I agree with you Ted, but many guys kind of stumble onto chnlove. For myself, I had no intention of meeting someone from China, let alone travel there in the near future. For many, they don't believe this is real, so they give it some extra time. I agree one should go to China in that time frame, but a trip like this takes some planning. I think if guys are honest about their situation, and whether or not they can travel right away, the lady will be patient. Of course that being said, there is also the scenario where a woman is writing to more than one man, and sometimes it is "first come, first served." I saw this situation recently here.
Arnold, I gave him a drive to the subway station...does that count?