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Split Thread/Future of the Forum
Willy The Londoner:
--- Quote from: shaun on May 20, 2012, 11:07:51 am ---If I am reading things correctly then I think Willy read a survey that quoted the statistics and he compared them to what the men are going through on this site. Then he mixed in a healthy jab toward his American buddies for fun and we have a healthy topic going on.
I don't think we know enough about the men on this site to know if the statistics are equal. So many have left as others have said. It would be nice to hear from the others and see how their relationships are going, not solely for this thread but we all have a keen interest in seeing how well others are doing.
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Thank you Shaun. I should have guessed that you would be the one person to sum up my contribution in the manner and reason it was given. Unless we realign the Forum it is in danger of being dull and non-interesting to both new comers and old stagers.
The problem is we never make any attempt to keep in contact with those no longer contributing on the Forum. If we do not hear anything from them for a few weeks they just slide off the scale. If we did keep in touch then we may have more info to go on for cases such as this..
We know that many others married, but where are they at now? Maybe we should have a 'members moderator' whose task is to contact 'missing' brothers on personal emails. Just to see how they are doing etc. My other suggestion is that a personal email should be sent when a person joins welcoming them and telling them that any contribution they make will be appreciated. Let us displace the wrong suggestion put about that we are an elite clique.
We should also bring back into play threads such as the listings of woman and who is with who and any others that could be useful. Its ok saying search the threads but there are dso many of them now which does not make it an easy task unless someone searches with exact words in a thread.
Willy
Arnold:
Maybe we should have a 'members moderator' whose task is to contact 'missing' brothers on personal emails. Just to see how they are doing etc.
Willy, this sounds like a good idea.. but you can not force anyone to stay part of this Forum if they decide otherwise. This is and always has been an "Open" Forum, you (each of the members) are welcomed to update of course on their ongoings, it is after all up to each to decide what they do next. I like to be here with my Story, not because I feel I have to.. but because I feel part of the Brotherhood. This seems to be limited though to only a handful and yes I agree.. this Forum is starting to get seriously slow at times.. where I feel to let go myself. I want (I'm sure Martin does as well) this Forum to continue to give great info to new member's, as we/us old timers have all the info already needed over many times.. so when no new blood appears (as being stuck in the 730's quite awhile now) it is going to go stale. This is going to happen and it has happened for stretches many times. How do we safe it? Realignment of Threads is not going to work, we don't know what a new member wants or is looking for.. if he/her does not post or request information.
Do we create Archive Department (like the one we had at Facebook) and what do we put in there? Do we just start over new, as most of the newer stuff is a large percentage of us member's talking to each other while waiting for proceedings, so not much needed info for the newbee really. Goes back to, we need newbee's to give our helping hand or it will just become a Forum among Friends talking mostly about other things.. then the actual important stuff on a Journey to the unknown. Just look what happened to the Chnlove Forum, I definitely don't want us to go that route. Anyway, as for me.. I will continue as I have done and hope I can help where I can help.
Willy The Londoner:
Of course we cannot force anyone to do anything but maybe a little contact would show that they are welcome and that we appreciate their imput big or small or they are simply missed. But with the last section we cannot ask them back if everything is still the same old Forum.
Personally I would keep all the stuff about visa, immigration and other government information pages but would get rid of a lot of threads that are old hat now and we could start afresh.
That way newcomers will feel more inclined to ask questions as I did when I joined.
Willy
Martin:
Excellent posts...I have split this into a new topic, so its easier for people to follow...mostly me. I know in the old forum format (the one we had after Facebook), I had the ability to send out a mass email to all registered users. Maybe I will search to see if there is an addon to the forum that will allow me to do this. Send out a mass invitation to anyone who has registered, to return to the site. Maybe Irishman knows of something in place to do this already.
David E:
On a light hearted note...I just got an email inviting me to let the Forum know how I am going, de dah, de dah, de dah.
On the subject of split Fora (yes it is correct spelling), we should understand that there is an absolute mountain of very good info. now contained within the various categories in the Forum. Newbies only need to browse for half an hour or so to find answers for many of the questions facing those about to leap into the "China Adventure"
Maybe this mountain of fact absolves newbies from asking questions or contributing ????
But why did a few of us find it necessary to keep in touch and continue to contribute ?? compared to those who came, participated and then disappeared ???
What are we lacking to stimulate guys to keep asking/posting/updating ??
1) The current economic climate globally has drastically reduced the number of Men who can afford to consider a Chinese (or Foreign) partner.
2) The "alternative" sites reek of scams, deception etc and have begun to give the whole "Chinese Bride" experience the same negatives tha finally wrecked the "Russian Bride" model...Men are much more cautious now.
3) Because only a few of us actively participate in the Forum, it begins to have the perceived flavour of an "old boys club" or a closed clique....this scares a lot of guys away.
4) We dont seem to have as many interesting/thought provoking experiences to share these days, and that is not surprising because the "core" members have met/married and are mostly now living normal, happy married lives. Compare this to 3 years ago when I joined where maybe 15 or 20 guys were deep into "prospecting" and there were many stories being posted for info. and sharing.
What do we do ???.....
* Those of us remaining have got to make up our minds to create some posts from within our own experiences that are stimulating, interesting and would generate a climate that encourages newbies to participate.
* Moderators have got to stir up posts, I believe the Mods must do more than just watch for bad stuff. Mods are our Management Team....git 'er done !!!
* There is still too much flavour that this is an American dominated site...dispel that myth !!!
* There is a view in the "outside World" that we are a bunch of elitist, unfriendly people....that is what I hear as feedback from my social circle. A lot of these folk have lookedand been disappointed with our "parochial" attitudes.....we have got to stop bickering over trivia.
Just a few points, we must do something, and quick or so much good work will go down the tube
David
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