Seriously you guys are reading way too much into this. I knew that Chen Yan was talking to a few brothers here and was looking for someone for herself, so I merely wanted to ask how she is doing in her quest/life. I was curious about how she was doing and all. In a way I was hoping she's had more luck then I have (batting 0 for 1).
Chen Yan is a beautiful lady for sure and not only that, but she's also very smart and mature. I would be the luckiest man alive to have her at my side for the rest of my life and in fact any man would be. But I'm not ready to go back on the chase again, I'm taking some time off after my last failure to so some soul searching and find myself again (also trying to lose some weight). Its unfair for me to persue her while I am still hurting and dealing with the failuer of the last relationship, and I wouldn't do that to anyone. When I have found myself and gotten over the last relationship, there is a good chance I will peruse her if she is single and if she isn't then good for her (and I will look for someone else).