women are truely like Flower's . Their are all different ( not two are really alike ) as are all the many kinds of Flower's from all over the World .
Put into my words , if you don't like the LOOK / SMELL / BEAUTY of each one of them .. you do not really LIKE Women as they are . Yes .. yes , of course some Women ruin that reputation and sometimes in a big way . Sad really ! Men distribute to this , by NOT being in at least a somewhat of a way ROMANTIC . With this Quoted sentence above and feeling strongly that this is very true , I feel Qing and I will never have any kind of problems that would even in the slightest way .. ever NOT love each other more with each passing day .

Anyway , she has a fovourite " Flower " and it is ( like my Mei-Mei Lily ) the Lily Plant . Knowing this for more than four year's now , I purchased a Lily Plant of course in Qing's honor .. my Sister Lily and for my late Wife .. who's favourite was also the same Flower . Can I call this coincidence or is it just meant to be that way ?

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Post by: Rhonald on June 24, 2011, 12:52:54 am
[img]Guy's , this is for the Romantic Dude .. so if you are NOT .. don't read further . ???

Arnold, I can see by your profile picture that since you tend to have that romantic streak, Cupid called you to act as his replacement while he goes on holidays.

As for women being like flowers, I couldn't agree more and I will give you this ascent.

She has Tulips that beckon to be kissed
And into her Iris we gaze a bliss
Her smile that arose that desire in us
That her heart would forget-me-not
While passion flowers, entrapped we become
Our souls in step with her in Lady's Slippers
Dumbfound we play Laurel to her Sage Hardy
And like a Dandy Lion we roar our love
To live out our Daisies until the end of Thyme
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Post by: Kiwi303 on June 24, 2011, 04:36:15 am
Just wait when I start my Spa Cover ( also one of a Kind ) with Sky Doors and a Bahama look .

That sounds interesting? An outside spa pool with a enclosable shelter which can be panelled in with glass panels in winter to enjoy a warm spa in while watching the snowflakes drift down, yet able to be opened to the fresh breezes of summer?
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Post by: shaun on June 24, 2011, 08:34:28 am
No snow flakes in LA.  At least not white ones.  ;D
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Post by: Kiwi303 on June 24, 2011, 08:37:29 am
doesn't sounds like here :P 8" and no power for a week... brrrr... thank god for wood fires :D
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Post by: Arnold on June 24, 2011, 10:14:12 pm
No snow flakes in LA.  At least not white ones.  ;D

Maybe not in LA , but in Palmdale .. we're been clocked at 13" of the White Stuff one year . Last year about 8" , which is just enough/right for me . As long as I don't have to Shuffle any of it .
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Post by: Arnold on June 29, 2011, 12:39:43 pm
So now that we finished ( so I thought ) our Patio , including a nice Table/Chairs Set ( to which we will add a Bar Table with high Chairs ) . Had our first Dinner outside and it was wonderful , we sat out there til almost 11pm . I guess , the thought of doing the Dishes kept us out there . Anyway , while sitting and talking and enjoying our hard labor .. Qing now came up with .. we need to Paint our Concrete ! hahaha .. here I thought I was done .
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Post by: shaun on June 29, 2011, 02:17:44 pm
Arnold you should know by now.  The honey Do List never ends.  Just when you think you've got it all done she will add more.  But you've got to love it.  ;D
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Post by: Vince G on June 29, 2011, 02:18:52 pm
Ha ha ha it never ends.

The first step to the outside fun was started earlier today. Been waiting for maintenance to come and take away a Bee's nest that was in a tree 10 ft from my house (not on my property). Now I can powerwash the roof and put the rest of the patio roof up. Then put up my new shed (10x12) and enclose the patio which is off the driveway and the front door. I did put some lights up already on the part of the patio that has a roof. So I can see when BBQing. After this then it's inside remodeling time. Never ends.
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Post by: Arnold on June 29, 2011, 11:21:03 pm
Big Brunch with my Neighbor/Half-Wife .. my Loan Officer/Wife ( received my Mod ) and an old Friend from way back . Ate for four (4) hours , believe it or not .
Final touch-up on the Posts , one at a time . No need to rush anymore , Qing wanted it to be ready for her brother's Wife coming soon . She got her wish  :)
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Post by: Rhonald on June 30, 2011, 12:03:20 am
Final touch-up on the Posts , one at a time .

Hey Arnold, good post about the posts you posted. That patio is looking good so give yourself a pat on the back.  8)

I also like the yard work in the background. You have a nice peaceful alcove there, fit for a king.
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Post by: Vince G on June 30, 2011, 08:29:26 am
Ah Arnold, who's that sitting next to Qing? Mmmm maybe I should make a trip to Calif.  ;)
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Post by: Arnold on June 30, 2011, 11:22:38 am
Ah Arnold, who's that sitting next to Qing? Mmmm maybe I should make a trip to Calif.  ;)

That's my Neighbor's Girlfriend of ten years and even be his Wife someday ? She's from El Salvador . Next to her is my Loan Officer , they both work at BofA .
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Post by: shaun on June 30, 2011, 02:12:53 pm
Very nice Arnold.  As Rhonald a place fit for a King and Qing.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on July 07, 2011, 01:44:40 am
So Qing and I went on a Drive on Sunday the 3rd. First through a nice Mountainous Road to Pasadena to Visit my late Wife's Sister and Family , as I have promised them last year to bring them a large Bag of our Apricots from our Tree . After a wonderful time ( 3 hours ) it was of to what many friends have ask me many times over .. have you taken Qing to Monterey Park/Alhambra yet . So I found it was urgent to do just that . This is "Really" a Chinese Community and much larger then ChinaTown here in LA . We walked of course some of the Streets and checked out many of the Shops and Restaurants that came our way . After Shopping for some add-ons for our Patio we looked for a place to Chow Down .
Attention Martin : Maybe this will bring him out of Hidding , we found a great Dumpling place to fill our Tanks with nothing less .. then , Shanghai Dumplings and Chowmein . Excellent Food , definitely need to go back for more .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on July 14, 2011, 11:51:13 am
Boy , talk about higher Prices for a Lawyer . Checking out the details of Qing's Son Visa application , it is about a thousand dollars more than Qing's .

1st;
$ 420 for Immigration to start
$ 750 for Lawyer
2nd;
$ 404 Visa Center
$  88    "        "
$ 300 for Lawyer
3rd;
$ 300 more for Lawyer ( while waiting for further notice )
4th;
$ 300 to $ 500 for Medical Exam.
5th;
$ 300 for good measures to Lawyer again

a cool three Grand and Qing's Perm. Green Card ( two years ) process is due next Month too . Ahhh .. it's only Money , concidering I have a Treasure in return .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: maxx on July 14, 2011, 06:07:29 pm
Arnold I have a few Questions. 1,700 for a lawyer? isn't this the same lawyer you used the last 2 times for your immigration and Qing's.My question why isn't he giving you a price break.I think it is time for a new lawyer.If this one is slapping you with the full bill again.Correct me if I'm wrong.Didn't this guy forget something on Qing's visa application.And you mentioned it on this forum.And I had to tell you that he missed something.Then you had to go back and make sure he did what ever it was.My personell opinion.I think it is time to get a new lawyer.Or put the screws to this one.And have him cut you a deal.

I think your missing a fee.There is 2 biometric exams.At 88 dollars apiece.Ok 420 to file the paperwork.I can understand that.What is the 404 for the visa center?I've never heard of that.For the medical exam for my wife it was only 100 dollars
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on July 14, 2011, 10:37:07 pm
Maxx , first .. the Lawyer was actually the one that found something about Qing's Divorce Papaer's that the Visa center had missed . So he called them and straightened that out for me , otherwise it would have been a battle to get additional notarized Paper's from the Ex and he safed us that hassle .
Anyway , here is the PriceList that we received from Him . It's the same steps as with Qing , except more expensive this time around .

Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on July 19, 2011, 11:50:37 pm
I think .. there are a few Guy's here would like Photo's of just about anything . So here are a few from our last Concert ( America ) and some details on the Patio .
The last one , because Qing loves " Gold " and it's our Paradise .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on July 23, 2011, 12:35:06 am
So the Buddha has finally a place to sit and call his own . The Characters that I did below are ..
Pin - an - ru - yi ( be safe - be gratified ) !

Of course we will add a few more things ( fake Fruit , Insense Bowls , Antique Shelf with Gold , Flower's ) for the final touches .
Anyway , this does not mean .. Qing is a practising Buddist . It is just something I will let Qing decide on her own , I'm not one to force my Religion on to her . I tell her about Jesus ( my believe ) all the time and I listen when she tells me what Buddha is all about . 
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on July 23, 2011, 12:37:52 am
Oh? Was wondering why you put such a nice shelf up?
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on July 23, 2011, 12:49:14 am
Yeah .. it wasn't for my Twelve Pack !  ;D
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on July 24, 2011, 10:50:54 pm
Looking much nicer now and only is missing Insense Bowls . That triggered a long debate over Skype . Qing was talking to her Dad , about needing two Bowls ( 12-15cm ) and first thing was .. TWO ???? One only puts one in front of the Buddha . Well , she explained .. we need two .. because we don't have ROOM for the front . Back came the answer , this was never done and has never happened . So Qing came running to me and told me this . I told her , there is just no room in front and we can not change it now ! So she finally did convince her Dad for two Bowls . Hey  , I look at it .. two is better then one !
Second , we also must take Buddha to an Temple and have him blessed .. or else he will NOT listen or hear us .. it is said . Of course I will find a Temple here and do Qing that favour , I don't want to be a blamed for BAD Luck down the road some day .
My Parrot can of course "HANG" with us out there .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on July 24, 2011, 11:10:20 pm
My Parrot can of course "HANG" with us out there .

What!....I didn't know you were a pirate Arnold. Shiver me patio timbers....... :o
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on July 31, 2011, 11:42:29 pm
May in July ? Only in America !
What do I mean by that ?

Well , this weekend .. Qing and I spend Saturday in Long Beach CA. .
This is about 90 miles south of where we live . This did not change our Minds though , to be part of a Festival .. that is actually celebrated in May .. in China that is . Hence , the Title of this Post .

As I saw with surprise on my PC , the mentioning of the 2011 Dragonboat Festival and Races over the this Weekend . Some 100 + Races of Young and Old alike . Anybody that can hold a Orr and is not afraid of the Water .

Need to get up early ( before 6am ) , have Breakfast and hit the Road south by no later then 8:00am . Knowning , that this place where all is going to happen .. will not be easy to locate/find . I only been twice in my 39 years here in California to Long Beach . That was to Visit the "Queen Mary" Cruise Ship .

As I suspected , we ( actually I ) were lost arriving in Long Beach . Going down the 710 Fwy and looking for the 7th Street Exit .. which never came . Finding ourselves in the Ship Yard and in the Un-loading area of all those oversea's Container's ( most of them from China of course ). Interesting view , as some of them I think were stagged 10-15 high . Some sight for sure . Anyway , me admitting that we are lost ( yes .. there are some Men that do admit their lost ) , it was time to ask some unexpecting Soul to guide us in the right direction . Remembering this from our last Downtown LA visit ( ask five People for Angle Flight and nobody knew where it was ) , of course the first Lady I ask at a SuperMarket .. had NO idea of the area where she Worked . hahaha
Oh , I now remember .. most work  2 Hours from Home and have NO idea where their at .

Asking a second Person , I could see .. we were at least close to our Destination . I saw some familiar Street's that were mentioned in the Printout I had taken with us from the Computer . Made me feel good , I can actually take some credit for finding the Place .. that always looks good in front of your LaoPo .

By now it was close to 11:00 am , not bad .. As I have figured in .. this well before .


Here we were , in the middle of dozens of Dragonboat's and People that will races them . Along all the Crowd that had the same idea of coming here . What was strange , is that Qing has never been to one in China in all her years growing up in Shanghai . It is also my first experience seeing this , even though I wanted to see them plenty of times in the Past .


Strolling with the Crowd , we came to an Stage that was to have different Performance's from different Countries/Cultures . Of course Chinese-Jananese-Hawaii-Tahiti .This was a nice welcome between the Boat races , as one sits under a Tent and out of the Sun .


Enjoying ourselves for about three-four Hours and walking slowly back to our Car , the Scenic Route .. to check out the beautiful Homes near the Marina . Turns out , Qing was even more interested in those Homes then the Boat races . Seeing on of them for Sale , picked up a Flyer to see what they are asking for one of those beauties . Oh .. a cool $ 1.2 Million for a 1936 build ( but renovated ) .. cough .. cough ! Not that I think they are not worth it , after all it was 2600 sq feet of obsolute " I love this " . Let me quick check my Checkbook and see .. if ?


One can Dream .. right ?


So on the way Home , we took the Pacific Coast Highway all the way to Venice ( not Italy ) . Including a view of old Queen Mary sitting like she does for many years as an Tourist Attraction .Qing loved the drive through one Beach City after the other very much , but she really liked Long Beach .. as she now wants us to take her Brother's Wife there .. when she comes in Sept. this year .


I'm now wondering , what happened to Pasadena .. did "IT" now move down on her List of favourite Cities ? Then again , the Beach Cities are beautiful to the Eye . I'm not the kind to go in the Ocean Water's , either for Fun or Sport . What I like most is the Temperature year-round .. comfortable .


One more stop we planned on the drive home , that was the Asian Market .. that we just can not pass up being within 5 minutes off the Freeway . Nice time shopping with Dinner next door and then .. call it a day .. it is .

Photo's are seen in my Blog , if anyone interested .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on August 01, 2011, 12:58:29 am
I can't believe you don't have a personal navigation device? Mine even wirelessly hook into my cell so I can answer or make calls handsfree. All voice control. Worth it, or if you have an iphone? there is a App for it too.  But glad you had a good time.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on August 01, 2011, 01:06:40 am
I really liked the first picture with Qing and  boat #2. She looks very content with her success at taming of the dragon.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on August 02, 2011, 12:20:08 am
Vince , as you see .. I'm not the one to wait outside a Store for a NEW product to arrive . I only got myself a PC four years ago and that because I was alone and bored . Seeing everybody run for the new item each time is NOT for me and never will . Nobody tells me WHEN/WHERE/HOW or I need this .. I need nothing til I say I do and feel it necessary . I do NOT play by the Market , like what is IN or NOT . Same goes for Clothes , when I think I need some .. I buy what I like and not what somebody tell me I should wear . Okay , now you can call me "OLD FASION" ! If I followed all that , I'd be wearing my Pants around my Knee's .. instead my Hip and show my Underwear to everybody .

Rhonald , she might be a Dragon Tamer .. in my Vicinity she's a Pussy-Cat .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on August 02, 2011, 10:07:18 am
ha ha ha, I'm the same way, Arnold. I don't wait on a line unless I really have to even in the disco days. I would get to know the doormen while standing on line so next time I came there I was lead right in. But this is different, first it's not so new. They've been out a while so no lines. Second, I bought mine online so no shopping lines and waiting. My brother went to the store and bought the same one (before I) and spent over $300. for his I got mine for half his price.

I only buy what I need. It makes it easier to find a place on the cuff and saves me using my gas up. You can carry it also. So lets say you were walking along looking at the dragon boats and wanted an ice cream? It automatically knows were you are and you put in or say.. ice cream. It will give you all the ice cream places in a radius. It will even give the cheapest gas prices in the area and the map to get there.

As for fashion clothes? I don't buy them either. I have some (suits,etc) but I figure if it has a logo on it I would be advertising for them so let them pay me for wearing it, not the other way around.   :D


When I drove up to NY in the beginning of the year, I like my coffee so gas station coffee won't do. I punched in Starbucks and if gave me the exit and how far to it. It's a valuable tool to have.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on August 02, 2011, 10:36:46 pm
I know it will be handy , I just don't know if I can ever push myself or soon to buy some of the NEW when I'm still working it up trying to learn IT . haha
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on September 15, 2011, 06:01:30 pm
We have a Visitor tomorrow .

Well certainly hope my Sister In-law ( Wife of Qing's Brother ) , does not get into this kind of Traffic  ( previous Post ) to Pudong Airport tomorrow and miss her Plane .

Qing being here almost two years now , this would be our second Visitor from Shanghai so far . The first was Qing's Cousin some time back . So we are looking really forward having her with us for a couple of weeks and I'm sure she is equally excited as we are . This is not her first time though , she's been to both Coast's on different occations through her work .

This , as mentioned before .. is to buy a House here . I hope we find one to both our likking and a great deal besides . I think everything is ready , Guest Room and Food supply for both Chinese and American dishes during her stay .

Will post Photo's here , if she agree's to it and doesn't mind me doing so .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on September 19, 2011, 02:14:28 pm
Oh .. we did a lot of driving over the Weekend .

Friday ; To the Airport ( LAX ) about seventy miles each way , to pick up Sister In-law ( Janet ) .
Saturday ; She want's to see Hollywood , so off we go . Two Hours of sightseeing near and around the Chinese Theater , we decide .. let's take Sunset Blvd. through Beverly Hills and on the Venice Beach . After seeing the Canal's and all the "Strange Folks" at Venice Beach , I come up with the Idea .. let's walk to the Santa Monica Pier . Which was a good two miles of walking ( didn't want to Rent Bikes ) , $7 an Hour was after all too much to Pay .. both of them thought . Poor me , I now had no choice .. but to walk too . That round trip took about three hours , you can imagine .. I was the only one by now .. NOT crying " I'm tired " !
Haha .. I thought , well both of you didn't want them Bikes . ::)

So tired and exhausted , it was Outback Steak House for Dinner and Home for a well deserved Sleep . 150 miles later .

Sunday ; Outlet's in Camarillo with Sister In-law and long list of things as Gift's back home and herself of course . After Six (6) hours of Shopping , haha .. call me crazy .. but I didn't mind . I'm with two beautiful Lady's there after all . On the way back home we stop for some Mexican Food ( Dinner ) , which was a Hit with Janet .. as the Mex. Restaurant in Shanghai is not as good . Thank you El Tacito , for great Food .. at least that moment and the Corona's that I was in serious need of .
Home at 10:30pm and 180 miles under our belt for Sunday . No problem for me , but remember .. these two are Shanghainese and not used to driving those distances .

Back to work , and time to take a Breather . I can see next Weekend coming my way already , so need to rest some at work as much as I can . ;)
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on September 19, 2011, 03:02:50 pm
Sounds like you had a good time so far. You had to go to work to rest... ha  I see you found Tom Arnolds' Star?  What pier is in the photo? The Santa Monica Pier has the Ferris wheel? or are you on it?
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on September 19, 2011, 03:14:47 pm
Sounds like you had a good time so far. You had to go to work to rest... ha  I see you found Tom Arnolds' Star?  What pier is in the photo? The Santa Monica Pier has the Ferris wheel? or are you on it?

Yes , great time ! This actually wasn't Tom Arnold's Star , to tell you the truth .. never heard of that Person . Can't even remember the first name , as I covered him instantly so Qing would only see what's in the Pic.
That was Santa Monica Pier and we are on the Wheel , beautiful day it was .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Jason B on September 19, 2011, 07:06:35 pm
No idea who foot Arnold is either.  Great to see your sister in law is enjoying herself so much Arnold.  It is a sad day though when a man must go back to work just to get some rest.  I understand about the long driving distances.  But in Oz we are used to driving long distances even between major cities.

Hope she enjoys the rest of her stay and you enjoy your rest mate. 

The Outback Steakhouse......bar humbug you yanks wouldn't know a good steak, or good food unless an Aussie cooked it for you!!!! ;)
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: shaun on September 19, 2011, 07:25:07 pm
Quote
The Outback Steakhouse......bar humbug you yanks wouldn't know a good steak, or good food unless an Aussie cooked it for you!!!!

And those words coming from one who more than likely eats and enjoys vegemite.   ??? ;D

Arnold I know all of you are having a great time so store up those resting cells and get ready to launch forth again next week.   Keep those pictures coming in.   Could the name under your foot have been Eddie?

Or maybe it was Arnold the pig from Green Acres.  :o  Tom's...
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on September 19, 2011, 09:33:28 pm
Could the name under your foot have been Eddie?

No it is Arnold, Edward Rec 6225 Hollywood Blvd.
The key is the logo as it is for recording, while Eddie is for radio.

I rather Go Ogle girls but instead I googled "Arnold" on stars walk of fame.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David E on September 19, 2011, 11:00:51 pm
Shaun

You surely must know that I could not resist the opportunity to leap in and defend the Australian National Food..........

Vegemite is our secret weapon.....if you eat it regularly you are automatically guaranteed perfect health, amazing sexual prowess, wealth beyond your wildest dreams and become irresistable to hot women.... ;D ;D ;D

But only REAL Men can face up to a daily dose of Vegemite on toast.......

I rest my case, your Honour...!!!!

David
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: shaun on September 20, 2011, 05:03:09 am
Yes David, I knew you would be there to defend but even with your expert witness I just couldn't resist taking a poke at what Jason said.  The sane argument of resisting the urge lasted a scant 3 seconds before I found my fingers dancing merrily across the keyboard of my computer.

Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: maxx on September 20, 2011, 07:30:20 am
Shaun don't take any lip off of these Aussies.They elect politicians with the name Stoner.So what doe's that tell you.And if it isn't bad enough.They lost a 75,000  dollar military truck.After they painted it with camouflage paint.The guy that was painting the truck must of ben out toking up with Stoner.And after they got stoned they forgot where they parked the truck.Stoner and the guy that painted the truck are out wondering around the outback.Asking the rocks.And the sheep.Dude have you seen my truck. :P
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: kenny on September 20, 2011, 11:03:46 am
Arnold we all know how we get stared at in China, I would love to see the stare's you get walking around with these two ladys.

Linda and I went to Indy to a monster truck show with my Grandson and daughter Saturday and had dinner at Outback as well. My second time Linda's first. I am curious, we dont eat steak to much but when we do Linda want's her meat well done. It looks burnt to a crisp to me, I like for the blood to run down my chin when I bite in to a steak. Is it common for these lady's to want their meat cooked like that? The things I have seen them eat in China makes me wonder why the meat needs to be cooked so much.

After reading the posts here I got to ask, What the hell is Vegemite?
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on September 20, 2011, 11:33:04 am
Kenny , talking about stares .. they came from all over Man and Women . They forgot to look at Hollywood's landmarks , so felt like .. any second they are going to start taking Photo's of us . hahaha

Qing , also liked her Meat ( Steak ) well done .. until I now got her use to Medium . The first time she made Fillet Migon , she not only pounded it flat but also well over-cooked it . I did find a way , to let her know .. this is NOT how to do a good Steak like this .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: shaun on September 20, 2011, 01:12:37 pm
Well Kenny, first you scrape out the nest of a kangaroo and the barnacles off the belly of an alligator.  You mix that with and even blend of the three vegetables they grow in Aussie land.  Next you put it into a vat along with a case of fosters beer.  Cans and all mind you and stick it in the ground for six months.  After you think it is well rotted there you take it out and fill up an empty tube of Crest toothpaste and you have vegemite.   Oh,  I almost forgot David's viagra that needs to be added.  ;D
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David E on September 20, 2011, 06:59:20 pm
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You nearly got the Vegemite recipe right Shaun....but I cant fill in the blanks because it counts as high Treason in Aus for anyone to disclose the Vegemite secrets to Foreigners. The punishments for this are horrendous...automatic revocation of Beer Drinking privileges, enforced celibacy for a period not exceeding 5 years, and in the worst cases, deportation to America  ;D ;D ;D

But I can tell you that we dont use Viagra any more in Vegemite...it is an old-fashioned drug...Cialis is the modern aphrodisiac of choice. 8) 8)

BTW Maxx....why did you have to bring up the story about our Army truck.....because that was the only truck that our Army has left in Aus...all the rest (9 of them) are in Afghanistan ferrying Vegemite to the USA military....keeps up morale you know !!! So now our home based Army gets about on bikes....it is a real tragedy !!! I have it on good authority that the truck they lost in the desert is now being used as a residence for 37 illegal immigrant families !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on September 20, 2011, 07:22:42 pm
 ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D

Who needs Trucks for War .. just send your Australian Football Teams . To me , they look as Tough as Marine's .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: shaun on September 20, 2011, 07:26:15 pm
David,  This is a true story.  Oh, sorry Arnold for the hijack.

An Aussie by the name of Marcos Ambrose has been running the Nascar Nextel Cuo circuit the last few years and has introduced it to a lot of the Nascar people.  Here is what it made of according to Marcos, " It's all the yeast extract from the beer floatation. The yeast sits on top. They skim it all off, they dry it and process it and burn it until it goes black. Then they squeeze it through a tube and there it is."

((Or that is their public image of how it is made))--But we know the truth.  ;) ::)

There are some Nascar videos of people trying it for the first time.  It is quite a video and good for a laugh or two.  One reporter tried it and threw up right there on the spot.

About 3 minutes into the video one of the hosts tries Marcos' vegemite toast.

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Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: RobertBfrom aust on September 25, 2011, 10:44:01 am
A happy birthday to Qing , and to think it is nearly 2 years since you arrived in Palmdale , regards Sujuan and Robert .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on September 26, 2011, 03:11:26 pm
Many thanks for all my LaoPo's Birthday wishes !

Here are some Photo's from last weekend in San Diego and Pasadena's Huntington Garden .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on September 26, 2011, 07:27:01 pm
Here is my entry on Qing's Birthday Card , if anybody's Lady is 43 sometime soon .. go ahead you use it !  ;)

Today ....
my Sweetheart is Forty Three

still Young ....
as one can See

special is this Day
so best Wishes are coming
your Way .

Short but sweet ...
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: john1964 on September 27, 2011, 01:56:07 am
Is that Charlie s angles i spy in the last pic ?
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Martin on September 27, 2011, 10:58:43 am
Great pictures Arnold.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on September 27, 2011, 11:03:54 am
Yes John , good thing she had no reason to point the GUN at me .

Thanks Martin , as the Photo's reach 100,000 ^ . Just think , if we were still using Film ?  ::)
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David E on September 27, 2011, 05:35:34 pm
Lovely photos Arnold....I am pleased to see that you have made friends with an Australian Parrot.........they are very fussy who they make friends with .... ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on September 27, 2011, 05:48:06 pm
Australian Parrot.........they are very fussy who they make friends with .... ;D ;D ;D

Is this what your wife said about you David? By the way, I hope your hand is getting better.  8)
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on September 27, 2011, 05:53:12 pm
Is that Charlie s angles i spy in the last pic ?

No...they are the Arnold Valkyries and Arnold, he is the Boss Lee
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on September 27, 2011, 07:15:42 pm
Lovely photos Arnold....I am pleased to see that you have made friends with an Australian Parrot.........they are very fussy who they make friends with .... ;D ;D ;D

Thanks David ... they don't call me BIRDMAN for nothing ! ;) Even my E-MAil is Birdmann ..haha
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on October 12, 2011, 01:16:26 pm
Well anybody that reads my Blog , will know .. that I wanted to take Qing to Farmer's Market last weekend .
So I did just that and we had a wonderful time , but eating too much Sweet's and Ice Cream .. for my LaoPo's liking anyway . I also drove the 110 Frwy to Pasadena , so Qing could see the oldest and ( to myself ) prettiest Frwy in the LA area .
Here are some Pictures .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on October 12, 2011, 03:57:08 pm
I can tell by your last picture Arnold that the ice cream gave you too much  :o GAS
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on October 12, 2011, 06:24:50 pm
I can tell by your last picture Arnold that the ice cream gave you too much  :o GAS

Actually , looking at those GAS prices ( 13 cents-4 cents tax= 17 cents ) , gave me quite a GAStral releave from any GAS pains .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: shaun on October 12, 2011, 07:49:02 pm
Arnold, I'd like to see those gas prices again.  ;D  I can remember $0.24 a gallon in my youth but minimum wage was $1.65 per hour too.   Back in the day it was a 5:1 ratio now days it is less than a 2:1.  Those were the good old days in more ways than one.  Camero's Mustangs, Cougars, Cuda's, Ah and a Road Runner.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on October 12, 2011, 09:48:17 pm
Those were the good old days in more ways than one.  , Cougars,

What! ......... you were chasing older woman in your youth?
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: shaun on October 13, 2011, 05:06:24 am
You bet I chased them.  Married one.  Maybe I shouldn't have chased them come to think of it. But............  Now that I think about it I chased younger ones too.  ;D


I drove a souped up beetle.  My father bought it for me and I proceeded to squeeze as much juice out if it as I could get.  I rebuilt and engine.  I put big jugs on it.  96mm if I remember correctly.  Used to have a thing about big jugs.  Racing cam, Holly 2-barrel bug spray iw what they called it, headers and glass pack.  It would make those G-60's squeel.  Wish I still had pictures of it but they were lost in a fire in my dad's home.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on October 25, 2011, 11:14:09 pm
Getting the urge all of a sudden to Travel .

Has anyone been in my Shoes ( I'm sure they have ) and get the traveling Itch ? Well , this I seem to find myself in now . One reason , I guess .. is because Qing is getting her Perm. Green Card and that makes me more at ease for her to go Overseas .

Talking about Overseas , I'm balancing two thought of where ? I have checked Flights to Germany already . As my Mom seems that she can not come to Visit us , so thinking .. she's not that young anymore . Anyway , all my Family ( Cousins and all ) want to see us in the old Fatherland .

Then again , I feel for my LaoPo .. she has been here with me now almost two years and I'm sure misses her Family too . So what is the most logical solution to this ... ? I prefer Germany and there is a good reason for that . Qing's Brother / Wife and her Son will come next year .. after the Son get's the Visa to join us here . On the other Hand , I miss Qing's Parents and I know that is even harder on my Sweetheart .

There is something else that bugs me . That is I have fallen in Love with China and I really miss it . I miss the City ( Shanghai ) the Food and the People . I know I'm somewhat crazy , but I miss the Traffic .. the Noise and the daily Night Life .
I remember Beijing , how the Great Wall almost killed me . Moments that I treasure and grateful for .. ever have been given the chance to see this wonderful/lovely Country that China is . After all , she's given me .. the greatest Treasure of all . My beautiful Wife , what this Blog is all about .


We'll see what will happen in the next couple of Months . I also have to think of my now Business that I took over . Yes , getting older is not making it any easier .. so little time and sooo much to do !
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on October 25, 2011, 11:18:45 pm
"my now Business that I took over" ?   Did I moss something? do tell
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on October 26, 2011, 12:03:40 am
"my now Business that I took over" ?   Did I moss something? do tell

I guess Vince , you do not read my Blog ?
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on October 26, 2011, 12:17:24 am
From time to time but don't remember seeing anything about a business?

Looks like you opened (or took over) a shop?
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on October 26, 2011, 12:22:25 am
Arnold sorry for the dilemma, but then the choice of two good options is the kind of dilemma worth having. Maybe, if undecided, you can ask Qing what she thinks since you are torn up with what to do.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on October 26, 2011, 12:25:29 am
Arnold sorry for the dilemma, but then the choice of two good options is the kind of dilemma worth having. Maybe, if undecided, you can ask Qing what she thinks since you are torn up with what to do.

haha .. she'd love to go to Germany too .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on October 26, 2011, 12:28:16 am
From time to time but don't remember seeing anything about a business?

Looks like you opened (or took over) a shop?

That's it . A Shop qualifies as Business .. right ? Took over that is .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on October 26, 2011, 12:34:30 am
haha .. she'd love to go to Germany too .

I think I know why she wishes to go to Germany.  ::)


She keeps hearing about this Sauerkraut and is confused. Qing thinks, "My Arnold is always happy so what do they mean Sauerkraut?" So she hopes to find the answer over there.

But of course, it is Qing's arrival into your life that has turned one Sour Kraut into a happy camper. That pickled cabbage has now been tickled.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Jason B on October 26, 2011, 04:12:49 am
Arnold, Xia and I love to travel too.  Here is our solution to the problem.  May work for you too.  We intend to fly to Hong Kong and see her family from there in China and then return to Hong Kong and fly were ever else we wanted to go on our holidays.  Use HK as an international travel hub.  Maybe able to get connecting flights to Shanghai or you might consider the train......... ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: shaun on October 26, 2011, 04:30:58 am
Good luck in solving your problem.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on October 26, 2011, 09:24:18 am
Well Arnold, Congrats on your shop. My buddy (of 48 yrs) has had a dozen shops over his career. He's 6 months younger then us and he's been doing car stereo's, alarms and window tinting since high school. Location helps. Please feel free to contact me if you run into any advice. Between the two of us we know all the tricks to keeping a business going.

As for the travel? I don't know your funds & time line but could you do both?
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on October 26, 2011, 11:37:56 am
Well Arnold, Congrats on your shop. Between the two of us we know all the tricks to keeping a business going.

As for the travel? I don't know your funds & time line but could you do both?

Thanks Vince ! We know the Tricks all right , but it is still up to the Folks to maintain their Cars and NOT wait til they break down .. to where there is no choice but to fix it . Looking back , I remember days .. we had up to 25 Cars sitting in our Lot to be worked on . Those days are long gone , with those throw-away Cars nowadays . I'd say , we've been doing about 30% what we use to do . By the time , I'm ready to hang it up .. most People , most likely will be all Leaseing instead of Buying there Transportation . Which is good for them actually , when you know .. those new Cars are not going to last past 10 years and are scrap by then . Show me a Car , that is going to last over 10 years !

I can NOT do both in a short time frame and Qing would never see a need to do it either .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on November 10, 2011, 12:19:18 pm
Hence it is getting closer for Qing's Son ( TianChi ) arriving , I'd got busy starting preparing his Bedroom . This has been our Familyroom ( or let's say Sportsroom ) where I had my 48" big screen and all my Soccer/Hockey stuff on the Walls . So now , after all came down .. it was time for some fresh Paint . Then , on to check out Bed's/Dressers/Night Stands/Desk's ect. . Here are a couple Photo's of my "Hard" work ( thats what my LaoPo calls it ) haha ... it's just in a days work for me . Isn't that what LaoGong's are for ? Besides , I have NEVER heard a Woman tell my " Thank You " so many times ! Heck , he's OUR Son after all now .. but I like to rack up those Plus/Browny Points anyway . 8)

The last one , German Hamburger's waiting for Me ! She makes them better then I can .. Delish !!!
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on November 10, 2011, 03:15:50 pm
Ah u missed a few spots there on the ceiling?   ;D  (just kidding)
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Clayton on November 10, 2011, 05:59:43 pm
Those hamburgers look alright Arnold, any chance of getting the recipe?

Cheers
Leeroy
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Jason B on November 10, 2011, 06:38:51 pm
We are just in the final stages of purchasing our house now.  Any chance of you coming to Sydney Arnold and painting my babies room for me?  Looks like you did a wonderful job on your sons room.  I will even supply the BBQ and beers afterwards.  Show you Americans what a real BBQ is.  ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on November 10, 2011, 07:40:06 pm
Leeroy , these Burger's you don't put on Bread/Roll . They are almost like a Meatloaf .

Lean Ground Beef , chopped Mushrooms-Onions-Italian Parsley-dash of Maggie/Hot sauce or both-add one large Roll (soaked in Milk first)-you can add any kind of Pepper to spice it up-Salt and Pepper to taste .. Mix all well and form Patties and Pan Fry til nice and Brown ( no Oil needed ) . Serve with Mashpotatoe/Gravy and a Vegatable .

Jason , I love to come down under ( Qing is always talking about Aussie Land ) .. send Ticket's and I close Shop for a week and Paint anything you want .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on November 10, 2011, 09:21:40 pm
send Ticket's and I close Shop for a week and Paint anything you want .

A German painting  :o  Come on now, we all know Dutch Painters are more famous and better. So Jason send the tickets my way and I promise I will not leave an ear behind.  ::)
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: maxx on November 11, 2011, 12:08:16 am
Jason forget about Arnold and Rhonald.These 2 guys are armatures.I do this kind of work for a living.I can have it painted in a couple of hours.I can even do a custom paint job.If that is what you and your wife want.I can also build whatever you and your wife need.I have built  beds,dressers,tables,bookshelves,entertainment centers,sailboats,cannons,Free standing swings.I could even build you a custom baby bed with drop down sides.With a custom headboard.

While I'm building this for you and your wife.My wife can talk to your wife.And give her some pointers.On being a new mother.Then I can show you how to make authentic southwest food.Burritos tacos enchiladas,Chile reanois,Mexican .All smothered in green Chile.It beats Barbeque anyday of the week.

So just go ahead and send me four tickets.And I will fly down there.with my wife and kids. and help you get it all done.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Martin on November 11, 2011, 03:25:11 am
Jason, please don't pay any attention to the mods. They are all just looking for free tickets to Aus. Except for Maxx, who is on a mission to Mexicanize the entire planet. My suggestion to you is, send me a ticket. While I watch you paint, I will keep an eye on the front door to make sure Arnold, Rhonald or Maxx show up.

Just trying to help.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: shaun on November 11, 2011, 04:59:19 am
Forget all of them Jason.  I can sell you a book on how to paint a baby's room safely all by yourself.  There is even a chapter in the book on how to disable mods and administrators computer.  It is a must buy for every young family.   $79.99 and $20.00 Shipping.


Gee  I had to make a correction.  I need to stop posting 30 minutes after I wake up.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on November 11, 2011, 11:22:57 am
Forget all of them Jason.  I can sell you a book on how to paint a baby safe home all by yourself.  There is even a chapter in the book on how to disable mods and administrators computer.  It is a must buy for every young family.   $79.99 and $20.00 Shipping.

Help Guy's .... for some reason today .... I'm SOOOOOO tempted to play/push that infamous DELETE botton on som......... !
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: shaun on November 11, 2011, 06:42:20 pm
Funny Arnold.  Delete it!  Delete it.   But since Maxx is so good at it maybe he could hire you and the both of you go there to assist.  If Martin were to tag along then we could read about the great dumpling shortage in Australia.  Maybe not.  Maybe dumplings would not taste as good being made with crocodile meat.  ;D
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on November 11, 2011, 06:52:47 pm
Help Guy's .... for some reason today .... I'm SOOOOOO tempted to play/push that infamous DELETE botton on som......... !

I like belonging to da Elite Button Band of Brothers. Makes me feel special  ;D

And this being Veteran's Day, a day to Remember.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Kiwi303 on November 13, 2011, 08:12:56 am
Maybe dumplings would not taste as good being made with crocodile meat.  ;D

I'm sure if the taste is not quite right, something else would substitute. Maybe tree bear?
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David E on November 13, 2011, 04:19:22 pm
Ok.....

Now let's get the record straight here.......

The "Tree Bear" to which your refer Mr Kiwi is likely the Koala ???

First, it is not a Bear, it is a Marsupial, same as a Kangaroo.

Second. Koalas are smelly, bad tempered critters who live exclusively on Gum Tree leaves which gives them massive indigestion, huge gas and makes them smell terrible.

Koala dumplings would probably be the most revolting concotions imaginable.

Crocodile, on the other hand is delicious...tastes a bit fishy, with the texture of good steak.

But the best dumplings of all would probably be made from a mixture of Wichetty grubs and fire ants for a bit of extra zip !!........

Of course, we do have pigs and cattle here, so conventional dumplings could be made if we are so inclined  ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Scottish_Robbie on November 14, 2011, 10:15:35 am


Koala dumplings would probably be the most revolting concotions imaginable.

so my 'haggis' does taste better than something ;D ;D
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: shaun on November 14, 2011, 12:03:12 pm
David didn't say that.  ;D

Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on November 14, 2011, 03:47:45 pm
Yesterday , after the Rain subsided and gave our Sun back .. it was time to try out our new bought Bicycle's . Matching of course , seven speed Beach Cruisers .
So off we went on our first Ride around our Neighborhood for about 5-6 miles to start . I ask Qing if she was Physically Fit for the up-coming Ride ? Loved the look I received asking that of her ! :o 8) I think she most likely thought , are " You " ready ? haha
After a couple of Blocks , there came the first Complain my way ; What's wrong with my Gears ? As she could not keep it in " First " . Oh .. all it needs is a little Adjustment . This is what I thought , is all it needed .. ones we get back Home . She had other things on " Her " mind . We need to take it back .. it's under Warranty .. let them Fix it !!! >:( . I convinced her though to let me handle this Heavy Duty Job and she finally did agree , but under a watchful Eye ! ???
Couple minutes adjusting the Cable all was well and I safed myself a round-trip to Walmart's . Otherwise , they are very nice Bikes ( Schwinn ) .. but made .. where else but in China .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on November 14, 2011, 05:12:11 pm
Green lawns, Sunshine, Warm weather - way to rub it in Arnold as we are at the start of a snowfall here.

Thanks for the update and happy Biking on a bicycle built for 2.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Kiwi303 on November 16, 2011, 11:59:50 pm


The "Tree Bear" to which your refer Mr Kiwi is likely the Koala ???


Well, Actually I was thinking about the Possum. The NSW Brushtailed possum was released here in the late 1800's and gone completely feral, there are more of them in any one NZ forest than the entirety of Aussie.

At one point before widespread poisoning campaigns they were live trapped and sold to the Chinese market as "Tree Bear"

Quite nice tasting, just be VERY careful not to get the white goo from their scent glands on any meat, and make sure the scent glands are cut out without puncturing the surface of the gland! A nice large buffer of meat is best taken out around the gland just to be on the safe side.

A dark, lean, gamy and tasty meat, very rich in the needed Omega fatty acid compounds. Not too dissimilar to venison.

Maybe you should try it next time one claws its way across your roof, making itself at home in the attic under the eaves and munches on your garden, instead of calling the wildlife ranger to carefully coax it out and "relocate" it 15 meters away, where it will promptly head back to your roof space to resume it's interrupted nap
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on November 17, 2011, 10:56:30 pm
Maaaaan .. I could just load up my Truck with Fertilizer and drive it right to the nearest DMV . What Idiots !! >:( >:(

After one month of sending them Copies of Qing's Passport and the "Official" document right from the Immigration Office where we went for the Permanent Green Card . So here they send a Letter back ; The Application was received without PROOF of Legal presence Document . WTF .. more Proof do they want ? Oh .. They also say .. please send an " Acceptable " document that establishes such proof . No explaination what Paper excatly I would satisfy them A***es . Arrrrgh !
Now I have to explain to Qing whats going on and she'll properly think it's my Fault for sending the wrong Doc. Ohhh .. give me Patience  :(
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on November 17, 2011, 11:10:34 pm
Arnold can you call them and ask what they want? I get mail from gov. agencies asking for proof of this and that? I call them direct and ask (WTF is this?) and most times it's just an automatic letter sent? (waste of time and money as far as I see it) but mostly just write on it the answer and send it back. Worked so far.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on November 18, 2011, 11:11:29 am
Arnold can you call them and ask what they want? I get mail from gov. agencies asking for proof of this and that? I call them direct and ask (WTF is this?) and most times it's just an automatic letter sent? (waste of time and money as far as I see it) but mostly just write on it the answer and send it back. Worked so far.

Yes Vince , that is exactly what I'm going to do today . I just weigh if I should be calm or let them have it over the Phone ? Like I have said earlier , Qing thought "I" must of send the wrong Document . haha love her anyway .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on November 18, 2011, 12:39:04 pm
Well that Phone Call started out good . Those darn People that we Pay for  >:( >:( >:( .

I can't talk to "YOU" without talking to your Wife first Sir ! By the the " Time " I get Home your Closed !
quote : This is NOT " My " problem and hangs up on Me . Believe this ? On top of this , they STILL don't have Qing's name right .. unbelievable these People in our Offices . It's like ever Person I speak to about the correct Name .. says YES YES we got it . New Person/Dept. comes into play .. it's back to the wrong Name .

This is going from worse to stupidity here .. but what can I do ?
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on November 18, 2011, 07:38:16 pm
So now , I have talked to my Lawyer and he said this is now a common problem here in America with Foreigner's License's . He also told me , what I had send should have been good enough . He added , to go now with same said Paper into a DMV and they should handle this via PC .. also change Name ones and for all . Sounds easy enough , but I'm not holding my Breath .
I will give them a 70% that QIng get's her Lic. ( in time hell no .. need to have an extension ) and 15% to have her RIGHT name on it . What do these People make an Hour ? Either way , it's way too much !!!
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on November 19, 2011, 09:04:05 am
Well if you remember I had sent for a copy of my file from the state office, in the state capital, from one of the State attorneys. Well I did all that and got the file, it's in my lawyers hands now, but at first I got a letter of the cost, etc. I noticed they spelt my first name wrong "Vicent" left out the "n" I got a little iffy on the file since I sent no other info (SS#,etc). I did receive it and on the envelope and the letter inside was the misspelt name again but the file was correctly named. I can only come to the assumption this person may be Hispanic? There is a variation in the Spanish spelling? Which is a whole other argument.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Willy The Londoner on November 19, 2011, 11:50:04 pm
Americans spelling things wrong - well I never!

 Like Humour, favour, authorise, theatre etc. etc
Lets hope there is more hispanic influence when it becomes the number one language in USA in coming years. ;D

You guys have bastardtised our perfect English language so we know what is coming to you. ;D ;D ;D ;D

Willy



Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on November 20, 2011, 12:28:09 am
¿qué?
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Willy The Londoner on November 20, 2011, 03:58:11 am
¿qué?

Sorry I no speak American!

Willy
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on November 20, 2011, 08:45:32 am
No one (except maybe Maxx) knows about the Hispanic takeover then I. Takeover being the key word. When they know your going to argue with them? the ¿qué? (what?) is used. If you berate them just right? they will answer in english* (*that's what we call it here). I would not worry of the spelling of the english language when they can not speak it either and I don't mean just the Hispanics. 
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Willy The Londoner on November 20, 2011, 09:16:32 am
But was Columbus a spanish speaker or Portuguese. If Spanish then its only fitting you should speak his language. I am sure Maxx will agree.

Willy
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on November 20, 2011, 09:56:23 am
But was Columbus a spanish speaker or Portuguese.

I have an answer to this it was both really, he spoke and wrote in both.

We have a saying here... "your in America, speak it". In a country that has lets say many dialects, it's not easy understanding even ourselves? I have "picked up" different languages myself. Now working on chinese of course.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on November 20, 2011, 03:27:12 pm
Funny , how the Spanish has taken over our Country ( S.Cal. along with half the southern States ) and now English is taking over Germany . That could lead to quite a "Mix" say 50 years from now . I can understand the Spanish part because we Border them , but Germany ? We Border NO English speaking Country . Are the English leaving their Island and moving Inland ?
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on November 20, 2011, 03:36:57 pm
Well Arnold, England and Germany has had very close "relations" for centuries. The English royals aren't all brit blood. Here's a hint: Prince Albert.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Willy The Londoner on November 20, 2011, 09:44:02 pm


Well Arnold, England and Germany has had very close "relations" for centuries. The English royals aren't all brit blood. Here's a hint: Prince Albert.

This little Island gave the world many things.  The Language, Television, Internet, Electricity, the Wheel and if we go back far enough then probably life itself.

So I think we have done enough as the rest of the world has taken this ideas and slowly ruined the initial concept. 

The language has been eroded, Television - just look at some of the crap they call entertainment, the internet well what would we do without facebook, twitter etc.

Willy

Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on November 21, 2011, 12:16:54 am
Willy, This ones to easy. I'm not even going to debate it.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David E on November 21, 2011, 03:07:46 am
Sorry Willy...

Life originated in Africa..........us Whities are a mutation of the original "dark" proto-humans

Just a thought....your Great X 10,000 Grandma was an African......they have traced the European Mitochondrial gene (only passed through the female line and does not degrade with age) right back to the "so-called" Eve....about 2.3 million years.....

Sorry to be boring, but I thought you would like to know this... ;D ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Willy The Londoner on November 21, 2011, 03:23:45 am
Was we not all joined together then was there just one bit of land then bits feel off. 

Otherwise how is it we all come with the same basic moving parts?

Maybe that Noah has the answer.  He was said to be of 'Dark Skin'.

Willy

Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David E on November 21, 2011, 04:19:02 pm
Yep Willy, you are right. Originally there was one great lump of land...Gondwanaland, and this split up into lots of bits through Plate Tectonics (Continental drift). But that was about 3 Billion years ago, when life was just getting going and we we were all basically bits of pond slime.

Come to think of it, for some parts of the modern population, nothing much has changed.... ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on November 21, 2011, 04:53:53 pm

Come to think of it, for some parts of the modern population, nothing much has changed.... ;D ;D ;D

 ;D  ;D  ;D  isn't that the Truth !
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on November 21, 2011, 05:00:04 pm
Life originated in Africa..........us Whities are a mutation of the original "dark" proto-humans

Be carefull with assumptions David. Although you are right in us becoming white as a mutation (probably due to decreased sunlight), also blue eyes, yet you can not assume that what remained in Africa did not also change. We do not know how we originally looked when we first ventured out of Africa and how much the gene pool has changed with those that remained.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on November 21, 2011, 05:03:49 pm
And Arnold say happy 2 year anniversary to your own venturer  ;D
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on November 21, 2011, 05:11:47 pm
And Arnold say happy 2 year anniversary to your own venturer  ;D

Thanks for reminding me .. didn't even think of it as of now . As a Gift to my better three quarter , I'm going in late to work tomorrow .. to go with Her to the DMV for her license .  :D
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David E on November 22, 2011, 12:57:23 am
Be carefull with assumptions David. Although you are right in us becoming white as a mutation (probably due to decreased sunlight), also blue eyes, yet you can not assume that what remained in Africa did not also change. We do not know how we originally looked when we first ventured out of Africa and how much the gene pool has changed with those that remained.

Ron, I dont pretend to be any sort of an expert in this matter, but I find the whole subject to be immensely interesting.

My comments stem from an article recently read, about the tracking of the Mitochondrial gene way back to the "first" human. Apparently, this specific gene is only pased by the female to the female, is very robust and does not seem to undergo the level of change exhibited over time as the rest of the human genome. Thus it is postulated, supported by hard genetic evidence that the "proto-human" came out of Africa, because the Mitochondrial gene is so typical of African populations throughout the whole world, Thus  these scientists are convinced that it verifies the beginning of humanity in Africa, and the similarity of the gene suggestes that they were typical African in appearance......but then again....its only a theory  ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on November 22, 2011, 08:41:54 am

Ron, I dont pretend to be any sort of an expert in this matter, but I find the whole subject to be immensely interesting.


Yes immensely interesting and curiosity does indeed lead to more knowledge. I momentarily changed my major (failed attempt at University) to Anthropology due to a Fedora clad, Hoolywoodised whipper snapper. Once I realised my chances in a financially satisfying career was limited I changed my Major to a General accounting career.

But back to your remark, I just wanted to caution as most people do assume the current state is/was what was there beforehand, not just in anthropology but in many disciplines.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Jason B on November 22, 2011, 05:55:35 pm
Also no expert, but I remember watching a show a while ago and they found a skull/partial skull of an ancient humanoid.  When they did one of those facial reconstruction things it showed that the face had all three main people traits. ie. Africanus, European and Asiatic.  They believed that this early humanoid may have been the precurser to all the races of human now, and as the people migrated and stopped in various parts of the world they evolved to just have one of these charactaristics.  Interesting stuff.  The skull was found in Africa.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David E on November 22, 2011, 06:22:44 pm
Yes immensely interesting and curiosity does indeed lead to more knowledge. I momentarily changed my major (failed attempt at University) to Anthropology due to a Fedora clad, Hoolywoodised whipper snapper. Once I realised my chances in a financially satisfying career was limited I changed my Major to a General accounting career.


Therefore you are "The Very Model of a Modern Major General...."  ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on November 24, 2011, 06:12:47 pm
We all know about Government Worker's and what Speed is concerned . Well , Macy's Employee's are not that far behind .
Bought my LaoPo a nice/lovely Mink Jacket , she was to wear today to the Turkey Dinner at our Friends House . Getting ready and putting her Clothes out , she notices ... guess what ? The security Tack ( or what you call it ) is still on the Jacket . Haha .. all the Mall is closed of course til Midnight . So the only Store I found Open is Wal-Mart , call them and explain the situation to the Lady on the Line .. Oh Sir , we can't do that ! I have the Receipt though ! After trying to make her say yes .. she just jump on me and told me .. "Our" Tack's are different . Oh yeah , the looked the same , the last time I looked .
So now what ? heck , I'm a Mechanic with tools at Home . Vise-Grip , Channel-Locks, Cutter's , Hacksaw .. I think I'm covered to open that little Plastic thing in our way . With one hundred Caution's coming my way form Qing , I had that thing in a 100 pieces . Never had a chance ! 
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Willy The Londoner on November 24, 2011, 08:48:05 pm
Mink jacket eh. Lucky your not in the UK. First time wearing it someone would through red paint over it and her.  Even fake mink can get the same so if you ever travel to UK then leave the jacket in your closet.

Quite a anti fur lobby there.

The activist are always on the look out for suitable victims to publicise their cause.

Willy


Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on November 25, 2011, 01:58:44 pm
I hear you Willy !

To mention yesterday's Turkey Dinner , I must say .. we both had a blast into the past and future . Many Shanghainese Lady's with Husbands ( some western ) nieces/nephews . So actually I did have a few "I" could actually talk to . Loved to use my little Shanghainese/Mandarin on them wherever approciate . Of course this made them all laugh , which is as you all know a "good" sign . Say it right .. they laugh , say it wrong .. they give you "the" look .. what in the world is he trying to say ? Well , I did get mostly Laughs though .. which made Qing proud and you could see it on her Face . A little Study does go a long way here and well worth it , not only in China .

I am disappointed though on one count and don't hate me for it , I forgot my Camera at Home  :(  .. as we were in a rush to get there on time . That itself is funny , we're only ten minutes from their House . The other thing strange , I made a "Cactus Salad " ( one of my specialties ) ala Mexicano .. boy did they love it . They even took some Home with them , where I really would have liked to have some left for us later .

Oh .. Qing also came to me and told me , these Women know ALL the best Chinese Restaurants .. with a look .. like I should have known them too . Then , I found out .. there are all 70 miles away in Monterey Park ( east of LA ) . Yeah , I go there all the time .. I thought to myself ? I did take her there ones and we had a great Time and Dinner ( Mama's Dumpling House ) , but no mention of that one . MAybe that wasn't good enough for those "Real " critic's .

Add some Ranchero Cheese and my own Dressing  wolah .
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Post by: Martin on November 25, 2011, 05:59:26 pm
Cactus Salad, and Maxx the Mexican didn't show up?  Ole!
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Post by: maxx on November 25, 2011, 06:42:03 pm
Hey I go for the real deal.I wouldn't know what cactus salad was.It sounds like something a German made up.With the help of a Jinadian.And they tride to pass it off as real Mexican food.
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Post by: Pineau on December 12, 2011, 01:46:43 pm
So that is what that is. I remember once the ex gave me something like that and said "eat this" I said no thanks looks like some else already ate it.

Just joking. but she got so tickled she couldn't breath and her mon and dad were grinning and trying to figure out what I had said to make her laugh so hard.  I guess you had to be there....

I would like the recipie.
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Post by: Arnold on December 12, 2011, 02:29:56 pm
I guess I will give out my Recipe for this Salad .

2 jars of Nobales ( Cactus )
1 lg Red Onion
1 lg Wala Wala ( sweet ) Onion
8 lg Tomatoes
5 Jalapino Chilies
3-5 Sereno Chilies
1 bushel Cilatro
3 lg Limes
Salt & Pepper
1 pkg Ranchero Fresco Cheese ( Mex. )
5 oz Red Wine Vinegar
5 oz Olive Oil
2 tbs Sesame Seeds ( Black )


Take out Cactus and clean/rinse very well , put on cutting board and cut into 1-11/2 inch pieces .. put in large Bowl .
Cut both Onions into simular size and add to Bowl
Cut Sereno's into tiny pieces ( as not to make it too hot ) squares .. add to Bowl
Toast Jalapino's , take the Skin off and slice into one inch strips .. add to Bowl
Clean and cut/chop Cilatro ( not too fine ) .. add
Take Limes 3-4 depending on size and squeeze Juice out .. add
Cut Tomatoes into half inch squares .. add
Salt and Pepper to taste
Mix well and put in Fridge over-night ( will taste better the next day )

Now to make the Dressing :

Take Vinegar and Oil , Salt and Pepper , black Sesame Seeds and mix in Blender well ( can add some Lemon Juice ) .. put in Fridge
Take the Cheese and crumble it into 1/4 inch size pieces .. put in a seperate Bowl ( for later ) and into the Fridge

Upon serving , add Dressing ( to taste ) and top off with the Cheese

Looks great and taste even better .. you have my word on it ! Even if you never had Cactus before , this will win you over .
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Post by: Arnold on December 13, 2011, 11:40:56 pm
Is this going too far ?

Qing had told me a couple of days ago , that we need to get a Christmas Card for our Chinese Lady friend and her Husband .
While Qing is at work today , I decided to go to the Mall for last minute Gift buying . On the way home , I remembered about the special Card she wanted . as the Boxed ones were NOT good enough . I stoped at RideAid's to look for something nice from the both of us . After reading at least about twenty or so ( I alway's do , I'm picky ) , I settled for one and went Home . Qing hasn't gotten off work yet , so as I start putting things away .. I notice a Christmas Card on our Dining Room table . Quess what ? Yes .. how in the world could this be ? Exact same Card ! Even if she went to the same Store , there were hundreds of X-mas Card .. amazing ?
I know if you live together for years I can expect that we are on ONE wavelenght , but after only TWO ?

I must have found the "RIGHT ONE " ! :)
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Post by: Vince G on December 13, 2011, 11:47:01 pm
I find that fascinating and strange at the same time?
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Post by: Arnold on January 02, 2012, 09:39:37 pm
Happy New Year to all !!!

This day was the first chance we had this weekend to load up our new bicycle's and really go for a nice ride . We drove to Balboa Park , where I played many Soccer Games some year's back .. to get on them and cruise for a couple hours around the Lake / Golf course / Soccer fields . Funny , this reminded both Qing and myself of Hangzhou .. West Lake to be exact . As we had rented Bikes there and rode them all around the lake there . Of course this here is not even close by comparison the two . I have yet to see any Public Park as beautiful as in China .
Anyway , here are a few Photo's from today's excursion .
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Post by: kenny on January 03, 2012, 05:39:06 pm
New Years, riding a bike in a t-shirt!

What it must be like living in California?

Always nice to see your photo's
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Post by: Arnold on January 03, 2012, 07:29:54 pm
New Years, riding a bike in a t-shirt!

What it must be like living in California?

Always nice to see your photo's

Kenny , can I whisper to you .. that it was about 85 degrees out there ? Crazy weather indeed !
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Post by: Arnold on January 27, 2012, 05:34:10 pm
This Post is NOT about Qing, nore is it about myself. It really amazing what the PC has done for me overall. What happened just a few days ago, is even more unexpected. We all know about Facebook, many our Members have met there for the first time. Anyway, to get to the point. After fifty+ years, I have last week seen my one and only "Real" brother on Facebook. Needless to say, we are now communicateing via that Site. The last time I saw him, I was about two(2) yrs. old. WOW :o
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Post by: David E on January 27, 2012, 06:09:55 pm
THAT"S not hot...THIS is hot !!!!!

Taken yesterday at 3.30 pm

Hot enough to fry an egg on the road (if you are so inclined !!!)

Dare not go outside...instant heatstroke....Ming cannot believe such heat. We have another week of this......thank goodnress for airconditioning, even though it struggles to cope in this heat.

For those of you who dont use Celsius temps...the numbers in degrees F are....117 and 85 !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Post by: Arnold on January 27, 2012, 06:39:28 pm
Don't worry David, "HEAT" rises .. so it will come to "US" soon! ???
Last year here in Palmdale, we had three weeks straight temp's of 110F-115F during the day. Thats one reason for all those Fires we have. Community Bar-B-Q  :-\

Mike, there are many good things with this Computer Age, but also the opposite sometimes.
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Post by: Vince G on January 27, 2012, 07:52:23 pm
Same here Arnold. Coming across many I haven't seen or talked to since school days. Including my ex... the first ex that I haven't talked or seen in more then 30 years.
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Post by: shaun on January 27, 2012, 09:28:29 pm
Since Vince said ex I'll change directions a bit.  I am suffering from ex overdose the last couple of days.  My oldest child has been in the hospital and had major surgery.  The ex was there of course.  And of course I behaved myself.

Arnold it is great to communicate like that.  I know your happy communicating with him.
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Post by: Arnold on January 28, 2012, 03:29:54 pm
Boy, this brother thing could end as quick as it started. My Mom tells me, that "He" is married to a VERY Jealous Wife (37yrs.) that is even jealous of our Mother, if he talks to her.
Anyway, he posted a Photo on Facebook along a Letter with much feelings/hurt from the past and here I wanted to show Qing his (my real Brother's) Photo .. it was gone? I know "She" has something to do with it. Again, there is a Wall placed between us for some reason unknown. I wrote him back and told him, I'd like some Photo's of from him(sounds like Chnlove times.. I need a Photo)haha . If "She" is placing herself between us, I don't see it going anywhere! We'll see....
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Post by: Vince G on January 28, 2012, 10:48:33 pm
Arnold, learn to pull a copy off the page of a photo you want. As you know now they can disappear quickly.
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Post by: Arnold on January 28, 2012, 11:08:10 pm
Arnold, learn to pull a copy off the page of a photo you want. As you know now they can disappear quickly.

Yes , I will learn that! He said that he does not like to put any Family info/photos on the internet. I thought only friends/family can see them on Facebook. Anyway, as open as I am and he is the opposite might throw a stone in our communications. I do not like secretive People or ones that are too cautious about everything, family included.
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Post by: Arnold on February 01, 2012, 10:55:33 pm
I can't believe ?

In today's Mail, a Letter from the DMV. So feel for something like a Card, low and behold.. there really is a Card inside. After opening, yes.. there it is finally! Qing's 'New" Driver's License, good til end of 2014. They really must of felt sorry for us the last time! Not only giving us an "Unlikely" second 60 day extention, but lay'd tracks for the new one as well.
Qing will be so surprised when I show it to her tonight after work.
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Post by: Vince G on February 01, 2012, 11:20:44 pm
well finally something got done at the DMV.
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Post by: Arnold on February 01, 2012, 11:38:50 pm
well finally something got done at the DMV.

Yes.. now I can concentrate on her Perm.GreenCard. Have an Appointment and all the Proof they are asking again to send, only this time I will bring it in Person to "Them".
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Post by: Jason B on February 02, 2012, 03:07:44 am
good stuff buddy, good luck with the green card.

this is the next thing on our list after the baby is born, for Xia to get her licence.  fortuantly she has never learnt to drive before so there will not be any bad Chinese driving habits :)
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Post by: Arnold on February 10, 2012, 11:47:07 pm
fortuantly she has never learnt to drive before so there will not be any bad Chinese driving habits :)

Jason, that is a very good thing!

I'm sure "You" will be the best Teacher for her, as she will not be as nervous .. as with a Stranger. Then again, some Places/States/Countries require you to go to an Driving School for a License.. which is not the case in Calif. Funny thing is, when People ask her.. what Driving School she went to.. she tells them " The Arnold's Driving School"! :) 8)
Make sure you take it at Xia's speed.
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Post by: David E on February 10, 2012, 11:58:40 pm
Take my advice Jase....put her in the hands of a good driving school....we found one with Chinese speaking instructors. I tried to teach Ming to drive...too stressful, too many arguements !!!!!...it was not worth the angst ...and she passed first try  ;D ;D

Cheers...David
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Post by: Arnold on March 16, 2012, 11:30:57 am
Yesterday, a funny thing happened on the way to the Foru... I mean to the Mailbox.

I picked up my Mail as usual, on top I find a Letter from the USCIS. I first felt it, to see if Qing's new Green Card is in there. NO.. only paper and now opening it get's me worried. What will it say? Slowly I unfold it and the first thing I see.. is "Congratulation" on top. That put a smile on my Face, which in turn made my LaoPo almost jump for Joy. Reading further, it said.. you should receive your new Permanent Card within 60 days.

Yahoooo.. ;D

Thats not all though, after going through the rest of the Mail.. I see a big square Envelope! Also from the USCIS, now feeling this one up.. I could definitely feel a Card inside. Leave it up to our Gov., to speed things up.. where 60 days seem only like "Seconds". haha
I am so glad this hurdle is over, Card good for 10 years! Qing, comes over to me.. Thank you.. Thank you.. kiss kiss. Well, I kind of feel guilty.. taking all the Credit and Comp's.. when the Fed's made it final.
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Post by: Clayton on March 16, 2012, 06:10:38 pm
Congratulations Arnold, now you and Qing can relax and settle into your future together.

I wish you both many years of happiness.

Cheers
Leeroy
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Post by: Vince G on March 16, 2012, 07:08:47 pm
Very Good, Congrats!

No more being bothered by them for a long time... Hopefully.
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Post by: shaun on March 16, 2012, 07:11:41 pm
Congratulations.  Another biggie overcome.
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Post by: RobertBfrom aust on March 16, 2012, 09:52:06 pm
Congratulations Arnold to you and Qing now you can start to relax and do not forget to buy her that exotic VW , named Porche ha ha , regards Sujuan and Robert .
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Post by: Arnold on March 16, 2012, 11:57:04 pm
Thanks Guy's! It is a good feeling to have that behind you. I think the same goes for Qing.
Robert, Porsche? She wants one of those Electric Bicycles, so it a hard choice for me? ???
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Post by: David E on March 17, 2012, 12:54:09 am
I think one of the new electric Porches would be just about perfect...only $300,000...go for it  !!! ;D
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Post by: maxx on March 17, 2012, 11:20:01 am
congradulations Arnold .
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Post by: Arnold on April 17, 2012, 06:50:20 pm
Well here is something, I did not want to write/mention in my Blog. Did not want to embarrass my LaoPo "TOO" publicly with this mishap that happened last Sunday.
As the weather was really nice and Sunny that Sunday morning, we were talking and decided to rather go Bicycle ridding instead of playing Tennis. This I thought would give us more exercise in the long run. All was fine, loading up the Bikes for a 15 minute ride to Palmdale Lake and dop off the Car and start on a very nice Trail for Bikes and Running. As it was Sunny and warm (as mentioned before), we both were wearing our Hat's. Well, Qing's Hat was to be the reason.. just ten minutes into the ride.. when something went very wrong in front of me. We were going somewhat downhill and gaining speed. I was about a bike length behind her on the right side and she on the left of the Trail. When suddenly (due to the speed)Qing's Hat came loose and started to fly off her head. As you might all know, when reflexes kick in with NO time to react.. one try's to reach/catch the now airborne object (Hat) and NOT think your still on a Bike with speed going down a hill. At that same moment, my Heart just about stopped.. as I saw Qing loose control of her Bike and she became Airborn and over the Bike she flew onto the Pavement and the Bike on top of her. I came to a stop about ten/twenty feet in front of my Sweetheart laying ( in total shock ), due to my speed. Now I think back, how lucky Qing and I were.. that we were in differnt lanes at that time.. or I would have run her over with my Bike too.
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Post by: Arnold on April 17, 2012, 07:16:54 pm
sorry, have to continue here.. it would not let me write more into that Post for some reason?

Anyway, I rushed over to see if she was seriously hurt and expecting the worst.. but of course wishing she wasn't hurt or in pain too much .. considering the fall I had to witness. She was sitting upright and I could see some blood coming from her elbow area, also from her hand. By the looks, she landed on her right side only.. as you could see burn marks on Hip/Hand/lower Arm/Elbow and a scatch mark on her shoulder ( which tore her shirt she was wearing ). I checked/asked if anything was broken? She was very lucky indeed, thatshe didn't get mixed up with the Bike and then fall, as this is a sure way to break an Arm or Leg at the speed (25mph my guess). After the shock wore off somewhat, I helped her stand up to see.. if really all the limps were okay. Knowing that it could have been much worse and counting our Blessing, that it only came to scrapes ( which were not bleeding anymore ). Back to the Car and home to take care of her wounds. Clean, disinfect,wrap up her wounds.. and we look into each other's Eyes..  gave each other a big warm hug. Now, all she said was and I quote " I'm sooo dumb "!! This had of course nothing to do with being dumb/smart, reflexes are what they are.. just that. When one has NO time to think/adjust/react, this is what happens.. Accident. I know, one can learn from that, but.... what will we do when that situation comes up again? Most likely... the same thing over !

She is doing fine now and I also slept much better than Sunday night.. as this scene Ran through my Head all night and most of the following Monday at work.
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Post by: Rhonald on April 17, 2012, 11:34:24 pm
Goes to show that the hardest part of riding a bike is the ground. I am glad nothing more serious happened Arnold as I can only imagine the panic that engulfed the two of you at that moment
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Post by: john1964 on April 18, 2012, 04:43:57 am
Arnold, It is good to hear your lao po did not suffer too much in the way of injuries, It could have been a lot worse, I too can imagine your panic when seeing Qing having an accident, I felt helpless when MinYing broke her wrist in Handan and I could not be there to help her, John .
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Post by: Scottish_Robbie on April 22, 2012, 07:00:42 am
congrats to you both ;D
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Post by: Arnold on May 09, 2012, 04:37:05 pm
 ::) hahaha.. an insight for those planning on a visiting Trip to China. For the ones that can't get to my Blog.

Been to China? You'll know about this....

I am sure, anybody that is going to China.. may it be visiting Girlfriend/Fiance' or Wife.. knows what I'm about to write about.

Whenever going back for whatever reason, one must take care of the Gift/Present part for the Family/Friends whomever you'll be seeing/meeting. This starts as soon as you have a chance to "Open" that one or two Suitcase's. It actually is expected especially coming from the west, as they all are looking forward to items not found in and around China.. or are not at all available anywhere. If they do have it, it is usually of lower/less quality. You know.. like in "Copies"!

Having a total weight limit of 46kg (50 US lbs.each suitcase), this has turned into quite a challenge. With a question asked of my Sweetheart.. " Do you.. are you taking any "Clothes"? This might seem funny, but it is what I had to deal with packing my LaoPo's two Suitcases. Item's in.. no not here and out again, this I must have done...well? Over and over and over, til it was filled and ready to carry over to the Scale. First the large one: Let's see.. three bottles of Wine/ six large Fish Oil containers/ Candy, enough to open a Store/ Gum ( well finally something light)/ dried Fruit/ Vitamine Bottles for Adult&Children/ did I mention Candy already? Of course, of all things, we can not forget "Nut's"! No... I don't mean myself by that! If this needs to be re-arranged or it's too heavy, I just might just have a "Nut" case on my hand. Over to the waiting Scale it goes, slowly lowering (while praying) we await the numbers to finally hit my Eyes with the speed of light... 50.6 lbs.(a little over 23kg). Looking at Qing, it was like.. ohhh? There is still room for a "Little" more, after all she thinks that.. that is okay with the Airline.

Haha.. I of course was celebrating a little too soon here. While Qing was now talking to her brother, the news came.. we need to buy some Baby Formular's for Cousin's new born Baby Girl. Great.. Wonderbar.. Ausgezeichnet! This has to go into the smaller one though.. I did not want to move anything out of the large. Unless, my Life will be in any kind of danger by NOT doing it.

On to the second stuffing and it's not even Thanksgiving yet.

Now this one actually get's some Clothes, believe it or not. There were still large Jars of mixed Nuts ( from Costco mind you ) more Chocolate/ dried Milk which is much better than the Chinese Brands and now to the heavy part for this poor Suitcase. Seven large Hand/Body Lotion's and all kinds of Make-up items that must of taken over two hours at Walmart's to buy. I'm such a patient Person.. really! Oh my... just lifting those Items which I put into a nice fitting Box for safety reasons. What will this weigh... I ask myself again?

Oh oh.. this one ( the small one haha ) was 56.8 lbs.! Incredible, I sure do excellent packing! So, now what? Open it up again and I remove the two large Containers of mixed Nut's and bags of Candy.. that equals a nice 6 lbs. even. Those will have to go on the Carry-on Bag (not the candy). But, those need now to be replaced with the Baby Formular of the same size.. a little lighter though.
I hope!!!!

See, I almost don't even have time to think about my Sweetheart leaving on Saturday. I don't know, if this is good or bad... just yet?
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Post by: Jason B on May 09, 2012, 11:21:53 pm
I know all about the baby formula thing.  Whenever Xia has a friend going to China she will get them to take a couple of tins for her brother's baby with them.  Around 2kg all up.  When her mum came here she had 2 bags.  One with clothes the other empty inside the other one to take stuff back with her,  besides all the room left over as she brought a lot of Chinese baby clothes with her for Laura.

I hope Qing has  a great trip back to China.  She will need a porter to cart those bags around with her.
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Post by: Arnold on May 13, 2012, 02:43:28 pm
Thanks Jason!

After dropping Qing off on Friday night, it was hard for me to go to sleep. I was up til about 2:30am just checking her flight on the LIVE flight tracker. Ones she arrived in Seoul, she send me an E-mail that worked wonders on me. Funny, how this reminds you of the Chnlove E-mailling days, but it calmed me just the same.
I checked up on her second flight to Pudong and then.. I was awaiting a Cell phone call from her Parents home, like mentioned she would do. Tired as I was, I could not stay awake long enough to wait for the call coming. I placed my Phone by me Alarm clock and it woke me about 1/4 to 11pm and half asleep I answered. Hearing my LaoPo's voice again was no different from any other ones before we had met in Person. The calming effect it has is undisscribeable to say the least. It was like (after ending the call) taking a sleeping pill, I finally got my 8 hours of rest.. that I so much needed.
She is so happy to see her Son/Family of course, but what is the first thing she ask's me? What would you like me to bring back for you.. my Qin ai de Lao Gong? No wonder, some of us married here.. are just feeling.. how can we ever love them back as much?
So, I guess now I'm over that initial shock from her leaving.. but it brings on the count-down of days ones more. 9 days to go....
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Post by: chen yan on May 22, 2012, 05:03:02 am
When I saw a men accompany his gf/wife in the supermarket or stores ,I always think "god, this man is so patient ,how lucky these girls are !"
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Post by: Arnold on May 22, 2012, 05:17:17 am
Here I am again, 2:30 in the morning.. checking on my Sweetheart's Flight from Pudong to Incheon.. which is "Enroute" right now. I don't know if I get any sleep tonight? Most likely going to check her Flight from there to Los Angeles as well. Maybe I should go to the Airport already, 13 hours early. No better not, People will think I'm crazy.. haha.. maybe I am?
Anyone can follow her Flight on Facebook. :P

http://flightaware.com/life/flight/AAR366 (http://flightaware.com/life/flight/AAR366)  Asiana Airlines #366

http://flightaware.com/life/flight/AAR204 (http://flightaware.com/life/flight/AAR204)  Asiana Airlines #204
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Post by: RobertBfrom aust on May 22, 2012, 08:32:11 am
Well Arnold they have taken off so now you can rest so you are not late tomorrow [ our time ] , regards Robert .
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Post by: Pineau on May 22, 2012, 09:08:03 am
Yes you are crazy. Aint it great?  Great story.
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Post by: Arnold on May 23, 2012, 03:33:50 pm
So it turns out, I am crazy! If my LaoPo says that.. it must be true :-[ .

Anyway, I did arrive at the Airport 3 1/2 hours early.. just in case Security checks me out because of my funny look :-\ . I wanted some sitting time with some Coffee and just People watch and go back on top of the Building to see my LaoPo's plane come in for a landing. Even nowadays, I am still amazed how these hudge things get off the ground and come in at those seeemingly low speeds.. not to fall from the sky. I guess coming in at 200 mph looks slower the bigger the plane is and here in LA they fly very low right over the San Diego Frwy(405) where you can see if it's a Man or Woman driving as you go over them.
So, it happens the Plane was right on time to the minute and I got a shot with my Cell.. will see if I can load that to my PC.
Now the waiting began standing at the reception hall, I also knew I was in for a long wait. LAX's Tom Bradley Building is so old ( under re-construction though ) I think 80% or so coming from overseas go through customs here. After almost 2 hours she finally came around the corner with a big smile as she spotted me. Man, this was almost like the China Trips times.. we hugged and kissed like there was no time later.
Haha.. People here also 'Stare" which the Chinese do so well.

Next time, we all go.. no more of this "you go" and I stay here. I had enough... waiting !!!!
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Post by: Martin on May 23, 2012, 03:44:14 pm
Must have been a long two hours Arnold.  I am happy to hear that you are once again reunited with Mrs Arnold.
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Post by: Arnold on May 23, 2012, 04:58:56 pm
Ohhh.. yes it was! After an hours or so, I told the Lady next to me (also waiting).. "I'll wait 5 more minutes".. then I will go home. Waite a minute, I'm waiting for my Wife.. so I can't do that! haha  she thought that was funny.
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Post by: David E on May 23, 2012, 07:04:12 pm
Arnold...you ar a big softie  ;D ;D ;D...(and its wonderful)

Glad to see you are re-united again.

I am in a quandry at the moment...Ming has been invited by the local Chung Wah School (where she teaches Chinese to English speaking Chinese Children ) to a 4 week training course in Beijing !!!

This course is highly regarded and is sponsored (and ALL paid for by the Chinese Government) and so for her own development and satisfaction, I KNOW she must go and do it.

How I will handle 4weeks + without her, I am not sure....I wont have time to organise a replacement from CHNLove (haha)....so I guess I will be a bachelor again for a while... :'( :'(
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Post by: Willy The Londoner on May 24, 2012, 01:46:40 am
Arnold...you ar a big softie  ;D ;D ;D...(and its wonderful)

Glad to see you are re-united again.

I am in a quandry at the moment...Ming has been invited by the local Chung Wah School (where she teaches Chinese to English speaking Chinese Children ) to a 4 week training course in Beijing !!!

This course is highly regarded and is sponsored (and ALL paid for by the Chinese Government) and so for her own development and satisfaction, I KNOW she must go and do it.

How I will handle 4weeks + without her, I am not sure....I wont have time to organise a replacement from CHNLove (haha)....so I guess I will be a bachelor again for a while... :'( :'(

Why put yourself through such misery David?  Why not just go with her for a month?  I am sure your business can survive without you for that time.   

Willy
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Post by: Arnold on May 24, 2012, 11:24:31 am
Wow David.. four weeks? I know that 10 days were hard (because we are sooooo spoiled by now), four weeks would (like Willy said) .. make me think of finding a way going too. I can't remember, have you ever been to Beijing.. if not .. it would be quite worth it for you too sightseeing wise.
Then again, four weeks away from Business must be prepared for I'm sure. Anyway, Ming of course should go and take adventage of this opportunity.. especially if someone else pays for it  ;D .
Start hugging your Pillow at night to sleep, it's the closes thing holding your LaoPo  :P ::) .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on May 24, 2012, 04:26:07 pm
Here are a couple of Photo's from Qing's Trip to Shanghai/Guangzhou. One can clearly see, she was day-dreaming about me most of the time there.
The last Photo is where we had the Wedding Party at Yu Yuan Garden
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David E on May 24, 2012, 05:49:43 pm
Arnold...

You did not tell us that your LP had 4 children (photo 4)  ;D ;D

Yes, we discussed whether or not I should go to Beijing with her.

I have been to Beijing before, so it would not be the sightseeing that prompts me to go...but I would dread 4 weeks in that horrible polluted air.

At the same time, Ming's course is very intensive, 7.30 am to 4.30 pm 6 days and there would likely be evening functions she would have to attend. So for me it would be sitting around doing bugger all for 6 days (and nights !!) and be together with Ming on Sundays, when I am sure that Sunday she would need to rest and sleep and not worry about rushing all over Beijing with me.

So, on balance we decided that I will not go, it is not my Business that keeps me here, but there does not seem much purpose in going to Beijing under the circumstances.

Better that we just get through the 4 weeks and when she gets home we can go somewhere nice for a holiday......she wants to go to the Maldives...because I keep on about how wonderful it is and I keep showing her all the photos and videos (can you tell I want to go back there too !!!!)
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on May 24, 2012, 06:24:38 pm
Arnold...

You did not tell us that your LP had 4 children (photo 4)   

Hahaha... no no ! Thats her best Friend and her two Kids (wonderful kids I must say) she's married to a Japanese. Qing and her are real KTV buddies and so are the kids all three of them.

Your right about not going, no sense in it.. it will most likely just be like you said. BAck to the Pillow, just find the right size and it will do quite well in an Emergency like this.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Willy The Londoner on May 24, 2012, 07:42:26 pm
Arnold...

Yes, we discussed whether or not I should go to Beijing with her.

I have been to Beijing before, so it would not be the sightseeing that prompts me to go...but I would dread 4 weeks in that horrible polluted air.

At the same time, Ming's course is very intensive, 7.30 am to 4.30 pm 6 days and there would likely be evening functions she would have to attend. So for me it would be sitting around doing bugger all for 6 days (and nights !!) and be together with Ming on Sundays, when I am sure that Sunday she would need to rest and sleep and not worry about rushing all over Beijing with me.


C'mon David, own up - which Cricket matches in Perth match the dates Ming is away. ;D

Willy
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David E on May 25, 2012, 02:42:45 am
Thanks for that Willy.......

I will never speak to you again.....

THAT was MY little secret ..........................( Add 10 smilies here, because they've gone missing from my reply page )
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on July 06, 2012, 03:25:24 pm
Taught Qings Son how to ride a Bicycle and let me tell you that took only two days. Of course riding in Street is still not on the list of going to places. The Beach will be a test for him... will he or will he not? Run over anybody or something?
Here are a couple of Pict's of 4th July outing...

Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on August 07, 2012, 05:59:06 pm
 :) Tomorrow is our Fourth Anniversary of the Wedding Ceremony in Shanghai. As always, this brings Mind and Pen together to make it somewhat special.. which oc ourse it is  :) :-* .

Here is the outcome...

Time moves on...!

Four (4) years have passed
on a Journey made together
knowing from the start
and without a doubt
this Love will definitely last
only to be found much better.

On our way for a lot more
showing patience and good will
into time plus the future
always loving my Sweetheart
from the top of her skin
to the deepest part of her core.

***Happy Fourth Anniversary***

***Your LaoGong***
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: john1964 on August 08, 2012, 03:34:50 am
Happy anniversary and we hope many more to follow, MinYing and John. 
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on August 08, 2012, 12:52:32 pm
We both thank you John&MinYing!

One cherish's every moment and time still flies by us? As life is short, we seek the best.. we find the best.. we now make the best.. of what we have! Otherwise.. your a "Fool" and will always be one.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on November 16, 2012, 05:46:12 pm
... a short update on our little Emperor in the Household.

Since Qing's Son (Tianchi) came here to live with us in June this year, we had quite some down right exciting moments. Of course he tried to make Mama his personal Servant, but this hit a wall with both of us right away. Seeing he only gets treated like any other 11 yr. old, he had no choice but to submit to the King&Queen. Now after that was off his list, he started to show harsh signs of non-respect for his Mama. That again landed him on the "Hotseat" with me not far from sending him back home to his Dad. I called him after a Dinner to come back for a serious talk among us three. I told Qing to translate exactly what I had to say to him, how here in America... we treat each-other equally with respect and meant equally! If I ever hear you not listening or yelling at your Mom, you will have to deal with me. This has work wonderful so far, I must say. 15 minutes sitting at the table with a serious look on my Face, has somehow changed him and his way of thinking... that he is an Adult here. He now is behaving like a 11 yr. old and is loved by both of us as such in return.
Now to the School part of things; after 4+ month of Classes (5th) he has received his first Report Card. Qing and I were shocked! A couple "B's"- one "C" and an "A+" in Reading? Of course we thought of this being a printing error or that belongs to another Kid. Wrong! Qing, at a Teachers meeting... found out that he actually is doing very well in reading English (which he has never shown at home, from Books we got from a Library), but also getting along with other Kids very well. They do take him out of Class each day for one Hour for special ESL lessons on a Computer, seems to help a lot. On top of that, we hired a Private Tutor for Sundays with three hour lessons. He is now improving so much, we need to watch what we say in the house... he'll know if we talk about him even not using his name. :o
Anyhow, I think we have the Rough part behind us now... until next year when he's 12 yrs. old!

This I hope will show to anyone with a little Emperor coming to "Rule", not all is lost on arrival.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on December 27, 2012, 12:20:25 am
  Monday was for us a kick-back day, so I decided... hence we bought a new Stove with a Convection Oven... to try my hand in Baking. On the menu was to be my "First" Cheesecake ever. Surfed the internet for a recipe that catched my Eye and of to the Market for a few items still needed.

  Made the Crust (that tested my patience right of the bat), because going up the sides about two inches on the Pan... the Graham/Walnut/Butter mixure did not want to stick in certain spots at first. Have "Elmer's" will bake! haha... I could see my LaoPo now?

  The filling was much easier and all went into the pre-heated oven, which was to be baked at 375 deg. (also 350 deg. Convection temp) for about 30 minutes (also Conv. time). Both of us kept looking every 10 minutes or so through the Glass door to see whats happening. When the timw was up, the Cake had risen to double it's height. Open the door and test with a Toothpick, not even near done?? After scratching the few hairs on my head, I put it back for another 15 min., still not done... and another 15 min.? But by now it at least showed some browning on top and after one hour it was finally ready.

  Cooling had dropped it back down to half the height again (normal) and it actually looked pretty good. We did not cut into it till yesterday, before going for a visit over to our Neighbor's house for some Coffee. Myself, I think my Aunt makes the best Cheesecake that I ever tasted... this one (my opinion) was quite good. I let Qing be the actual Judge here though. Her reaction was somewhat of a surprise, she look and sounded like... this is the best Cheesecake she ever tasted. Later our Neighbors did likewise enjoy it equally.

  Now on to more practice and more daring Baked goods, just have the get the timing straightened out.

Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on December 27, 2012, 07:53:32 am
I have also thought of baking... something? I'm not quite sure I have the patience.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Willy The Londoner on December 27, 2012, 08:15:46 pm
I used to love baking in my youth. Wanted to have my own bakery and employ many others. Wanted to make a lot of dough. 

 You can say that at that time I always wanted to be a Master Baker! ::)

Willy
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Jason B on December 28, 2012, 05:41:44 am
But let me guess Willy nothing came to hand?
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on December 28, 2012, 11:15:30 am
You can say that at that time I always wanted to be a Master Baker! ::)

My Uncle (Mom's brother) actually was a Master Baker in the 50's-60's and I still remember going to visit him at work... getting treats/goodies fresh out of the oven. In his seventies now, he still Bakes at home and comes up with the most delicious Cakes and Breads anywhere. After 20+ years, he gave it up (the early rises got to him) and started his own "Used Oil pick-up" company. Figures... working with Butter/Oil's all those years, had to stay in the same field. :)
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on December 28, 2012, 05:18:26 pm
Christmas Eve at our House!

The "Unusual" Christmas Eve Dinner.  :o ???

Because Qing and I decided this Holiday to stay at home and have a quiet Christmas for a change, we needed to come up with... what will our special Dinner be?

Thinking it over didn't actually take that long. Hence we had bought a "Hot-Pot"(*) heating unit a week ago, along with all the necessary items. Such as, the Broth-base (a Mild and a Spicy one) and whatever we were going to put in there to eat.

At first it sounded of course strange (to me at least) not having a Turkey or a Ham for Christmas. That faded fast though, the minute I saw what all Qing was preparing around this Hot Pot Bowl.

Let me see... I had very thin sliced Tri-Tip Steak ready to go, which was not easy... because Qing wanted it so thin that one could almost look through it. Then came... large Shrimp-Pork Balls-Shrimp Balls-Beef Balls-Fish Balls (good thing "Mine" were safe)- Spinach-Mushrooms-Noodles and to dip it all in before stuffing it down... a special Sauce (a la Shanghaiese) just for this occasion.

When we were done, I must say... this was as good as any Turkey/Ham Dinner (if not better) that I ever had.

(*) Hot-Pot... for those that don't know what that is, I try to explain.

This dish is very common and loved by most People in China and by Westerner's ones they visit China, something they should NOT miss.
It is started by having a large Bowl (which can be "Single" or "Split" for two different Broth's) in the center of your Table. The Broth is heated from below during the whole time your eating and if the Broth ever runs low, will be refilled/topped-off by you or the Restaurant.

Then you Order whatever suits your fancy... Meat/Fish/Vegetables ect... and "You" cook it for yourself til it is to your taste... done. :P ;D
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: shaun on January 02, 2013, 08:31:59 pm
Gee Arnold that is making me hungry and I just ate.  It also makes me lonely.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on January 16, 2013, 04:35:28 pm
Did anybody try this Movie on their LaoPo/Wife since being together?


The "Christ" Movie...
A few days ago, one of my best Customer from my work place gave me on loan the DVD of "Christ- The Passion" movie by Mel Gibson.

Over time since my LaoPo is here, I've kind of educate her of my believe as a Catholic. Parts from the Bible itself and from the many Films that were made on the subject of Jesus.

Anyway, hence Qing finds the subject interesting and amazing (like Huell Howser would have said... "That's amazing"), I figured this movie would show and teach her... how and why Jesus Christ ended up on the Cross.

So last night lying in Bed, I played it for both of us. I haven't even seen it yet myself... so I really didn't know what expect. In that I mean, how detailed the last hours of Jesus were being shown. I also tell you, I could not keep an dry Eye if I tried. How I felt for Jesus's pain and his Mother included, I wouldn't even try to imagine such pain/cruelty being handed out to a Human Being from another?

By the time the Movie ended, it was after Midnight already and now my LaoPo say's that she will have trouble falling asleep. All in all, she now knows what the Cross on the Rosary in our Car means and stand for. I, actually felt kind of a relieve... that Jesus had gone through all that for us little "Sinner's" to save our Soul.

Besides, if I look back... I see many blessings/miracles coming my way in my Life. If you believe in the Lord and live by his "Law's", he'll shower you with Wealth (not the Money type) and Health... that only "He" can. I should know, just looking back into my Blog alone has proof of it.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Willy The Londoner on January 16, 2013, 07:30:51 pm
That is a very graphic film Arnold, both in visual and sound.

Did you watch the original Hebrew version or did you have subtitles?   Did Qing have problems following the dialogue, I certainly did?

Mel Gibson made a great decision when he produced that movie.  It made him more money than all the movies he ever made and starred in when everyone said he would lose everything.

Jesus certainly had one thing in his mind at that time.  He was the only person to have ever died who was 100% definately certain that there is another life. The rest of us can only hope that our beliefs come to fulfilment.  But he knew for sure even though at that time he suffered like others had done previously and since.

Christianity in China is growing rapidly and soon China will have the largest number of  born again Christians in the world.  In the church I attend here we get between 5 - 10 new attendees every week.   

Willy
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on January 16, 2013, 10:49:21 pm
That is a very graphic film Arnold, both in visual and sound.

Did you watch the original Hebrew version or did you have subtitles?   Did Qing have problems following the dialogue, I certainly did?

It was with the subtitles, but both of us had no problem keeping up. It did surprised me somewhat, that Qing was able to follow it mostly... otherwise I told her what was happening when I could see a Question mark on her face.
I will have nightmares, she'd say... but it was all calm in the morning.

definitely a Film I wouldn't want to see a second time...
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on January 17, 2013, 03:27:41 pm
Jesus certainly had one thing in his mind at that time.  He was the only person to have ever died who was 100% definately certain that there is another life. The rest of us can only hope that our beliefs come to fulfilment.

Budda believed in the Parinirvana and at his death he has been said to have achieved that state.

I have as yet, not seen the movie, but I remember the controversy when it did come out. It is too bad the Mel Gibson's recent Alcohol abuse and legal issues that have come out has tarnished his career. I always enjoyed his movies.

My wife and I recently saw Agora, about the philosopher Hypatia  during the Christianization of the Roman empire. What struck me is how the movie portrayed how zealously early Christians pushed to ban other religious thought. It was akin to how we today perceive the Muslims doing in the middle east.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David E on January 17, 2013, 05:16:09 pm
Might I gently remind you all that we have a religion thread so that those of us who find religion irrelevant and faintly ludicrous dont have to get puffed up and reply to such threads as this..... ;D ;D

Having said that....It was only the delusional last chance effort by Emperor Constantine to preserve the future of the "mighty" Roman Empire that enabled Christians to achieve such a status.

This was the Empire that had a 500 year old tradition of Polytheism and was founded on the bloody rituals of sacrifice and such barbarities.

Without Constantine, Christianity would only be a minor fringe religion...and Constantine had not the slightest interest in religion...he only wanted to do something to protect his very tenuous position at the head of a failing Empire...and it did not work. Within avery short time the Roman Empire fell into ruin...."God" certainly did not help Constantine or the Roman Empire !!!!
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on January 17, 2013, 07:33:51 pm
Might I gently remind you all that we have a religion thread so that those of us who find religion irrelevant and faintly ludicrous dont have to get puffed up and reply to such threads as this..... ;D ;D
 

Sorry David, I knid of knew that I was going to be in hot water with you.. Posting this. I was just going to mention about the Movie and Qing watching it with me. I also was thinking about putting it into the Religious Threat, then... this Threat is about both of us and that is why I decided to go for "Here".
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on January 17, 2013, 07:49:08 pm
Yes, being Arnold thread, I could see why he placed this part here. I too watch movies with my wife, getting them on loan from the library. She has seen a few Mel Gibson movies since coming here: Bounty, Foerever Young, Ransom, and Conspiracy Theory, but the library doesn't seem to have this movie. It is interesting exploring our cultural differences when she gets exposed to our culture style movies.

As a side note, I have read this past month 3 books that explore the culture clash between Chines & American culture. Mao Last Dancer was a movie I have seen so I decided to read the book as well. Brave Dragons: A Chinese Basketball Team, an American Coach, and Two Cultures Clashing was an eye openere on professional sports in China. And currently I am reading American Shaolin: Flying Kicks, Buddhist Monks, and the Legend of Iron Crotch: An Odyssey in the New China that has the writer studing for 2 years at a shaolin temple. The author Matthew Polly loves puns, so when one of his master's girlfriend was always so vocal denoucing her boy friend, Matthew gave her a chinese name of Shou Ting.

American Shaolin: Craig Ferguson (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sky_xcc9RAM#)
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Willy The Londoner on January 17, 2013, 07:51:08 pm
Might I gently remind you all that we have a religion thread so that those of us who find religion irrelevant and faintly ludicrous dont have to get puffed up and reply to such threads as this..... ;D ;D
 

Sorry David, I knid of knew that I was going to be in hot water with you..
My guess was the same as Arnold. My thoughts were to bring you out of the heat of Australia and put us in the hot water here.   ;D ;D ;D

 Nice to see you back David.

Willy
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David E on January 18, 2013, 05:55:50 pm
My guess was the same as Arnold. My thoughts were to bring you out of the heat of Australia and put us in the hot water here.   ;D ;D ;D

 Nice to see you back David.

Willy

So...your new pastime is to poke me into responding....You know whatn they say about the Devil finding work for......!!!!!!! Seems to me you are bored Willy...maybe need a hobby  ;D ;D

However, you are correct, the whole of Australia seems to be on fire at the moment, the highest temperatures and the highest bush-fire risk we have ever seen. Could you please politely ask your God to stop these fires and to prevent more ruination of the Country Community and more tragic loss of innocent lives...people, plants, animals etc.

It will be interesting to see the progress of our new Royal Commission which is to make the most comprehensive and exhaustive findings on the sexual abuse of children over the past 50 years...anecdotally, we already are aware that the vast majority of the bastardly crimes against innocent children were (and still are ) perpertrated at the hands of the religious Community with connivance, avoidance and downright deceit practised by the Church heirarchy. It is systemic Institutionalised criminal behaviour against every moral code in the book.

So forgive me if I get a bit cynical about the "peace on Earth and Goodwill to all Men (and children) thing..........as for the benign, merciful God you speak about......try telling that to the families and Communities that have been devastated by the bushfires and on the other front, to those thousands of innocent children whose lives have been ruined for ever at the hands of the evil monsters within the Church Community. If only it was within MY power to visit appropriate punishment upon these monsters, we would see many public executions, together with hanging, drawing and quartering....and I would enjoy it immensely !!!!!!!!!

and ps...I have never been away...just lurking, because I did not feel that I had much to contribute of late. There is a distinct lack of current interest in finding a Chinese bride...maybe due to the economic realities that are prevailing across ,most of the Western World is stopping guys embarking on this journey...or maybe its something else...I dont know.

Cheers from an angry Aussie  >:( >:( >:(
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Willy The Londoner on January 18, 2013, 08:05:24 pm
Your probably correct in what you say David.  If only Jimmy Saville had been a Priest! We could have a bigger field day on that one. ::)

Did you see the Film 'Sunshine and Oranges'   Even I learn something from that.  The British Government with the aid of well known Children's and christian charities took more than 130,000 children from their mothers and shipped them off to Australia. Some as young as 5 or 6.  They were said to be sent there for a better life, but what really happened was that they were kept in institutions until they were 15 and forced to work in the fields and to endure regular sexual abuse. 
 
 The mothers who were unmarried nor could not cope at that time but went they went they went to institutions to collect their children, sometimes only months later, they were told they child had been adopted. By the time one woman from England took up their cases many of the mothers had died.  A very moving film.100 years or more ago! No they were doing this in the 1960's, 70's and 80s. 

Even brought a tear or two to these old eyes. :'(

Willy



Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: RobertBfrom aust on January 18, 2013, 09:19:58 pm
and ps...I have never been away...just lurking, because I did not feel that I had much to contribute of late. There is a distinct lack of current interest in finding a Chinese bride...maybe due to the economic realities that are prevailing across ,most of the Western World is stopping guys embarking on this journey...or maybe its something else...I dont know.

Cheers from an angry Aussie 

David E , I to can also be called a lurker ha ha , maybe with so many lovely Chinese and other Asian ladies within our cities now that even us older guys are getting computer smart , they are meeting within their own countries , we have recently been party to bringing over a few well off Chinese widow ladies along with their children for schooling here and as they have to lodge somewhere in the region of 100k plus for the 1 st 3 years before they even get out here they are all looking for Australian husbands and even though due to stupid visa restrictions they are not required to work , we have found them all jobs within 48 hours of them arriving , and as you well know 9 out of 10 of them want to work , regards Sujuan and Robert .
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David K on January 19, 2013, 02:52:49 am
Might I gently remind you all that we have a religion thread so that those of us who find religion irrelevant and faintly ludicrous dont have to get puffed up and reply to such threads as this..... ;D ;D
Having said that....It was only the delusional last chance effort by Emperor Constantine to preserve the future of the "mighty" Roman Empire that enabled Christians to achieve such a status.
Cheers from an angry Aussie  >:( >:( >:(
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Hi David E
I'm not at all sure how one does cheers when one is angry :) I've tried, but I cant manage it :(

But I'm entirely sympathetic to your perspective on religion. 
I've just finished reading Albert Schweitzers last book, written
when he was 75, after a lifetime of repairing sick Africans in Africa and restoring old organs in Europe
He considered first 300 years of Christianity to be ridden with factionalism, politics and downright
murder ..and that it strayed well away from the teachings of its founder....

Hence the atheists prayer:
" Lord protect me from your followers"

So how does this relate to my lovely chinese bride, and those who converse here on the net??
Well, I have found that if I set aside (momentarily) my notions of how it all is. and just look
afresh, I discover that Yan is far quicker to let go of any grievance that I am, and far slower
to enter into judgements.
"forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those that trespass against us"
"judge not lest you be judged"
So somehow she knows this stuff without having to have formal beliefs.
This led me to a study of LaoTze, and his appreciation that formal beliefs
get in the way of experiencing Tao.
So these days, if it springs from kindliness, whatever that means, I'm open to it.
If its a belief that must be followed, or a theology that must be adopted
I'm just ahead of that cloud of dust and small stones on the horizon.

So I see lots of kindliness here - and I've said as much, probably to the embarrassment
of those like Willy, you, Jerry, Shaun and others that I've talked to.
But most of all, its from my lovely wife.
We've been together every night for over 3 years, and I will often wake up trying to figure
how I ended up next to this absolute Goddess for over 1000 nights. 
She brings laughter, grace, commitment and adoration to the relationship,
and awakes those same qualities, long dormant, in me.

I've been richly blessed...with miracles, you might say..
So when someone invites me to to join in a belief system based on suffering
and guilt and loss, I can understand that that is where they are and not "nail them to the cross"...
But I walk on, and try to see kindness behind the evident insanity...

For me, there is no turning back
If you want more detail, PM me  :-)
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David E on January 19, 2013, 05:16:52 pm
David K

Sorry...should have translated the "cheers" thing. It is a generic Aussie idiom covering (approximately) bye-for-now, see ya later, au revoir or similar. It has nothing to do with any sense of "cheerfullness". I will try to avoid such 'strine concoctions in the future  ;D ;D

You obviously have found your inner peace, your balance and your place in the grand scheme of things, aided also obviously by your beloved.....and that is a very nice place to be !! I am sure that many of us have also found our own place of peace, with or without our Chinese brides etc etc. I dont know how I ever deserved such a woman as Ming...but the Universe dealt me a full house on this particular hand and I dont question that at all !!........just enjoy it.

But my own personal peace is different from yours or anybody elses', it belongs to and resides uniquely within my own self, my own persona. For me, I need to be angry about a few things that contrive to put human beings at the lower end of the evolutionary spectrum....one of which is organised or Institutionalised religion, which under the unsupported premise of eternal life and happiness has consistently perpertrated or been complicit in, nearly all of the most evil aspects of the Human condition. It apeals to the most gross aspect of human beings....that being the utter arrogance and delusionment that of all things that have ever lived, both on this insignificant little ball of dirt and on countless other balls of dirt within the Universe, we are something special and deserving of something more.

The premise defies any logic, science, common sense or humility and is founded on the desperate need to have somebody else provide us with a better life because we basically stuffed up the first one.

I cant suscribe to this nonsence and I cant tolerate the great procession of syncophants and no-hopers who feel free to engage in the worst of human depravities whilst hiding behind some sort of "free-pass" because they believe in "God"

I cant suscribe to their never ending babble that "they" have somehow found a truth that has been denied to those of us who have no such beliefs...and their never ending endorsement of mythical, unproven, unsustainable and untenable claptrap. I have every right to defend my own belief system...same as those religious nuts who take every opportunity to ram their system down my throat as "the only one that has any truth in it"...when it is all founded on a myth and hearsay.

Now I will go back to contemplating my navel !!!! because I am on dangerous ground continuing this debate which should be in the religion thread....and Martin is gonna nail me any time soon !!!

Bye for now

DavidE
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David K on January 19, 2013, 05:35:55 pm
David E...
Heres a trick I've found useful...

There is apparently a sin in Christendom thats unforgivable...
Blaspheming against the Holy spirit I think its called.
So when I am approached by one of 'them' seeking to 'convert' me to medieval thinking,
I mention that I have committed this unforgivable trespass,
 am therefore beyond the pale and thus have a right to be left in peace.

If they persist, I threaten to repeat the unforgiveable sin in their presence, thus earning
the instant wrath of God (see pic). I also point out that I am wearing asbestos underwear
and being banished to a Christian free zone hold no fears for me....

This usually works...
Although realising that its all much ado about nothing helps also :-)
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on January 19, 2013, 05:45:06 pm
First I like to say, that I did not (ever) wanted this to be of any Religious debate.. especially here on my Thread.

My last paragraph:Besides, if I look back... I see many blessings/miracles coming my way in my Life. If you believe in the Lord and live by his "Law's", he'll shower you with Wealth (not the Money type) and Health... that only "He" can. I should know, just looking back into my Blog alone has proof of it.

Was "Only" my feelings alone and not to tell anyone.. that this is how one gets rewarded for their faith. So, I only ask a question if anybody else had shown their LaoPo this film and not to debate it in any other way.
I'm the last one to push anything on anybody, even my LaoPo... like I've said, she is interested in my Faith.. so I tell her. Not to convert her if she doesn't want to.

People with other believes/colors are no less of human beings as myself, therefore I do not judge their lifestyle or put them into catagories.. it's not me and never will be.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David K on January 19, 2013, 06:04:53 pm
Oh well, David E,
You are correct.. standby for 'incoming' for daring to poke your head above the parapet :)

But, as Willy will likely point out, all this has been foreshadowed by a wise Englishman
several centuries ago

 “If we shadows have offended, think but this and all is mended,
  that you have but slumber’d here, while these visions did appear.
  And this weak and idle theme, no more yielding but a dream.”
Midsummer Night’s Dream, V.i.425-430

“We are such stuff as dreams are made on, and our little life is rounded with a sleep.”
The Tempest, IV.i.156-158

If you want to explore this further, you might care to start a separate thread :)
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David K on January 19, 2013, 06:27:40 pm
And just to address Arnolds concerns:
I too am not looking to get into religious wars...

But, being somewhat older than most, I am interested in whether
the delightful relationship I have with my wife lapses when I quit
the body, or it is a reflection of some eternal truth.....
" now I see as through a glass darkly, then I shall see face to face"
 
Having a scientific / engineering background, I tend to be fairly rigorous
in my truth testing, but only to have greater confidence in what remains..

I'll track down the religious thread if I'm feeling brave, and David E doesnt
start one of his own

:)
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: LP on January 19, 2013, 07:24:01 pm
Arnold,you've started a war among friends on Religious :o,I  get what you were trying to say on your thread.I have that movie and show that film to my parents.I haven't shown my  soon to be Laopo this film but she is asking many question about my faith.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Willy The Londoner on January 19, 2013, 07:54:18 pm


Sorry...should have translated the "cheers" thing. It is a generic Aussie idiom covering (approximately) bye-for-now, see ya later, au revoir or similar. It has nothing to do with any sense of "cheerfullness". I will try to avoid such 'strine concoctions in the future  ;D ;D

Now I will go back to contemplating my navel !!!! because I am on dangerous ground continuing this debate which should be in the religion thread....and Martin is gonna nail me any time soon !!!

DavidE

It's OK David E. We real English speakers know exactly what 'Cheers' mean. ;D ;D
You carry on in that vein.  If it confuses those that have bastardcise the language of OUR birth then so be it.  ::)

As for your second paragraph I am sure of one thing. Martin may well Nail you David but be safe in the knowledge that it wont be to a cross!!! ;D ;D ;D

Time we took this to an updated religion thread.  :-X

Willy
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on February 03, 2013, 04:09:09 pm
Chinese New Year coming...

This new year, will be the year of the "SNAKE"!

Why is this special from the other eleven ones? Well first, because I am a Snake! Being born in the year 1953 makes me "Slither" through Life I assume. This is not where it ends though. Hence I have met Qing and her Family, I also found out... that the year of the Snake is even more special.

How you might ask?

Okay, you now know I am born in the year of the Snake, but I am not alone anymore. Qing's only Brother (Ming) just by coincidence/chance happens to be a Snake also. Born in 1965, which is of course a Snake year... as it repeats every twelve (12) years. It even goes beyond just us two, even Qing's Son (Tianchi) is a Snake too. He's born in 2001, that qualifies him to be Snake number three in my new Family circle.

What would have been really shocking, if my LaoPo was one too. Unfortunately, she's a "Monkey" born 1968. Now don't assume she climbs Tree's! Actually... she just the opposite, real down to Earth kind of Person. Where we as Snakes slither along the ground more and when the need arises... we "Do" climb Tree's too. The good thing that comes out of all this, is... that both the Snake and Monkey are very compatible and that is whats really counts.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on February 03, 2013, 04:41:27 pm
Harry Potter would think you were of the house Slytherin. Hogwarts I say.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Willy The Londoner on February 03, 2013, 09:05:15 pm
I was born in the year of the Horse. Has that affected me. Neigh! Not one bit!!! 

Willy
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Martin on February 03, 2013, 11:29:46 pm
Willy...I see that Rhonald has worn off on you. Hahahaha
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on February 04, 2013, 08:48:34 am
Willy...I see that Rhonald has worn off on you. Hahahaha
Only in Willy's night Mares
Martin....not to bore you with any more details, but when I said Hogwarts, it also refered to the year I was born in that Chinese Zoo diac.
And since you don't need to use my wisker remover, Can I please get my Razor Back!
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on February 08, 2013, 02:37:37 pm
So Arnold, is your wife planning on inviting people over to celebrate the new Chinese year? This Friday night my wife will have some of her guzheng students over to celebrate and Saturday she will perform her guzheng while a Tai Chi association will do their routine during their Chinese New Years Party. I think we will be more busy then I was for our January 1st New Years. I also wonder if anyone has any extra red envelops to hand out as I would like to help out in receiving   ::)   some sum.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on February 08, 2013, 06:33:10 pm
So Arnold, is your wife planning on inviting people over to celebrate the new Chinese year? This Friday night my wife will have some of her guzheng students over to celebrate and Saturday she will perform her guzheng while a Tai Chi association will do their routine during their Chinese New Years Party. I think we will be more busy then I was for our January 1st New Years. I also wonder if anyone has any extra red envelops to hand out as I would like to help out in receiving   ::)   some sum.

No special plans here Rhonald. Her best friend had a stroke in Dec., so instead of going to a Chinese New Year Party.. with our "Club".. we decided to go visit her in the Clinic instead. Too sad, to go out and party.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Willy The Londoner on February 08, 2013, 08:30:41 pm
I was born in the year of the Horse. Has that affected me. Neigh! Not one bit!!! 

Willy
I think I should amend this after this weeks revelations. 

The biggest supermarket chain in UK and a lot of smaller ones have found a percentage of horsemeat in beef burgers. Also Burger king is said to have found the same. 

Findus Beef Lasagne was found to have up to 100% horsemeat and no beef!

These meat products have been produced in either France or Ireland.

Now I know why my trips back to the UK have given me the 'trots' and why I was 'galloping' through food and the grass in the hotel garden started to look delicious.  Now I understand when people say 'I am so hungry I could eat a horse'

And people laugh at the things the Chinese eat!

Happy New year everyone. Today is a day of celebrations. No horsing around here this weekend.

Willy
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David K on February 09, 2013, 12:46:59 am
Chinese New Year - my wife hates crowds, but loves being in my kitchen 
(was mine, now hers - I've been banished   ;)  )

So lots of delectable oriental goodies presently being exquisitely crafted, for Chifan and a glass of fine NZ wine out on the deck.
Its a fabulous summer evening here in Auckland
We are happy
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: daghoi on February 09, 2013, 02:03:48 am
looks like you eat well, david k.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on February 09, 2013, 08:50:43 pm
Oh.. my? This years New Year Dinner Celebration (in Shanghai), was going to be at Qing's brothers house. As the Parents are getting too old to stage such an event by themselves. We are talking a 15 course Dinner here (the same I received on my first trip meeting Qing for the first time) with Fireworks for dessert. We would have loved to have been there, but with the time difference.. we had Lunch already. No reason going without an Appetite.. right?  :-\

David, I must agree with what daghoi said... :P
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Willy The Londoner on February 09, 2013, 09:20:48 pm
It is a nice morning here so I am on the balcony, coffee in hand whilst they are trying to find away of getting 14 people around a table meant for four! As usual I am confident that they will succeed.

I have tried to explain that it may be a holiday in China but not in the rest of the World and that I have had a lot of work in to deal with in the past 24 hours, but that cut no ice and I have been banished from my desk today.  Maybe I will be able to sneak in when they cards come out and as it is not Texas Holdem they play then I cannot compete with them although they would love to skin me of every rmb in my pocket.

I now hear that the lunch will continue through the afternoon until dinner time when we may be joined by a few more.  Thank goodness the distant travelers cannot get here until Tuesday.

My fourth Chinese New Year here and I really loved each and every one. 

Willy

Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on March 11, 2013, 12:43:33 pm
Here Gerry, because you mentioned Driving Lesson's :)


I am always weary of that....
Ever since Qing is driving here in America, I've been worried that some day an Accident will happen. Not because "She" is a bad driver, no... other People worry me.
Well, so it happened last week... and of all places right at the end of our Street. Mind you, that our Street is a "Dead End" Street. Here she is ready to pick up her Son from School, as she stops at the end of the Street to Yield traffic from both sides... here comes this Lady making a super-wide turn right into the side of Qing's car.
Of course I have told Qing what to do in case of an Accident, but turns out... this Lady forgotten her Purse. So no Driver's License and not even Insurance paper's in the Car.
On top of all that, she tells Qing... sorry, I knew I should have not driven after taking this Medication! She had totally lost control of her Car and that with her Daughter inside too.
Man, she is lucky... she didn't run over a Kid or something much worse. She also quoted " My Husband is going to kill me, this is a new car" and he told me "Not" to drive after taking the Med's.


Anyway, all will be taken care of... but that should be a "Lesson" ones more for those deciding to get behind a wheel under any influence of Drug's or Alcohol. But, how many times has that been preached before and People just keep on doing it?
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on March 26, 2013, 05:32:25 pm
How wonderful it was!

Last Friday morning started real early for us. The reason for that, was because its the start of our San Francisco trip.
So at 04:00am it was all out of Bed, have some Coffee and head over to Paso Robles to meet a Family member ( my first Wife's Cousin) for Breakfast on our first short stop-over. My LaoPo because she wanted to "Help" with the driving, she took on the first 200 miles (three hours) of the trip. I usually make that distance in 2 3/4 to 3 hours myself, so for my Sweetheart to make it in 3 hours and 15 minutes wasn't bad at all. Thus, we arrived at 08:15 and spend about a good hour with "Minnie&Veronica"  (her daughter) having the much needed Food and more of the Java for the second leg.. Carmel/Monterey.

For Qing it was the second meeting with Minnie, as we had stayed over her House for a night a couple of years ago.. for a shorter outing to Cambria. It was the first time though, for her to meet Qing's Son Tianchi.. which she had pictured to be much smaller/younger for some reason?
Anyway, it was really great meeting up ones more and by 09:30am we were on our way up the Coast on Highway 1.

to be continued.....

Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: kenny on March 26, 2013, 08:20:14 pm
From what I remember it looks like the boy has grown allot to me too.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on March 27, 2013, 12:34:03 pm
The Trip continues...


.... we are now on our second leg and heading up the Coastline towards Carmel, our second stop. Hence our check-in at the Hotel is after 3:00pm, I decided to show Qing/Tianchi Point Lobo's Reserve. This is good for several reasons, one being we get to stretch our legs and we will fill our Eyes with wonderful Scenic beauty.

During this two hour plus drive, I've noticed that Qing was dosing off here and there. I guess, too much of the beautiful Coast makes one tired? Anyway, I made sure she didn't miss anything spectacular where we needed to stop and get out for a closer look. If I remember correctly, we arrived at the Reserve just before 1:00pm with plenty of time to enjoy most of the Hiking Trails they had to offer. We certainly did just that!
I noticed also, there happened to be many Artist's/Painter's on the Paths's everywhere. I think some of their Painting's I would have bought right there on the spot.. even before they were finished.
This is of no surprise, as Carmel is full of Artist's of different kinds.

One thing that stood out, was going down near those Tide-pool's to check if we see any Wild Life. Not too long I ran into a Sea Otter, relaxing on his back.. something I see myself doing on a Coach. "He" or "She" must of just finished eating, because I saw it cleaning it's mouth and then.. rubbing it's eyes.. as to say.. "Time for a Nap now"!

We spend a good two hours, exploring just about all they had to offer.. Wild Life-Flowers-Beaches-Caves-Waves breaking on Rocks and into Blow-holes-to Artist painting how they see it.

to be continued....

Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on March 29, 2013, 06:28:21 pm
Trip continues... Part 3

.... having left Point Lobos and still some time on our hands before checking into the hotel, it was off to Carmel. First finding a place to park is not always easy with all the Tourists coming and going.
Car finally parked (for Free.. wow), we proceeded to walk several streets that looked interesting to inspect up closer. Carmel is full of Galleries with works of many well known (in Calif. at least) Artist's, great Restaurants for any taste and Pub's of course to just sit back.. relax and do some People watching with a cold one.
There are Boutique's by the dozen and Beach homes by the hundreds to drool over.

So this was mostly interesting for Qing and I and not so much for Tianchi, they don't care about Art/ fine Foods/beautiful homes by the Beach. He did find "his" fun part... taking Shoes/Socks off and run into the Ocean Surf. Quickly finding, that the Water must be in the low 50's (if that)... resulting
to return to the wet part of the Beach/Sand only.

I myself love this Area , as I've been here over a dozen times for Anniversaries with my first Wife. This was "Our" little place back then. Carmel/Monterey/Pacific Grove, I know like my backyard and that's because it never seems to change much over all those years... since 1977 when I came here the first time. Some Business' change hands, like the "Hog's Breath Inn" that used to be Clint Eastwood's Pub back in the day.

Now having seen most I wanted Qing/Tianchi to see, it was time to check-in to our Hotel. As a side note, I first thought of staying at the same Hotel I've always stayed at before.. but I decided against it. There are just too any memories (great ones), to put myself through or my LaoPo for that matter. I must also mention, I had a much easier time... then I thought I would coming here again. Of course I remember every Place/Building/Shop/Restaurant/Parks, even the little Liquor Store Nancy always bought her "Screwdriver's" for the night....

...to be continued
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Willy The Londoner on March 29, 2013, 10:16:37 pm
Your bringing back so memories for me as well Arnold.

I took the scenic route on a drive from Vegas to San Fransciso about 15 years back. Monterey was great. Disappointed that I never saw Clint in Carmel.

Thought that I should get out of Palms Spring quickly as the drunken geriatrics driving golf carts along the road was too much!

Even worse than that a car load of drunken youths pulled up along side me and asked if I was a 'Mex'. But they soon moved on when I spoke with my impeccable English accent.  Well they would wouldn't they - all the nasty people in movies are English now!

Then did the whole tourist trip. LA where I watched all the dossers bed down for the night in MacArthur Park.  Each had a line of Shopping trolly's encircled around their patch just like the old time wagon trains.  During the day watched the movies cops chasing the bad guys around the park then at night watched the real cops chase the bad guys around the park.  LA made me really glad to be English but more important being just a visitor.

Willy
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on March 29, 2013, 10:59:18 pm
Willy, it's funny you mention MacArthur Park here. The time I took Qing and my Neighbor to a KTV in KoreaTown, we passed by that Park. It looked so bad, I told everybody in the car to get down.. til we're passed it. There might be some Bullet's flying at any time.  That's all I (or anybody in my car) need to be shot on Qing's birthday.

Our next Trip will be the Grand Canyon/Sedona Area, maybe this Summer?
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Willy The Londoner on March 30, 2013, 03:48:16 am
It was a hairy place at night. I stayed at the Wiltshire Hotel on Wiltshire Boulevard just up from the park and saw many interesting things at night. And occasionally I looked out of the window.

Did two sections of the Grand Canyon and paddled up the Colorado. Walked on the pier but not sure if that was Santa Barbara or Santa Monica.  Seen it on TV a few times since. 


Willy
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on April 01, 2013, 05:22:26 pm
Going North... Part 4.

As the day slowly came to an end and we all were pretty tired.. ready for a good night sleep. After having Dinner at "Bahama's" where I have been before of course, it was back to the Hotel to unwind and be ready for the next day's Trip to San Francisco.

Next morning about 8:30 we had a Breakfast (Free) and everything being packed up, it was off to head for the 101 Fwy north. About half-way to S.F., we stopped in Gilroy (the Capital of Garlic). You can't just bypass this little Town, if you are a lover of Garlic. Not to worry, we loaded up with plenty of Sauces/Spices to last for quite a while.

For the second time we arrived in Frisco a few hours early for our Check-in (I planned it that way), so we hit.. or drove over the Golden Gate Bridge as our first assignment. Thinking back a couple years, when I ones mentioned the Golden Gate Bridge to Qing.. she said; and I quote " What is so special.. it's only a Bridge" and we in Shanghai have many of those?

Haha.. of course she did not know, what made this Bridge so special to the World? Heck, I don't even know why? It is definitely beautiful.. no dought! Anyway, being on the north side.. I try'd to park so we all could get out for some Photo's. As luck would have it, I had to stay in the Car (double parked) and let Qing and Tianchi go out.. enjoy the view and take some nice Pictures. I've been here many times, ones even making it a "one day" turn around from Los Angeles.. when I was younger of course and single still.

That being done, I wanted to go and stop now on the south side. But, having traffic problems and it was almost 3:00pm, it was time to check-in ones more. Hence the Holiday Inn is right on the Fisherman's Wharf and near Lombard St. (where the Crookedest Road in the World is), we headed that way. I must tell you, the closer we got the steeper (going uphill) they become. It looked like 45 degree, but of course it was less! Hanging on the hill, it was one car at a time moving forward to the top. That might be fun for the People in the car, but your poor car I'm sure it's NOT!

Finally it is our turn to head "Down" this famous road, which takes about two (2) minutes. Just like an Amusement Park Ride, wait 45 min. and it's over with the blink of the eye.

to be continued....
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on July 31, 2013, 01:26:12 pm
Well I guess, some of you already know (the ones reading my Blog anyway) that Qing and I plus Son had a trip to Arizona for the long 4th July weekend.

Anyhow, thought to bring this Thread up to par/date ones more with a few Photo's of mentioned outting!

Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on July 31, 2013, 01:33:50 pm
some from Sedona and Pink Jeep tour.

Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on July 31, 2013, 01:39:02 pm
... from Skywalk (western part of Grand Canyon).

Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on July 31, 2013, 01:42:57 pm
... over Hoover Dam to Vegas.

Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: shaun on July 31, 2013, 03:11:34 pm
Nice pictures but where is the pink jeep?

Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on July 31, 2013, 07:44:55 pm
I see in the picture where she is hanging one handed off the cliff that the cliff face must be magnetic, thus the direction of her chain. Great pictures and great daring do. I always knew your wife was a secret agent - Secret Agent... but on Whose side?

Browny point for that movie reference anyone?  8) 8)
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on July 31, 2013, 09:30:06 pm
I see in the picture where she is hanging one handed off the cliff that the cliff face must be magnetic, thus the direction of her chain. Great pictures and great daring do. I always knew your wife was a secret agent - Secret Agent... but on Whose side?

Browny point for that movie reference anyone?  8) 8)

Rhonald, actually the Necklace is what kept her from falling.. til' I came to the rescue (well try'd to). It is a secret gadget to holds you to Stone/Metal/Wood/Plastic, so she'll never will fall anywhere.. from any height. Her Watch has a rope with a little but strong hook at the end and she almost hit me with it.
Ps: as one can see, her Chain made even the Tree's below push away from her. Even the date on the Photo was pushed to the side. I don't know where she got that from, but it also keeps me in Bed or close to her when she want to. In other words, I can not escape this woman.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: shaun on July 31, 2013, 10:26:29 pm
Arnold, aren't you a clever cleaver. ::)


Me is thinking that the mods have too much power.  :o
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on July 31, 2013, 11:14:42 pm

Me is thinking that the mods have too much power.  :o

May the Power be with the "Mod's"! ;) 8)  ... any questions?
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: john1964 on August 01, 2013, 03:32:33 am
Great photos Arnold, I do like the one where it looks like your wife is hanging off the cliff ;D, where did you find a lovely woman the same height as you , I'm a foot taller than my wife  :(, John.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Willy The Londoner on August 01, 2013, 04:29:33 am
Its OK John.  Arnold was standing on a box. Ha Ha

Willy
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on August 01, 2013, 01:35:06 pm
Its OK John.  Arnold was standing on a box. Ha Ha

ssshhhhh.... I've learned that from Scotty our Buddy.

John, you been to Shanghai.. you should know with all the tall Buildings they have.. that it makes their Women also tall. :P
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on August 02, 2013, 03:46:05 pm
Okay, I just want you all to know... Qing wasn't the only one "hanging" from the Cliff as you can see.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on August 02, 2013, 03:57:31 pm
Hanging around on vacation
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on August 04, 2013, 08:20:23 pm
Vince, guess we like to hang around.. if it's at home or on vacation

4th of August ...

Our Home resemble's a Classroom.. in a way!

I can't believe it's August already. Which means, Tianchi's School will start soon. Actually, his school never ended and come to think of it.. neither has my LaoPo's.
For Tianchi to learn more/faster English, he is besides having regular School (6th grade), he has a private Tutor for three (3) hours a week. Plus we now added special reading Classes/Lessons for his benefit at Antelope Valley College once a week.
That'll keep him busy and less time playing games on his Phone/Computer. It's of course for "his" own good, he just doesn't know it yet.

This is not all of course, as Qing is studying for her GED as well for most of the year now. She did take her Mathematic Test a couple of weeks ago and passed it easy, even not answering all questions.. due to not having enough time. I'm so proud of her, then again.. I never had any doubt she wouldn't pass it. It's only one of five Test's, but a good start. She'll soon take the Reading Test next.

So, I find myself many times having extra time for myself and just do what I please to relax. This I have no problem with, just need to outside our Home to do that. I also spend some time, to think about getting (buying) Solar Panels for our Roof. This investment will finalize in a week or two. This is after all, one think that we discussed for months already. We will then run on Solar power and as promised by the Company doing the job, we could have that "Energy" for at least 3-4 more billion years (the live of our Sun). Not sure we need it that long, but if we do.. we're ready. haha
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on August 11, 2013, 08:24:16 pm
 :) 08-08-13  :)

It is hard to believe, that Qing and I have been married (Ceremony wise) for five (5) years already. It also makes my Mom/Uncle/Aunt/Friend that joined us in Shanghai back in August '08 wonder for themselves... has it really been that long ago? They say, when you're having "Fun" time flies. Well, it also must fly when your obsolutely "Happy" as well.. it certainly seems that way.
So here is a little something Chinese Women receive never or very seldom from their Chinese Male counterpart... which are "Flowers"!

First thought, I was thinking 5 Roses... then I tell myself.. not enough! So, it happens to come out to 15 instead, as 12 (Doz) didn't seem to fit into the picture of a 5 year Anniversary.
Five Red's= 5 years for Qing's sweet "Love"!
Five Orange= 5 years of warm "Sunshine"!
Five Pink= 5 years of a colorful "Marriage" with my LaoPo!

Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Neil on August 11, 2013, 09:01:52 pm
Beautiful.  And Chinese Valentines Day is tomorrow...
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: fivetrout on August 12, 2013, 04:12:10 pm
There is much more to flowers than meets the eye! I was sent this by Pro Flowers Intl. when I asked about funeral flowers in China.

"Etiquette of Sending Flowers in China (from http://www.chinatravel.com/facts/traditional-etiquette-and-taboos.htm (http://www.chinatravel.com/facts/traditional-etiquette-and-taboos.htm))
 
Sending flowers is a branch of knowledge and also an art. The language expressed by flowers is indeed very rich. Have you ever grasped the profound meaning of the flowers you have received? When you are about to send flowers, will you feel a bit perplexed? Do you know the meaning of the bouquet composed of red and white roses? Do you know that you should deal with lilies before you send it to a sick. Only by expressing and comprehending the meaning of sending flowers well, can you express this art better.
 
In order to grasp the true meaning of floriculture, first of all, you should acquaint yourself with the language and meanings of flowers, thereby helping flowers exhibit the essence of bright moon, assemble the wit of heaven and earth, and have the beauty of being natural and content. Through long-term evolution, people endow all sorts of flowers with certain morals to indicate affection and express emotions. For example, passing an imperial examination is reputed as "reaping laurels" and sending-off or parting is reputed as "picking up a willow". A peach is offered to an elder to express good wishes for a good life on his birthday. Pomegranate is presented to newly married couple to express good wishes for more sons. As for "pine, cypress, bamboo, chrysanthemum and lotus", they have their own specific and fixed connotations according to their characters.
 
Flowers of all shapes relate thousands upon thousands of words. To get acquainted with the meanings of flowers, you may start from the common sense of sending flowers.
 
Because of different national customs, there are also taboos on sending flowers. You can not copy others mechanically. Every flower has a certain meaning and contains a silent language. Therefore, you should choose different flowers according to the receiver's conditions when sending flowers. When congratulating an elder on his birthday, you ought to send jonquil or a Chinese evergreen. Jonquil symbolizes "health and long life" and Chinese evergreen represents "never growing old".
 
When men and women are in love with each other, men generally send roses and lilies to women they love. Being beautiful, elegant, pure, fragrant, these flowers are the pledge and symbol of love.
 
When congratulating on a friend's birthday, you ought to send Chinese roses, red palms, golden rod and Baby's-breath. These flowers symbolize splendid prospects during the best years of life.
 
When congratulating a newly married couple, you should send roses, lilies, tulips, common Freesia, African chrysanthemum, red palms and Bird of Paradise flowers, etc. As for wedding bouquet, adding several branches of Baby's-breath appropriately will make the bouquet florid and refined.
 
When paying visits to relatives and friends during festivals, you should send lucky grass, lilies, tulips, which symbolize "happiness and luck".
 
Couples may send lilies to each other, as lilies signify the happy union lasting one hundred years, being after each other's heart, and being together always.
 
When sending a friend off, it is appropriate to send sword lilies and red palms, which have the meaning of a pleasant trip and splendid prospects.
There are many taboos on sending flowers to a sick person. When visiting a sick person, you should never send a potted flower in case it will be mistaken for an incompletely cured illness after being ill for a long time. Sharply scented flowers do harm to the sick who has received an operation as they tend to cause coughing; flowers with too flashy colors will jar the nerves of the sick and stimulate a feeling of annoyance. It is appropriate to send orchids, narcissus, callas, lilies and sword lilies, etc. You may also choose flowers that the sick person has a preference for at ordinary times. In this way, flowers will contribute to the peace of mind and the sick person will get well as quickly as possible.
When paying a formal visit to an old venerable man, it is appropriate to send orchids as it has a noble quality and also enjoys a good reputation as "the gentleman of flowers".
 
When a new store is opened and a company starts business, it is proper to send Chinese roses, red palms, yellow chrysanthemums and Bird of Paradise flowers, etc, as these flowers flower over a long period and have exuberant flowers, which means "prosperity and exuberant wealth".
 
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on August 12, 2013, 04:44:27 pm
haha.. usually I send Flowers to only Family members, so there is actually only a handful of Flowers/Colours to worry about. I only send Flowers to China twice (that weren't to my LaoPo), once a "Yellow" Rose to Qing's Mom and a Doz. "White" Roses to my "sister" Lily because her Mom had died.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on August 24, 2013, 05:36:18 pm
Saturday, August 24, 2013

Ahhh... found something to do....
... when I find myself with not much to do in our Backyard, I just make myself some work. Which is the case this weekend or two.

Hence I had to cut one of our trees in the back, because it was in the way of the Solar Panels (as mentioned earlier)... I had a thought. Why not make a "Sculpture" out of this cut down poor little tree and have something to google over later.

So, what will it be?

In our Livingroom (by the bay window) I have my own little "Pudong", Pearl Tower- Jin Mao Building- Financial Tower in miniature size's.
Of the three, only the Financial Tower is the shape I can duplicate from a tree stump four feet high.

Here is a Photo of the early progress from this morning. I am pleased with it so far, now it's mostly details and doing the final shape/color to finalize it.

Sorry for having them sideways, but if turned over they look so much shorter.. then the four feet they are.



Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on August 25, 2013, 08:18:44 am
Take a belt sander to it. smooth those edges out. Me, I would have made a table or bird bath.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on August 25, 2013, 12:47:32 pm
Vince, like I've said.. this is not the finish product yet. I did finished it yesterday and it's ready for Paint. I did smoothen it out somewhat, but want it to look somewhat rough.. gives it certain Scupture feel. You know what I mean.
My neighbor also said, make a Table out of it.. for me.. that's just too ordinary.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Willy The Londoner on August 25, 2013, 09:10:27 pm
I suggest that you turn it into a stautue of Maxx.   Or if it is short then maybe Scottish Rob. Come to think of it it already looks a bit like him.  (At least he cannot comment on this as he is away in Turkey for two weeks at the moment?)

Willy

Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on August 25, 2013, 09:35:50 pm
haha... come to think of it, it does look like Rob.. when he smiles. ;D

Done for now.. if my LaoPo likes it (she's at work) I'll keep it like it is.

Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: fivetrout on August 26, 2013, 01:06:49 am
Just tell her it's a beer holder...I mean a tea table!
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Vince G on August 26, 2013, 10:51:21 am
Just tell her it's a beer holder...I mean a tea table!

Or a large bottle opener
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on August 26, 2013, 11:20:30 am
Just tell her it's a beer holder...I mean a tea table!

Or a large bottle opener

The Model I bought is about ten inches tall and it actually is a "Bottle" opener. If you read up on the tower, it's design had to be changed from the original design.. which was to have a round opening at the top.. but People got upset because it looked too much like the "Rising Sun" from Japan.. so they made it a rectangle instead.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on September 28, 2013, 09:56:04 pm
Knowing the Chinese Folks and ....

.... some of their Customs/Beheaviors certainly helps living with them a lot easier.
This came in handy yesterday on Qings Birthday. See, the day before we had it all set to be having Dinner at the Rib place near our Home. Well, the Chinese love to change pretty much everything (even if it's set in Stone) at a moment's notice.
Like she called me at work to ask me "Where" we should go, as if we never even talked about it the day before. So, back and forth it went... Restaurant after Restaurant.
This was going on and most likely still would, if I didn't mention that I received just the day before an $10 discount Card from the "Yard House". That was like Music in my LaoPo's ears and she made up her mind on the spot, nothing was going to change it now.
Anyhow, we did have a wonderful time/dinner to my Sweetheart's delight.
I think those great "Beer's" they serve at the Yard House help us along with having a good time... haha.
After arriving back home, Dessert was waiting in the Fridge. Qing's favourite Ice Cream Cake from Coldstones. She felt "Special" and that's
what it is all about!

Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Willy The Londoner on September 29, 2013, 06:02:37 am
I see in the first photo that you have a few takeaways in the background ready to go home with.

Willy
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on September 29, 2013, 12:27:36 pm
I see in the first photo that you have a few takeaways in the background ready to go home with.
Willy

I have never sat so close to that much Brew, without getting Snokered.. guess I lost it at my age?
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on November 07, 2013, 01:31:31 pm
Yesterday was... break out the Champagne day!
It certainly was a day to Celebrate!

The reason? All my LaoPo's hard work/studies had finally come to an successful end.

She passed her GED test with flying colours!


Finishing three of  the five (5) categories (Math-Writing-Science) with a score over 500+ and the other two (2) with an average of 430... even running out of time and not answering all of the questions.

I am so proud of my Sweetheart, considering being Chinese (where Characters are a norm)... makes it even more so a success for her without a doubt.

Makes me think, would "I" be able to equal "Her" accomplishment? Then again; I would only worry about my Grammar, having to do the Test myself.

So, I did take her out for Dinner last night and opened a Bottle of my favourite Champagne.

Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on November 07, 2013, 05:57:41 pm
Great to hear such success. Now School's out for Summer.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Willy The Londoner on November 08, 2013, 12:06:12 am

 ???Just what is a GED test? ???

Willy
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: maxx on November 08, 2013, 12:29:42 am
Willy General Education diploma.It's for people who for one reason or another didn't graduate from high school.In the U.S.When I took it back in 1986 it was a easy test.In 2013 it's a whole different story.Arnold needs to be buying Qing Diamonds and pearls.she really accomplished something.

With out studying for the test most American high school graduates couldn't pass the test.It is real tough now.The tests combines everything you learned from the past 12 years.And breaks it down into four or five tests that are timed.

Qing and Arnold really do have a reason to celebrate.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on November 08, 2013, 06:54:58 pm
...thanks Ron-Mike!

haha.. Diamonds & Pearls? That just so happens, this is what I'm made out of. So she has that already in "Large" size even.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on March 06, 2014, 04:52:45 pm
As some of you noticed, I have not been on here much lately. That is due to not having much time on my hands now and the coming 8 months or so, because my lovely LaoPo is going through somewhat of a torture.. doing a crash course for 9 months to become a "Medical Assistant" attenting a Private College. That same course at an Community College is 2 years, but Qing decided to go for the shorter time frame. She is studying til' Midnight and up again at 5am (Mon.-Fri.), which makes me feel like a Bacholar in a way.
She certainly is one smart Cookie, finishing her tests so far with no less then a 93-100 score on all of them. This as/with a second language... while those Books she learns from makes it seem like she becoming a Doctor. It is too much for my little Brain.
Anyway, I do check in here from time to time without signing in just to keep up whats going on and not miss too much.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: David E on March 06, 2014, 05:32:27 pm
I know exactly how you feel Arnold....my LP is doing a teaching degree in 6 months (she did get some significant exemptions for her Chinese Degree, after we had it Certified in Aus)..but this course can be done "at leisure " in 18 months...or at frantic pace in 6 months !!!

So now I am doing cooking, housework etc etc etc while she studies for (it seems) 23 hours per day...oh yes, and I am also the official translator for all the books she has to read !!!

Life sure is different  ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on March 07, 2014, 04:03:14 pm
David, she is doing this for two reasons; first being... she needs to work and receive enough credits (can't buy those at Chnlove) to qualify for Medicare later in Life after I passed away. Usually takes ten years of working  depending on the Job.
Second, this is for "My" good. She can take "Good" care of me ( which she's already really good at) in my old age later. But this is quite some years down the road yet, as I'm feeling like a spring chicken at the moment.
We just have to endure these "few" months (we've been through worse) and Life will be ones again be... ( may I say hope or wish) .. Normal.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Smaug on April 02, 2014, 12:58:02 am
Congrats to her on the GED.

Don't you admire her work ethic? My Ivy is the same way; makes me feel lazy, and I can see why China is kicking our collective ass.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on April 03, 2014, 11:40:51 am
Congrats to her on the GED.

Don't you admire her work ethic? My Ivy is the same way; makes me feel lazy, and I can see why China is kicking our collective ass.

Thanks Smaug!

This was actually nothing, you should see her now. 98% on some and 100% on most College Tests. That as a second language (she's the only one in her class)... amazing! But there is the price to pay, last night she came to bed at 3:45am and up again at 6:30am. Makes me feel guilty somewhat, just hope her Mom never finds out about this None-sleep!
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Rhonald on April 04, 2014, 09:28:03 am
......(she's the only one in her class)... amazing!


 Arnold, is it not such an IconoCLASStic idea that she would be tops in her class! After all, with all that you have shared with us about her, and with pictures showing her grace, she is what ancient scribes would describe..... a CLASSic.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on April 04, 2014, 03:42:24 pm
 ;D ;D ;D ;)
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: Arnold on August 01, 2015, 07:20:36 pm
Well hello ones more! It has been quite a while for me coming here, don't know why? Being busy with my Sweetheart and doing my Lao Po's citizenship and the paperwork for her Parents to come to the States. All is as fresh (love/relationship) as it's been from day one.

I know this Forum is missing the punch/excitement it ones had, but I do think about my Friends here often. I'll try to make a point to come more often and post more of what's going on with us, if anyone is still interested of knowing.

Hope all is well with the ones that have found their Love through here or a Website and of course if anything new has happened I am more than delighted to hear from those individual as well.
Title: Re: Qing's arrival and beyond .
Post by: arnold on July 15, 2016, 02:27:38 pm
...for those who don't read my Blog, here is something to show we are still in the Wonderland of ours and spending now more time together..haha.


.... it's a little Drive each day, but....




That's right, a little drive through the Mountains.
 
Hence we live in Palmdale and her job is in Pasadena, anybody knows the LA area... knows that this is quite a commute each working day. Well, Job's don't grow on tree's anymore and it seems 100's are applying for each available... you do what is necessary.
 
Besides, it isn't that bad at all. Qing doesn't mind getting up one hour earlier and for me it is pretty much the same in the mornings. The only difference now is... that I had to change "My" work hours, which are now actually two hours less each day Qing works. The other side of the coin though, I drive now (no use taking 2 cars) about 148 miles each working day instead of ONLY 88 miles..haha.
 
See, I take her to Pasadena and I go to my work from there and wise-versa in the afternoon. So far we do not mind at all, we are together more time now and neither of us complains one bit having that luxury.
 

So, if anyone happens to see a loving&smiling couple going down the road... it's us!