Is Online Dating The Problem in US/Canada/Europe?

[Rhonald]

That is EXACTLY how I came across Chnlove also.  In February of this year I'm using PoF and I sent out 4 letters of interest to women who I thought were fairly compatible and reasonable looking...none of them replied...I kept seeing the Chnlove ad, the first time I just laughed at it, but then about the 3rd of 4th time, still waiting for the US women to respond, I thought I would at least take a look...now I'm hooked on finding a Chinese woman, and may have found the one for me who I am scheduled to see on December 24th in Beijing.  If she is half as wonderful as I am seeing and talking with on QQ everyday for the past month, I will be a happy husband next year!
Scott

Scott I wish you better fishing this time. POF is one pond I don't mind saying about the big one that got away.

Lol, just got back from another "date" from PoF. This was the last straw and I'm giving up on that site. Deleted my profile and everything. Part of my mistake was mentioning that I have a home and a good job.

Grrr. I am now a meal ticket for single woman.

Talk about the old bait and switch. She used the right lure. Sorry to hear about your misfortune. My 27 year old friend has said that he knows he has a winner when she starts talking about the medications she is on.

[RegnisTheGreat]

Vince G. have you thought of writing a book on online dating? Like an intro to do it with tips adn advice? Sort of an "Online Dating for Dummies" guide? I think  with your experience you can write a good one and make a lot of money.

[Vince G]

Oh I have stories to tell. :icon_biggrin::huh: Glad I can laugh about it now.

[Willy The Londoner]

Ah the old "Get a free dinner trick" been there had that done. I got to a point where if I met them it was coffee only. Insisted on it.

I kept getting to the point where I was invited to coffee only - and that was the end it.  Never to see them again.   Hence my coffee shop theory!!!

Willy

[Vince G]

I did the coffee thing for a long time. I'm not sure if I had this story here before? I think it was the newspaper ad? I had moved here that year and looking for meeting people, if for nothing else just for friendship. Talked to this girl who faxed over her photo? (dark, shaded) I wanted to meet after work (like 5:30) at this place that I knew was happening (lounge type, also had good food). She said she was "Petite". I figured if we met at 5:30 pm I still had time to have dinner after or stay at the place if the other women looked good? Well she kept delaying the time calling saying make it 6:60 then 7:30? She gets there as I was sitting at the patio bar waiting (and hungry). I buy her a drink and she starts with "I haven't eaten, I need to have something to eat" I'm hungry so I say lets go eat. At this time I see her description of "Petite" is not correct. 5'-2" tall and wide? We have dinner and drinks, I walk her to her car and she says she doesn't think this will work out? Besides not offering anything? I agreed but had to tell her the truth and let her know the meaning of Petite. Had to get my monies worth. :icon_cheesygrin:

[rockycoon]

These are great stories, I am enjoying them so much, Vince, Reg your both good story tellers.  I would like to hear more.  Got a few myself, but can't write like you two can.

I dated a gal from the web one time, we had dinner at a very nice place and after dinner, I was wondering what to do, but thought hell let's go to the indian casino in Phoenix and bust a roll of quarters in the machines.  Well we got to the casino (in her truck) and she sat at a one armed bandit while I went to play Keno.  the place was so crowded that there wasn't a one armed bandit avalible anywhere for me, that's why I played Keno.  Besides I win at Kino, but slowely, and it was the only place I could sit next to her.  I was loosing at that damn game (crap) with my proven Playing method. And all was going well, until her machine lites up like the forth of July.  She had won a double diamond jackpot of 400 bucks.  After they paid her off, she was nice enough to give me half, because I had given her a roll of quarters to play with.
We got out of there fast with the loot and drove back to my truck. I got a kiss and that was all, the next week I ask her out to las Vegas for the weekend.  However, she was playing the field and had a guy with a boat she was going to go bass fishing with and that was that.
So, the way I look at it, Dinner 50 bucks, casino 20 bucks, winnings about 130 bucks, so all in all not a bad date, however I didn't get the girl and thats what I wanted in the first place, as she was a looker.  Oh well you get let down sometimes...

[RegnisTheGreat]

Okay, I am back. Vision is much better now. There was this girl I meet ok OKCupid about a year ago (OKCupid is this social network/dating site) and she was really nice. We had a few dates and everything was normal and I invited her over for dinner at my home. We had dinner (cooked by myself) of Chinese food. Then watched a movie (Nikita which she picked up) and cuddled, it was good. Afterwards we had a few coffees and started the frisky businesses.

Except she had this odd thing and would start everything with 'oh daddy' when we were being frisky. It was like 'oh daddy, that feels good' or 'oh daddy, little more'... I couldn't get that out of my head and it didn't end well.

[Voiceroveip]

Sorry to hear about so much misfortune ... I think I got luckier. I searched on Meetic and Match.com locally in France 6 months after divorce, and my first real date became my girlfriend for over 18 months and we almost got married, she was Chinese, the reason I'm here now, I guess I got culturally addicted.

I did have some bad online encounters, especially the ones without profile photos (those sites are free for women). One of them tells me she has a very public job and can't put her picture online, yet she wrote beautifully and in an indirect way she led me to believe that she was an actress and quite attractive. Then one day, she sends me her pictures, about has wide as high, bad taste, fake blonde ... and she tells me the public job is working in her local unemployment office ... waste of time, but luckily only that.

But my ex girlfriend was another cup of tea, I'm glad I met her because I think I had never been so close to true love as with her, pity our agenda's did not match.

Frank

[ttwjr32]

i was always curious as to why people would describe a
 totaly different person online than the one you meet.

[David E]

Ted

I asked that very same question of both the ladies and their Agencies after going to China and meeting several women who were NOT as portrayed either in their Agency photos or their personality and characters.....largely due to Translator "fluff"

Here is the "standard" answer I got......

"It does not matter about appearance, once you get to know this Woman you will realise she is a very nice Lady and will be just right for you...just give it some time and get to know her...you will see we are correct "

My response was along the lines of "What happened to truth, honesty and trust...how can such a deception be the basis of a relationship in the future with such a dishonest beginning"

The only reply was an embarrased smile and offers to find other Ladies !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Go figure  :icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin:

David

[ttwjr32]

you put them on the spot and they didnt know what to do other than
offer more ladies

[Voiceroveip]

Yes same for me, I was questioned about my unhappy recent experience and why it failed. When I explained that the thing that attracted me most was the tone of the letters for which the translator was responsible, she simply apologized profusely ...

Frank

[Martin]

Yes same for me, I was questioned about my unhappy recent experience and why it failed. When I explained that the thing that attracted me most was the tone of the letters for which the translator was responsible, she simply apologized profusely ...

Frank

So why not date the translator?

[Voiceroveip]

Martin, I would have, she's on Chnlove with her own profile too. But she's already "seeing" someone else and a bit young for me. But I better not, she's introducing one of her friends to me, the other girl is an agency customer. And as I'm writing this, I realize the one lady that stands out now is even younger :s

[rockycoon]

Hey Viep,
Get them while their young, two for a dollar today.