My girlfriend and I are contemplating taking the big step. Because we both have kids, its not easy for us to figure out the best way to move forward. We talk about it all the time. I know one day we will figure it out. Who knows where life will lead, it is an adventure.
Yan and I both have kids - mostly grown up thankfully. Sophie, my youngest,
was seriously prepared to hate Yan before she arrived.
Yet within days they were best mates - swapping clothes and languages etc.
When we decided to marry, the kids were uniformly supportive-
and to my surprise, spoke at the wedding about how happy they were
to see their father happy,
So it turned out to be an exercise in trust - as are all relationships ultimately.
The Big Step: recommended.
Commitment is a non optional part of growing up (imho)
David K in Auckland
PS Sophie (below) is my daughter. My name is not Heffner