Well i`ve had the cost but not the love [yet]
racking up the costs
3 trips and internal flights, Harbin in the frozen north down to Sanya in the tropical south.
trip 1, pre chnlove, nice lady but not really suited,excess bagage on gifts
trip 2, pre chnlove, con woman, total scammer, many gifts
trip 3, chnlove, pre chn info, liar, real pig, yep more gifts, this time gave to friends and students i met, kept one $60 handbag make up kit.
I will not begin to calculate the costs so far, no point, but I will say apart from the dissapointment in the ladies I have met it has been a blast, i have visited beautiful places in an amazing country, met truely interesting people and made good friends who i am in contact with now.
Still have the faith and will visit a lady in Changsha in september, will take the make up kit, haha, and you guessed it, more gifts.
My friends think Im crazy, family just shake their heads, but here i seem quite normal, hmmmmmmmmmmm!