Chnlove is the unreliable, rip-off of a vehicle that got me to China in the first place. When I started, I knew little about the mechanics of this particular vehicle, so it wasn't a surprise in hindsight that I got royally scammed. But by that time, it was too late, I was in love with China, and I knew that I would find my wife in that country. Like David said, information is power. So, before ditching the vehicle, and instead of vowing vengeance on Chnlove, I just dusted myself off and started again. This time, I wrote to a few women, with the aim of choosing one. I told them all that if we couldn't make personal contact after the exchange of ten EMFs, then I would regrettably have to say goodbye. Two of the four women were OK with this, then I wrote to the one I liked best. When it became apparent that her agency, were pressurizing her to advance them part of the marriage fee, and that they were fabricating letters, we decided to meet without either the agency or Chnlove knowing. We met in October 2009, married in China in April 2010, and are now living together (for 90 days at a time) in Hong Kong.
Do I like Chnlove? No. I won't be sending them any testimonials. They are just common or garden corporate thieves, who cover up for the agencies. I don't like insurance companies either. I don't much like lawyers. But sometimes insurance companies and lawyers are necessary evils, to get you what you want. I could tell Chnlove how to run their business better, but they wouldn't listen.
I could have spent my life planning a vendetta against Chlove after my first experience, but that would have only made me bitter. Instead, after they mugged me and hit me for a few hundred pounds, I just found a beautiful woman to heal my wounds.
It is possible to make Chnlove work for you. It is about luck, but more about determination and information and plain common sense. Chnlove is an option. Many of the people who found love via Chnlove found it partly despite Chnlove. But all of them have strong never-give-up patient and stubborn personalities. They do not confuse the love that they have for their wives with the healthy suspicion of an institution. They also know that there will be bigger battles ahead than Chnlove, and they keep their powder dry for those battles, rather than waste time thinking about the rather shaky vehicle that got them there in the first place.