I went through something similar with my ex Vince. She had control of the finances. She would pay the bills though, it is just that there were more and more bills coming in every month. I had collected grocerie receipts showing that she had taken cash back, credit card bills that were in her name that I did not know about, bank statements and other related things and sat her down and asked her to explain it all. She had 5 visas, 4 mastercards, and a visa of mine and a mastercard of mine. I just asked her why do you think you need all these credit cards? No explination. I told her that if we are staying together these accounts must be closed. She said no. I had enough. I just told her to pack a bag and get a hotel room. I don't need to be worked to death to pay for her cards. All this on top of the fact that she had also cheated on me. She freely admitted it to me. Just out of the blue one sunday night. Sunday march 26, 2000. She was sitting on the bed crying and when I asked what was wrong she filled me in on the details. I got up and she said what are you going to do? I said go for a walk. I walked and told myself to calm down and don't do anything stupid. When I came back I just told her that it was all over except for the crying. She even had the nerve to tell me that it would be ok if I cheat on her now. I just hope that she gets the type of guy she deserves. I guess that I should say that I too have moved forward. I have been a much happier person since we split. I have made my peace with it.
Dave C