China Romance
All About China => Share your love story => Topic started by: Irishman on December 24, 2009, 12:49:55 pm
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Is anyone else finding this a tough time?
I go to the shops and buy food for one, I go home to one.
I call her on the phone, i talk to her on qq , but its not the same as holding her sweet little hand and feel her head resting on my shoulder.
She is coming in early to work tomorrow so she can do a webcam with me for a couple of hours. She stayed late today to do the same.
I love seeing her smile, I love making her laugh, but I have to admit this time of year is really rough knowing she is there and I am here.
Is anyone else finding Christmas a bit hard? I have vowed to myself that no matter what she will be with me here or i there next year , expense be damned, it just sucks being apart on a big family occasion like now.
I'm probably gonna loose it on the webcam later with her, i really wish she was here with me.:icon_sad:
Sorry for posting like a big girls blouse, I just need to vent to somebody that might understand and thats you guys.
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Having spend two Christmas's apart , I know how you feel Irish . Try to stay cheerful anyway and the time will fly by ... before you know it , it will be the Christmas you two been looking for ... in Arm and Arm ... together . Have photo's made big and place them in every Room , this has helped me sooo much to ease the pain and you do feel she is with you all the time .
Now stand up Soldier and stop crying !!!! Hahaha
Merry Christmas and a very Happy New Year , to both of you and the Families .
Arnold and Qing
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Hey Ronan,
Everyone goes through these periods. If you're not there for Chinese New Year/Valentines day, you'll feel it then and there. And when you go out and see all these couples, you'll be hit hard too.
But this is also character building. Best thing to do is go back through some of our threads. We have made recommendations that may help. It's not easy, but love is like a drug and you will suffer until you get your next fix as it were. We can only be here to help support you.
Chin up and just remember the goal in front of you...
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I just got off of QQ with her. She volunteered to work today because she was alone. Her family is in Wuhan, Qingqing is also there and I am here in the US. She feels really alone. That makes me feel even worse. I feel like Irish. This will be THE LAST YEAR we are apart for Christmas. No matter what. Even my Granddaughter wants to be with her. She knows how good a person my Laopo is. She even goes out to patients in their homes because they cannot get to the hospital. She gets nothing for this. No pay, not even car fare. Some patients give her something to help pay for the bus but she mostly takes care of it herself. I am so lucky to find a woman like this. I am so proud of her. She keeps the Christmas spirit up all year long. My special love.
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Jim,
You just make Dammed sure she's never alone again at Christmas, ....there in the States, or China!!! A Woman like this, deserves to be with her Man and Happy, Not feeling really alone and unhappy!!....
David.....
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Thanks guys, we have a nice conversation earlier and it eased the pangs somewhat.
Next Xmas though is not going to be alone , Mike you hit the nail on the head there, that's exactly how it feels.
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Don't worry, she will be here soon before you know it, another year will pass quickly.
Just keep in mind, that when she gets here, your bathroom will never be the same agian....haha a word of advice from an ex-married man...lol
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your bathroom will never be the same agian
Haha ... I found that out real quick . But .. it's better to have the undies and other personal's hanging in the Bathroom , than outside on a Tree . All the other stuff , make-up and Lotions by the dozens sitting between the two sinks ... I'm use to already .
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Ronan I know how you feel. Especially at this time of year, my thoughts are also with the guys here whose ladies are the other side of the world. STAY STRONG MATE
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Ronan, well, many Brothers can understand your situation, so can I. It is "difficult" to be far away from our lovers/wives.
I was talking to Lyian before yesterday about Christmas, saying it was very beautiful, to share a big dinner with family, and seeing kids opening their gifts and so on. For sure, I would have liked her to be here, too, with me. But she could not. She also told me that Christmas is not as important as in western countries, but that she missed me many days, not that one especially.
I think too, that we chosed to live our relationship, to find our love in China, while many men can find love around their home/work...
So we know what have to face, day by day.
but keep your smile UP, because you know you will be soon with her, and maybe that, next year, you'll both be together forever. Who knows? :)
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Hey Irishman,
how is everything going with you and your lady?
hope all is well see you in feb
Ted
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Happy Birthday Irish :icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin:
And for you, and all the Brothers who are missing their sweethearts at this time, I found this message which I thought was very appropriate.
I did not write it, I only stole it from a better author......it speaks volumes
" And when I return home
While you are still there
Know that love lives on
Singing to our own special song
And living to a different measure
- behind a veil of distance we cannot conquer
You cannot see me, but you must have faith
That I wait for the time when we can again soar together
-Both aware of each other.
Until then, live your life to its fullest, and when you need me in the dark moments
Just whisper my name in your heart.........
And I will be there beside you.
David
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Happy birthday Irish. Another year gone. Just make the best of what you have left. Dont let her go. I know how you feel. I want her also so very bad. Only 23 more days until I can be there with her.
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Happy birthday Irish. Another year gone. Just make the best of what you have left. Dont let her go. I know how you feel. I want her also so very bad. Only 23 more days until I can be there with her.
You want to be with Sunny as well? A little brazen of you to write this here. Irishman won't be pleased to know this! :icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin:
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I did not write it, I only stole it from a better author......it speaks volumes
" And when I return home
While you are still there
Know that love lives on
Singing to our own special song
And living to a different measure
- behind a veil of distance we cannot conquer
You cannot see me, but you must have faith
That I wait for the time when we can again soar together
-Both aware of each other.
Until then, live your life to its fullest, and when you need me in the dark moments
Just whisper my name in your heart.........
And I will be there beside you.
David
That's beautiful David. Thank you! I'm stealing that and sending it off to Nina.
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it is good i think i will use it also
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I wonder what it's like once it goes through google translate :icon_cheesygrin:
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Yes now I have my little book of Chinese grammar I realise that most of what comes out of Google translate is total rubbish!
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Yes now I have my little book of Chinese grammar I realise that most of what comes out of Google translate is total rubbish!
I am not telling you anything you don't know . . . but it is like so many things, it is good if you understand its limitations. I would not use it to translate poetry . . . but it's good for translating simple phrases.
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Actually I'm not even sure it's good for simple phrases. I find it really odd that sometimes I put positive things in and it comes back with the negative (e.g. sustituting "hate" for "love", that kind of thing). It also uses way too many words at times and it makes a complete mess of tenses.
I have started to write myself a guide to getting better translations out of it. Next term my Chinese course concentrates on writing, so hopefully I can expand my knowledge of this a lot more. My lady and I are translator-less, so Google is all we have. It's tough going but it's a great way of learning each other's languages.
I guess the take home message is that brothers should be wary of machine transations - it's cool to be able to use Google translate to make Chinese characters appear, but not so cool if you are sending your lady rubbish :icon_cheesygrin:!
Back on topic, I really miss my lady. We don't get to talk much as she's busy in her job, has used up all her vacation days this month and her home Internet appears broken (or she can't afford the bills - who can tell?) and her mobile phone is falling apart.
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Hang in there Irishman, i am in the same boat you are and as other are or have been, only difference is i spent the two weeks before Christmas with Juan and it was our first meeting and marrage as well, that's what we both wanted so there was no need to keep putting it off. All i can tell you is "love" love will keep you closer than you know even to be so far away so just keep loving each other and it will all be fine that is what Juan and i do every day. Take care brother and keep the faith, you two met as we all did for a reason.
Ken
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Hey Brett, with all of us on here, we will try and keep you company and make you laugh. Although it's been like a morgue around here lately, the brothers are ether sick, or commode hugging, on vacation, computers down...and the list goes on. But for those of us that are still standing, we are here for you.
It's hell not being able to get ahold of your lady. But I am sure that she will have the geek squad fix the computer and you'll both be qqing each other soon. Those withdrawl symptons suck huh. Can you help her with the internet problem if she does not have the funds for the bill (if that is it) ?
I have heard several people on here are having qq problems or internet problems lately in china, so don't feel alone, it's going around we just have to wait for it to be fixed.
If you get lonely, you can always PM me, I'm not as pretty, but can talk your ear off! :icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin:
You can also read David 50's funny as heck jokes, he always has one that will cheer you up! Got some on there now, that will make you fall off your chair..:icon_cheesygrin:
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i agree davids jokes can pick you up in times of being down
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Yes not being with my lady sucks, and her not contacting me, well that sucks even more. A couple of days without contact, and the doubts start to creep back. Does she love me? Is she seriously interested in moving overseas? Am I being scammed? I don't know why there's been so little contact lately - if I ask her anything important I start getting a stream of "?'s". It drives me nuts.
As a distraction I am working on a new business idea. I am excited about this one as I have identified a lucrative niche with apparently no competitiors. I am one good idea away from being able to live with my lady in Asia - that is a good reason to get out of bed in the morning :fi_lone_ranger:.
I am glad I took so many pictures of my lady and that she was such a professional at posing :icon_cheesygrin:. The photos more than anything else have kept this relationship alive.
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Brett,
you just need to relax maybe she is busy with work or the family
if she was scamming you she would be in contact asking asking asking